Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Latest Episodes:

What to do when your partner says something really hurtful Jul 30, 2025

Show notes

What do you do when your partner says something in a fight that really hurts? In this episode, I respond to a Codependency Alchemy member who felt deeply disrespected during an argument with their partner and doesn’t know what to do next. They didn’t want to shut down, fight back, or threaten the relationship… but they also knew they deserved more care and respect.

We talk about:

* How to respond when you feel disrespected or hurt

* Why walking away isn’t weak— it’s a boundary

* When you're ready for repair, and how to know

* Questions to ask when you're ready to reconnect

* How to avoid falling back into old, reactive patterns

This is a conversation about repair, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your voice, even when the moment feels messy.

If this episode resonated, take a second to like this post, rate, review, or share it with someone who might need it too. It really helps more people find this work.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Am I still loved if I say no? Jul 23, 2025

Show notes

Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was safer to be needed than to be authentic.

A powerful episode for anyone who wants to stop spiraling after saying no and start honoring their truth with compassion.

This episode is for you if:

* You overthink how others might respond when you set a boundary

* You’ve ever felt like you had to be “useful” or “helpful” to be loved

* You find yourself saying yes when your body’s screaming no

* You’re ready to stop spiraling in shame after choosing yourself

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

3 questions to unblock the part of you that’s afraid to let go Jul 16, 2025

Show notes

Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to gently start shifting it.

This episode is for you if:

You feel stuck or blocked despite all the inner work you’ve done

You struggle to let go of control, even when it’s safe to do so

You carry guilt when things feel easeful or good

You’re ready to reconnect with the part of you that knows how to flow

**Want to join our next Podcast Live event? Make sure you become a free subscriber on our Codependency Alchemy Substack here.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Afraid of making the wrong choice in love? Jul 09, 2025

Show notes

Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow work and inner child healing, we explore the deeper wounds underneath indecision, and how to start trusting yourself—even when the future feels uncertain.

This episode is for you if:

You constantly second-guess your relationship decisions

You struggle to hear your intuition through the noise of fear and trauma

You’re scared to leave… but also scared to stay

You want tools to help you discern truth from self-protection🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

Other resources noted in this episode:

Healing the Mother Wound- 30 day journey

Muscle testing- learn how to trust you inner knowing/compass

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

8 lessons that changed my relationships forever Jul 02, 2025

Show notes

Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to hold two truths without needing to be “right”—this episode is packed with the hard-earned wisdom I wish I had a decade ago. Whether you’re in a relationship or healing after one, these lessons will meet you exactly where you are.

This episode is for you if:

* You keep trying to “fix” your partner instead of tending to yourself.

* You’re struggling with space, boundaries, or unmet needs.

* You want to stop reacting from fear and start responding with clarity.

* You’re ready to take accountability without shame.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

Other resources noted in this episode:

The Breakup That Healed Me Episode

The Situationship Episode

Needs, Wants, and Desires Episode

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Why your nervous system craves unhealthy relationships Jun 25, 2025

Show notes

Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections, what happens when our nervous system mistakes chaos for safety, and how dopamine addiction keeps us stuck.

Sarah bravely reconnects with her younger self, healing deep childhood wounds and reclaiming her power. Listen in to learn practical tools to support your nervous system and break free from patterns that no longer serve you.

This episode is for you if:

* You struggle to let go of relationships that you logically know aren't healthy.

* Your nervous system craves chaos or emotional unavailability.

* You experience physical anxiety or panic when relationships end.

* You want guidance on healing relationship-related nervous system triggers.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

Other resources noted from this episode:

Power Animal Journey

Testimonial: How shadow work and inner child healing changed her life

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Boundaries crossed? How to repair family conflict with grace Jun 18, 2025

Show notes

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety, and how making repairs after conflicts fosters genuine healing. Plus, we'll do a live shadow work practice together to help you understand your fears around boundary-setting and heal the root causes beneath them.

This episode is for you if:

* You find it hardest to set boundaries with family.

* You feel unheard, invalidated, or triggered when boundaries are ignored.

* You're unsure how to make genuine repairs after a conflict.

* You want practical ways to support your nervous system when triggered.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

Other resources noted from this episode:

Power Animal Journey

Why boundaries feel hard & how to set them lovingly

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Why healthy relationships still trigger you (& that's OK!) Jun 11, 2025

Show notes

Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behind her self-judgment and the pressure she places on her partner, transforming these fears into deeper self-compassion and self-acceptance. Listen in and learn how to embrace relationship triggers as opportunities for growth, understand the cycle of anxiety and judgment, and build true emotional safety from within.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel anxious when your partner isn't "doing the work."

* You struggle with unrealistic expectations about relationships.

* You frequently judge yourself harshly for getting triggered.

* You're ready to release old fears and reconnect with your inner child.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Mastering Boundaries: How to set and actually enforce them Jun 04, 2025

Show notes

Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel uncomfortable but ultimately creates more authentic, fulfilling, and respectful relationships. If you're tired of feeling anxious about enforcing boundaries or resentful when they aren't respected, this episode is exactly what you need.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel anxious or guilty when setting boundaries.

* You've struggled with boundaries being ignored or disrespected.

* You're ready to move past people-pleasing into empowered action.

* You need clear steps on how to enforce boundaries effectively.

🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

The practice I use when codependency creeps in (and how you can try it too) Apr 30, 2025

Show notes

Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence.

We’ll walk through:

* How to identify the root fear behind a trigger

* Why somatic awareness is key to inner child healing

* How to connect with your inner child (even if no memories come up)

* What it really means to reparent and set your inner child free

Want to go deeper? Join Codependency Alchemy, our Substack membership for access to the Healing the Mother Wound 30-day journey — with daily prompts, poems, and guided practices, all for just $4.95 this May. We start tomorrow: just click here to join.

Want a step-by-step version of this practice? Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide

Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library

Read posts From My Journal ✍🏾

Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Our TOPPODCAST Picks

Follow Us

Stay Connected

Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Related Podcasts

Links

Stay Connected