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Ep 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year Dec 12, 2023

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It's my favorite time of year! Not because of the holiday season, but because I love getting reflective, looking back over the last twelve months and looking ahead to changing of the calendar.

The 10 questions in this episode are meant to bring introspection (if you work through them alone) and connection (if you bring them up in conversation). Bring these to your journal, to your travel companions, to the holiday table, or just let them flow through your mind in these last few weeks of the year as we wind down 2023 and gear up for 2024.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

10 Questions for Starting Over

10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything

Journaling for Grownups

Laura on Instagram

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Ep 197: Modern Manners for Teens Nov 28, 2023

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This episode is for anyone who loves a teenager.

I'm the mom of a teenager and a preteen, and cultural norms and expectations have definitely shifted from my own childhood in the 80s & 90s. Sometimes I feel like I'm learning modern manners alongside my kids instead of teaching them from a place of authority.

My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it.

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52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1

52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 2

52 Modern Manners for Kids

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Ep 196: Symposium: Britney Spears's New Memoir Nov 21, 2023

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A few times a year, I like to let you listen in on the conversations we're having in the Secret Stuff patreon community. Each month we meet twice over zoom to talk about something culturally relevant (we call this Symposium) or to talk about books (a pretty traditional Book Club). This Secret Stuff meeting was a bit of a mashup of the two.

When it was announced that icon and legend Britney Spears was releasing a memoir this fall, I knew it would make a splash in the publishing industry and in the celebrity world. And it did. The Woman In Me sold over a million copies in it's first week of release and there were a few bombshell's from the singer's life, most notably about her relationship with Justin Timberlake.

But what is just as fascinating about the content of the book is the way she chose to tell it, and that she was able to tell it at all. After 13 years in a conservatorship held by father, where everything she did was tracked and controlled, Britney is finally free to share her side of the story.

As usual, the Secret Stuff community had smart, thoughtful, and compassionate takes on the memoir itself and on Britney's place in music history and our pop culture lexicon.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Woman in Me by Britney Spears

Tell Me Everything by Minka Kelly

I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy

The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey

Takeaways from Britney Spears's memoir (NYT)

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BONUS: 4 Rules For Sharing Your Story (Especially When It's Hard) with Carmen Rita Wong Nov 17, 2023

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I love memoirs. I love hearing other people's stories in their own words. And, of course, I champion the idea to Share Your Stuff.

But what if the story you need to tell is really difficult? What if it's hard to do justice to the truth while also protecting (or not protecting) other people? My guest for this conversation is author Carmen Rita Wong and she is sharing her own 4 rules to doing this well.

Carmen Rita Wong's memoir is called Why Didn't You Tell Me? and is a book about secrets and identity.

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Ep 195: Why do smart people love dumb TV? Nov 14, 2023

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This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves why they're so invested in what is clearly outrageous, manipulative, and phony "reality" television shows.

I watch Real Housewives every weekday on my lunch break, and as I've gone through phases of watching with both fascination and disgust, I’ve asked myself: why do smart people love dumb tv? What is it that we’re drawn to? Why do we get so sucked into the drama? Is it aspirational or escapism or something darker or is it just not that deep?

And so I decided to explore that topic with the perfect guest: Matt Marr, cohost of the Reality Gays podcast. In this episode, Matt and I talk about our history of reality tv watching (starting with the Real World in the 90s), and we talk about how we think reality TV has changed culture, why we’re so invested in the lives of these reality TV personas, and so much more. We talked for over an hour and didn’t even scratch the surface of all that we could have discussed.

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We do have an extended cut version of this episode over on the Secret Stuff patreon page, where Matt and I talk about our shared Oklahoma roots and I'll also be releasing a personal episode over there this week about my time working in reality television in the early 2000s.

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You can listen more of Matt on the Reality Gays podcast

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Instagram Christopher Ryan Stamey - @christopherryanstamey
90 Day Fiancé on TLC
Real Housewives franchise on Bravo
RuPaul’s Drag Race on MTV
Passions Soap Opera on NBC
The Real World on MTV
Duck Dynasty on A&E
Bittersweet by Susan Cain
Indian Matchmaking on Netflix
Love is Blind on Netflix
Married at First Sight on Lifetime
Pig Royalty on Amazon Prime Video
Nanny 911, now on Amazon Prime Video
Doggy Fizzle Televizzle on MTV
Crowned on FOX
America’s Next Top Model on UPN/The CW
Joe Millionaire on FOX
The Swan on FOX
90 Day Fiancé: The Last Resort on TLC
The Golden Bachelor on ABC

If you liked this episode you may like:

Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes and How They Affect You

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Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz) Nov 07, 2023

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10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years.

Meg Tietz has long been a pioneer in the online space. She was one of the earliest mommy bloggers to build a large audience and one of the earliest independent podcasters in the girlfriend chat genre. I am lucky enough to have been friends with her since our childhood years in Oklahoma and have watched the way that she has shaped an entire corner of the internet.

Meg recently announced that she is bring the Sorta Awesome podcast to a close, and in our conversation here we reminisce about her online journey and talk about what it means to decide to end something that is going well, simply because you know it's time.

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Sorta Awesome episodes mentioned:

Ep. 123: Intuition, Friendship, and The Future (from 12/1/2017)

Ep. 26: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 1 (also known as the face shaving episode)( from 9/10/2015)

Ep. 101: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 2 (from 5/19/2017)

Ep. 54: Ten Friends Every Woman Needs (from 4/7/2016)

Ep. 139: Resurrection: New Life on The Other Side of a Faith Shift (from 3/30/2018)

Ep. 192: Heartbreak, Doubt, And Finding Faith Through The Storm (Rebekah speaks about miscarriage) (from 4/17/2019)

Ep. 90: Exploring Hope and Healing for Postpartum Depression (from 2/24/2017)

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Sorta Awesome cohost Kelly Gordon

Sorta Awesome cohost Rebekah Hoffer

Sorta Awesome Hangout (facebook group)

Serial Podcast

Voxer app

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#OneDayHH is Wednesday, November 8! Nov 03, 2023

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The 11th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge will be Wednesday, November 8!

This is the ONE DAY of the year we dedicate to documenting what our lives look like right now, hour by hour. In this short episode, I'm sharing more about what #OneDayHH is, what makes it so special, and why you should participate.

#OneDayHH takes place on Instagram, and you're welcome to share in stories, reels, the main feed, or whatever feels comfortable for you. The point is to share what "a day in the life" looks like for you in the Fall of 2023. You'll be so glad that you took one day to notice these details, because our lives never look the same from one year to the next.

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Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine to see my day!

Can't wait to share my day and see yours on Wednesday, November 8, 2023.

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Ep 193: 10 Things To Help With Grief and Loss Oct 31, 2023

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This episode is for anyone walking through grief or for those wanting to support a loved one who is grieving.

The world is especially heavy right now. From global events and also from a season of what feels like unending loss and pain. In this episode, guest Christy Knutson joins us to share 10 things that will help us to keep in mind when we're grieving or anticipating loss.

Christy Knutson is the co-founder of NEAR, a website on a mission to improve the way we care and connect during times of serious illness or grief.

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Learn more about NEAR here

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The 5 Stages of Grief as described by Elizbeth Kubler Ross

Finding Meaning: The 6th Stage of Grief by David Kessler

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Ep 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden) Oct 24, 2023

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Jamie Golden is back!

This week I'm welcoming one of my favorite people (and favorite guests) back to 10 Things To Tell You to talk about our shared obsession: skincare and makeup.

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On this episode, my fellow obsessive Jamie and I share our current (and all-time) favorite skincare and beauty products. No need to write everything down - links to everything we discuss will be in the show notes for you to bookmark and reference for the future.

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More about Jamie:

The Popcast with Knox & Jamie

Faith Adjacent podcast

Jamie's new substack B. Golden

Episode 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden (April 30, 2019)

Episode 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Golden RETURNS!) (Feb 23, 2021)

Episode 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (Feb 4, 2020)

Episode 164: Are We Friends or Not? (March 7, 2023)

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Jamie's Beauty Obsessions:

Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant

Herbivore Phoenix Rosehip Anti-Aging Facial Oil

Charlotte Tilbury’s Magic Cream Moisturizer

Haus Labs by Lady Gaga Triclone Concealer

Kosas Brow Pop Nano Feathering Eyebrow Pencil

Gucci Sun-Kissed Glow Bronzer

Crown Affair The Hair Towel

Laura's Beauty Obsessions:

Dr. Gross Alpha Beta Peel pads

Living Libations Best Skin Ever Oil

Sunday Riley Power Couple

Cle de peu concealer

L'oreal Voluminous Curved Brush Mascara

Milk Makeup Lip and Cheek cream blush stick (in Rally)

Pat McGrath Trance Lipstick (in Full Panic)

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Ep 191: How BookTok and Gen Z Are Changing the Way We Read + Best Books Lately (with Alex Cash) Oct 17, 2023

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Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things.

I often find my 24-year-old niece reading on the couch in our shared home. Sometimes she's pulled something off my bookshelves, but more often she's in her own world of reading, influenced by her age, tastes, and, of course, TikTok.

In this episode, Alex and I talk about the differences in what her generation is reading (and why) and mine. Then we share the best books we've both read lately.

I loved talking with her officially on microphone because it reminded me that there is always so much to learn from other generations. (And because I always love to talk about reading.)

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Wattpad

Chloe In Letters

Ep. 187 Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

Currently Reading Podcast

Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket

Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling

Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer

The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams

The Pearl by John Steinbeck

A Court of Thorns and Roses series by Sarah J. Maas