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Power Past Shame And Guilt - MTP299 Apr 15, 2022

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Co-Host Dominey Drew (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/drew) Who knows how or why it took so many episodes to address this topic, but guilt and shame are probably the biggest hurdles we as men face as we seek to get better with women. But what ARE guilt and shame? And what is the difference between them? My guest Dominey Drew has been working with men and women for years now, all with the aim of increasing purpose, fulfillment and joy. She graciously agreed to help me address this sticky but important topic, and believe it or not we somehow made it fun. Listen in as we first address the biggest irony surrounding guilt, shame and masculinity. Next, we talk about how and why the biggest reasons men feel guilt and shame are often the most illogical ones. What is the biggest stumbling block we as men face in getting rid of unnecessary guilt and shame? But wait...is there ever any GOOD reason to feel these emotions, and what should we do about that? Why can pride and gratitude get supplanted by guilt and shame, depending upon mere circumstance? Are guilt and shame archetypal, if not primal? Why is there so much sexual shame nowadays...even to the very core of gender itself? How can modern sex role changes subtly affect us as men? How does our upbringing set us up for shame and guilt we might not even recognize, let alone understand? How do we reconcile faith with it? How can we truly forgive ourselves and 'do better', whatever that means? How can true faith ultimately heal shame and guilt rather than exacerbating it? And last but not least, what is the infamous 'battle cry of the ignorant'? Get in on all the action waiting for you at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

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Ayahuasca Made Me A Better Man - MTP298 Apr 08, 2022

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Co-Host Benjamin Bequer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/beqoming) Several years ago my guest Benjamin Bequer seemed like he had it all together, at least on the outside. But underneath was perpetual insecurity and anxiety, as is the case for many of us. That all manifested itself in strange ways, with counterintuitive consequences. Not until he discovered Ayahuasca did he start to turn everything around...culminating in the right relationship with the right woman for him. Discover how Benjamin's story feels like a 'conversion experience', yet comes about in a way that's unusual to most in Western culture. So what is Ayahuasca, how did Benjamin discover it, and what transformative meaning did it have for him? What is Ayahuasca's active ingredient, what does it do for you, and what's the shocking connection between it and something miraculous your body does naturally? How does it help give potential clarity to both purpose and relationships? Why is it that fear seems to rule so many people's lives, especially of loneliness? How can rote dogma prohibit us from seeing real truth...even within our own established faith? Why does Benjamin refer to the ego as our 'bodyguard'? How are the Ayahuasca experience and lucid dreaming potentially related? Why is mere confidence perhaps enough to get some women, but not what it takes to attract the right woman for you? And finally, what are Benjamin's secrets to being a masculine, manly dude who somehow can open his heart for the enrichment of those around him? Is this, in fact, the new paradigm for evolved masculinity? Get the right woman in your life, starting with your free call with me personally. Get on the calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

When Something Or Someone Messes With Your Relationship - MTP297 Apr 01, 2022

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Co-Host Emily McKay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com) No matter how well a couple gets along and navigates their relationship, there always seems to be a challenge to your relationship coming from somewhere. For sure, it can start with your best man's TMI speech during the wedding reception. But what about unsolicited advice from miserable friends and relatives who can't even manage their own relationships? Jealous BFFs and sneaky exes? Baby mamas and baby daddies? How about other toxic people in your life you just can't cut out, for whatever reason? Sometimes it's your kids, her kids and even your kids together. How about when there's a member of the other gender who is 'just a friend'? Sometimes you don't even have to be on The Newlywed Game in order to be humiliated in front of way too many people...a simple party game of 'Would You Rather?' can do the trick. What about job-related pressures, or bosses, or when coworkers start interfering with your relationship? Is there ever a time when these people should be allowed to exert influence, or is that a loaded question? What about a job change, especially if that involves a major schedule disruption or even relocation? Is it possible that fictional characters can negatively affect how couples relate to each other? How does that work? What about social media and text disasters? Can media headlines and political opinions seep into a relationship and affect a couple's perception of compatibility? Is there any way to anticipate potential outside influences prior to getting into a relationship, and develop a 'contingency plan' of sorts...or does life simply tend to throw too many unexpected curveballs, despite our best-laid plans? By the way, no...there REALLY isn't a Jen, already. Check out all the free goodies at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Personality Hacks That Women Notice - MTP296 Mar 25, 2022

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Co-Host Merrick Rosenberg (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/flight) My guest, Merrick Rosenberg, is the CEO of Take Flight Learning. He has an interesting take on how our personality traits affect our lives and our relationships with others. For starters, how come we aren't all naturally self-aware enough to know what our inherent strengths and weaknesses are? Discover the insidious ways we become our own worst enemy when we don't have an adequate grasp thereof. What's up with the masculine obsession with proving people wrong when they tell us we can't do something? And worse, why do we tend to be stubborn about doing things our way? What's the difference between determination and stubbornness? Next, we outline the relationship dangers associated with mismanaging one's own personality traits. What is the ironic truth about how our ego tends to actually keep us from maximizing our potential? Are empathy and compassion masculine? Is there such thing as an alpha 'Mr. Nice Guy'? How is it that so many of us end up getting taken advantage of so badly? What are the secrets to knowing how you come off to other people, and how your personality affects others? How do we recognize the expected social response associated with positive personality traits? And importantly...how can we handle people who are struggling with their own negative personality traits? Is being a 'chameleon' personality a good thing? What is indisputably the single worst personality trait anyone can exhibit? Check all the recent updates and get on my calendar to talk to me for free for 25 minutes when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

She Wants A Tiger In The Bedroom - MTP295 Mar 18, 2022

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Co-Host Sarrah Rose (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/rose) There's a treat in store for you this time. I've discovered yet another fun, happy-go-lucky female sexpert who is virtually unoffendable. You're going to like her immediately. The topic, however, is indeed a challenging one. Lots of high-achieving men tend to be low-achievers in the bedroom. Yet, almost all of us really do want to be better in bed, and especially at giving the women in our lives the pleasure they deserve. With that in mind, there's nobody better than Sarrah to cover the topic du jour. So how do we as men transform mere sex into true intimacy with women? How has 'hookup culture' influenced our sex lives in general? Did you know that you have four different sexual bodies? Sarrah explains it in detail...and it's a game-changer. If we truly insist on being so left-brained and analytical regarding sex, what's one positive way we can direct that kind of energy? Next comes an eye-opening discussion of one key way we tend to overanalyze sex, which leads to an ironic misunderstanding of what women want and need. I mean, do women even like sex at all? Hint: they're not as different from us as we think...if only we'd have the guts to find out. Are there weird Freudian Oedipal elements to core sexual hangups men encounter? What's up with slut-shaming when women are attempting to reclaim the word 'slut' themselves? What should we do if performance issues keep us from rising to the occasion? How long should foreplay last? And of course, what are those practical steps to being more of a tiger in bed? And wait a minute...how did we get to this point of over-analyzing and over-thinking sex to begin with? All of your sticking points--including sexual ones--are solved in my free book, available for you right now at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

Breaking Bad Relationship Patterns With Women - MTP294 Mar 11, 2022

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Co-Host Dr. Gleb Tsipursky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gleb) We welcome back a crowd favorite, none other than the whip smart and laugh-out-loud funny Gleb Tsipursky. Now, despite being way too easy-going for a serious scientist, Gleb specializes in shining the harsh light of reality upon our blind spots. In this show we specifically go over the ways we fool ourselves, shoot ourselves in the foot and otherwise mess up when dating and relating with women. To start with, how does self-motivation affect a two-way relationship in hidden ways? Why do we withhold our true intentions? What's up with women treating sex as a weapon...and is that really different from how men weaponize relationship promises? Why does this type of manipulation often backfire? How does love addiction (or even obsession) pertain to the infamous 'Madonna Whore Complex'? Why shouldn't we just give in to our primal instincts and urges? Wouldn't that be a lot more fun and pleasurable than evolved maturity? Sorry MGTOW guys, but you've got a serious peer-reviewed blind spot...and it even has a scientific name. What about double-standard and one-sided agendas instead of give and take? Discover what the Projection of Causation is...and Gleb's even fancier name for it. Once and for all, find out why being Mr. Nice Guy doesn't work. Do we really have to be a jerk instead? And yes, we were certain not to overlook 'Captain Save-A-Ho', along with the fallacies associated with so-called 'missionary dating'. Why can't you wish someone else into attraction? What really happens psychologically when we try to talk women into being attracted? How can it be that so many humans dismiss plain truth, even when it's staring us in the face? And what about the pattern of excusing a woman's major faults because you don't want to lose her? Why is fearing loss in general a self-fulfilling prophecy? Head on over to the newly-updated site to check out the new goodies and get on my calendar to talk to me free for 25 minutes: https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Protect Those You Love From Predators - MTP293 Mar 04, 2022

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Co-Host Jan Edwards (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/edwards) Child trafficking an uncomfortable subject, which is a big part of why it's not talked about enough. But as men, we're responsible to protect those we love and look out for their best interests. That means we can no longer ignore this essential conversation. This is not a problem that happens to 'someone else'. All too often, it occurs close to home, even right under our very noses. The shocking part is it's FAR easier for it to affect your family than you think. You might not even realize it's happening at first. My guest Jan Miller is President of Paving The Way Foundation, and she offers straight talk about what human trafficking really is, the insidious ways traffickers and abusers weasel their way into our children's world, and--of course--what we as men can and should do about it. Listen in as Jan explains how it's not only girls who are sexually abused, and not only men who are the abusers. Moreover, child trafficking isn't necessarily synonymous with sexual assault. How is human trafficking different than human smuggling? Is it possible most victims don't even realize they're victims? How are we being gaslit with regard to acceptance of pedophilic influences and activities? How does society's cognitive bias against believing there are real monsters out there enable the problem? Next, we go over both the online AND offline aspects of how our kids are groomed by traffickers, often with alarming success. Yet, most grooming patterns are predictable and absolutely identifiable, if only we look past the carefully choreographed outward appearance of the aggressor. Meanwhile, it's tricky to stop offenders because trafficking can occur in relatively unlikely places. And what if you find yourself face to face with an organized trafficking cabal that's potentially dangerous? DISCLAIMER: Yes, this has affected my life personally, so I've done my own extensive research...and you'll hear the passion in my voice. https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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The Science Behind Social Skills - MTP292 Feb 25, 2022

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Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noll) My guest today, Doug Noll, is a neuroscience expert. After 22 years as a trial lawyer, he became a peacemaker and mediator. In order to work his craft to the fullest effect, he spends lots of time thinking and writing about social skills. All of this started for Doug when he found himself frustrated by how most writing on Emotional Intelligence was based purely on pop psychology. Seeking a more practical, fluff-free approach, Doug instead focused on the science behind how the brain really works, rather than how people think it works. As a direct result of all this research and real-world practice, he's now the New York Times bestselling author of De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less. So out with it then...what IS the scientific basis for social skill? Can you teach Emotional Intelligence, or is it innate like IQ? What are the signs of good or bad EI? In other words, Is it you, or is it me? What are the three basic emotional competencies that we can have mastery over in our lives? What is 'affect labeling', and why is it so central to good social skill? What does it mean to 'read the room', and how can we get better at it? What is the ninja secret to making particularly attractive women take notice of you and want you? What's more, how can you make any woman fall in love with you in two minutes or less? Get on my calendar to talk to me for free. It's for real...just click on the red button in the upper right-hand corner at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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All About Being A Jerk - MTP291 Feb 18, 2022

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Co-Hosts Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Hilliard (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/caliber) This is one of those rare shows featuring two guests. Anne and Heather specialize in empowering leaders to greater excellence, but what really caught my attention was their work in helping people deal with jerks, while also helping jerky people be less so. Probably the most fascinating part of it all is the premise that plenty of us are acting like jerks without even realizing it. So then, how is 'jerk' defined, anyway? Is being jerky synonymous with being narcissistic? Or is there more to it? Are jerks born or made? Is there any hope for that guy who's genuinely trying not to be a jerk, but he has to consciously fight it at every turn? And what if someone actually likes being a jerk and doesn't care to change? What do you do if someone who is a jerk starts acting like you're the jerk, not them? And how can you really tell? How does 'the quest to be right' apply to jerky behavior? Do you really have to be either 'Mr. Nice Guy' or a 'Bad Boy Jerk'? Why do douchebags get ahead? Meanwhile, nice guys get no respect, and shy guys are often responded to in flat-out anger. Why do our efforts not to upset people often end up with people being more upset? Is today's culture of victimization creating more jerks...or simply shining the light on the ones who have always been out there? What if your boss is a jerk? What is it about management and the Dunning-Kruger Effect? And why do we keep voting jerks into high political office? Check out show notes, free downloads and much more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Performing Under Pressure...Even When Approaching Women - MTP290 Feb 11, 2022

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Co-Host JP Pawliw-Fry (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/jp) My guest today is the New York Times bestselling author of Performing Under Pressure. And surely JP Pawliw-Fry knows what he's talking about, having worked with NFL and NBA players and Olympic athletes. So with the Olympic Games going on, what better time than this to talk about how the best perform so well under pressure, and how we as men can do the same--be it on the field, in the workplace or (of course) interacting with women. Why is performance such an important issue for men? Is pressure a bad thing? How do we turn it into a positive? Is there really such thing as people who perform better under pressure? What differentiates people who thrive on pressure? Do people who master this skill do better in life? IOW, do higher stakes lead to bigger accomplishments? Why do young children often seem to do better with pressure? What is 'the last 8 percent'? Why is it so hard to have the conversations we want with women...especially when we KNOW they need to happen? What is the most common conversation men truly avoid having with women...and why do we avoid it? What do people tend to do when under pressure that just makes the situation even more tense...while causing an even a lesser probability of success? What happens to people's ethical standards as the stakes get higher? If you happen to be in the business world, what are the practical ways you can work the insights from this episode to your distinct advantage? And more importantly, what are the direct takeaways when it comes to meeting, attracting and relating to women? Check out the main website for free downloads, show notes and more: https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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