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Ep. 147 Emptying Your Alcohol Judgements and Conclusions Jun 01, 2022

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In today's podcast ep. #147, we explore how your Judgements and Conclusions are blocking the path to get alcohol out of your way.

Our judgments and conclusions about life are important to keep us safe, but if left unexamined, "safety", turns into a comfort zone we fear leaving.

When we are learning something new, especially outside of the mainstream, we have to empty our minds of what we have learned and what we think we know to be true about alcohol.
We have to dump it all out and the table and sift throught it.
Find some cute earrings and throw out the empty wrappers.

Our snap judgements and conclusions keep us stuck in fear based thoughts, not trying new things and not giving ourselves a chance to see how much more fulfilling life will be without alcohol.

Unexamined judgements and conclusions in other areas, also create uncomfortable emotions that may be a trigger for drinking if you dwell in them for too long.

We often seek to be RIGHT, VS, UNDERSTAND.

Even when we suffer for it.

When we are right, we are safe. It protects our interest (belifes) and our ego.

What would happen if you were able to empty your mind to see alcohol and life again, for the first time (but with wisdom)?
Seek to understand what you blame yourself for? The world for?
What you aren't willing to give up about alcohol and why?
Come explore the mind with me today and prime yourself for a new adventure.
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Come September, you'll be so grateful for the bold action you took TODAY in gifting yourself a plan.
Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

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A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Ep. #146 Alcohol As A Catalyst For Connection May 25, 2022

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Alcohol as a catalyst for connection only ever allows you to go as deep as your thoughts that you need alcohol to connect will allow you.
Is alcohol creating more connection or just inhibiting your thoughts that stop you from going deeper?
When we interrupt our limiting thoughts by dissociating vs. examining them, we never give ourselves a chance to move past them.
We condition our behavior and settle for the status quo.

What ultimately creates a strong connection or relationship? Is it bypassing vulnerably and discomfort.
Do you even have to start there or can you feel ease with connection skills you already have?

Today we explore:
-What does create a relationship?
-What is the catalyst you want for your connections? Is drinking no longer it?
-How you can use evidence in other areas as a focal point for connection in social situations where alcohol is present.
-How would things be different if we used being human as the only catalyst for connection we needed?
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Come September, you'll be so grateful for the bold action you took TODAY in gifting yourself a plan.
Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE .

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #145 Growing Your Drinking Discernment May 18, 2022

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Growing your drinking discernment the ability to judge well. When it comes to alcohol, this is everything.
The voice of the habit and nostalgic memories, create feel good chemicals themselves. When you think of NOT doing that, feelings of deprivation compound.
So how do you stay in your TRUTH and grow new pathways for changing your relationship to alcohol and not feel like you are missing out?

How to use your intuition rather than ego to decide with ease and purpose and clarity.

Discerning between what you have chosen as a new intention for not drinking and what you have evidence for in the past.

You can be convicted in one moment to not drink and fall into illusions of alcohol romance the next.

Today you will learn:
-Importance of intentional thought creation.
-Three steps for discerment from intuition rather than ego.
-Understanding the catalyst of alcohol for pleasure and how to do it on your own.
-Why our brain overrides our initial intentions
-Skills for the most effective way to learn something new

Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE .

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #144 The Easy Way Out Of Alcohol May 11, 2022

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Are on the fence about alcohol?
Waiting for the perfect solution that will make it easier, all the while, the habit is getting stronger?
The secret to changing your mind about alcohol is changing the thought that it's going to be hard.
This thought is WHY it is hard when you take a break.
Not because it really is.
There will be new emotions that are uncomfortable and unfamiliar, but you've done WAY harder.
It's the perception that it's BIGGER than a drink.
That it's BIGGER than you.
As soon as you stop making it about the alcohol, and make it about YOU.
Everything shifts.
You have everything you need to make a change, right now.
More time and more information is SLOWING you down.
It's keeping you stuck in INACTION.
Today you will learn:
-How you are making this change harder.
-What you can do to make changing your relationship to alcohol easier.
-How to inner resources the solution
-Skills you need to create the result
-Why taking your last sip isn't the first step
-Why "taking a break" is hindering you
It's building a new relationship to yourself that takes you out of your comfort zone, but pays off in the end.
The body just thinks it's hard because it's different.
Because it can't SEE it based on evidence from the past.
But you don't have to BELIVE something in your bones 100% to know it's possible.
What you do need to do is get in the vibration of the FREQUENCY of belies, trust and conviction.
See yourself there.
Be that person.
Align with the vibration and stay there,
Mary
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #143 Awakening From Alcohol is Awakening To Life w/ The Magical Mentors May 04, 2022

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Need some inspiration to make the journey away from alcohol feel more joyful, exciting and full of purpose and passion?
Then this episode is for you.
We are often more focused on what we think the downside of change will be.
Today's episode gives you every upside to living a life FULLY AWAKE.
And I'm not talking about better skin and more energy, I'm talking about your purpose BEYOND illusion, beyond the good and bad.
The right and wrong.
Beyond the need to even HEAL.
This is about being WITH life, as it is, no alteration required.
Take a deep breath, grab a cup of tea, and come on in!
Join me, and four of the Magical Mentors from the Stop Drinking and Start Living program.
Each one of them share a lesson to the members of their own magic they offer to the world inside of the Portal Of Empowerment.
I am beyond grateful for this episode for my own personal connection to these Women and because I get to be on the planet with them at the same time.
There presence here on this show and your listening is a frequency match.
This information needs to be in your sphere and in your ears.
Take the most useful bits to inspire you to see the MAGIC waiting for you on the other side of alcohol.
Find more about our Mentors Magic:
Freedom Ciavarello: Plant Alchemist and Empowerment Coach (maker of our special program blends)
Laura Aszman : Beauty In Movement: Embodiment Facilitator and Hoop Dance Instructor
Marlo Nikkila : Living A Life Of Play and Surrender
Nura Rachelle : Cosmic Queen of the Stars, Astrologer and Teacher
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #142 Black and White Drinking Apr 27, 2022

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When we are changing our relationship to anything, we face resistance.
When drinking is black and white, it's on and off.
Good or bad.
You can't see your way through all of the unhelpful thoughts your mind gives you about the future of NEVER drinking again, and why that is doom and gloom.
It creates black and white thinking, which has you going in one direction, to the past and moderation.
Either you'll be a drinker forever and you resign yourself to it or you're life will be empty.
When you use the process of the five shifts I teach in the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program, you create a rainbow of thinking.
You see, what do I want more of today?
Why would I NOT drink?
One circumstance at a time, you reduce your desire to drink.
You celebrate that moment and fuel your energy to ask again and again.
What do I want more of today?
Why am I drinking?
What is one thing I can do today with what I have?
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE .

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #141 Deciding From Direct Experience Apr 22, 2022

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From today's LIVE Q&A on instagram join me for a practice of DIRECT EXPERIENCE:
This overrides your habitual reaction network that seems like alcohol is an uncontrollable impulse.
-What is holistic alcohol coaching?
-Why ritual and ceremony are important in our modern world.
-How to keep the battery of the prefrontal cortex charged so you can make NEW decisions from the present moment, not based on the past.
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE .

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #140 It Was Never About The Alcohol: Client Spotlight with Jill Apr 20, 2022

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Jill truly believed she was obsessive compulsive and was just going to have to live with the overwhelming and exhausting thoughts about alcohol and the desire to drink, until she found a new approach, The Five Shifts process.
When she realized there was another solution to getting alcohol out of her way, that she didn't have to just stop drinking and hold on for dear life, she started believing there was a new choice and decided, I want to learn that too.
Join my amazing client Jill, in today's podcast, who is crushing it at eliminating her desire to drink and befriending her emotions.
She joined me in learning the tools I teach in the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program and never looked back.
In today's podcast, she shares with you the simple process, the result and the profound impact it has had on her life.
How she doesn't have to avoid ANYTHING, even wine tastings.
Learn to take your life to new heights like Jill when you get curious about learning a new way.
The tools Jill has learned are priceless for living the life not only that she desires, but deserves.
Thank you Jill! You are such and inspiration!!!

Riding high,
Mary

Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE .

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #139 Befriending Your Inner Child Apr 15, 2022

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Every Wednesday on I am offering a a live Q & A and discussion on Instagram, based around the Five Shifts Process that we use in the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program.
I will be sharing it here on the show every Friday.
The compassionate witness is how start to have a new relationship to ourself and how we are seeing alcohol.
Often it is easier to be compassionate to a younger version of yourself than it is to your adult self.
Befriending your inner child who is having the emotions that need validation, is a way to start to befriend and developing a more intimate relationship with yourself.
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE .

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

Ep. #138 The Perfect Time To Start The Process Of Stopping Apr 13, 2022

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We convince ourselves that our objections are facts, when the truth is, there is ALWAYS a way to take the NEXT STEP toward what you want.
It doesn't mean you have to quit drinking today, but you can at least decide what you want your summer to look like.
Do you want it to be more of the same, or a summer of adventure?
The greatest adventure of this life, is getting to know yourself.
That is what I want for you.
The opportunity to step into this extraordinary LIFE, fully, with out objection.
Today we explore the objection of TIME.
If now isn't the right time. But when is? And how will you know when you get there?
What will be the perfect program and the perfect opportunity?
You get to decide right here and now, this is it.
No expectations, just one step in a new direction.
HERE IS THE LIST NEW THOUGHTS TO THINK:
WHICH ONE CREATES THE BEST EMOTION TO INSPIRE ACTION TOWARDS THE DIRECTION OF STARTING THE PROCESS OF GETTING ALCOHOL OUT OF YOUR WAY?
PICK THAT THOUGHT AND STICK WITH IT.
SAY IT EVERYDAY ALL DAY.
I’m ready now.

I want to go on an adventure.

Let’s see where this takes us.

The worst thing that can happen is I end up right where I am.

I’ve got nothing to loose.

What am I waiting for?

There’s never been a better time.

I’m a grown Woman, I do what I want when I want.

This is how I take care of myself.

I’m excited to be a student of me and of life.
Coaching will give me the opportunity to be efficient at being human.
Using my body and mind to the full extent.

I don’t make plans for alcohol.

Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program

I will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Schedule a complim

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.