Authentic

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I was trying to not be my mum Sep 08, 2025

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I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud.

It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more.
That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like my mum, I missed just how extraordinary she truly is.

This is a letter of humility and of finally seeing my mother for who she is, not just the woman who raised me, but the woman whose quiet strength, loving presence, and deeply caring nature are exactly what I once thought I had to outgrow and now deeply admire.

If you’ve ever wrestled with your identity, with the stories you’ve inherited about what it means to matter or if you’re only now realising how much your mum gave, loved, and shaped you this episode will land deep.

Sometimes the people we tried not to become were the exact ones we needed to learn from all along.

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Remembering what decency looks like when travelling Aug 25, 2025

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After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted.

People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife.
Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement.

This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything needs to hold personal meaning for it to deserve our care and respect.

I speak about the pain of watching people override warnings and traditions. About how easy it is to forget we’re not the only important species on this planet. And how sometimes, staying on the path literally and metaphorically is the most respectful thing we can do.

This episode is a love letter to the earth, to those who hold sacred traditions, and to the animals just trying to nest, rest, and live. And it ends with the Tiaki Promise a beautiful, grounded commitment to travel with heart, care, and consideration.

“To care for land, sea and nature.
Treading lightly and leaving no trace.
To travel safely, showing care and consideration for all.
And to respect culture, travelling with an open heart and mind.”

This isn’t about shaming. It’s about remembering what decency looks like.

Intrepid Adventure - Karijini National Park
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Kat & Steve - 5 things that annoy us about each other Aug 18, 2025

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Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other.

It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one.

We all know that loving someone doesn’t mean they don’t drive you up the wall sometimes. We thought we'd have some fun with this episode.

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To the part in you that won't let up, listen up Aug 11, 2025

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I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter.

The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing.

This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance.

I speak to what it’s like to walk away from the version of yourself that hustles for love, success, and validation and how confronting it can be to choose peace over performance.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re only as good as what you achieve, if rest makes you feel guilty, if part of you still believes you have to earn your enoughness, this one’s for you.

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Kat & Steve - Step-parenting and the change of family dynamics Aug 04, 2025

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Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules.

Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it.

We talk about:

How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mix
Why it’s so bloody hard even when your intentions are good
The messiness of getting it wrong, being misunderstood, and still showing up anyway
The importance of self-awareness, communication, and staying on the same team

This isn’t a polished story. It’s real life. The kind that takes time, patience, and a lot of checking yourself. If you’re in a blended family, a new relationship with kids in the mix, or navigating the slow road of becoming a unit, this one’s for you.

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Real talk about money - what is 'your' enough? Jul 28, 2025

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In this episode, I take you back to a question that unraveled a lot for me: What is enough? Especially when it comes to money.

A few years ago, I was chasing the magic million. I thought hitting that number would mean I’d made it as a coach. As if that was the only metric that mattered.

Then I stopped and I asked what’s actually enough for me?

That question cracked something wide open. I started looking at my money differently. I got right up close to it, every single detail. I sat down with a spreadsheet and went through my finances with the kind of fine-tooth comb you use when you’ve had lice. No stone left unturned.

I calculated what it really costs for me to live on planet Earth, from groceries to business expenses, house payments, taxes, ETFs, donations, subscriptions, clothes, the lot. I factored in how Steve and I have set up our money together and got clear on what my version of enough actually looks like.

What I found was sobering. Eye-opening. And a bit of a slap. Because the million-dollar goal was never mine. It was a borrowed dream. And I would’ve kept pouring out energy I didn’t have chasing something that was never mine to strive for in the first place.

This episode is for anyone who’s been running on the treadmill of “more,” wondering why it never feels like enough. Maybe it’s time to stop and ask what your enough actually is.

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Kat & Steve - repelling energy and how it messes with relationships Jul 21, 2025

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In this episode, Steve and I talk about something we’ve both played into in our relationship - repelling energy. That vibe you give off when you're fixated on what’s wrong with the other person, when you're simmering in judgment, frustration, or unmet and unvoiced expectations. And how that energy pushes away the very thing you actually want to feel with them: connection, closeness, understanding, safety.

This one’s for you if you're single and you're not calling in what you want, and if you're in a relationship driving the very thing you want further away due to behaviour you might not have looked at yet.

If you want to feel closer, more aligned, and less at war (internally or externally), this episode is for you.

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A letter to myself, mid perimenopause shitstorm Jul 14, 2025

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This episode is not wrapped in a bow.

It’s not a how-to. It’s not love and light. It’s not advice.

It’s a letter I wrote to myself from the middle of the hormonal hurricane that is perimenopause. From the rage that comes out of nowhere. The anxiety that doesn’t make sense. The noise in my head that feels relentless. The days where I don’t feel like myself and wonder if I ever will again.

I’m sharing this because I know I’m not the only one. And maybe, if you’re in your own storm, this will help you feel less alone. Less crazy. Less like you’ve lost yourself.

In this episode, you’ll hear the truth. The mess. The noise. The reminder that even when it feels like you’ve lost yourself, you haven’t.

You're not broken. You're not mad. You're not weak. You're in it. That’s all.

And this is me, speaking from the inside of it to remind you that you’re not alone, and you will come back.

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Kat & Steve - When you love each other but you’re in different headspaces Jul 07, 2025

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Steve and I talk about a recent experience where I was activated by something in the media. A majorly messed up story that stirred old wounds and brought up big emotion.

It wasn’t easy. I felt tender, raw, and flat. And it would’ve been so easy for Steve to pull away or take it personally but instead he stayed close, even when it wasn’t comfortable. He loved me through it by holding space for me to be exactly where I was.

We speak openly about what that looked like for both of us and how being in different headspaces doesn’t have to mean disconnection, if we’re willing to communicate from truth and not reactivity.

I also share how I told my family:
“I’m not okay right now, but I will be. This isn’t about you. I’m just in something.”
Because I’ve learned that shutting down or punishing the people I love because I’m in pain only adds more layers to work through.

And Steve reflects on how much that honest communication helped him stay connected to me, instead of trying to guess what was wrong or getting defensive. We talk about how far we’ve come from those reactive “What’s up your ass?” kind of moments and how we now use well-framed conversations to navigate tough emotional terrain with love and respect.

If you’re in a relationship or in a family where one person’s heaviness can easily pull the whole ship off course, this episode is for you.

It’s about holding space, taking responsibility and learning how to stay connected even when you’re not in the same headspace.

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Laying her to rest - the one that chased significance Jun 30, 2025

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There’s a version of me I’m laying to rest - the one who chased significance, importance, and recognition because deep down, she didn’t feel like she was enough without it.

She worked hard to prove she mattered. She strived for impact, for relevance, for acknowledgment. And sure, she did some incredible things… but it often came from a place of needing to feel like someone, instead of already knowing that she is.

In this episode, I speak honestly about what it’s been like to let go of that version of me - to stop feeding the identity that’s addicted to doing more to feel more worthy - and to allow in a simpler, more grounded life. One with substance over sparkle. Where the way I do life - how I love, how I care, how I be is more important than what I do.

This isn’t about playing small. It’s about coming home.
To a life that’s real.
To a self that’s already enough.

If you’ve felt the tug to stop proving and start living more honestly… this one’s for you.

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