Brown Girl Self-Care

Latest Episodes:

Are You The Pusher Or The Driver? May 25, 2026

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I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm navigating my life.

Spoiler alert: You have permission to take control of your own damn life.

True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your circumstances are perfect to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in a hard season, looking at your life, and choosing your power anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to stop living on autopilot and step into the driver's seat of your own liberation.

What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:

The Retail Reality Check: The logistics of being back in the retail trenches in decade number five, the physical toll of pushing carts, and navigating a season that feels heavy and labor-intensive.
The Pusher vs. The Driver: The exact moment a daily question from a retail customer bypassed my ears and hit my understanding, sparking a deep revelation about survival mode vs. conscious sovereignty.
The Anatomy of Autopilot: Breaking down how trauma, people-pleasing, and public validation trick us into letting life just "happen" to us, instead of mapping out our own master blueprint.
The Power of Stillness: Why reclaiming your life requires getting quiet, turning off the noise and distractions, and allowing what’s beneath the surface to bubble up so you can figure out what you actually want.
Getting Sick of Your Own Sh*t: A real-talk reality check on how we get comfortable in our excuses, make them our identity, and why hitting a wall with your own patterns is often the exact catalyst needed for true healing.
The Reclaiming of Your Power: Why you have a right to hold the map, choose your destination, change your mind, and fully embrace every single gift and talent inside of you before you leave this earth.

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Outside Is Still Ghetto (But My Voice Is Valid) May 18, 2026

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After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter.

Spoiler alert: It does matter.

True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your life is perfectly wrapped in a bow to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in your "unknown" and choosing your purpose anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to practice liberation in real-time, right from the trenches.

What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:

The Reality of the Hiatus: Why I went silent for two months, and the vulnerability of questioning my validity in a digital age obsessed with youth and algorithms.
"Outside is Still Ghetto": The logistics of taking a retail job for stability, navigating spaces that treat you like a number, and the sovereign act of collecting a paycheck without giving away your soul.
The Universal Struggle for Meaning: Why checking external boxes will never fill an internal void, and how to find your anchor when your surroundings feel sparse or uncertain.
The Reclaiming at 50: Why my mission to provide a space of encouragement and liberation for Black women doesn't pause just because I'm figuring out my own next steps.

Un-Laboring In This Season When $$ May Be Tight Feb 23, 2026

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Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit.

For Black Women Love Isn't Enough - When to Stop Fixing a Dead Relationship Feb 16, 2026

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Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable.

Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish".

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2026 Is Not The Year For Distractions Feb 09, 2026

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Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time.

In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve.

Listener Question - How Can I Practice Self-Care During This Time of Fascism and ICE Feb 02, 2026

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Hey, hey!

Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you.

As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany them.

Here are some helpful links. Please do your due diligence:

https://naacp.org/resources/know-your-rights-immigration

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwinCities/comments/1qb84vt/what_to_do_if_ice_stops_you_an_attorney_answers/

Sharing the Hard Stuff: Finding Space to Be Real Jan 19, 2026

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In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal.

We’re talking about:

Why holding onto your truth can feel like survival but may also block your growth
The importance of having a supportive inner circle and trustworthy allies
Ways to safely share your truth including journaling, therapy, creative expression, or just showing up authentically
How black women, historically and culturally, have had to mask their truths and why reclaiming space to be fully human is an act of self-care
Navigating the highs and lows, the valleys and peaks, of life while honoring your own journey

This episode is an invitation to let go of the pressure to be perfect, to stop bottling things up for survival, and to explore ways to express yourself safely and honestly.

Reflection Prompts

What truth have you been holding onto that needs space to be expressed
Who in your life can you trust to honor your truth without judgment
What small, safe step can you take this week to release or express what’s been bottled up

Soul-Care Circle Invitation

✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨

If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment.

Date and Time: January 31, 2026 (9am-11am Central)

Where: Zoom

Cost: Donation-based (any amount)

This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.

How to Join

Send your donation via:

Cash App: @browngirlselfcare
Venmo: @browngirlselfcare

👉 Important:

Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link.

Small Beginnings, Big Intentions: Claiming Space (a Tiny Shed) as Self-Care Jan 12, 2026

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In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic.

Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space.

Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else.

We’re talking about:

Why small beginnings matter (especially in January)
Creating physical, emotional, and energetic space as a form of self-care
Letting intentions unfold without rushing or pressure
How honoring what feels meaningful to you is an act of self-love

This episode is an invitation to start the year gently, intentionally, and on your own terms.

Reflection Prompts

What’s one small step you can take this year that feels big for you?
What kind of space do you want to claim or protect in 2026?
Where can you move with intention instead of urgency?

Soul-Care Circle Invitation

✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨

Date: January 31, 2026

Where: Zoom

Cost: Donation-based (any amount)

This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.

How to Join

Send your donation via:

Cash App: @browngirlselfcare
Venmo: @browngirlselfcare

👉 Important:

Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link.

Last Episode of 2025: Don't Do "Goals" But Instead Be More Intentional in 2026 Dec 22, 2025

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The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026

Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026.

The steps are:

Honor the release that needs to happen
Your goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or being hypercritical of yourself. Think about setting intentions instead
Be sure to include community building in your plans for 2026

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode as well as some of your intentions for 2026. If you share this episode or your intentions on social, be sure to tag me.

If you are listening on iTunes or Spotify please leave a rating and review pretty please :)

Also, if you are making some changes in 2026 and need clarity and support as you boldly bloom, book some time on my calenedar here: The B.E.I.N.G. Space I will be back "in office" January 3rd.

See you in 2026!!!!

If You Are A People-Pleaser You MUST Communicate Radical Boundaries in 2026 Dec 15, 2025

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Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself.

In this episode i'll be sharing: