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Constipation, speed dating, and jealous partners Mar 20, 2025

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Today, John and Shaun talk about the struggles of aging, navigating dietary changes, and the unexpected joys of pooping on command. They also discuss the concept of "optimistic nihilism" and the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships.

They share thoughts on speed dating, social media jealousy, and whether liking photos online is harmless or a sign of "leaky energy." Plus, Shaun opens up about his ski trip, his new “ski wife,” and the complications of modern relationships.

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Starting over, writing a book, and divorced in your 50s Mar 13, 2025

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Today, John and Shaun talk about hair insecurities, moving to Costa Rica, and the challenge of making big life changes. They also discuss dating in Los Angeles, social anxiety, and the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone.

As they look ahead, John and Shaun brainstorm ways to expand the podcast, from guest appearances on other shows to adding expert guests of their own. Shaun shares insights from a podcast agent he met at a recent party, and they reflect on how networking (even when you don’t feel like it) can open unexpected doors.

Plus, they answer a listener's question about struggling with loneliness after divorce and offer advice on rebuilding a fulfilling life.

Resources Mentioned:

The No BS Guide to Writing & Selling Your Book – John’s step-by-step program to help you turn your ideas into a published book.

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Popping Cherries, Internalized Misogyny, and When To Have Kids Mar 06, 2025

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Today, John and Shaun talk about internal misogyny, dating older women, how they lost their virginity, and starting over. They also answer two listeners’ questions: how do you know when you’re ready to have kids, and how do you learn to trust yourself and your intuition?

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The American “Dream”, Herpes, and Moving to Costa Rica? Feb 27, 2025

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Today, John and Shaun talk about different styles of communication, the American dream, the meaning behind tattoos, and relocating outside of Los Angeles. They also answer two listeners’ questions: what was the skateboarding life like for you guys, and what’s the best way to disclose to someone that I have herpes?

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Cock Rings, Getting Arrested, and Mothering Your Partner Feb 20, 2025

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Today, Shaun and John talk about their recent Valentine’s Day retreat, past addictive behaviors, Shaun’s new sex toy, and the benefits of using cock rings in the bedroom. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: how can you help your partner without feeling like you’re mothering them?

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Christianity, Cancel Culture, and Moaning During Sex Feb 13, 2025

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Today, Shaun and John talk about break ups, their Valentine’s Day retreat, making platonic friends, and celebrity drama. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: why don’t men make more noise in the bedroom?

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Picking Up in Public, Leaving LA, and One Hour Work Weeks Feb 06, 2025

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Today, Shaun and John talk about rebuilding after loss, their struggles getting older, the pressure to be productive, and comparing yourself to others on social media. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how can men approach women without being “creepy,” and how do you know when you should leave a toxic relationship?

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Making Adult Friends, Meeting Men in Public, and Littering Jan 30, 2025

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Today, Shaun and John talk about their relationship with sweets, new love experiences, and making friends in Los Angeles. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how do I make friends and meet new people when I struggle with social anxiety, and can people stop using delivery apps and go out instead since it’s so hard to meet people in person nowadays?

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John’s Rise, Shaun’s Date, and No Sugar For 30 Days Jan 23, 2025

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Today, Shaun and John talk about their fears regarding the aftermath of the LA fires, thirty day diet challenges, Shaun’s successful first date, and digital detoxes. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how can I navigate feeling guilty for not wanting to spend time with my friend’s kids, and what does it mean when someone says they need to “cool off” from the relationship?

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As some of you might know, John and his family lost their home in the LA fires. John has started a GoFundMe to support friends and families in Altadena and help with basic needs such as shelter, food, and clothing. If you called to donate, please do so HERE

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The Fire Episode and John Starts Over Jan 16, 2025

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Today, Shaun and John talk about the LA fires, their Valentine’s Day retreat, and how to help those who were affected by this tragedy. They also listen to a voicemail from one of their followers who lost their home in the fires. You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001

Sending love to all those affected by the LA fires.

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