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Couch Talks: Worst Vs Appropriate Dating Advice May 11, 2022

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Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat continues the conversation that was started on this past Monday’s episode: Single Adults Aren’t Second Class Citizens. She reads some of the worst dating advice that listeners reported receiving and then offers an alternative approach to supporting someone who is struggling in the dating/relationship realm.

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Single Adults Are Not Second Class Citizens May 09, 2022

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Most content available around singleness involves either tips and feedback around how to find a relationship, or how to find satisfaction in your life until you find a relationship. It sends the message that your time as a single person is just a waiting period to the life you want. Well, with the continual steady increase of single adults, Kat thought it was time to create content that postured the idea that – singleness may in fact be a desirable way to live for people.

Single Nation: Why Americans Are Turning Away from Marriage

The escalating costs of being single in America

The American economy punishes single people.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: Ways to Cope On Mother's Day May 04, 2022

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Mother’s Day is supposed to be a positive day that helps us celebrate the women who have raised us and loved us well. And while there is nothing wrong with that, not everyone feels celebratory on Mother’s Day. Some people are grieving, some are hurting; and even if you are a mom who is being celebrated, this day can still be tough. Mother’s Day can be especially challenging when you have a mom who has been neglectful, abusive, or toxic. So this week, we are offering 8 ways to cope with Mother’s Day if you have struggled with an abusive or toxic mother. These tips come from an article written by Peg Streep in which you can find HERE.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Ego Defense Mechanisms May 02, 2022

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We've all heard the term, “defense mechanisms” before. You have probably even used this term before. The question is, do we really know what they are and why they even exist? This week, Kat is going to help us figure that out. In this episode, you will learn about the development of defense mechanisms in the field of psychology and get a deeper look into some of the most common ones we see today.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: How Do You Know If Your Therapist Is a Good Fit? Apr 27, 2022

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Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat reads a listener email expressing gratitude for how the podcast helped her feel less alone in a tough part of her life. Then, Kat answered one of her most popular questions: How do you know if your therapist is right for you? And, spoiler alert that should not surprise any of you: the answer isn’t as black and white as we all probably hope.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Hustle Culture Turned Burnout Culture Apr 25, 2022

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Are millennials lazy? Or are they branded with the toxic hustle culture mentality? Is it true that no one wants to work anymore or is the system we’ve been encouraged to work in, not working? These are the questions, and this week, Kat is trying to find some answers. There has been an increasing negative reputation associated with the work ethic and general mindset of millennials over the past couple of years and as a millennial herself, Kat has started to get tired and confused by it. If we are lazy, she wants to know why and if we aren’t, she wants to know where this conclusion came from. So this week we are diving straight in with some help from two articles that we HIGHLY suggest you read:

Why Are People Pretending to Love to Work by Erin Griffith

How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Helen Anne Peterson

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: The Difference Between A Therapist & A Coach Apr 20, 2022

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Couch Talks is the special Q&A episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every wednesday where listeners can send in questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat tackles the highly debated hot topic: What is the difference between a therapist and a coach. With so many self proclaimed “experts” on the internet these days it's hard to tell who to go to for help. It’s confusing, the answer to this question is confusing, AND there is a difference - we promise. Both can be good, both can be helpful, and they are NOT the same.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Karpman (Drama) Triangle Apr 18, 2022

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This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way. In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: The Hardest Part of Becoming a Therapist Apr 13, 2022

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Couch aTalks is the special bonus epsiode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about why she is stepping away from teaching indoor cycling and what the hardest part about becoming a therapist was for her!

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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What If Both Could Be True? Apr 11, 2022

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Have you ever heard someone (in particular a therapist) say something like, "Well, what if both could be true at the same time?" For example, you can be both joyful and angry all in the same moment; or you can be grieving the loss of something and be looking forward to a new experience in unison. This week, Kat is breaking down the beliefs behind both/and thinking. This language tool is derived from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which is based on dialectics or the idea that two opposing thoughts or feelings can be true at the same time. Listen this week to learn how something that doesn't make sense can help you make better sense of your experiences, relationships, and feelings.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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