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Why It's Hard When Friendships Change Tho Jul 23, 2020

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Friendship is a gift but for real tho, 2020 has taken a toll on our relationships. In some ways, we've grown closer, and in others, we've discovered that we're not as close as we thought we were. People are moving to different cities and states for a more sustainable life, because of job changes and losses, and let's be honest, the political atmosphere has created tension at best, and unresolvable conflict at worst. We need to know how to honestly evaluate our friendships, communicate openly and truthfully, set new boundaries when necessary, and gain wisdom on how to end a relationship well. We're talking about ALL THE THINGS today, and we're listening when you tell us how many friends and family members you've lost, or are afraid of losing. We hear you when your besties move and you have to do long distance. We hear you when you say it's just not like it used to be. We feel you on this one. We have some practical tips as we tackle this in true Why Tho fashion. As always, we love serving you! If you love what we're doing, subscribe to get these podcasts weekly, and leave us a rating and/or a review - it helps other people find the show! Also, be sure to send this episode to a friend who needs it! To check out more resources, books and content, visit our websites: www.tiffanybluhm.com and www.ashabercrombie.org.

If It's Not Good For Everyone It's Not Good For Me Tho Jul 16, 2020

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This episode title might make your defenses go up. So, on the front end, are we saying that if it’s good for everyone, then it’s good for me? Well, if you mean that everything should be equal for every person, then no, because that would not be good for every person. But, we absolutely think that things could be more equitable for individuals, if we also focus on the collective community. We champion the right of every man, woman and child to exercise agency, to make decisions to move forward in life, and we do not think that has to happen at the expense of the greater good. How can we grow in the character of Christ that asks, this is good for me, but is it good for everyone? If we had a room of 100 people, and 90 of them were sick, hungry and thirsty, but 10 were living their best life, would it be okay to make a case for the 10 and their good life, at expense of 90? Nope, we would acknowledge that something is broken, that we need to grieve this pain, and that all 100 will need to change, to grow, and that will likely mean that the 10 will need to sacrifice. But that’s what a healthy community does, because it is made up of individuals who are willing to be selfless and generous so that the whole can flourish alongside each individual. What do you need to give up? How do you need to be filled? Let’s keep growing together in community, as we continue to live our lives.

What is Saving Our Lives Right Now Jul 09, 2020

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You're here for one of our favorite regular Why Tho episodes, where we answer Barbara Brown Taylor's important question, "What is saving your life right now?" Well, of course COFFEE, but we'll also give you the low down on what's keeping us laughing, resting and full of joy. From drinks to podcasts and more, we got the goods just for you. And five months into quarantine, who doesn't need to know that? Do you love the Why Tho Show? We'd love for you to take a minute to rate us five stars, and share a review - this helps other people find the show! Over on our websites, we’ve created resources, bible studies, videos and more, to offer hope and healing to you. Go visit, send us a message, and say hello! www.tiffanybluhm.com www.ashabercrombie.org or follow us on Instagram: @tiffanybluhm @ashabercrombie

Why Selfishness Will Kill Connection Tho Jul 02, 2020

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We're imagining a way forward in relationship right now. With restrictions on what we can do together, where we can go, and how we can gather, our friendships, spiritual experiences, dating life, marriage, work life, well basically everything looks completely different. We personally are hurting from those losses and right now it would be so easy for us to hold tight to our way of life, our stuff, the way things used to be, but what if we asked God to help us become more generous, more mindful, more connected to him so that we can reimagine community. The world is changing, and in this episode, we want to help you move on from selfishness (and fighting on Facebook), and grow in love. We're with you, and we're for you!

Why We Need Restoration in Community Tho Jun 25, 2020

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So, you'll learn a few things on this podcast. For example, the age gap between Ashley (on the very end of the old millenials) and Tiffany (major millenial vibes) becomes very apparent. Ashley just got on Venmo and might hide money under the mattress, and Tiffany would like an app to pay her children for chores. Also, in this week's news, the church where Tiffany grew up in allowed a rally in their parking lot, with elected officials (like the sheriff) over a long standing racist sign that hangs over the city where they declared the sign should stay (freedom of speech and such), and of course we're wondering, why tho? Since when does this individual freedom folks want reign supreme over the sheer terror this places in a community? How have we so badly confused our politics with our Christianity? We need a restoration of community, because this is BULL CRAP. And certainly not gospel. Can we begin to reimagine what community looks like? Now's the time to change, so let's do this, together. As always, if you loved the show, share it! Rate and review it, so that others can find the show!

Why the Social Shame Tho Jun 18, 2020

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Cancel this, cancel that, liberal social justice warrior, not doing enough, doing too much… WHO CAN KEEP UP? This rhetoric, the name calling, judgmental, “shoulding all over people” vibes create an insane amount of shame in our lives. How can a scroll through the internet do this? We’ve all experienced it and we want to help you peel back the layers, find that thread of shame in your life, discover why it’s affecting you, learn if you need to, and otherwise, LET IT GO. Shame is removed from relationship. Shame has no end game other than pain and embarrassment. Shame will not transform our lives or perspective. It’s time for us to move through the digital world without it, and while we’re always learning and growing, we want to do that through relationship and love, not through judgment and shame. We love you guys - we’re in this with you, 2020, the weird, wild difficult world. Over on our websites, we’ve created resources, bible studies, videos and more, to offer hope and healing to you. Go visit, send us a message, and say hello! www.tiffanybluhm.com www.ashabercrombie.org. As always, if you loved the show, share it! Rate and review it, so others can find the show!

Why You Need Rest For the Journey Tho Jun 11, 2020

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Take a minute to breath, fam, because this journey is long and demanding. On this episode, we are talking about why rest is necessary amid these times, and you'll also learn all about Ashley's lead foot and Tiffany's fear of breaking the rules. Thanks for listening, be sure to rate review, and share this episode with a friend! Links in this episode include Book of Common Prayer: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/book-of-common-prayer/id1138857966 Connect with us on Instagram: @tiffanybluhm and @ashabercrombie - we'd love to hear from you!

Why It is Time to Listen Tho Jun 04, 2020

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The story of the rich young ruler sits with us this week as we consider the current state of our nation. What does it mean to be a person who listens to Jesus, to his instruction on what we need to give up in order to be made whole? What does it mean to listen to our brothers and sisters seeking to end injustice? And most importantly, WHAT DO WE DO NEXT? Your sphere of influence is not too small to make a difference. Every small step toward ending injustice is an important one, so take it, even if you are afraid, do it, say it. Through prayer, a scripture and an important conversation, we're here to journey with you during this difficult time. Sending you our love, and always, we are people of hope, filled with compassion, believing God for freedom. Here's the resources we linked to today: Luke 18:18-30 https://www.instagram.com/p/CA8oZFJlxoC/ Psalm 23; Boston Globe Article: https://www.bostonglobe.com/2020/06/01/opinion/george-floyd-history-police-brutality-america/ Connect with us on Instagram: @tiffanybluhm and @ashabercrombie - we'd love to hear from you!

Why Whites Will Not Make America Great Again May 28, 2020

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We're not beating around the bush on this episode of Why Tho, we're planning to hit white supremacy hard. Because here's the thing, we think the KKK, the Alt Right, the folks marching in Charlottesville chanting "Jews will not replace us!" are the real racists, and in comparing ourselves against them, so many white people absolve themselves of the sin of racism. But as Ashley says on today's episode "Supremacy is the tea we are steeped in from birth." We must do better, and stop with the social media sentiments, and take a deep, long look at ourselves. It's time to ask God how this world has indoctrinated us, grieve that, change that, and learn to cultivate an equitable existence for all people. The whites are not about to make America great again. No more BS. Until we recognize the full humanity in ALL people, there is work to be done. Tiffany shares covert and overt ways white supremacy manifests in our lives and in our communities, workplaces, schools, and how this impacts people of color. LISTEN UP. Neutral is not a zone on the issue of racism, and we are deeply committed to this work. Articles/links we referenced on today's show: The Conscious Kid on Instagram www.instagram.com/theconsciouskid The Southern Poverty Law Center's Hate Map https://www.splcenter.org/hate-map Explaining White Privilege to a Broke White Person by Gina Crosley Corcoran https://www.huffpost.com/entry/explaining-white-privilege-to-a-broke-white-person_b_5269255 Stewed Awakening by Navneet Along: https://www.eater.com/2020/5/20/21262304/global-pantry-alison-roman-bon-appetit

Why 2020 is a Disappointment Tho May 21, 2020

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Disappointment is a honest to goodness reality in 2020. From watching kids graduate on Zoom, to financial loss, to major job changes, to relationship challenges, to the sting of isolation, we’re all managing our expectations and disappointment. RIP to our best laid plans and hello to a life we didn’t choose. On today’s episode, we’re laughing together about things gone awry (specifically an alleged bird cartel inside Tiffany’s house), grieving the losses, and looking ahead with hope. Thank you for tuning into the Why Tho podcast! Be sure to rate and review the show - we love and appreciate your feedback! For more information about the hosts, Tiffany Bluhm and Ashley Abercrombie, visit their websites: Tiffanybluhm.com and ashabercrombie.org You can purchase their books wherever books are sold.

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