Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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The World is Really Shitty and I'm Alone (w/ Ziwe) Aug 28, 2020

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Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they see in the mirror. Nicole's back on the apps, where it seems like performative activism is the growing trend in dating bios. On the plus side, Nicole's been getting treated better on dating apps since the #BLM protests. Oh boy, life is wild and there's lots to unpack in this one.

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Class Clown on the Plantation (w/ Amber Ruffin) Aug 21, 2020

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Writer and actress Amber Ruffin (Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss politics on Late Night, how they can make racism funny, and what the upcoming Zoom Emmy awards will be like. Plus, Amber helps write some Hinge messages, and Nicole challenges white people to come up with a good slave joke.

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Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe) Aug 14, 2020

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Gabby Sidibe (Precious, American Horror Story, Empire) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for 3 years. Plus, they chat about watching 90 Day Fiancé in quarantine, and how they get mistaken for each other all the time.

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Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay) Aug 07, 2020

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Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting.

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Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman) Jul 31, 2020

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'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?'

Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, and rise in performative allies instead of active ones. After the break, Nicole shares her experience finding love at a Lassens.

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White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods) Jul 24, 2020

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Actress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends a virtual strip show, and teaches a 12 year old it's OK to pole dance.

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Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen) Jul 17, 2020

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Drag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in their relationship. Plus, they share the secret to flirting (which they learned working at Olive Garden), the fun of having a 'Weekend Boyfriend', and sleeping with someone just for the story.

Also, Nicole needs to know the CDC's guidelines on doggy style. What's the safest way to find and lock down a fuckbuddy during quarantine? The Vixen weighs in.

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Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen) Jul 10, 2020

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"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man."

Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition.

For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu

Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

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Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha) Jul 03, 2020

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Actress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in today's conversation about diversity. Plus, Nicole recaps her experience 'Facetime dating' in quarantine.

Support BLM. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

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If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste) Jun 26, 2020

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Actress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, the importance of seeing representation in media, and how to raise a new generation of active allies.

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