Brown Girl Self-Care

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Spaciousness Can Be Uncomfortable. No One Told Me That. Jul 21, 2025

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We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good?

In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes to protect your peace and now feel unsettled by the stillness, this conversation is for you.

In this episode:

Why stillness can feel unsafe at first
How your nervous system reacts to peace when it’s used to chaos
The temptation to refill what you just cleared
What to do when the quiet feels like too much

If you're in a season of stretching, releasing, or sitting in uncomfortable in-between moments, book a 1:1 B.E.I.N.G. session with me. It’s a space to process, reconnect, and move through what’s surfacing with care.

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(Replay) 4 Ways You Aren't Being A Safe Space For Other Black Women Jul 14, 2025

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Hey, hey!!

This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will.

Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about judgement or blame but about awareness and reflection as we continue leaning into community care and support for one another.

Replay: What We NOT Gonna Do is Normalize Our Needs Being Unmet Jul 07, 2025

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*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw*

Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week.

Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of $49/session. We all need space to be held. We all need space to unravel. We all need space to center OUR needs and to get guidance on ways to bloom. This is your space. Join me in the B.E.I.N.G. Space anytime.

What One Year of No Contact w/ My Mother Taught Me Jun 30, 2025

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**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse****

It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when you choose peace and refuse to shrink, even when people expect you to go back.

I’m sharing this episode for anyone who's navigating estrangement, emotional distance, or rebuilding themselves after breaking ties. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not wrong for choosing yourself.

In this episode, I share:

How I spent the one-year anniversary
3 real lessons from going no contact
The ways I’ve learned to honor myself
How people will try to guilt you

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ETCF - You Are Training People To Not Value Your Labor When You Don't Charge Jun 27, 2025

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This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episode

Real talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern.

We’re talking about why so many Black women feel unseen in their businesses, and how to unlearn the guilt around getting paid for your care.

If you’ve been grinding with heart and getting crumbs in return, this one’s for you.

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Can You Be in Community With Yourself? Are You Your Best Friend? Jun 23, 2025

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We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself?

In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself.

You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t mean it, and ignoring what you need. That’s a form of self-abandonment.

I’m sharing some things I wrote in my journal this week, a few hard truths about how we treat ourselves, and why being your own best friend is the kind of care that changes everything.

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Rebuilding Trust With Yourself When You’ve Spent Years Self-Abandoning Jun 16, 2025

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In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you.

I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in small, intentional ways.

This is not about being perfect. It’s about not disappearing on yourself anymore. This is important liberation work.

Mentioned in this episode:

– The 4 daily practices I use to rebuild self-trust

– What it means to make a decision and not waver

– How to move without proof (and why that’s important)

– Real-life examples of what this looks like for everyday Black women

Also, here is the link to the hypertension article I read and mentioned

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ETCF - Why I Started Eff The Cubicle Jun 13, 2025

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Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter Begins

In this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays. This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed me to move anyway.

We’re talking entrepreneurship, creativity, personal growth, and what it means to reclaim your time and voice. If you’ve been dreaming of building something outside the system—or you’ve already started—this series is for you.

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I’m now offering 1-on-1 podcast coaching for Black women who are ready to launch or keep their podcast going with clarity and strategy. If you're ready to invest in yourself, see your vision come to life, and work with me 1-on-1, book a session today.

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Black Women Are Not Stepping Off The Sidewalk Anymore Jun 09, 2025

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Listen to the episode from 2020

Link to the free mini quide

In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.

And I didn’t apologize.

This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.

I talk about:

What really happened that day on the sidewalk
How that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the past
The truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorry
The quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not to
Why taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestral

This episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you.

Black Women Deserve Tenderness + An Exciting Update For This Podcast Jun 02, 2025

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Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address.

Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in.

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