Freedom from Attachment

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#538 Journey Of Attachment: Going Down the Rabbit Hole Dec 22, 2020

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Life was feeling ok until the floor fell out from under you. Your mom called you selfish on the phone yesterday and your friend thought you were rude when you were trying to be funny. Then the person you’re dating suddenly canceled on you with no explanation. What gives? Why is everything suddenly turning to sh*t? This sequence of events triggers your feelings of unworthiness, making you want to crawl into a hole and dissolve into a million pieces. You’re sad and feel victimized. Maybe everyone hates you and you should re-evaluate the value you contribute in all areas of your life. You want someone to rescue you because when you go down the rabbit hole, it can feel impossible to climb out. But of course you have to get yourself out, and actually, come to think of it, it’s rather comfortable down there. It’s a way of escaping life. But what kind of life IS that? Not a very functional one. In this week’s podcast I’ll talk about what to do when you find yourself in this dark place… and no, it is not simply “climb out.” There are important questions to ask so you can stop yourself from further descent, and eventually avoid spiraling in the future. It’s not a fun place, but accepting where you are and using it as an opportunity for growth can turn a dark cloud into a shining light. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) As much as the rabbit hole is comfortable and familiar, climb through the inertia and speak your truth to the world. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#537 I'm Being Triggered by My Partner... Am I Wrong? Dec 18, 2020

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of wanting to six a relationship with couples therapy, dealing with a partner living in fear and, getting triggered by your partner. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#536 Journey Of Attachment: I want it so badly! Or do I? Dec 15, 2020

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We create vision boards, write letters, throw pennies in a fountain, set goals, pray and ask the Universe for what we want. Through hard work and determination, we will it into existence… whether it’s a vacation home in Tuscany, the corner office or a picture-perfect family with 2.5 children and a dog named Rover. Often, however, it isn’t the “thing” you actually want. It’s what it represents; the fantasy it fulfills; how it looks from the outside. So when you do get what you “want,” it’s kind of a dud. Then you set your sights on a bigger villa, another promotion, or even a different partner. But what you’re really looking for is nowhere to be found because you don’t know what that is. You just keep filling the hole. When will you stop forcing and start asking yourself why these things don’t deliver the happiness you seek? In this episode you’ll learn how to connect with your deeper motivation, which is key to understanding what you really want (vs. what you THINK you want). Security, health, love and acceptance all play a role. Through this exploration you may discover you’ve been chasing a red herring, and what you truly want is packaged in a totally different wrapper. Force and fantasy won’t give you what you want. Clarity, trust and letting go of expectations will. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Love yourself and connect there. Feel it and then choose—what do I want? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#535 How Do I Stop Recreating My Childhood Dec 11, 2020

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of recreating your childhood, aversion to intimacy, and not reciprocating someone's feelings. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#534 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lindsey Wilson Dec 09, 2020

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“Wellness is a constant evolution; that constant connecting and turning inward and listening to ourselves.” –Lindsey Wilson Lindsey Wilson is the founder of OWL Venice, a Southern California-based wellness company specializing in organic products for digestive health. Although her mother was a dietician and role model for healthy living, Lindsey resisted it growing up, especially in college where she made poor food choices. Then, in 2010, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and Lindsey realized she needed to make some dietary changes. If someone as healthy as her mom was susceptible to cancer—what did that mean for her? Lindsey also learned of her own kidney and GI issues, so she experimented with super foods, juice cleanses and other diets. Unfortunately her new-found interest made her feel isolated from her music industry community in Chicago, so she headed to an area better suited to her passion: Los Angeles. Through a lot of research and experimentation, Lindsey’s diet evolved, but she discovered a few staples that always nourished her body—bone broth and probiotics. She became more attuned to what her body was telling her, letting that guide her choices. She learned that when she felt like eating, it wasn’t always about hunger. In this episode Lindsey talks about nourishment and the benefits of an alkaline body, including how to guard against disease. She even has a simple lemon test you can do each morning to see how acidic/alkaline your body is! Today Lindsey runs a store front in Venice, CA where she sells her signature Bone Broth Elixirs and Reset Cleanse, among other wellness products like skincare and supplements. She also offers these products online at owlvenice.com. You can learn more about Lindsay and OWL below: OWL's Website: www.owlvenice.com OWL's Instagram: www.instagram.com/owlvenice Lindsey's Instagram: www.instagram.com/lindseyowl Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#533 Journey Of Attachment: Put Down Your Phone! Dec 08, 2020

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No matter how digitally connected we are, loneliness is rampant. Our phones (and computers, tablets, TVs, etc.) are master distraction devices. How often do you scroll through your phone while sitting across from another human? Or while on a Zoom call? Or while on your computer with the TV buzzing in the background? What happened to focusing on one thing or one person with our undivided attention? If your focus is scattered and you are half in/half out, you’re not really anywhere. You feel disconnected. This creates a vicious cycle of needing attention or something to make you feel less lonely, which you seek through these connection tools, only to have your energy sucked dry by not being present. Distraction becomes a form of self-containment, causing loneliness. In this week’s episode we’ll look at why we use technology to distract ourselves, and the cost to our emotional health. We’ll also explore what to do when feeling compelled to pick up your phone. Much of this behavior is on autopilot, so simply becoming aware of how often you grab a device or mindlessly scroll can be eye-opening. When you reduce the distractions and make a conscious effort to be present, you feel more connected to yourself. And when you’re talking with someone, giving them your full attention, you’ll feel a lot less lonely because you’re in the moment together, getting the attention and connection you crave. So put down your phone and be here. Now. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Crave simplicity. The more you allow it, and live it, the better you feel. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#532 How Can I Tell When to Stay or When to Go Dec 04, 2020

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing yourself, deciding how you want to feel, how to tell when to stay or when to go. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#531 Journey Of Attachment: Is Your Love Life a Conspiracy Theory? Dec 01, 2020

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You think it’s fate. The “meant-to-be-together” signs are there, and you can’t wait to live happily ever after. But then the relationship you were betting on falls apart or evaporates into thin air. Why is the universe screwing you over AGAIN? You were doing everything right, believing you were being led in the right direction. The universe must be out to get you, wanting you to suffer. Maybe it’s seeking revenge for something horrible you did. Or it sees your fatal flaw and is saving you from revealing it. It is conspiring against your happiness. Just like the other conspiracy theories out there, yours doesn’t hold much weight in reality. You think your doomed love life is happening TO you, not BECAUSE of you. But guess what? The universe isn’t controlling your love life… you are. Instead of looking at the universe as the enemy, look at how you are the one conspiring against yourself. How are you sabotaging your relationships? If you want to attract healthier partners, look at who you currently attract and why. Is it coming from a place of lack? Learn more about why you attract the people you do in today’s episode, and how you can use that awareness to change course. As long as you blame the universe for conspiring against you, it will keep happening… because you are actually creating it. You have the power to shine a light on the truth and turn things around. I’ll show you how. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) You can have it all. Stop and look at your expectations, and how you are the one conspiring against you. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#530 We Can Never Become What Someone Wants Us to Be for Very Long Nov 27, 2020

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dealing with a dismissive person, having a crush on a stranger, and worrying about screwing up a new relationship. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#529 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Bela Gandhi Nov 25, 2020

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Bela Gandhi was hit with her matchmaking intuition when she was a senior in college. While chatting with a guy at a party, she experienced a very strong feeling and blurted out, “You’re going to marry my roommate.” She set them up, and today they are married with three kids. But Bela’s path took a turn before she parlayed her dating intuition into a career. Using her degrees in Finance and German, Bela worked for 12 years as an executive at her family’s multinational corporation. She was successful, but her heart started tugging at her to start her own business. Three years of anxiety and fear of failure ensued before Bela started the Smart Dating Academy in 2009. Her first order of business was translating her matchmaking intuition into a process—the same process she used to meet her husband (they have been married more than 20 years and have two kids). “If you find yourself with heavy butterflies in your stomach, it’s your gut telling you to get the hell out!” –Bela Gandhi What’s Bela’s dating philosophy? It’s a lot like mine! A nice-but-not-great first date is preferable to fireworks. She believes we’ve been “Hollywood-ed” into thinking fireworks are what we should look for. That’s a mistake. “Love is a slow burn,” says Bela. She also dismisses the fallacy we should instinctively know how to date. People hire nutritionists, trainers, business coaches, therapists, etc.… why not hire a dating expert? I couldn’t agree more. Tune in to my conversation with Bela to learn the first question she asks clients (something you can ask yourself), and how to know if you are ready to date. Relationship intuition meets business training: it's a match made in heaven. Learn more about Bela and her Smart Dating Academy at: Instagram - @smartdatingacademy Facebook - @smartdatingacademy Twitter - @BelaGandhiLove Website - https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/ Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

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