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51. Drew #53: Goodbye Little Red Van May 13, 2021

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Mer Mer launches herself into another dimension with Oculus, and this reminds Doug of a time when he was immersed in a virtual reality Star Wars experience. The session begins with Drew feeling a little down that he hasn't lived up to the financial or material standard set by his father. He and Doug examine the anxiety he feels about his mother and his lack of trust from feeling that he has been betrayed by everyone in his family. Drew shares a story when he recognized that a "feather" wasn't his stress to take on. Doug reminds him that not everything needs to be perfect to start expressing and processing these emotions.

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50. Drew #52: I Love Homework May 06, 2021

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Mer Mer keeps her mind fresh and young by doing Sudoku. She and Doug give the update that they still have yet to shut down their computers at the end of each work day. Then, a very packed session with Drew uncovers a few big reasons why he has trust issues. Drew eases his burden by sharing some stories he's never told before. As Drew becomes more financially independent from his parents, more anxiety is kicked up about attachment and connection. They explore the conflict about cutting the cord to parents, which Drew then likens to cutting the red ribbon at a grand opening. Drew gets homework from Doug to look for the weight of stress he takes on that belongs to other people vs. his own.

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49. Drew #51: Rock Star Attire Apr 29, 2021

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At the top of the show this week, Doug busts himself and Meredith for not following through AGAIN on shutting down their computers at night! They swap teenage closet stories (including Doug's roaches!). The session begins with Drew sharing that he is moving back to a place in LA that he has lived before. He feels grateful for the comfort and familiarity of it, rather than feeling like he is taking a step backward. Although he is making strides in becoming financially independent and showing up authentically in his relationships, Drew is still struggling with the anxiety of completely cutting the cord with his parents paying the bills. Doug ties in some pretty sweet sports analogies to help Drew see that it's okay to let others know you are uncomfortable. Drew can see that there are a rainbow of possibilities out there rather than see everything as black or white.

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48. Drew #50: Even Pillars Feel the Weight Apr 22, 2021

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This week, Drew is realizing that sooner than later, his parents will no longer be financially supporting him. Not only is he nervous about being able to pay for everything, but he's also worried that once his parents no longer have an obligation to support him, they won't choose to be as connected to him. This leads Drew and Doug to have a discussion regarding being necessary and choosing love and connection rather than feeling obligated. They talk about why Drew kicks into caretaker mode when he wants to feel attachment, and helps Drew see that he's been a pillar standing alone, trying to hold up everything for everyone.

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47. Drew #49: A Serious Situation Apr 15, 2021

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*** Warning - this episode contains potentially triggering and sensitive topics, including sexual assault. If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-646-4673 or go to RAINN.org.

Drew shares his thoughts and feelings about an extremely disturbing and traumatic event. The details are not 100% clear, however his initial description was that his girlfriend was "raped and essentially kidnapped." Doug and Drew discuss what this situation brings up for him, and how it furthered his belief that he has to put on his Superman cape and save everyone. Drew grapples with the Vader voice in his head, and processes some pretty big emotions. They discuss how Drew is showing up, keeping his boundaries set, and if this is really the right relationship for him.

Instead of the usual Meredith and Doug chit chat, they decide to spend more time discussing the session and the topics involved. They feel that the seriousness of the situation lended more to focusing less on them, and more on Drew and the seriousness of sexual assault.

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46. Drew #47-48: Can I Just Get Some Damn Toilet Paper Apr 08, 2021

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While we all start to come out of the pandemic lockdown, Drew and his girlfriend are starting to come out of the honeymoon phase. In their relationship reality, running out of toilet paper becomes a symbol for so much more. Drew and Doug talk about setting boundaries vs. giving rules. Drew is ready to have the tough conversations with his girlfriend, even if it means he ends up being alone. Doug and Meredith differ over their definition of love, but still have love for each other at the end of the episode, so it's all going to be okay!

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45. Drew #46: I Had to Take a Nap Apr 01, 2021

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Doug and Meredith finally saw each other in person again! They break down what an "episode" means to Drew and what it can mean when a therapist hears that word. In the session, Drew is feeling down and out because of some issues with his girlfriend that leave him feeling misunderstood and underappreciated. He tells Doug about a trip to Malibu that didn't go as planned - and how her "passing out" triggered him. The argument that followed the next day brought up issues around getting his needs met and being more authentic and vulnerable, without having to share everything with a partner.

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44. Drew #45: Even Superman Has a Crappy Day Job Mar 25, 2021

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Meredith swims a mile then she and Doug talk about Justice League. And the superhero talk continues with Drew taking to a Superman analogy - balancing the daily grind of a day job with using his own time to focus on his passions. Drew shows vulnerability with his girlfriend. He and Doug explore ways to relieve stress and be mindful other than his go to of smoking weed. Meredith and Doug talk about shutting down your laptop computer to unconsciously send a message to our minds to shut down and stop running in high stress mode.

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43. Drew #44: I'll Put Your Sh*tty Drawings on My Fridge Mar 18, 2021

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Meredith loves daylight saving time! Restaurants and movie theatres are opening up in LA now, but Doug is still trying to hide out like a mountain man. In Drew's therapy session he talks about feeling burnt out and tired from his job. He is also using this time to define his boundaries and let people know when things aren't right or fair. He and Doug talk about two examples of Drew standing up for himself - one work-related, and a personal one that triggered a familiar feeling of distrust and disappointment that he's historically felt with his Mom. Drew is working on radically accepting his mother for who she is, while dealing with her tendency to not be present or emotionally available.

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