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360. How Award-Winning Poet, IN-Q, Hijacks Your Brain With His Words Jun 07, 2021

Show notes

IN-Q is a poet and songwriter, and believe me: he’s the real deal. His ability to hijack your brain and take it for a drive (leaving your body behind) is unparalleled. He was named one of the top creatives on Oprah’s SuperSoul100 list, he is the first poet to have performed at Cirque du Soleil, and he’s the songwriter behind hits for Miley Cyrus, Mike Posner, Selena Gomez, and even the official World Cup anthem. We talk about finding your purpose by exploring your curiosity, how freestyle rapping can be a form of meditation, and the beauty of discovery.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[03:24] Becoming IN-Q
[05:29] Growing up in LA
[09:01] Freestyle as meditation
[14:14] Finding your community
[16:42] How to explore your mind through poetry
[22:39] The ritual of paying attention
[30:05] Exploring your curiosity instead of your purpose
[38:53] Balancing exploration versus tried and true hits
[44:33] The illusion of “making it”

Resources:

in-q.com
Instagram: @inqlife
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: https://workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind/
Connect with Rob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robmurgatroyd/
Connect with Kim on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmurgatroyd/

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

359. Use These Three Principles to Preemptively Cut Off Arguments in Your Relationship Jun 04, 2021

Show notes

When Kim and I met, we were both fresh out of awful marriages. Once we got together, we knew we had to make sure that, this time, things would be different. We vowed to start the work necessary to become better people and better partners before we ran into problems in our relationship. We learned a lot about how to handle conflict, so today, I’m going to share the three principles we use to cut off arguments before they even happen. If you do the work, these will drastically improve your relationship.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[05:13] Seeking self-development before shit hits the fan
[14:35] Crafting a vision and going after it as a couple
[16:23] Asking for what they want
[21:03] Men need to empty
[26:28] Women need to fill up
[31:40] Not dying on that hill
[37:31] Allowing your partner to be who they are

Resources:

gottman.com
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd
Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

358. Psychologist Dr. Margaret Rutherford on How Perfectionists Mask Their Depression May 31, 2021

Show notes

Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a psychologist, author, and podcast host. She’s the author of “Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depression,” a book that digs into the stigma that paints emotions as a sign of weakness and how high performers often use perfectionism to hide their own insecurities. Most type-A entrepreneurs want everything to be perfect — they want to conquer their goals, master their family life, and live a perfect life — when, deep inside, that pressure is leading to a slow death. She discusses how to identify depression in high achievers, and how to start getting help.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[03:23] Being known as “the digger’s daughter”
[07:29] The importance of class and elegance
[13:31] Why people experience panic attacks
[23:45] Techniques for overpowering panic
[37:48] How to diagnose mental illnesses
[45:09] How perfectionists masquerade their depression

Resources:

drmargaretrutherford.com
Read: “Perfectly Hidden Depression”
Listen: The SelfWork Podcast
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: https://workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind/
Connect with Rob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robmurgatroyd/
Connect with Kim on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmurgatroyd/

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

357. Fri-Date: How We Are Unlocking Our Unique Responses To Glucose Levels May 28, 2021

Show notes

Everything you think you know about the food you’re eating is wrong. Want to know why? Because unless you’re performing methodical, targeted experiments to track the exact results, most dietary advice is just shooting in the dark. The way each of our bodies handles different foods — right down to the order we eat them in — just leaves too much guesswork to take any blanket advice as gospel. We’re going to talk about some of the experiments we’ve been performing; specifically around blood sugar spikes and how we’re going to dial in our health and fitness in the future.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[03:02] Continuous glucose monitoring (CGM) and how it works
[07:06] Why the order in which you eat your food matters
[13:29] Keeping your blood sugar steady
[17:07] Experimenting with your diet

Resources:

levelshealth.com
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd
Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

356. Cinematographer Kylie Flavell On Capturing La Dolce Vita On Film May 24, 2021

Show notes

Every Sunday, my wife Kim and I watch as many shows about Italy as we can fit in between mimosas. Sometimes it’s Italian movies and sometimes it’s YouTubers living in Italy. A few years ago, we came across a YouTube star known as Kylie Flavell who moved to Italy from Australia. Every week she creates cinematic feature films that she shoots, edits, and performs in herself. Whether you are interested in moving to Italy, appreciate high-quality film production, or just need an escape for a moment each week, do yourself a favor and watch her work.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[04:01] Being in love with the idea of love
[09:56] Falling in love with travel
[15:01] Misconceptions about Italy
[17:58] How Kylie got through the darker times
[29:23] What inspires Kylie to create
[35:46] Creating an intimate community
[50:31] Deciding what parts of your personal life to share

Resources:

kylieflavell.com
YouTube: youtube.com/user/KylieFlavell
Instagram: @kylieflavell
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind/
Connect with Rob on Instagram: instagram.com/robmurgatroyd/
Connect with Kim on Instagram: instagram.com/kimmurgatroyd/

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

355. Fri-Date: How to Bend Jealousy to Your Will May 21, 2021

Show notes

As we start working towards our dream life in Italy, Kim and I keep hearing one phrase come up again and again: “You guys are so lucky.” And yes, we are lucky. But behind that luck is a whirlwind of daily activity in order to take those big, audacious goals and work towards making them a reality. We want to talk a bit about the green monster known as envy, what it means when you’re feeling that jealousy, and how to interrupt it so that you can move forward without allowing the feeling to hold you back. We also look behind the curtain of what it actually takes to make your dream life come true.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[01:56] Luck vs. hard work
[04:33] What envy represents in you
[07:14] How to interrupt jealousy
[14:44] Managing your way through the shitstorm
[18:57] How desire holds you back

Resources:

Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd
Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

354. Matthew Aitchison on How to Have It All May 17, 2021

Show notes

Matt Aitchison has dominated every area of his life: body, being, balance, and business. This is no easy feat. People often focus on one aspect of their life to the detriment of others, and it can be slow-going to improve them all at the same time. He’s taken the effort to quantify and gamify his improvements so that he can remain present in each of these areas over the long haul. We dig into how he did all of this and how real estate became the lynchpin to his financial success.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[04:13] How being expelled from high school shaped Matt into who he is today
[13:14] How real estate entered his life
[23:25] Setting up some automated income
[31:51] Discovering what it’s going to require to reach a certain outcome
[40:20] Doing what’s necessary for your relationships
[48:31] How your physical health carries over into other areas of your life

Resources:

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/maitchison
Instagram: @officialmattya
YouTube: youtube.com/c/MattAitchisonMedia
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: https://workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind/
Connect with Rob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robmurgatroyd/
Connect with Kim on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmurgatroyd/

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

353. Fri-Date: Would You Rather Be Efficient or Effective? May 14, 2021

Show notes

Americans are so focused on efficiency. It’s all about how fast we can get through something, maximizing our time and our profits. But there’s something to be said for prioritizing effectiveness over efficiency. Taking the time and care to create an experience can be so much more rewarding and enriching.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[05:08] The difference between being efficient and being authentic
[10:02] How environment dictates the details
[12:36] Creating memorable experiences
[18:39] How we’re losing face-to-face interaction
[24:41] Dying deaths to become someone new

Resources:

Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd
Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

352. Cognitive Scientist Sian Beilock on Why We Choke & How to Prevent It May 10, 2021

Show notes

Sian Beilock is the President of all-female Barnard College in New York City. She’s a cognitive scientist, and recently wrote the fascinating, “Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have To.” We’ve all had those choke moments — whether it’s standing in front of a room or popping up on a surfboard — when we know what to do but we just can’t bring ourselves to do it. We cover what to do when you choke and how you can stop it from happening again in the future.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[03:59] Growing up in Berkeley in the 80’s
[04:47] What happens when we choke
[09:11] Why great athletes often make bad coaches
[13:28] Famous moments of people choking
[15:34] How your identity and your intention affects whether or not you choke
[24:20] How Carol Dweck has inspired Sian’s work
[28:12] Being the President of Barnard College

Resources:

sianbeilock.com
Instagram: @presbeilock
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sianleahbeilock
TED Talk: Why we choke under pressure -- and how to avoid it
Text "Dream Life" to 310- 388-9724 to get our FREE dream life course
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd
Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

351. Fri-Date: Clarity Proceeds Momentum May 07, 2021

Show notes

I’ve recently been reading Matthew McConaughey’s new book “Greenlights.” There’s more than a few stories in it worth considering. First, the name; it’s all about looking at the things in your life and noticing when you get a green light, when you get a red light, and when you get a detour. Kim and I are going to discuss what to do in each of those situations, why we’re getting so many green lights lately, and how you can make sure everything is working out for you.

In This Conversation We Cover: