You Need Therapy

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Couch Talks: My Roommates Boyfriend Kinda Sucks, Help! Feb 15, 2023

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.

This week’s question: My roommate has a partner that I really dislike for many reasons. I love my roommate individually but when they are together, it feels like my roommate is a different person which has caused me to put more distance between us. How do you suggest tackling a tricky area like this?

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Is It Motivation That I Am Missing? Or Something Else? Feb 13, 2023

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This week Kat is going solo to talk about one of those things that comes up in therapy all the timeeee. Motivation, and the possible lack of it. In this episode Kat explains why when people are searching for “motivation” they are often searching for the wrong thing. Plus, she gives 4 tips to help conjure up the energy that we may need to do that thing that we want to do!

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: More on Closure with Clients Feb 08, 2023

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.

This week we have a more specific follow up to last week's question about therapists finding closure when clients terminate the therapeutic relationship.

The three more detailed questions explored in this episode are:

1. How do you find a sense of closure when there is no final conversation to process ending a therapist-client relationship?

2. What is the best way to respond to an email when a client wishes to discontinue therapy for the time being?

3. Is there a way for early therapists to communicate that therapy is not only used to process negative thoughts and events, but also maintenance and process positive thoughts and events?

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Safety Is Created Within with Courtney Grimes, LCSW Feb 06, 2023

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This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW.

Courtney’s passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart.

This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life.

What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up???

You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn’t real." So good, right??

Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: How Do I Not Take It Personally When a Client Breaks Up with Me? Feb 01, 2023

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.

This week’s question is: “As a studying therapist, I am finding terminations extremely difficult. What guidance can you give to me to not take it so personally and to find closure on my part?”

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Self Care and the Enneagram with Katie Gustafson Jan 30, 2023

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This week, Kat is joined by a returning guest and fellow therapist, Katie Gustafson. Katie is back to talk to us about the enneagram AND how it can have a positive influence on identifying the self care practices that are right for each of us individually. Self care doesn’t just have to be getting a massage or going for a walk. Katie teaches us in this episode that self care is less about escaping and indulging and more about restoring us back to who we truly are.

If you loved what you heard from Katie and want to learn more about her you can find her in instagram HERE and on her website HERE.

To sign up for the self care workshop click HERE.

Ally Fallon: @allyfallon

Koula: @Koulacal

To learn more about Tara Booker's group: https://www.hazelhouse.net/groups

Email to register: healing@hazelhouse.net

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: My Friend Told Me She is Having Multiple Affairs... WHAT DO I DO? Jan 25, 2023

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Couch talks is the bonus episode of Yoh Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives a Harry Potter update, talks about a recent trip to the movie theater, and gives feedback to a listener who was recently put in a very uncomfortable situation by a friend.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Power of Daily Affirmations with Tiania Haneline Jan 23, 2023

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This week Kat is talking all things AFFIRMATIONS with Tiania Haneline.

In March 2020, Tiania Haneline wanted her 3-year-old daughter Scarlett to build her self-confidence and embrace the beauty of her skin, her curls, her kindness and every trait in between. In the wake of George Floyd’s murder, and rise of the Black Lives Matter movement, she started using daily affirmations with her daughter. Scarlett would repeat positive affirmations back to herself in the mirror while Tiania did her hair. I am beautiful. I am strong. I am brave. I am kind. I am doing my best. Tiania started posting the videos on TikTok and wasn’t prepared for the response. Nine months later the mother-daughter duo from Myrtle Beach had more than a million social media followers and have now topped 8 million. Through the unexpected social media success, Tiania (who had been laid off from her job in 2021) went from being a single mom living from paycheck to paycheck, to being able to fully support her family.

In their new children’s book, I’m Going to Have a Good Day!, the main character Scarlett practices daily affirmations as she goes about her day, inspiring readers to incorporate similar affirmations into their own lives.

In this episode you will hear Kat and Tiania talk about building self worth and how a foundation of knowing you are GOOD lays a foundation for making it through tough times with other's opinions of us don't align with what we know to be true.

Scarlett & Tiania on TikTok

Scarlett and Tiania on YouTube

Scarlett and Tiania on Instagram

Scarlett and Tiania on Facebook

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: Self Worth vs Self Esteem Jan 18, 2023

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Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that’s listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

This week, Kat answers a question a listener sent in after listening to Monday’s episode. If people accept the love they think they can get, how do I start to believe I can get more? This turns into a conversation about the difference between self esteem and self worth and why we need to spend more time teaching others about self worth versus how to get self esteem.
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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Training People How to Treat You and the Assumption of Positive Intent Jan 16, 2023

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This week Kat is bringing back one of her favorite things to talk about… training people how to treat you! Have you ever asked yourself why all the people around you suck? Or maybe, why do people take advantage of you over and over again? Well… it might have to do more with how you model to others how you want to be treated and less about the other person. In this episode you’ll hear more about why this is important and how to start modeling the behavior you want to experience from others.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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