Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

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Breaking patterns of people-pleasing & self-abandonment Apr 23, 2025

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Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries?In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundaries, uncovering her underlying fears of abandonment and loneliness. We get to witness her reconnect deeply with her inner child and learn how nurturing herself with compassion and accountability can transform her healing journey. This session beautifully highlights why self-forgiveness, patience, and consistent self-care are crucial to breaking generational cycles.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle with self-forgiveness and feelings of guilt.

* You're navigating the complex feelings of abandonment or loneliness.

* You find yourself trapped in patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment.

* You're ready to heal your inner child and cultivate deep self-compassion.

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Compassionate parenting for raising confident children Apr 16, 2025

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Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through playful connection (think pillow fights and peekaboo!), and support sensitive children by tracking emotional triggers. You’ll learn to create structured yet nurturing routines that offer stability for your child—and yourself—as you navigate parenting with self-compassion, authenticity, and curiosity.

This episode is for you if:

* You worry about raising a people-pleaser or struggle setting boundaries with your child.

* You have a sensitive, anxious, or energetic child and want actionable ways to support them.

* You're looking for playful parenting strategies to build emotional resilience.

* You want guidance on creating structured daily routines that benefit both you and your child.

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Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.

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Attracting unavailable partners? How to break unhealthy relationship patterns Apr 09, 2025

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Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle with feeling abandoned, or constantly doubt your own judgment in relationships? In this episode, I guide Sierra, a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, through a powerful healing process after a painful breakup. Sierra openly shares her experience navigating feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and shame after a promising relationship ended abruptly. Using shadow work and inner child healing, Sierra reconnects with her younger selves, explores the roots of her shame and self-worth struggles, and learns to integrate their unmet needs into her present life. You'll gain practical strategies for increasing self-awareness, tracking relationship patterns, and making conscious decisions to stop cycles of emotional pain and trauma bonds.

This episode is for you if:

* You're healing from a difficult breakup or emotional abandonment.

* You repeatedly attract emotionally unavailable partners.

* You struggle with shame, low self-worth, or trusting your intuition.

* You're seeking actionable steps to shift unhealthy relationship patterns through inner healing.

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Conscious Clearing: How to repair after conflict Apr 02, 2025

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Have you ever felt lingering tension in a relationship—like unspoken resentment, fear, or anxiety creating distance between you and your partner? In this episode, I dive into conscious clearing, a practice that helps clear unresolved conflict and deepen connection.

Rather than seeing conflict as something to avoid, I reframe it as an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and repair. I break down the three key steps for a conscious clearing, what tends to happen when we don’t have these, and why it can positively impact our relationships.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel tension or unspoken resentment in your relationships.

* You struggle with how to approach difficult conversations without making things worse.

* You want to learn a simple practice for clearing conflict and deepening emotional intimacy.

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Watch the masterclass on boundaries here 👉🏾 Why your boundaries aren’t working

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When you're unhappy but scared to leave Mar 26, 2025

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Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship, unsure if you should stay or walk away? In this week’s session episode, T, a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, comes to the call seeking clarity about whether her relationship is still aligned. But what emerges is something deeper—a lifelong pattern of feeling responsible for the care and well-being of others, rooted in childhood parentification.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel stuck in a relationship and don’t know whether to stay or leave.

* You struggle with feeling responsible for others’ emotions and well-being.

* You want to learn how inner child work can help you make aligned decisions in relationships.

Codependency Alchemy is a reader-supported publication and podcast. To support my work and join our community, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

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Listen to the meditation for Muscle Testing and connecting to your intuition 👉🏾 Trust your inner voice: A guide to cultivating inner guidance

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When anxiety hits: Tending to the parts that need you Mar 19, 2025

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Do you ever feel anxious but can’t quite pinpoint why? In this podcast live episode I am sharing my personal experience of navigating discomfort and anxiety, walking you through my process of identifying triggers and reflecting on the frustration of revisiting the same wounds. We’ll talk about the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey, and practical ways to tend to intrusive thoughts and emotional overwhelm.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle with anxiety and want a deeper understanding of its roots.

* You feel frustrated revisiting the same emotional wounds and want to cultivate more self-compassion.

* You’re navigating changes in relationships and community as you grow.

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Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide

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Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Healing the Fear of Being Seen Mar 12, 2025

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Do you ever feel afraid of being truly seen? In this episode, Amba, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her transformative journey from seeking external validation to embracing self-love and inner trust. After reconnecting with her ex following deep inner work, she reflects on how she is struggling with fears of judgment and being seen in her work. Through a shadow work and inner child healing session, Amba reclaims her power, redefines her protectors’ roles, and steps into courage, truth, and open-hearted vulnerability. Listen in as we explore the process of releasing old fears, integrating new strengths, and cultivating self-compassion.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle with the fear of being seen, judged, or rejected.

* You’re working on shifting from external validation to self-love.

* You want to learn how to reframe fear, meet your inner child’s needs, and embody new strengths.

Codependency Alchemy is a reader-supported publication and podcast. To receive new posts and support my work and our community, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

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Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.

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Navigating Tantrums: Emotional regulation for parents and children Mar 05, 2025

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Do you feel overwhelmed when your child has a tantrum? In this episode, we break down the natural cycle of tantrums—beginning, middle, and end—and explore why they are a healthy release of pent-up emotions. We discuss how children attune to parent’s nervous system, the importance of regulating your own emotions, and practical techniques to help children (and adults!) process their feelings. By doing your own inner work and shifting your mindset around tantrums, you can show up with more calm, empathy, and connection.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel anxious, frustrated, or helpless when your child has a tantrum.

* You want to learn how your nervous system impacts your child’s emotional regulation.

* You’re looking for practical tools to support your child through big emotions with more confidence and ease.

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Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.

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Shadow work for unlocking fears around your desires Feb 26, 2025

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Ever feel like your dreams are just out of reach, especially when the fear of failure or embarrassment keeps holding you back? In this episode, Assisi from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares how our recent Shadow Work Sunday Chat 💬 helped her start questioning her career path and the deeper desires she’s been suppressing. We dive into a shadow work and inner child healing to help her tend this part of her, and step into a more authentic version of herself—and how you can do the same in your own life.

This episode is for anyone who:

* Feels stuck in something that doesn’t feel aligned or satisfying.

* Struggles with the fear of failure or humiliation when thinking about making changes.

* Wants to learn how to use shadow work and inner child healing to step into their desires and create a life that feels true to them.

If you want to listen to “The Cookie Episode” mentioned in this episode, you can listen to it here.

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Overcoming limiting beliefs and embracing your desires Feb 19, 2025

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Have you ever felt weird about being happy that you totally self-sabotage it with limiting beliefs that make you spiral in fear or doubt? In this live episode hosted on Substack, I share about a moment of joy that took a quick turn into self-doubt and fear of judgment. After celebrating a big win, I found myself spiraling with thoughts that completely knocked me off the joy high I was riding. Together, we’re going to move through a shadow work and inner child practice around our desires… something many of us have been too scared to name.

This episode is for you if:

* You sometimes feel like joy, love, or success isn’t really meant for you.

* You worry about being judged or losing people when you’re thriving.

* You want to learn how shadow work can help you feel safe and grounded in your joy and what you desire.

Want to join our next Podcast Live event? Make sure you become a free subscriber on our Codependency Alchemy Substack here.

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Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide

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Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

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