Freedom from Attachment

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#668 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Juliette Karaman Oct 12, 2022

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Juliette’s life has been peppered with grief and trauma, beginning around age 10 when her brother lit their garage on fire and the family moved from Holland to Texas (without the brother). At 15, she found her mom after having swallowed sleeping pills, then swiftly took her to the hospital. As an adult she experienced several close family deaths, and later uncovered a trauma that she had buried: being raped by multiple men. Join me as I uncover what Juliette learned from all of this, including listening to her body and emotionally moving through trauma. Today she is a coach, teacher and mentor who writes about relationships, trauma, healing, sex and intimacy. Her specialty is helping clients move on from sexual trauma to rebuild intimate relationships again. Learn more about Juliette and her programs here: www.feelfullyyou.com www.theembodiedleadershipacademy.com Instagram: @juliettekaraman

#667 The Journey of Attachment: Attraction to Unavailable People (REBROADCAST) Oct 11, 2022

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You attract people exactly where you are. If you’re unavailable, you will attract someone who is unavailable. To attract open, you must BE open. People who are attracted to emotionally unavailable people are attached to UNREALISTIC outcomes, and their idea of a good partner is narrow—as in they need to fit the perfect picture. Maybe you want to meet someone so you don’t spend the holidays alone, providing a very limited opening for what you will accept. Even people who have done work on themselves can be drawn to emotionally unavailable people because it’s familiar. It stems from our negative beliefs, particularly “I am alone” and “there is not really enough.” We often look for evidence our beliefs are true, so we attract painful partners. As with everything, the first step is awareness. To move toward available, notice what you’re normally drawn to. What checklists do you have? Forget your “type” and pay attention to how certain attractive qualities feel to you. Where do you feel connected when you are with someone? Look for what you usually dismiss (i.e. values). Get to know yourself while being with people (without expectations) and see how you feel about them. Have a conversation without it needing to lead somewhere. Trying to make something happen doesn’t work, so relax and catch yourself if you start picking people apart. You never know when someone will show up, so stay open to possibility. It’s not about control; it’s about surrender. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#666 You Are Not Broken and No One Is Coming To Save You (Thankfully) Oct 04, 2022

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A lot of people are afraid of settling, and yet, those same people believe they don’t deserve what they want. They feel broken, hoping someone else will come along to fix them. To anyone who believes they’re broken, I offer this: it’s a lie. You are whole and have so much inside that is valuable. You just can’t see it… yet. When you feel broken, you end up sabotaging everything to prove you are, indeed, undeserving. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy driven by a lack of value. In this episode you’ll discover you’re NOT broken, that you don’t need someone to fix you (not that they could anyway!), and that the way to feel whole is to show your “broken” parts. Yep, it’s time to let that freak flag fly!

#665 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Helane Wahbeh Sep 28, 2022

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Dr. Helané Wahbeh is part clinical researcher and part intuitive. When she went to a channeling at her grandparent’s house at the age of 10, she connected with the intuitive side of herself. Named after her great grandmother who was a midwife and healer, Helané’s intrinsic desire to learn about health and healing let her to become a naturopathic physician. After a few years of private practice, something called her back to research where she studied mindfulness meditation in combat veterans with PTSD. Through her interviews with these veterans, she was hit with all this “other” information she couldn’t talk about in meetings. “Everyone has the capacity to channel in one way or another, but the way it shows up for them is unique.” --Dr. Helané Wahbeh Feeling split between her researcher work self and intuitive personal self, Helané sought a way to bring those two sides together. Naturally, a few synchronistic events led her in that direction. Today she is the Director of Research at the Institute of Noetic Sciences which studies interconnectedness through science and direct experience. She is also an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Neurology at Oregon Health & Science University and president of the Parapsychological Association. Join me for an enlightening conversation with Helané about intuition, channeling, quantum physics, meditation and more. Learn more about Helané and the Institute of Noetic Sciences here: Institute of Noetic Sciences: www.noetic.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrWahbeh LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/drwahbeh/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwahbeh/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrWahbeh

#664 How Keeping Toxic People Away From You Doesn’t Matter Sep 27, 2022

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“Toxic” gets thrown around a lot lately as though it’s a disease we want to stay away from. “Get that toxic person away from me!” or “I only want positive people in my life.” When parents say something triggering, they’re toxic. When a partner or roommate has a meltdown over dirty dishes in the sink, they’re toxic. This is how we create distance. You are absolutely in charge of who you spend time with, but instead of writing them off, get curious about what they’re triggering in you. In this episode we’ll look at the difference between someone who triggers painful emotions and actual toxicity. What are your expectations of them and why? Labeling someone as toxic is disempowering because your emotional state is in someone else’s hands; they’re “making” you feel angry, annoyed, etc. There’s a better way. Use the trigger as an opportunity for growth, and trust you’ll be ok no matter what other people do.

#663 Attachment Denial: Can I Make It Healthy? Sep 20, 2022

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Oh denial, what a comfy, cozy place it can be. Especially when you’re in denial about being attached. It’s easier to dress it up to family and friends so it doesn’t sound as bad as it feels. It’s easier to lie to yourself so you don’t have to deal with disappointment. And maybe, if you deny what’s going on, you won’t have to face all those painful negative feelings, right? Wrong. Hoping and wishing for something to be different doesn’t make those feelings disappear or lessen over time. It just strengthens them, keeping you miserable. Denying your situation is the opposite of trusting yourself because it says you can’t handle it (which is not true). In this episode we’ll look at what you’re sacrificing to live in denial about your attachment, and what it’s ultimately costing you. Healthy relationships exist in reality. When you admit you’re attached, you’ll be one brave step closer to having the loving, happy relationship you deserve.

#662 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Niyc Pidgeon Sep 14, 2022

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“Positive psychology and entrepreneurship are vehicles to activate and strengthen and thrive.” --Niyc Pidgeon Niyc Pidgeon is known as “the girl who made Elon Musk cry” because of her thought-provoking, emotional question to him about the challenges of entrepreneurship. But it was her own challenges that led her to study positive psychology. At a young age, Niyc was bullied in school for being academically advanced—particularly in math and science. This led to a pivotal moment that involved her mom’s medicine cabinet, an ambulance call and a change of schools…which all set her down a new path. Join me for an enlightening conversation with Niyc as she talks us through what drew her to positive psychology, and how her research was put to the test in real life through the myriad challenges she faced (rape and suicide among them). Post-healing, she moved from England to the US, wrote a best-selling book and made $1 million before she was 30. Today she is business coach, founder of the multi-million dollar brand Unstoppable Success and creator of The Positive Psychology Coach Academy Certification. Learn more about Niyc, and get a free copy of her book “Now Is Your Chance” here: https://www.nowisyourchancebook.com/free Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/niycpidgeon Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/niycpidge/ Website: https://www.niycpidgeon.com/home

#661 How Does Someone Become Codependent? (REBROADCAST) Sep 13, 2022

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Codependency can feel like an addiction. You surrender your own feelings to make another person happy, using them as a way to fulfill needs you should be fulfilling yourself. Maybe you can't even remember a time when a relationship didn’t feel like work. You're always sacrificing your own happiness to make someone else happy. But how did you get to this place? How does someone become codependent? Unfortunately, codependency is often a seed planted in childhood. It grows alongside you as you develop your identity and the way you communicate. In today’s podcast, learn how the relationships you observed as a child influenced your adult relationships, and learn how you can use this knowledge to break free of your codependent behavior.

#660 Don’t Beat Yourself Up! Tips on Stopping the Urgency of Attachment Sep 06, 2022

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I want you, and I want you NOW. Have you ever wanted someone so badly that you’ll run down anything that stands in your way? Maybe you think of elaborate ways to hook them, thinking he or she is the answer to your prayers. It’s an urgency caused by the intensity of illusion. Yes, illusion. That’s because this intense feeling disguises itself as love, but it isn’t love. It’s attachment, and unfortunately, attachment is what many of us learn from society. It’s a desperate desire to be loved, and when you don’t get it, you wonder what you’re doing wrong. In this episode we’ll look at the illusion you’re living in, where you believe the situation or the person you want will magically change (he’ll finally leave her; she’ll eventually see what a catch I am). You’ll learn that disappointment, which you’re trying to avoid, can actually be a great friend and teacher. Because despite what you might see in the movies, love isn’t urgent. That dramatic arc? That’s attachment. Being able to distinguish between the two is a critical step toward finding actual love.

#659 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dr. Alison Kay Aug 31, 2022

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Alison grew up in a rural area surrounded by nature, so she always felt connected to it, feeling a greater sense of life around her. Then at 12 years old, Alison’s mom pointed out that she had a natural understanding of people, and suggested she become psychologist. That resonated with her, so Alison pursued a psychology major in college, but dropped it after three semesters because she wasn’t learning how to be the happiest, most thriving version of herself (that would come later!). Then, while working in a high-stress political job to protect the environment, she strolled through a bookstore and a meditation book literally fell off the shelf. It was a sign. “If we in the west only valued what’s in the invisible and understood the science behind how consciousness and our subtle energy system works, we would have so much more thriving and so much less suffering.” –Alison Kay Join me as Alison shares her unconventional journey from environmental legislation to teaching in Taiwan to where she is now, which is a subtle energies practitioner and natural healer with a holistic approach towards helping others thrive in mind, body and spirit. She’ll also touch on the 20-year window of purging we’re currently in, and the opportunities that exist. Today her mission is to support the next higher evolution of the collective and create change for the health of this planet and those who are ready to unleash every part of the magic within them. Where to learn more about Alison: Website: https://www.alisonjkay.com/ Twitter: @ajkbliss Facebook: www.facebook.com/drAlisonJKayofVibrationalUPgrade Linkedin: @dralisonjkay

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