Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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You Don't Have to Believe Your Thoughts! | Episode 82 Nov 09, 2020

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You don't have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like "I'm not enough") as well as thoughts about others and the world. If you're not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they're negative - think again! You don't have to believe a thought just because it's in your head (even though it sounds like your voice!).

Here are the links mentioned in the podcast:

* FREE boundaries webinar, "How to Be Grateful on Thanksgiving by Setting Healthy Boundaries" https://www.eventbrite.com/e/how-to-be-grateful-on-thanksgiving-by-setting-healthy-boundaries-tickets-127263692129

* Pilot group coaching program starting in January, "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/

* Medium article, "How to Upgrade Your Life by Improving Your Thought Life" https://barb-nangle.medium.com/how-to-upgrade-your-life-by-improving-your-thought-life-9b0872dba776?source=friends_link&sk=2d7776ac711f33b742531362267574f1

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Something Came Up vs. Something Happened | Episode 81 Nov 02, 2020

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When someone doesn't show up when expected, we might be tempted to think, "something happened!" This usually has a negative connotation, like they were in an accident. However, when we think, "something came up" it's neutral and not likely to send is into a tailspin of negativity and anxiety. You can purposely choose this "thought work" to bring you more peace and serenity.

The article I mention at the end of the podcast can be found here: https://medium.com/curious/how-to-upgrade-your-life-by-improving-your-thought-life-9b0872dba776

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How to Enjoy the Holidays by Setting Boundaries Now | Episode 80 Oct 26, 2020

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You don't have to do things you don't want to over the holidays! This includes attending events, exchanging gifts, spending money or having uncomfortable conversations. You'll learn a variety of tips for setting boundaries for the holidays, including some specific scripts so use and scenarios in which to use them.

I also recommend checking out this website for the CDC's considerations for the holidays. It gives ideas about holiday travel, as well as for those hosting and attending events. CDC considerations for the winter holidays.
You can either Google “CDC Holiday Celebrations” or follow this link:
https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/holidays.html

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Terminal Uniqueness | Episode 79 Oct 19, 2020

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Many of us come into recovery believing we're "terminally unique" or that we're "uniquely flawed." What we learn is that we're NOT terminally unique, and that there are many are many others like us. You are not alone, there are many others like you, and you DO belong.

Here's the link to my FREE webinar "How to Enjoy the Boundaries by Setting Boundaries Now" on Monday 10/26/20 7-8:00 pm EDT: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/how-to-enjoy-the-holidays-by-setting-boundaries-now-tickets-124952386953

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New Possibilities | Episode 78 Oct 12, 2020

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The ability to believe in new possibilities is at the heart of our ability to change. Gaining a new perspective on our lives and our problems opens us up to new possibilities. The way we think about things is often the source of our difficulties, rather than the situations themselves. If you'd like to change things in your life, this episode will give you ideas for how to get new perspectives that lead to new possibilities.

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Getting Rid of Expectations After the Fact | Episode 77 Oct 05, 2020

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Sometimes we don't realize we even had an expectation until it wasn't met. Whether that's true for you, or you KNOW you had an expectation about something, you'll learn how to "unhook" from those expectations even after the situation is over! This will melt your resentment about not having your expectation met.

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Reducing Emotional Pain | Episode 76 Sep 28, 2020

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This episode covers several ways to reduce your emotional pain. It covers how to take advantage of the power of your "thinking brain" to help you clean up your negative thinking; practicing self care and connecting with others.

Check out the “Feelings, Not Fixing” bundle of curated content.

This bundle is for people who struggle with emotional discomfort—especially those who avoid their own feelings or feel responsible for fixing others'. If you've been told you're too sensitive, or you learned to disconnect from your emotions to survive, this bundle helps you come back to yourself. It’s especially powerful for people-pleasers, over-givers, and anyone raised in a family where emotions were minimized or punished.

Details here.

Becoming Entirely Ready to Change Your Life | Episode 75 Sep 21, 2020

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If you are truly committed to changing your ways, this episode is for you! The process of changing our lives is what 12 step recovery is all about. In this episode, you'll learn a way of becoming "entirely ready" (not just "somewhat ready") to change your life. I'll walk you through a process to think through what you've been doing that's been creating drama in your life. We'll go through what these things have been doing FOR you and TO you, then what changed behavior would look like. This will help us overcome the obstacle thoughts our brain generates to block us from changing.

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Privacy vs Secrecy | Episode 74 Sep 15, 2020

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In this episode, I clear up the distinction between what's private and what's secret. Private matters have to do with setting healthy boundaries. Secrets have to do with hiding our shame. I use the example of personal finances to illustrate the difference between privacy and secrecy. This distinction is hard for people with unhealthy boundaries to understand. So if the distinction is difficult for you, you might need to work on your boundaries (and I can help!).

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Understanding Natural Consequences | Episode 73 Sep 07, 2020

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The natural consequences of negative behavior are typically negative. However, many people buffer, block or filter the consequences of other's behavior by enabling them. Enabling is when we fix, solve, or make the consequences for someone's behavior go away. This episode will give you an understanding what natural consequences are, how they work and how to allow them.

You might find these programs helpful:
Al-Anon (https://al-anon.org/);
Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (https://adultchildren.org/)
Codependent's Anonymous (https://coda.org/).

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