Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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Two Kinds of Discomfort | Episode 92 Jan 25, 2021

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In this episode I make the distinction between things that are uncomfortable that we've learned to put up with, especially if we grew up in chaos - and things that are uncomfortable because they're new. I called this "bad" discomfort and "good" discomfort. The way to know which is which is to ask yourself - if you were to prolong the discomfort, what would happen? Would the result be more discomfort? Or would it lead to freedom or other things we get when we engage in healthy behaviors. I use a couple of real-life examples to illustrate these concept. And - I recognize it may be hard to change your behaviors, but you can do hard! "Hard" is not an excuse for not doing something! (esp. something that benefits you!).

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Blame | Episode 91 Jan 18, 2021

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I share how I blamed others and the world for my difficulties before recovery, but I didn't even know I was doing that! You'll hear about the connection between self-pity, blame and victim mentality, as well as how to get out of it. Taking responsibility for your little corner of the world is what you'll need to do. Remember - the Serenity Prayer guides us to seek the courage to change the things we CAN change!

I also ask for suggestions for how to mark the 100-episode milestone coming up in a few weeks. If you have ideas, email me Barb@HigherPowerCC.com.

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Becoming Whole | Episode 90 Jan 11, 2021

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Being whole means I'm no longer afraid to share the real me with others, I'm not hiding behind any facades any longer. In this episode I talk about all the various things that have contributed to my wholeness, including loving myself and setting boundaries. I also talk about how wholeness doesn't mean bad things never happen, they do. It's just that they no longer shatter me the way they used to.

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Anonymity | Episode 89 Jan 04, 2021

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I thought anonymity was about avoiding the stigma of being in 12 step recovery. It's really about humility, which is what allows us to be teachable. When we are humble, we understand we're no better and no worse than anyone else. It's also about ensuring that each one of us has only one voice, and no one speaks for any particular fellowship (whether inside the rooms of recovery or publicly).

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Expecting Fairness | Episode 88 Dec 21, 2020

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We can have all the expectations of the world that we want, but we'll likely be pissed off a lot if we do! This episode specifically addresses the issue of fairness, but the same principle could apply to any value you hold dearly. The idea is that, instead of getting pissed off that things are not the way you think they should be, work toward creating those conditions. One of the quotes mentioned in the podcast makes more sense when you see it as opposed to hearing it. This is it:
BElieve
THEre is
GOOD

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How to Attract Emotionally Available People | Episode 87 Dec 14, 2020

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If you've been hiding behind various facades or masks and acting as if you like things you don't, or that you're comfortable with things you're not - that's not integrity. Being emotionally available requires vulnerability, which is not possible if you don't have integrity (i.e., if your foundation is cracked). Emotionally available people are attracted by other emotionally available people. So if you're continually attracting emotionally UNavailable people, the problem might be that you have a "cracked foundation" and aren't living in your integrity.

Listen in for how to strengthen your integrity which will allow you to become vulnerable and therefore attract emotionally available people.

For info on my group coaching pilot "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" mentioned in this episode,
go to https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries

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The Serenity Prayer, Reimagined | Episode 86 Dec 07, 2020

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The Serenity Prayer is one of the most popular prayers in the world, but I think the opening is backwards. I learned acceptance and THEN got serenity. I give an example of what I mean by that using traffic. I also talk about how the Serenity Prayer is essentially about learning where our boundaries should be.

Pilot group coaching program, "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" info and registration is linked here:
https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries

Free webinar on Mon 12/14 at 7 pm EST "Myths and Misconceptions about Boudnaries" info and registration is linked here:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/myths-and-misconceptions-about-boundaries-webinar-tickets-130356213945

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16 Reasons Why Sex Is Better in Recovery | Episode 85 Nov 30, 2020

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Being comfortable in my own skin and not being mired in fear are two very important reasons why sex is sooooo much better in recovery than it was before recovery! Being able to be vulnerable with your partner and communicate directly also helps. Listen in to hear ways you might be able to improve your sex life from being in recovery!

The two links I mention are here:

FREE webinar "Myths and Misconceptions about Boundaries" Mon 12/14/20 at 7 pm EST
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/myths-and-misconceptions-about-boundaries-webinar-tickets-130356213945

Pilot group coaching program "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" Tuesdays 1/5/21-2/9/21
https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries

Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching,
and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com.

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Don't Carpet the World | Episode 84 Nov 23, 2020

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"It's easier to put slippers on your feet than to carpet the world" is a Chinese proverb. The carpet metaphor is used in this episode to illustrate the issue of control. I talk about how we can learn to stop trying to control others (carpet the world) and work on controlling ourselves (put slippers on our feet). This an example of what the Serenity Prayer refers to as "the wisdom to know the difference."

The link to the group coaching pilot on boundaries is https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/

Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com.

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Flawesome! | Episode 83 Nov 16, 2020

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In this episode I talk about moving away from the black-and-white thinking that if we're flawed, that means we're not awesome. It's perfectly normal to be flawed, and it's ok to let others see your flaws. When you accept your own flaws, you'll become more accepting of other people's flaws too!

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