Better Than Before Breast Cancer with The Breast Cancer Recovery Coach

#132 How to Stop Shoulding on yourself Apr 02, 2021

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"I should be doing more." "I should feel better by now." "I should be like her…"

The word should might seem small, but it's packed with shame, judgment, and self-doubt—especially after breast cancer.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, we explore: • Why "shoulding" yourself keeps you stuck in guilt and comparison • How it disconnects you from your true feelings and needs • A gentle, hands-on exercise to help you shift from pressure to permission • How to uncover what's really behind your hesitations—without judgment

💗 The words we whisper to ourselves shape our healing. Let's make those words kinder, more honest, and a whole lot more supportive.

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#131 Breast Cancer Recovery 101 Mar 25, 2021

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"Just think positive." That's the advice we often hear as breast cancer survivors… but it barely scratches the surface of what real healing requires.

After leading another incredible round of the Better Than Before Breast Cancer Workshop, I was reminded just how powerful—and often overlooked—thought work is in recovery.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, I talk about: • Why mindset is more than positivity • How "stay positive" messaging can cause emotional bypassing • The mental and emotional weight of hyper-focusing on food, meds, and side effects • What breast cancer recovery really looks like when we include the whole person—mind, body, and spirit

💗 You're not just healing physically. You're rebuilding your identity, your peace, and your relationship with yourself. And that starts with the thoughts you give power to.

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#130 What You're Doing to Feel Better May be Making Things Worse Mar 18, 2021

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"I'm just bored." "I'm an emotional eater." "I don't want to deal with that right now."

Sound familiar? You're not alone—and there's nothing wrong with you. But there is something deeper going on.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, we dig into: • Why we turn to food, screens, or shopping when emotions feel too heavy • The subtle ways we avoid uncomfortable feelings—and how it keeps us stuck • What emotional eating is really about (hint: it's not the food) • Practical ways to increase your awareness and start releasing what's weighing you down emotionally

💗 Avoiding your feelings doesn't make them go away—it just delays the healing. When you create space to feel, you create space to heal.

🎧 Listen now and learn how to trade avoidance for awareness, one step at a time: 📺 Free video series: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/ 🎟 Join the Workshop: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/btb

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#129 What is Normal and How is That Helping You Now Mar 12, 2021

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"I just want things to go back to normal." Sound familiar?

Whether it's recovering from cancer or navigating pandemic life, this phrase echoes in so many of our hearts. But clinging to who we used to be can keep us from becoming who we're meant to be now.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, I open up about how my mindset has shifted between my first breast cancer diagnosis and this one—ten years later. I'll share:

• Why chasing your "old self" can actually hold you back • How to stop resisting the present moment, even when it's hard • The power of connecting with your future self to guide you through tough spots • Gentle ways to reframe "normal" and reclaim your sense of self—right now

💗 You're not meant to go backward. You're meant to grow forward—with love, patience, and vision.

🎧 Listen now and grab your seat in the Better Than Before Breast Cancer Workshop: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/btb

📖 Full transcript + resources: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/129

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#128 How Self-Care Leads to Happiness and Connection Mar 06, 2021

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When was the last time you pushed yourself too hard… Because you used to be able to do it? Or gave more than you had… Because you didn't want to let someone down?

After breast cancer, one of the hardest lessons to learn is that self-care isn't selfish—it's essential.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, we'll talk about: • Why overgiving and overdoing often come from fear of what others will think • The emotional cost of ignoring your own needs • How honesty and vulnerability can deepen relationships—not damage them • Ways to involve your loved ones in your healing instead of shutting them out

💗 You're not who you were before cancer—and that's not a bad thing. It's okay to ask for help. It's okay to rest. And it's more than okay to take care of you.

🎧 Listen now and give yourself permission to be supported: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/btb

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#127 The Love Triangle - Mind, Body, Food Feb 25, 2021

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Tired of chasing the next food trend… only to feel defeated when it doesn't "work"? You're not alone—and I've been there, too.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, I'm sharing a deeply personal look at my journey from fighting my body to finally loving it—and how that one shift changed everything about the way I nourish myself.

We'll explore: • Why trends fail us—and what really helps us feel good in our bodies • The power of healing your relationship with food and with yourself • The mind-body-food love triangle and how it supports lasting wellness • A new approach to nourishment that starts with love, not punishment

💗 Imagine treating your body with care because you love it—not because you're trying to fix it.

🎧 Listen now and grab your seat in the Better Than Before Breast Cancer Workshop: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/btb

📝 Full transcript + resources: https://www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/127

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#126 How Do You Want to Feel Feb 19, 2021

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What if you could choose how you want to feel—regardless of your circumstances?

Here's the truth: You can. But creating that emotional clarity takes more than just willpower… it takes space, quiet, and self-awareness.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, you'll discover: • Why time alone is essential for reconnecting with how you really feel • The process of shifting from emotional reaction to emotional choice • What it means to be ready to feel differently (and how to get there) • How breast cancer helped some women uncover the gift of choosing peace, purpose, and presence

💗 You don't need to wait for life to calm down before you feel better. You just need the tools—and the time—to tune into you.

🎧 Listen now: www.thebreastcancerrecoverycoach.com/126

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Only When You Put Someone's Needs Above Your Own Can You Say It's True Love

#125 Mastering The Love Manual Feb 12, 2021

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Do you have an invisible rulebook for how love "should" look?

You're not alone. We all carry manuals—unspoken rules for how friends, partners, kids, and even strangers should behave if they really care about us.

But here's the thing: those love manuals might be limiting the love you're able to feel and receive.

In this week's episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, we explore: • How hidden expectations block the natural flow of love in your life • Why loosening your grip on your "manuals" can free up emotional energy • Ways to rewrite your rules and make space for more genuine connection • How to shift from controlling love to receiving it

💘 This Valentine's season, flip the script—let go of the rules, and open your heart to the love that's already trying to find you.

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#124 Are You Standing in the Way of Your Own Sunshine? Feb 05, 2021

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Ever caught yourself thinking, "Why am I making this so hard?" You're not alone—and the answer might be closer than you think.

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, we're talking about the invisible resistance that lives in our own minds. The kind that turns simple steps into uphill battles. The kind that convinces us we can't have what we want.

You'll hear: • How fear, doubt, and limiting beliefs quietly shape your decisions • The subtle ways we stand in our own way—without even realizing it • What happens when we allow more flow and less fight in our healing journey • How to start letting go of mental blocks so you can create the life you actually want to live

💗 You can do hard things—but you don't have to make them harder than they need to be.

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