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So Long, Farewell Jul 17, 2023

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Well TedHeads–here we are at the end of the “Ted Lasso” yellow brick road, and our final episode! This week Dimple and Jeff delve into Episode 12: "So Long, Farewell” and much like the TV show, come full circle and find some closure. In this episode we look at where our cast of characters end up and the various leadership and positive psychology themes from all three seasons that show up once more. We reflect on change, perfectionism, and always remembering that we’ll forever be, “works in prog-mess.”

We have bittersweet feelings about this being our final episode, but we’re both filled with immense gratitude, not only for the opportunity to make this show, but for the connections we’ve made with many of you along the way. Thank YOU for joining us on this journey. Our greatest hope is that more of us will embody the “Lasso Way” and live life with curiosity, vulnerability, forgiveness, and grace. We’ll end by echoing the sentiments of AFC Richmond and simply say–so long, farewell, thank you for everything, and please keep in touch!

In This Episode

[09:16] Growth and empowerment
[10:04] Vulnerability and the fear of losing those we hold dear
[10:46] Why our actions and words can have a profound impact on those around us
[14:03] True love and support involve selflessness and the willingness to put someone else's happiness above our own
[23:40] Choosing happiness over other people’s perceptions of success
[30:09] The interconnectedness of people's lives and the impact they have on each other
[33:09] The impact of our perceptions on our ability to change
[36:30] How our personal standards lead us to judge others
[42:44] The emptiness that can come from prioritizing material success over meaningful relationships
[48:22] The unsaid magic of connection
[55:50] How team connection creates humility
[01:01:42] The reality of how growth happens
[01:05:55] Embodying the concept of “Believe”
[01:13:02] The power of the collective
[01:23:42] Series takeaways
[01:27:01] Acknowledgment and gratitude

Resources & Links

Mentions
Brendan Hunt Responds to the Roy and Keeley Storyline - https://collider.com/ted-lasso-brendan-hunt-roy-keeley-comments/
Ted Lasso Finale Easter Eggs - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQX8QMbnjuI

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

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Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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Mom City Jul 10, 2023

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This week we arrive at episode 11 – our penultimate episode – "Mom City," where Dimple and Jeff delve into the powerful themes of forgiveness and second chances as they unravel storylines about struggling to seek forgiveness while carrying the burden of past trauma. They discuss how tough it can be to forgive, especially when old grudges or emotional baggage weigh us down. They also explore the impact of forgiveness on our well-being and mental health, and that forgiveness doesn't change others' hearts, but it heals our own.

In This Episode

[04:02] Forgiveness and second chances.
[11:28] Healing potential through addressing unresolved issues and vulnerability.
[12:51] Finding motivation and self-reflection for personal growth.
[15:11] Emotional connections and growth through storytelling and shared experiences.
[22:26] The psychological impact of receiving prolonged hate and negativity.
[29:55] Gratitude and personal growth in the face of challenging experiences and relationships.
[34:18] Forgiveness and appreciation in competitive settings.
[34:52] Repairing strained family relationships with second chances.
[44:38] Transformative power in healing relationships.
[53:46] Navigating family dynamics with anxiety and cultural differences.
[01:00:31] Confronting the past and embracing authenticity.
[01:11:22] Episode takeaways.

Resources & Links

Mentions
5 Reasons Why Its Important to Forgive - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/202009/5-reasons-why-its-important-forgive
Why Forgiveness is Important - https://positivepsychology.com/why-is-forgiveness-important/#the-relationship-between-forgiveness-and-healing
Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness - https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization

Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coaching

Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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International Break Jul 03, 2023

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We’re down to the final 3 episodes of season 3 and of the series! This week Dimple and Jeff talk about episode 10 - International Break and dive deeper into the topics of vulnerability, imposter syndrome, finding a growth mindset during times of adversity, and what it means to connect with our inner child. They reflect on being the children of immigrants and how that impacted the people they’ve become, and why tapping back into that sense of wonder that most of us have as children has the capacity to change everything.

In This Episode

[03:13] Initial impressions and themes
[13:05] Rediscovering joy through the inner child
[17:01] Football as a source of community and passion
[25:32] Getting comfortable in your own skin
[29:30] Overcoming imposter syndrome and embracing self-confidence
[30:59] Empowering women of color to overcome underestimation and embrace their full potential
[33:55] Self-discovery and introspection through personal reflection and artistic expression
[42:44 ] The pressure and expectations that come with being a child of immigrant parents
[45:38] The healing power of play
[49:32] The consequences of relationships with unequal power dynamics
[50:06] The epiphany of tapping into the hidden potential within each of us
[53:30] The choice of mindset during times of adversity
[57:07] The challenges of walking your talk
[01:03:52] Why credentials and titles don’t validate our worth
[01:07:58] Episode takeaways

Resources & Links

Mentions
Imposter Syndrome is a Scheme - Reshma Saujani - Smith College Commencement Address - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoHDDgeQtlc
Why Everyone Feels Like They’re Faking It - https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/02/13/the-dubious-rise-of-impostor-syndrome

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization

Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coaching

Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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La Locker Room Aux Folles Jun 26, 2023

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This week, we dive into Episode 9, "La Locker Room Aux Folles" and consider what it means to be human–the good, the bad, and the messy middle.

In this episode, Dimple and Jeff explore the themes of vulnerability, empathy, and courageous communication found in three key storylines. They reflect on how our words impact others and how often we minimize or ignore how our actions impact others until it becomes personal. They consider what it means to be whole and not have to compartmentalize ourselves, a key aspect of human-centered leadership. And, they dive deeper into the topic of seeing the humanity in others by remembering that we never know what other people are going through.

Join Dimple and Jeff for another fun and thought-provoking conversation about life, love, and leadership–Lasso style.

In This Episode

[03:48] Vulnerability, empathy, and human nature
[07:11] The connection between empathy, compassion, humanity and play
[11:54] The significance of timing and readiness in having difficult conversations
[13:49] The importance of respecting someone's chosen name or pronoun
[22:03] Messiness of empathy and communication
[28:12] Being vulnerable and communicating honestly in relationships
[30:05] Growth and the power of kindness
[37:23] The transformative power of being true to oneself and showing up authentically
[43:36] Redefining fame in the social media era.
[47:28] Challenging oneself and not giving up
[51:10] Vulnerability and storytelling
[01:00:34] The power of genuine love.
[01:01:12] Episode takeaways

Resources & Links

Mentions
Brené Brown on Empathy - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw
Mexico Fans Chant Gay Slur “puto” at USMNT, Cause CONCACAF to Suspend Match - https://www.outsports.com/2023/6/15/23763078/mexico-fans-gay-chant-team-usa-put-chant

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/why-radically-human-leadership-is-more-important-than-ever

4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization

Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

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Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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We’ll Never Have Paris Jun 19, 2023

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This week, we jump into Episode 8 of What Would Ted Lasso Do?: “We’ll Never Have Paris.”

In this week’s episode, Dimple and Jeff talk about how the themes of loneliness, accountability, and digital intimacy, impact our beloved cast of characters. They explore the power dynamic between employers and employees in romantic relationships and reflect on the complexities of modern relationships, especially with the challenges that come with navigating the digital age. They also consider how our insecurities often make us get in our own way and how being present in the moment can help us let go of ruminating on the past and future. This is yet another episode jam-packed with gems of wisdom and a lot to think about!

In This Episode

[05:05] The theme of loneliness and the desire for meaningful connection
[14:25] The power dynamic difference in dating and the potential consequences for the business.
[17:19] The concept of digital intimacy and how it can keep us stuck in past relationships.
[21:02] Accountability and agency in relationships, including the importance of being accountable and allowing partners to choose what to keep.
[28:09] How our insecurities can lead to awkwardness in our interactions with others
[32:57] How assumptions and worst-case scenarios affect our thoughts and actions.
[35:00] The importance of being present
[40:33] The negative effects of greedy curiosity
[53:13] Nate's loneliness and attempt to create a support group.
[59:35] The epidemic of loneliness in the US
[01:02:49] The level of loneliness in men, the challenges of cultivating emotional intelligence, and the importance of men's circles as a form of community.
[01:04:30] The importance of social connection
[01:08:53] Celebrating accomplishments
[01:11:33] The lack of celebration in people's lives

Resources & Links

Mentions
Surgeon General’s Advisor on Loneliness -https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf
Backstory on Hey Jude - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hey_Jude
The Surprising Soccer Chant History of “Hey Jude” - https://www.salon.com/2023/05/04/ted-lasso-hey-jude-soccer-chant/
The Breakfast Club Adventures: The Beast Beyond the Fency by Marcus Rashford - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/59819558-the-breakfast-club-adventures

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization

Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coaching

Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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The Strings That Bind Us Jun 12, 2023

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Buckle up friends - we’re past the halfway mark and heading into episode 7 - The Strings that Bind Us - another episode jam packed with so much to explore! In this week’s episode of What Would Ted Lasso Do?, Dimple and Jeff dive deep into the themes of trust and choice. What does it take to create trust in the workplace and what roles do agency and choice play in fostering trust? How do we trust ourselves to make the right choices, especially when it comes to matters of the heart? How do we trust that we’re seeing people for who they are, and they’re seeing us? In addition, we explore love bombing, othering and belonging, toxic masculinity, and how small actions and embracing imperfection can lead to a more positive work culture.

In This Episode

[12:26] Racism in sports
[18:48] Sam reunites with his father and the significance of the locker room as a space for vulnerability.
[21:05] Fighting forward and how it relates to toxic masculinity and the power of choosing our responses.
[26:13] The Kintsugi moment and embracing imperfection
[30:50] The principles of Total Football, conditioning versatility, and awareness, and how they relate to mindfulness and trust among teammates
[36:10] Sacrificing self-glory for the team
[38:10] The importance of making mistakes and going through the process of failure to get to the right idea.
[44:29] Love bombing as a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to make a person feel dependent and obligated.
[55:27] Isolation and manipulation
[01:08:13] Creating great workplace cultures through trust and support
[01:09:12] Psychological Safety and human-centered Leadership
[01:10:41] Episode takeaways

Resources & Links

Mentions
Brinda Barot Shut Up and Dribble Inspiration - https://screenrant.com/ted-lasso-brinda-barot-shut-up-dribble-based-inspiration/
How Ted Lasso Inspires Us to Fight Forward Not Back - https://womenlovetech.com/how-ted-lasso-inspires-us-to-fight-forward-not-back/
Love Bombing Signs and Definition - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a26988344/love-bombing-signs-definition/
4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization - https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/why-radically-human-leadership-is-more-important-than-ever

4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization

Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/building-psychological-safety

Solve Your Problem With Play

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coaching

Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/playlist

Sunflowers Jun 05, 2023

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We’re already halfway through season 3 as we dive into episode 6 – "Sunflowers."

In this week’s episode, Dimple and Jeff discuss the themes of vulnerability, authenticity, healthy masculinity, and connection, while appreciating the depth and complexity of the characters and their storylines in the show, and drawing parallels to their own experiences. This episode is chock full of symbolism, and is a positive example of healthy masculinity and leadership, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and connection.

In This Episode

[04:10] Seeing failures as opportunities for learning and growth
[07:22] The power of vulnerability.
[25:37] Confronting inner demons.
[26:23] The symbolism of windmills in the Netherlands and how they represent healing
[32:17] The Dutch concept of "hygge" and how it represents a state of being
[42:44] How taking off the armor and being vulnerable can lead to a deeper connection.
[47:55] The importance of sharing scars, rather than wounds
[54:07] The concept of neuroplasticity and the research on psilocybin and neural pathways in the brain.
[01:00:54] Van Gogh and how finding beauty in the mundane can lead to inspiration.
[01:17:56] Being playfully present and owning the moment
[01:19:15] The idea of things happening for us and not to us
[01:20:00] The idea of not focusing on the result and how it can see all other available opportunities.

Resources & Links

Mentions
Dare to Lead - Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/book/dare-to-lead/
‘Ted Lasso’ Picked the Perfect Place for Its Heartwarming Collin & Trent Scene - https://www.themarysue.com/ted-lasso-picked-the-perfect-location-for-its-heartwarming-colin-trent-scene/
Three Little Birds and the Connection Between Bob Marley and Ajax - https://www.thefootballden.com/post/three-little-birds-and-the-connection-between-bob-marley-and-ajax
Landmark study shows one dose of psilocybin induces new neural connections - https://newatlas.com/science/psilocybin-growth-neural-connections-psychedelic-yale/
Neurogenesis, psilocybin, and the power to change your mind - https://www.flowstate.nz/blogs/news/neurogenesis-psilocybin-and-the-power-to-change-your-mind
For Pete’s Sake - Latest Ted Lasso Episode Had Two Kansas City Easter Eggs - https://www.kansascity.com/sports/spt-columns-blogs/for-petes-sake/article274570456.html
Martin Garrix - https://simple.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Garrix

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever

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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

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Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coaching

Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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Signs May 29, 2023

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What does it take to believe? That question is what Dimple and Jeff explore as we dive into Season 3, Episode 5 – Signs.

This week pulls together all the major themes of positive psychology–topics like self-limiting beliefs, the inner critic, the question of do I matter, intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation, and validation, and most importantly, growth mindset. As Dimple and Jeff dive deeper into these areas they look at what it means to operate from above and below the line and about not being tied to outcomes and the power of “yet.” On the leadership front they talk about what it takes to provide meaningful feedback and why the compliment sandwich is the worst mistake a leader can make.

In This Episode

[06:48] Operating above and below the lines
[07:50] Healthy masculine and feminine and why it’s important not to attach yourself to the wins
[09:58] The power of yet versus the tyranny of now
[13:05] Using positive emotions for a growth mindset
[17:31] “Believe” as two ends of a continuum
[22:50] The role of mindset for clearing out the internal noise
[37:00] Respect and psychological safety as a leader
[39:23] The importance of on-going feedback
[49:18] External validation
[101:20] Self-soothing through anxiety and panic attacks
[107:26] How self-limiting beliefs get in the way of “believe”
[01:08:52] Brené Brown and being worthy of love and belonging
[01:11:20] Biggest takeaways from the episode

Resources & Links

Mentioned
Why “Above the Line” Thinking is Central to Creativity and Connection (And How to Cultivate It) - https://medium.com/@dimpledhabalia/why-above-the-line-thinking-is-central-to-creativity-and-connection-and-how-to-cultivate-it-1cb319504a06
Above or Below the Line - https://conscious.is/video/locating-yourself-a-key-to-conscious-leadership
Neuroplasticity - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neuroplasticity
Carol Dweck - The Power of Believing That You Can Improve- https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_X0mgOOSpLU&feature=youtu.be
Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi - Flow, the secret to happiness - https://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_flow_the_secret_to_happiness
The Sandwich Approach Undermines Your Feedback - https://hbr.org/2013/04/the-sandwich-approach-undermin
The Message - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Message_(Grandmaster_Flash_and_the_Furious_Five_song)#:~:text=The%20song's%20lyrics%20describe%20the,commits%20suicide%20in%20his%20cell.

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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/why-radically-human-leadership-is-more-important-than-ever
4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization

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Building Psychological Safety At Work

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Solve Your Problem With Play

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Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist

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Big Week May 22, 2023

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This week we jump into episode 4 - Big Week - and boy, was it ever!

As the Greyhounds head to West Ham to take on Nate’s new team, everyone’s a bit off their game, and it shows. Rebecca’s still fixated on winning and trying to find the right words to inspire Ted. Ted is distracted. The coaches are second guessing their approaches. And the team is disheartened and hurt to see one of their own destroy a symbol they all hold dear.

As we dive into this episode, Dimple and Jeff explore the duality of being human and the importance of integrating our shadow sides in order to be whole. They talk about what it means to be works in “prog-mess” and why releasing our pain and trauma is so important to our health and well-being.

In This Episode

[02:36] Overview of episode themes.
[07:29] Revisiting We over Me.
[13:27] Toxic masculinity and external validation
[15:10] The impact of gaslighting
[28:30] Gwen Gordon playground,. proving ground and battleground
[29:15] The relationship between stress and chronic health conditions
[29:30] The Body Keeps the Score and embedded trauma
[31:40] Project Aristotle and psychological safety
[39:31] Tribute to Grant Wahl and his role on Ted Lasso
[47:26] The worst thing you could say to a kid
[49:54] Revenge as a strategy
[52:07] The pain of betrayal by one of your own
[55:10] Beating ourselves up for mistakes
[57:01] How we show up vs. winning
[59:50] Exhibiting healthy masculine
[1:08:40] Sitting with our pain and being ourselves during difficult times
[01:14:04] The role of our shadow side

Resources & Links

Mentioned
Restoring the Playground by Gwen Gordon - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/play_b_4436044
How Do Stress and Inflammation Contribute to Chronic Disease? - https://www.ifm.org/news-insights/inflam-stress-inflammation-contribute-chronic-disease/
The Body Keeps the Score by Bassel Van Der Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score
The Relationship Between Stress and Chronic Illness - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/becoming-resilient/202112/the-relationship-between-stress-and-chronic-illnesses
Ted Lasso Pays Tribute to Grant Wahl - https://awfulannouncing.com/soccer/ted-lasso-pays-tribute-to-grant-wahl.html
The Beckham Experiment by Grant Wahl - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/184700/the-beckham-experiment-by-grant-wahl/
Shadow Self: How knowing your dark side can help you in life - https://mindowl.org/shadow-self/

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4-5-1 May 15, 2023

Show notes

This week as we dive into episode 3, “4-5-1” we consider how we can learn to embrace the flaws and create something more beautiful in a given situation. How we can find the nugget of good or inspiration when things feel hard?

This week Dimple and Jeff continue to dive into the theme of embracing our fears as they explore Colin’s truth and Rebecca’s deepest desires, and why we over me is an effective strategy. They talk about the pedestals we put people when we’re unsure of ourselves, and how in the midst of our fear and insecurity we’ll often go in search of the familiar to feel safe.This is yet another episode jam packed with so much!

“Sometimes there is this sense that if I give people an opportunity to speak their minds I have to do what they’re saying. I’m working with a new coaching client and she said ‘I have a really hard time with collaboration and actually being a leader because if I ask my staff for input then I have to do what they say. How does that make me a leader?’ and I love that [question] because it’s a very real line we have to walk sometimes.” Dimple - (25:18)

In This Episode

[03:07] Foreboding joy
[08:04 ] Decoupling self-worth from our work
[09:25] The stigma of being LGBTQ+ in professional sports
[15:17] Zava’s introduction to Richmond
[22:10] We over me
[24:22] Psychological safety
[40:34] The Padawan
[40:59] The ethics of Ted’s wife’s new love interest
[44:02] The fine line between research and stalking
[47:34] Ted’s panic attack during Zava’s first goal
[50:51] Ted Lasso’s use of the woo - psychics, ghosts, astrology and how it relates to intuition
[57:35] Things get better with time
[1:00:24] Keeley hires her friend to work for her.
[01:03:21] Episode takeaways