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Erectile Dysfunction, Bad Friends, and Men with Depression Aug 29, 2024

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Today, John and Shaun discuss emotional safety in the bedroom, erectile dysfunction, and compromise in friendships. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: what's the best way to be vulnerable with your partner so they don't use it against you, and am I wasting my time dating people who aren't looking for a serious relationship when I want one? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001

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Helping Men, Libido Discrepancy, and People Pleasing Aug 22, 2024

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Today, Shaun and John discuss controlling behaviors that show up unconsciously, breaking up with friends, and providing a safe space for men on this podcast. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: what's the concept behind "bros before hoes," and how do you deal with libido differences in a long term relationship? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001

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The Orgasm Gap, Anger Management, and Should We Break Up? Aug 15, 2024

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Today, John and Shaun talk about their recent retreat experiences, celebrity man crushes, and their first blowjobs. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: Is it a woman's responsibility to ask the man she's dating to go down on her, and how do I know when (or if) I should pull the plug on a connection after giving it a fair chance? You can leave a one-minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001

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The Skidmark Bandit, No Good Men, and Our New Hotline Aug 08, 2024

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Today, Shaun and John talk about how men struggle to be vulnerable, abandonment wounds from childhood, thirst traps, and their new voicemail hotline. They also answer two listener questions: how should I tell my boyfriend he's leaving skid marks on the bedsheets? And where do I find a good man to date after doing the inner work and being single for so long? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001

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Vasectomies, Sex Toys, and Should Women Ask Men Out? Aug 01, 2024

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Today, John and Shaun discuss how they handle criticism on social media, men getting vasectomies, using sex toys in the bedroom, and hall passes for celebrity crushes. They also answer a listener's question and give advice about whether women should wait for men to chase them, or if they should ask men out first.

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Manopause, How To Flirt, and My BF Steals My Panties Jul 25, 2024

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Today, Shaun and John discuss hairstyle insecurities, aging, and the ethics of keeping exes' nudes. They bring on two live caller's and give advice on how to bring more flirty energy into your life, and what to do about a boyfriend's panty kink.

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Kinky John, Dealing with Anger, and Golden Showers Jul 18, 2024

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Today, Shaun and John touch on their kinks, seeking therapy, experiences growing up, and “parts work.” They also bring on their first two live callers and answer their questions. The first caller asks how to set boundaries and distance yourself from unhealthy people. The second caller seeks their guidance on coping with anger towards systemic injustices and daily dilemmas.

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Age Gaps, Big D*ck Energy, and Short Shorts Jul 11, 2024

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Today, Shaun and John discuss the concept of 'nectar' as a source of joy, and retiring the term 'Big Dick Energy.' For the Q&A, they tackle when to define the relationship and what the most appropriate age gap in relationships is.

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Threesomes, Deleting Your Ex, and Ankle Socks Are For Old People Jul 04, 2024

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Today, John and Shaun discuss ankle socks, and sexual terms like 'stealthing.' For the Q&A, they tackle the topics of keeping mementos from past relationships, retroactive jealousy, threesomes, and more.

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Why We Date A**holes, Disclosing STIs, and Why Does My Ex Watch My Stories? Jun 27, 2024

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Today, John and Shaun touch on the challenges of dealing with criticism, and disclosing herpes status. For the Q&A, they explore why we tend to date a**holes, and what it means when our exes still watch our stories.

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