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Episode 331: When Your Child Is Hard on Themselves When They Make a Mistake (Why Saying "It's OK" Doesn't Help) Jan 09, 2025

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While some kids with big emotions blame others, others are incredibly hard on themselves. And it can be devastating to hear them beat themselves up when they make a mistake! Often when they do, our instinct is to tell them it will be okay, that it's not a big deal, that everyone makes mistakes. But as you've probably noticed, that doesn't make them stop this behavior in the long run, and it can even make them feel worse in the moment. The good news is that we can use Leadership Parenting strategies to help our children – and ourselves! – handle these situations more effectively.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why previous attempts to help our kids calm down haven't worked -- and often make things worse instead
Qualities that many children with big emotions have in common (and why it feels like they regularly get stuck in cycles of negativity)
How to stay regulated and help kids get unstuck so they can learn how to handle their mistakes in the moment… and build resilience for the future

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Episode 330: Using Leadership Parenting Strategies so That Emotions and Reactions No Longer Control Your Home Jan 06, 2025

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Most parents who are raising kids with big emotions would say that our kids' reactions – their reactions when they don't get their way, or when they have to do something they don't want to do, etc. – tend to be very big and very difficult to manage. Often, we feel like their reactions control our homes because they impact our daily routines, our other children, and even the decisions we make. But it is possible to regain control of your home so that it doesn't seem like those emotions or reactions are in charge! Specific step-by-step strategies, called Leadership Parenting strategies, can help you make that happen.

In this episode, you'll learn:

What Leadership Parenting strategies are and why they're so powerful
Two actionable leadership parenting strategies that allow us and our children to respect emotions without being controlled by them
Benefits of using leadership parenting strategies with our kids

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Bonus Episode 2: A Plan for Holiday Success (Focusing on Kids' Behaviors) Dec 12, 2024

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Having a joyful and connected holiday season can be challenging when we are raising kids with big emotions. We are so busy and our children are overstimulated, full of sugar and out of their regular routines. If we aren't proactive, we can become overwhelmed, exhausted, and resentful. The good news is, a simple process (that just takes a few minutes) can reduce holiday Yuck and increase our parenting influence, giving us more energy to enjoy the season.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to work with our children to solve problems, rather than working against them
A simple process that addresses our kids' negative behavior, moods, and attitudes in the moment
How to use this same process to teach them the skills they need for the next time they have big feelings

FREE RESOURCE: Work WITH your child using the 4Ps

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Bonus Episode 1: A Plan for Holiday Success (Based on What's in Your Control) Nov 28, 2024

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https://rachel-bailey.com/?p=88635Holidays can be hard for kids with big emotions. From staying up late to being out of regular routines to being overstimulated, this season can leave us all feeling exhausted and stressed. In this bonus episode, I share a plan for holiday stress that doesn't take a lot of time... and almost always leads to success!

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why taking 5-10 minutes now will save you hours later
The steps in this process, with an example of each
How this plan ensures that you will feel more in control this holiday season

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Episode 329: Change One Word To Make a Big Difference to a Child With Big Emotions (or Anyone!) Nov 21, 2024

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It can be hard to know what to say to a child with big emotions when they're struggling. And while it's important not to pressure yourself to say the "right thing" all the time, one small change (that you can make immediately) will almost always make things better in those situations.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why one word (that most of us use all the time) almost always upsets children with big emotions
The alternative word that can make a positive difference in negative situations
How this shift improves our influence in the moment and strengthens our children's self-esteem in the long run

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Free training for parents with kids with big emotions

Episode 328: A Simple Action That Strengthens Your Child's Confidence & Your Relationship Nov 07, 2024

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Many kids with big emotions lack confidence, and that can be heartbreaking to see. While building children's confidence doesn't happen overnight, one simple action can help. Even better, this same action can also strengthen your relationship and takes less than a minute to use!

In this episode, you'll learn:

The simple strategy to strengthen your child's confidence and your relationship
How we can incorporate this strategy into our daily lives
Why this strategy might not work for anxious or sensitive kids (and why that's a good thing!)

FREE RESOURCE: List of "Emotional Needs Accounts" + ideas for deposits

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Episode 327: Use the Sink Metaphor to Get Unstuck from Dramatic Situations Oct 24, 2024

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It's very common as we're raising kids with big emotions to walk on eggshells, fearing the moment we might "set them off." But it is possible to learn to diffuse dramatic situations more easily so that we can handle them instead of dreading them.

In this episode, you'll learn, through the "sink metaphor":

Why it's absolutely in our power to make situations better instead of worse
What our kids really need so that they (and we) don't get stuck in the drama
What our responses are like from our children's perspective

FREE RESOURCE: What to do when your child is having a big emotion: https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve/

Transcript of this episode: https://rachel-bailey.com/327-transcript/

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Episode 326: When You Struggle to Be Consistent,Do This Instead Oct 03, 2024

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Many children with big emotions crave consistency, but how can we be consistent when life gets in the way? There are so many things to juggle as a parent -- extracurriculars, homework, schedule changes, work trips, family visits -- and we're tired. The good news is that there's an alternative to consistency that is much easier to achieve as a busy parent (and it has all the same benefits!).

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to reduce the pressure on yourself and still meet your kids' needs
The difference between predictability and consistency
What it feels like to be on the receiving end of this strategy

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Transcript of this episode: https://rachel-bailey.com/326-transcript/

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Free training for parents with kids with big emotions: https://rachel-bailey.com/longgame/

Episode 325: Do This If You Want Your Words To Have More Impact and Influence Sep 26, 2024

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There is nothing worse than feeling helpless as a parent, and it's easy to feel powerless or out of control when our kids won't listen to what we have to say. Often when we feel powerless, we end up trying to control our children more… which only reduces our influence! Fortunately, there is a simple strategy that can help you improve the impact of your words so your children can actually hear the lessons you're trying to teach them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why most people dig their heels in when people try to change them
How to give our kids with big emotions what they need to be able to hear us
A simple strategy to increase our influence that requires us to spend less energy, not more

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Transcript of this episode: https://rachel-bailey.com/325-transcript/

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Free training for parents with kids with big emotions: https://rachel-bailey.com/longgame/

Episode 324: Why Motivators Work Better Than Punishments for Kids With Big Emotions Sep 19, 2024

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Often when we ask our kids with big emotions to do things they have to do, instead of doing what we ask, they resist, negotiate, or even become disrespectful to us (or themselves!). And when we feel helpless and stuck, we often then fall back on strategies that our parents used with us… which tends to make things worse. So how can we motivate responsible and respectful behavior when our attempts seem to just lead to more drama?

In this episode, you'll learn:

Two reasons why rewards and punishments don't work for kids with big emotions
Common reasons why children struggle (and how we can identify these reasons when our kids are having a hard time)
How to go beneath kids' behavior to motivate more positive behaviors, moods, and attitudes with less resistance

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