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Sign up for the Bright Future Method Workshop here Ask Jamie a Question about the Bright Future Method here Sign up for email reminders here Join the Insider's Telegram Channel Here Transcript: I was only about 13 miles into my 52 mile trail race. When I came across something that I will never forget for the rest of my life. That scared me to my core. I'm going to tell you all about what happened and what I encountered on the trail. [00:00:18] And this third part of this bonus series, all about the five common barriers that keep you from building a successful online business. So hang on because this one is one I will never forget. And I'm going to tell you all about it in a moment. So it was 5:15 AM. It was dark, it was raining. And it was about 50 degrees. When I got to the starting line where the race normally starts, now, it wasn't officially happening because COVID had canceled it. But I figured there would be a few other runners there and there were, there was actually another couple who was going to do it at the same time as me and I was really thankful because frankly, there's something really magical about doing a race. [00:01:33] And it's not just the fact that you're doing an event, but having the energy of other people there. Really makes me perform better. I have found that I actually draw off of the energy of the other people around me. When I ski the Berkey every year, I always go faster. When I'm with a huge crowd of people, then I go when I'm out skiing alone in the woods while I'm training. [00:01:54] And so that was one of the bummers. I knew that I probably wouldn't go as fast as I normally would since I would be doing this pretty much alone. So I was really excited to see two other people doing the race. With me at the same time, they're actually a married couple Deidre and Jamie and I was so thankful. [00:02:13] When we try and go alone in our business, we don't get nearly as good a result when we create community. And we do this with the support of other people around us. We go faster, we go further and it's much. [00:02:27] Easier to do the things that we need to do in our business and keep moving forward. So I want to talk today in this episode about five different ways that having community around us really makes us brighter together. It really helps us to shine our light into the world in a greater way, and build stronger movement, stronger businesses by banding together with other people. [00:02:52] So the first way that this happens. Is that others help motivate us and push us forward to be our best. Now, Jamie and Deidre started out a little bit faster than I was planning on starting. I mean, it was dark, it was wet. I didn't want to trip over the rocks. You know, my, my headlamp was fine, but it was. [00:03:11] You know, it's tiny light compared to when the sun is out or even just the daylight is there. And there's a lot of rocks and roots. And so I didn't want to trip over anything, but having them there, like literally we were brighter together because having three headlamps in the same area illuminated it more for me than just having one. [00:03:31] And I don't know how to explain that better. But our lights combined and made it so much brighter for all of us than if we had just been running alone. And their pace was a little bit faster than I probably would have done on my own, but it was totally an acceptable pace. It was a good pace for me. It didn't exhaust me. [00:03:50] And so I was really thankful because I might've gone a little slower, but because they were there with me. I was going a tiny bit faster and able to push myself a bit in a way that actually wasn't pushing me. I didn't think that I should go that fast first alone, but as I did it, I realized, Oh, this is actually super sustainable. [00:04:08] I've been tapering. So my legs are totally strong and this is a better pace than I would have had on my own. So by running that first leg with Jamie and Deidre, I was able to go further, faster, and it gave me some accountability and keeping me moving forward. Alright, but then now this is the second part that I alluded to in the intro about 13 miles in the three of us encountered something that I will never forget. [00:04:40] Now, we were passed about five minutes earlier by two more runners who started after us. And they were definitely much faster than us. So they cruise by us and they were going. And about five minutes later, as we were continuing to go forward, we, they were, they were there in front of us. And the lady who was part of this lady sounds so bad. [00:05:00] Her name's Kelly, Kelly had fallen and there is a piece of rebar sticking out of the ground where it used to hold like an old login to make part of the trail, but the Rog log had rotted away. And so this rebar was sticking out about three inches. And for those of you who are a little queasy, I'm sorry, I won't go into detail, but it gashed her leg in a massive way. [00:05:22] Like you could see. It was, it was, it was a physiology lesson or a biology lesson. I get really squeamish around blood. I have a hard time seeing blood, but it was a massive injury, really severe. And, the guy running with her was freaked out. Like it had just happened right before we got there and he's like, what do we do? [00:05:44] We were way in the Backwoods. We had no cell service. Thankfully, we were only a little less than a mile out from the Trailhead, but most of the people who were there helping us, cause most of us had people resupplying us there. They were gone because they were going to the next aid station to help us. [00:06:01] But one of the runners that was with us had keys to a van. And so he and the other guy ran out there and they actually got in the van, had to drive. , several miles. I mean, we were deep woods in order to call nine one one and get help for Kelly. Now, Kelly needed us there. First, we stayed with her. We stayed with her for an hour and a half while we waited for all of this stuff to happen. [00:06:25] Normally, when you're running a race, they have medical staff on hand and they have like, you know, old school walkie talkies or whatever that can travel long distances so they can communicate out on the trail when needed our cell phones didn't work at all. [00:06:38] Like zero bars, nothing was going to get through. We couldn't call for help. Absolutely. Could not, did not want to try carrying her because we didn't want her to bleed out because it was. It was that kind of injury. It was really bad. gave her the shirt off my back so she could tie it, you know, and the other gal had a handkerchief. [00:06:56] So we made a tourniquet and more than anything, we stayed with her to help keep her warm. Cause it was wet and cold and to help keep her calm and to make sure her leg was elevated so that she wasn't going to lose as much blood now. I'll never forget this. It was, I mean, I, I was so afraid of what could have been, and I knew how remote we were, how dangerous this could be. [00:07:20] But I also knew that the search and rescue teams were trained for exactly the situation. And so as long as she wasn't going unconscious or losing tons of blood or whatever else, our best bet was to stay with her, keep her calm, keep her warm and to do everything we could to just support her in staying calm during that time. [00:07:41]it was, it was super scary for me and I felt, honestly, I felt pretty worthless because. I have no medical training. I'm not good with blood, but thankfully Deidre is a doula, so she's not officially medically trained, but she knew how to handle medical situation and had some understanding and we were able to stay there and keep her from panicking. [00:08:01] And that's what she said. She was so thankful to have us there because she's like, otherwise I would have been laying here cold and alone and like, you know, not sure what to do. She would have been panicking is what she had said. So, Kelly is incredibly found out later that Kelly is an amazing runner. [00:08:16] She won the hundred mile race the year prior. So she is like one of, for the women. She's one of the best runners, one of the best trail runners in the area, which makes sense. Cause man, they were flying and it just reminded me. That even the best of us, even the most accomplished of us sometimes fall and get really hurt. [00:08:40] And without people around us to support us and to keep us grounded and to help keep us from panicking. Things can get really bad. We need that moral support. I guess, experience this in my own business when COVID almost completely destroyed my photography training business. I mean, we lost 85% of our income and it didn't come back and it was almost instantly, and it felt like a similar type of injury for my business. [00:09:08] Like it just. Yeah. It was not even hardly real life at points. And I know if it had not been for my friends that knew me, the other business owners that I have connected with that I would have struggled to recover from that, that I would have struggled to have made the pivot that I've made so quickly. [00:09:28] So no matter how successful you've been in your business, no matter how long you've been doing this or what, you know, When you have people around you to support you. It's going to help you overcome even the worst of things. And the worst of things can happen even to the best of people. Now, Kelly was incredibly lucky. [00:09:48] I thought, for sure she was going to have to have surgery to repair stuff, but apparently the, it just missed all the vital stuff. Now I'm not, I can't explain all the whatevers. I have no technical terms, even now I'm getting kind of speechless about it all because when I go back to it, it just I'll never forget what that looked like. [00:10:05] It just, it was, it was unbelievable. But, and it was so shocking because I'm like, Oh my goodness, we are in like week can't even call for help right away. but thankfully she, she only needed stitches, which I cannot fathom, because of how deep and wide and long that injury was. And it was, it was, you know, one of those miracles, keyless best case scenario is considering how awful the injury was. [00:10:30]and staying calm, making sure she didn't. You know, bleed too much. All of that was a big part of what helped her get out. [00:10:38]. Not only do we need people there for us when we fall and get injured or we struggle, but we also need people around us for ongoing support. Now, as we ran this 52 mile race, all of us had. A crew of people supporting us along the way. So, you know, every five to 12 miles, depending on, you know, the different sections of the course, my husband was there with extra food supplies, water, clean clothing, socks, shoes, all the stuff that I might possibly need so that I could get aid between, you know, sections and prepare myself to have the nutrition that I needed to get through the next section. [00:11:22]Not only do we need people in our lives to provide nourishment for us, but we really do need that ongoing support team and people who cheer for us when we're feeling tired. I know I got to mile 50 and I had about two miles left. [00:11:35] No, it wasn't even that I think it was mile 51. It was right near the end and my knees were just killing me and somebody else's crew was there with him, lights on, they were outside and they started cheering and ringing the cow bell as if they were there for the actual race, because we're waiting for another runner as well. [00:11:55] And they knew exactly what I was doing. And that was such an amazing and unexpected blessing and surprise because. The race had been canceled. You know, normally there's like loud music and lights and cheering and all this stuff going on that you can hear, you know, over the last few miles while you're running it in. [00:12:14] And there was none of that. It was all dark. It was, you know, the whole, that whole area was empty. So to come across a crew of people who were cheering at the very end was really touching and really supportive. It was I'm tearing up. What's going on. That's kind of funny, but. I'll leave it here because we all need those people in our lives to cheer for us, especially when we're getting really, you know, we think that, Oh man, we've done it. [00:12:39] We don't need it. But having people there when you're tired and you've been going and going and going. It's so powerful and we can be this for other people as well. And this is why it's so important to have those people in our lives that we can support and who can support us, not just when we fall, but on an ongoing basis and who can remind you of who you really are and what you have done and how you are doing it so that you don't stop so that you keep going, that you continue this race that you've set out to run. [00:13:13] It's super powerful. It's really beautiful. So we definitely need our crews. I still can't believe I'm so emotional about it. Wasn't that, but you know, whatever, it's honest. So definitely want you to have that as you're building your business, because we don't want to be doing this alone. You don't need to be doing this alone. [00:13:32] And I know that sometimes when things get hard or when other people think you're crazy, because that definitely happens. I mean, I've had people say you shouldn't be training too hard. You're going to kill your body and edited it out, all this stuff. Or when people get hurt and you're afraid, like what if that was me? [00:13:48] And what if I was alone? And you know, all these, what ifs happened in your mind, it can be really, really hard to keep moving forward. So when you have that crew of people with you and that support people along the way, and the people that you really connect with that, you know, just have your backs and literally just want to see you succeed. [00:14:08] It's priceless, it's truly priceless and it will help you continue moving forward when you definitely don't want to. So the fourth takeaway that I want to share with you is not only do you have, you know, this crew in this aid station, but. When you have a real community, you finally feel like you belong. [00:14:29]you can, when you feel, when you're with people who really understand what you're doing and get the difficulties of it and the company plexity of it, and, you know, they understand the big dreams that you have, and they don't think it's crazy because they also dream big like that. And when you all have a basis for understanding as to what you're doing, like they understand how to grow that. [00:14:51] Online business, like for example, the people in my bright future method workshop, you all have this bright future method that you can use as a common framework to talk with each other and help each other grow it's so M impactful, like it's so amazing. To be with people who get it and to no, that when you come to them, talk about how hard it is or when you're struggling or even celebrate. [00:15:18] I mean, okay. Let's face it. Most people don't understand. If you let's say like you have, you know, a hundred, $200,000 launches and you're disappointed because you have one that's only $75,000. Most people don't understand why that's a disappointment, right? Like, but other bright entrepreneurs might say, Oh my goodness, I totally get it. [00:15:39] You know, normally I have much bigger launches that. Yeah. Because they know, they know the scale of th…
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