Freedom from Attachment

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#548 Journey Of Attachment: Why Do We Believe We Are Meant To Be Rescued? Jan 19, 2021

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You’re always hoping your next partner will be different; better. But what does that boil down to? What are you truly looking for? If you’re honest with yourself, you might be looking for someone to rescue you because deep down you want to be taken care of. You want someone to fill the emptiness you feel inside. It goes back to childhood, and it keeps intimacy at a distance because you’re waiting for something that won’t ever happen. If you grew up in a household with an Avoidant, vulnerability was scary and unwelcomed, but shame and blame were plentiful. No one took responsibility for their actions. That’s where your fantasies of being rescued were probably born. Avoidance creates a sense of lack, which you believe can only be filled by another person. But how does it make sense for someone to put all of their attention on you while you put zero attention on yourself? It doesn’t. And that crazy expectation leads to a lot of pain. Listen to this week’s episode where I talk about the rescue fantasy: how to acknowledge it, understand it and stop perpetuating it. Because that proverbial white knight who will save you from your current existence isn't coming. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#547 How Can I Let Go of My Fantasy Situation? Jan 15, 2021

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of long friendships ending, letting go of fantasy situations, asexuality. Want to submit a question? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#546 Journey Of Attachment: I’m Tired of Being Single, but I Don’t Want To Settle Jan 12, 2021

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You want to meet someone, but it feels like it’s never gonna happen. Where IS he/she already? When will my person finally show up? When is it my turn? People call you picky, but you’re just waiting for the right one. Why should you settle? The truth is, you will never find the perfect person. Humans are flawed, and having impossible standards is what keeps you single. Those standards aren’t there to avoid “settling.” They are about fear. Fear of being seen, fear of being rejected, fear of choosing the wrong person. Have you ever rejected someone because they were too nice or attentive, thinking something must be wrong with them? Your singlehood is not about everything that’s wrong with others—it’s about you. It’s about where you are closed off and don’t accept yourself. Until you can handle being fully seen, you will avoid a relationship. The cost of rejection is too high. In this week’s podcast you’ll learn more about what keeps you single, and how to approach dating differently. It starts with curiosity and my five-minute rule. Because there is no magical person who will sweep you off your feet and wipe away your insecurities. If you’re afraid of settling, ask yourself why you’re settling for singlehood right now? Staying where you are is a choice. Open yourself up to a different one. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#545 How Does Attachment Relate to Childhood Emotional Neglect? Jan 08, 2021

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of childhood emotional neglect, thoughts of hurting yourself, and your programming being tested by life. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#544 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Laurel Hill Jan 06, 2021

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“Human Design is basically a map of who we came here to be; a blueprint of who we are.” --Laurel Hill Laurel Hill built a successful jewelry business in her 20s that she both loved and was skilled at—the perfect combination. It started organically and served her well for nearly a decade… until burnout set in. Her physical and mental health started to suffer, as did her relationship. How could the business she loved and envisioned for her future no longer be “it” for her? During this time of struggle Laurel heard about Human Design and started to investigate. The more she learned about herself and her aura (Projector), the more she realized how far she had strayed from her center. This allowed her to slowly let go of her jewelry business and transition to work in Human Design, which was not at all easy. Listen as Laurel shares more about Human Design, and why she needed to “kill her ego” to become the person she was designed to be. Today Laurel is an international Human Design guide, drawing from her knowledge of Gene Keys, NLP, Kundalini Yoga, Shadow Work, Embodiment and Reiki to provide holistic Self-Realization readings and guidance. Her clients are at a crossroads in life, or simply want to connect with their inner spark versus the heaviness of how life is “supposed to” look. Laurel helps people align with their own energy, release old conditioning and step into who they are. Learn more about Laurel at: https://thesouthernoracle.co/ Instagram: @laurelhillworkshop Facebook: @laurelhillworkshop Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#543 Journey Of Attachment: I Know My Issues, So Why Am I’m Still Stuck? Jan 05, 2021

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You’re a smart cookie and have developed a level of self-awareness from books, podcasts, courses, therapy, etc. Maybe you even share these discoveries with others, feeling enlightened as you recite your issues. You talk about how you always do this one thing on a date to ruin things, or your recurring pattern of being a hostage in your relationships. You know all of this and yet… nothing changes. With all of this self-awareness, why is life not cooperating? Why are you still stuck repeating the same patterns? This is what living in your head looks like. You can collect all the information you want, but knowing your sh*t is not the same as doing something about it. In fact, it can lead to feelings of defeat because you know what you’re doing “wrong,” yet you’re unable to change it. This cycle often starts with anger, then moves to frustration, spirals down to depression and ends with hopelessness. Not fun. You beat yourself up because you can see what’s happening, but you can’t get to the other side. In this episode I’ll talk about the critical step you’re missing (ACTION), and the common obstacles to taking it (fear, control, resistance, trust, collecting evidence). Life can’t be figured out in your head, and change isn’t at the end of your next book. Patterns break when you build trust in yourself, let go of control and have new experiences… even if you don’t know where they will lead. Don’t live your life on the sidelines as a passive observer. Participate. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Stop thinking and listening to your same old stories. Let your heart lead without conditions and DO what you have not yet done. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#542 What Questions Should I Ask to Get in Touch With My Feelings? Jan 01, 2021

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of someone cutting you off, our conditioning, and getting in touch with your feelings. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#541 Journey of Attachment: I’m the Black Sheep of My Family, Afraid of Being Kicked Out Dec 29, 2020

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Family relationships are tricky—especially with parents. And those primary relationships set the foundation for future relationships. So what happens when you feel like you have to walk a tightrope to keep those people loving you? When you feel like you’re one sentence away from being disowned? When you’re blamed for your mother’s or father’s or sibling’s actions, believing YOU caused them because you’re a bad apple? Well, it results in a lot of walking on eggshells, and often a waterfall of shame and guilt for simply being you. You may whine and complain, make a joke of it, or distance yourself from the toxic family member to cope. It’s heavy baggage that you probably carry into other relationships… tip toeing around and playing small so you won’t be discovered as the black sheep you believe you are. The thing is, NOTHING you say or do will change the person you walk this tightrope with. You can talk until you’re blue in the face to convince them you’re not in the wrong or they misunderstood, but it won’t matter because it’s not about you. It’s about them. Listen to this week’s episode where I talk about this painful family dynamic and how to deal with it. Once again my mother takes center stage, challenging me to focus on the only thing I truly have control over: me. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Being you is not a prison sentence. To accept all of you, stop being your own worst critic and become your own fabulous cheerleader! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#540 I’m Figuring Out What Makes Me Happy, but I’m Scared of What Other People Might Think Dec 25, 2020

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of telling who’s more into who in a relationship, letting others’ opinions hold you back, and helping an avoidant. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#539 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Sue Hay Dec 23, 2020

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Sue was on a trajectory familiar to many of us—go to school and get a corporate job. She worked her way up in the design and branding field, ultimately managing a team of five people. She was “successful” but also busy, traveling too much, eating horribly and stressed out. This compounded over the years, resulting in stomach issues and back pain. Doctor’s couldn’t find the cause, so Sue started researching health and nutrition. Down the rabbit hole she went! She stuck with her job, but after changing her diet, her conditions disappeared. This moment of "wow" set her off on a new trajectory—if she could heal herself, she could help others do the same. “If you’re caught in that diet loop, it’s gotta be a mindset change first. You’ve gotta decide on healthy.” –Sue Hay Sue quit her job, retrained in nutrition and started Thrive magazine as a way to educate people about nutrition while cutting through the confusion. But health, she suggests, is more than just what you’re eating. It also includes where you spend your time, how you manage your stress and what your mindset is. People usually choose long-term health over diet fads when they’ve hit rock bottom. Listen to Sue share her own dietary transformation, and what’s important for each person to keep in mind on their quest to improve their overall health and wellbeing. Learn more about Sue and Thrive: Twitter: @thrivefeelalive Facebook: @thrivefeelalive Instagram: @thrivemagazine Magazine website:www.thrive-magazine.co.uk Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

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