Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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You Should Date a Short King (w/ Marcella Arguello) Sep 25, 2026

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We’ve all heard the persistent dating mandate that the ideal man needs to be over 6ft tall. But what happens when you’re a 6"2 woman facing a dating pool of tall men who have coasted by on their height alone? According to comedian Marcella Arguello, it's time to abandon the tall man propaganda - and finally give short kings the respect they deserve. Marcella returns to the podcast to break down the brutal body standards we face in the dating pool. Nicole and Marcella also discuss the tragedy of having big dicks attached to bad people, and debate whether lying can actually keep the peace in a relationship. Plus, the story how she got a boyfriend by playing the long game.

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Finally Ready to Confess (w/ BenDeLaCreme) Sep 18, 2026

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Drag queen icon BenDeLaCreme (Drag Race 6, All-Stars 3) joins Nicole to spill some major breaking news: they've been secretly separated from her partner of 8 years. They talk about the effort it takes to try to stay friends with an ex, the confusing reality of jumping back into the LA dating pool in your mid-40s, and why it's impossible to tell if a guy wants to date you or just wants exclusive Drag Race gossip. Plus, DeLa breaks down her brilliant move to self-eliminate on All-Stars 3, and Nicole reveals the unhinged manifestation trick she used to lock down the nice man in her life.

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The Most Chaotic Friendship Ever (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper) Sep 11, 2026

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Why Won't You Date Me is taking a quick break this week while Nicole is out of town filming, but we'd never leave you high and dry! Instead, Nicole is sharing one of her all-time favorite episodes of her other podcast, Best Friends. Best Friends Nicole and Sasheer are joined by two very special guests and hosts of the podcast Sloppy Seconds, Big Dipper and Meatball! Consider this a wild masterclass in relationships and how hard it is to maintain a bond with someone, featuring wild stories about naked meetings at gay resorts, eating ribs nude in bed, and bombing TV auditions in a speedo. Normal WWYDM programming resumes next week!

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For more Big Dipper and Meatball, check out their podcast Sloppy Seconds: https://www.everybodysaymom.com/shows/sloppy-seconds

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The AI Dating Dystopia (w/ Jarvis Johnson) Sep 04, 2026

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YouTuber Jarvis Johnson (Host of Sad Boyz) joins Nicole to discuss the dystopian reality of how AI has changed the dating landscape, from people now dating their AI and the trend of men using ChatGPT to automatically swipe and chat with women for them. Jarvis opens up about his regret about having a public relationship and why he now chooses to keep his life private after a very public internet breakup. They also discuss how neurodivergence impacts relationships, why undiagnosed ADHD can hold someone back, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), medication they are taking, and how Nicole is managing her PMDD.

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The Catfish Who Wanted to "Teach Me a Lesson" (w/ Onya Nurve) Aug 28, 2026

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Drag queen superstar Onya Nurve (Winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S17) joins Nicole to talk about the time she was catfished on a dating app by a high school creep! Onya also sets the record straight on her true dynamic with the Season 17 girls, revealing why she felt like an outsider navigating the cast's social circle. She shares how her current girlfriend started out as her college bestie, the friction of taking her on tour as an assistant, and her journey to realizing she was pansexual.

Plus, they debate whether sharing your location is the ultimate red flag, discuss the crazy movie Obsession, and reveal the truth about why Onya was let go from a tour of Kinky Boots just days before opening.

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Juggling A 7-Man Harem (w/ Kim Newmoney) Aug 21, 2026

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Nicole's photographer, Kim Newmoney (VOGUE, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE) chats with her about the logistics and managing a harem of 7 hot men. They talk about men who claim they want casual relationships but get territorial when another guy whose interest, and Kim shares what it took to walk away from a 7 year relationship with mismatched life goals.

As a professional photographer, Kim drops her advice on taking your dating app profile pictures, getting comfortable on camera, and looking effortlessly sexy. Plus, Kim and Nicole reminisce the guerrila-style shooting behind Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: THE FAT GIRL'S GUIDE TO BEING #BRAVE AND NOT A DEJECTED, MELANCHOLY, DOWN-IN-THE-DUMPS WEEPING FAT GIRL IN A BIKINI.

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Dating a Hollywood Scammer (w/ Bresha Webb) Aug 14, 2026

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Comedian Bresha Webb(Run the World, Hacks) joins Nicole to share her terrible experience accientally dating a Hollywood scammer. Bresha also shares the story of a guy who paid for their dinner using a coin purse full of laundry quarters, what happens when you livestream a terrible first date on Instagram so your followers can roast the man, and the incredibly romantic 30-day Zoom courtship that led to her marriage. Plus, Nicole and Bresha reminisce about auditioning for SNL together and discuss the unhinged challenges on Love Island that will definitely haunt those contestants forever.

Check out Bresha's new special, LOL Live with Bresha Webb, on Hulu or Disney+.

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The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Date (w/ Eliot Glazer) Aug 07, 2026

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Comedian and writer Eliot Glazer (Broad City, New Girl) returns to the podcast! He shares how a group blind date quickly turned into a one-on-one nightmare with a horrible, drunk Jubilee "celebrity." Plus, Elliot and Nicole talk about what it's like to date an NPC, ask what happened to the whimsy in men's fashion, and discuss learning to be a better gay.

Check out Eliot's new book, The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Gay, out Aug 11th.

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The 'Goblintimacy' Dating Trend (w/ Devon Walker) Jul 31, 2026

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Comedian Devon Walker (SNL, Big Mouth) returns to the podcast to join Nicole for a chat about "goblintimacy", the new dating trend where you skip putting your best foot forward. Nicole shares the details of her terrifyingly chaotic NYC taxi ride, the wild energy of the city after the Knicks championship win, and addresses those recent internet comments about her hair. Plus, they conduct a very important investigation into Willem Dafoe's notoriously huge hog, Nicole breaks down the extensive list of Hollywood actors in her romantic "stable," and they discuss the importance of knowing your STD status.

Check out Devon's podcast, My Favorite Lyrics. You can watch Nicole's episode here: youtube.com/watch?v=LnjB1YWatF8

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The Truth About TV Showmances (w/ Lydia B Kollins) Jul 24, 2026

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Drag queen Lydia B Kollins (Drag Race S17, All Stars S10) joins Nicole to spill the behind-the-scenes tea on her iconic Drag Race showmance with Kori King. Find out just how strict production really is when it comes to off-screen flirting, what it was like having their first kiss during a lip sync for your life, plus the reason why she fully ghosted Kori after filming wrapped.

Plus, Lydia opens up about her history of dating women and "dabbling in the puss." She explains why she believes it's easier to love a woman than a man, and why she builds her live shows specifically for her sapphic fans. Finally, hear the story of why RuPaul personally bestowed her with the middle name "Butthole."

Get tickets to her tour with Kori King and Suzie Toot, "ButtTootKing" at ButtTootKing.com.

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