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Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach — Health
Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach

This podcast started out as a self help podcast for moms trying to find balance in motherhood and business but morphed into a documentation of Crystal and Sean Escobar’s journey out of the Mormon church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). The Podcast has been therapeutic on so many levels for its hosts. They vulnerably share their pitfalls and triumphs as they work to deconstruct a lifetime of indoctrination from the LDS church which they exited in the Spring of 2018. Sexual shame, marriage, parenting, science, spirituality, personal development, healing, sex abuse, are some of the topics they focus on.

At episode 100 they both decided they were done processing their experience in the church and shifted their focus on helping others heal and grow in all areas of life. Crystal became a Certified Life/ Mindset Coach in 2020 and now offers free education in personal development via her podcast.

Her mission is to help women overcome past trauma and limiting beliefs, empowering them to create the life they were meant to live through her podcast, Time Management Course, and one on one coaching services.

Schedule a free session with her to find out how she can help you.
https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session

Latest Episodes:

Ep #19: I Made a Mistake Jun 09, 2018

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I made a mistake and here's what I learned.

Ep #18: How I Endured A Panic Attack May 31, 2018

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Just recently I experienced the most intense fear and it lasted for 3 days. I know that doesn’t seem like a long time when you compare it to someone who has been battling depression their whole life. But when you’re experiencing such intense emotion, and it stays for days, you begin to wonder if it will ever go away. Your fear of the fear intensifies because it’s hard to take control of your mind at that point. We all know that we create our own realities and what we think and believe is truly the baseline of our reality. So even through I knew this, it was hard to find thoughts that I could believe. Saying what you want to think in order to feel better, doesn’t necessarily work unless you can believe it. And believing is the hard part. Believing requires faith and faith is hard to obtain when you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Ep #17: It's Not All About YOU May 25, 2018

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You probably think this episode is about you, don’t you don’t you don’t you?

In this “selfie” society, and somewhat narcissistic generation on the rise, we are seeing more and more anxiety and depression. Anxiety and depression are triggered by all consuming thoughts about ourselves. When we think the world revolves around us.

One thing I’m really trying to get through my head is that everything is not about ME! As spiritual beings having a human experience we are constantly fighting against the tendencies of the natural man. In our efforts to discover ourselves by studying personal development and taking time for self care, we can create an accidental self absorbed reality.

It’s especially true as we go through our adolescent years. Our minds our consumed with, how do I look, what should I wear, I wonder what they think of me, am I popular, am I pretty, fun, smart, awesome? Everything people do and say becomes all about us.

I was just listening to Jody Moore’s Podcast, Better Than Happy and she did an episode about Mother’s Day, helping us all understand that although you are a mother, mother’s day is not about you. It’s about focusing on all the mothers in your own life, not waiting and hoping with high expectations that our spouse or kids will treat us extra special. We envision exactly what we want from them, and each year we are left feel ing a little disappointed, well at least that’s been the case for me. We want flowers, gifts, breakfast in bed, and basically a day off from motherhood duties. Most the time I do get treated pretty awesome, but I realized I’ve set the bar pretty dang high.

Ep #16: I'm Freaking Jealous !!! May 16, 2018

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I think jealousy and resentment go hand in hand because first we experience jealousy, and usually it’s followed by a bit of resentment toward the person we are jealous of. Or resentment towards the life we’ve been dealt. Sometimes we want to blame others or blame our circumstances for not having everything we desire to have.

Junior high and high school is when I can remember experiencing the most jealousy.

Over the years I’ve learned how to manage my thoughts enough to work my way out of the emotion when ever it comes up. And believe me, it still comes up.

There was a time when I even had to limit the time I spent on social media because I noticed that I was always left with feelings of jealousy. Seeing pictures of other people attending an awesome party that I wasn’t invited to or noticing how influential another blogger is and wondering why I’m not gaining the same amount of traction.

Social media is a blessing and a curse. The answer is not to abandon social media all together, maybe it’s necessary for a time, but ultimately I think the answer is to learn the lesson. How can we overcome our envious nature? How can we stay in a place of peace and love for everyone? That is the big question. I’ve found plenty of tips and advice on the matter but I tell yah, it’s no easy task.

It’s human nature to want what others have. We recognize it in our own children as early as age two. They are happily playing with a particular toy until brother walks in with a different toy. Suddenly they must have THAT toy!!! The one they have just doesn’t seem as cool anymore. The psychology around it is that when someone else has something, it only SEEMS to be better than what we have because we don’t have it. The grass always seems greener until we get there and we realize it’s really not greener, just LOOKS greener from a distance.

I feel this happens to me a lot in business and blogging. I have big goals and constantly striving to reach new heights. But there is always someone that has achieved more, or seems to be doing it better than me.

“In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet.”

~Albert Schweitzer

In this episode I mention a YouTube video I made sharing my story, geared towards teenage girls. Check it out HERE.

Ep #15: What's Blocking You? May 09, 2018

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The reason our hearts become blocked is due to past experiences that caused us to feel pain, sadness, heartache, anger, ect. The heart becomes blocked as a result of fear. Fear is the root of it all. Instead of simply being an observer of our lives, we try to control it out of fear. Fear that we might suffer the same thing again. Our minds remember the pain and suffering, and the heart takes on the symptoms caused by fear.

Ep #14: Acceptance in Marriage May 02, 2018

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One thing I think has helped us most in our marriage and we touched on this a little in one of our previous episodes is acceptance. If you’re familiar with what Jody Moore teaches, you’ve probably heard her talk about the “manual”. She describes the manual as a set of beliefs, rules and expectations we bring into our marriages. The manuals are developed as a result of our upbringing, and the examples of relationships we are exposed to growing up. It’s what we believe a spouse is “supposed” to be instead of accepting each other exactly the way they are.

We want to be unapologetically real about what we think, authentic and open about mistakes we’ve made and how we’ve learned from them.

We’re getting better at allowing one another to be who we want to be instead of trying to fit each other into a mold.

It took Sean over 10 years to finally be open about the fact that he was married before me. Last summer we did a YouTube video about this. I think this was a huge step toward acceptance. Not only are we trying to accept one another, but we are also trying to accept ourselves and everything about what has made us who we are today.

Growing up with tremendous disfunction within my home I experienced a lot of shame. And one thing I learned that set me free from the shame is to be open about things. The more I shared what my life was REALLY like, the more I felt free from the bondage of shame. As I’ve studied shame a little more I’ve learned that shame only grows and triggers more shameful actions when you hide things.

Brene Brown says that shame only needs three things to grow. Secrecy, silence, and judgement.

So by learning this at such a young age, I’ve become an extremely open person when it comes to my life. I’m not afraid to share how crazy I am. Which reminds me, The other day I sent out an email to all the ladies on my email list. I was revisiting some of the content Sean and I have shared on marriage in the past. In the same sentence I was being open about the fact that I may or may not have scratched Sean once in a moment of rage. I wasn’t saying I was proud of it, only that I’m human and have weaknesses, but continue to learn and grow from each experience.

I had an unexpected response from one of my subscribers. She was absolutely disgusted with my actions and could NOT believe someone as crazy as me would dare give marriage advice.

I honestly think we learn the most from the crazies. Seriously, they’ve been to the dark side and back. I’m constantly reading books and listening to Podcasts by people who were once drug addicts, or struggled with severe depression, or were even homeless at one point. Those are the people who truly inspire me. People who can overcome such extreme circumstances and struggles. It’s amazing to me when you witness the growth and real change of another person. Not only does it allow others to say “me too” but it gives them a glimpse into what is possible for even the craziest of people.

Ep #13: Time Management Apr 25, 2018

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For as long as I can remember I’ve been obsessed with routines, schedules, notepads, day planners. The earliest I can remember creating my own schedule was when I was in 3rd grade. I remember writing out my daily routine and placing it on my neatly made bed. I was kind of a perfectionist. I liked things organized and tidy even as a 9 year old girl.

Motherhood has taught me sooo much about time management. I quickly learned that my idea of a perfect routine and clean house was not going to be the way I envisioned it to be. I’m constantly having to adapt to new routines and schedules.

Today I want to share 3 things I’ve learned when it comes to time management. And this applies to anyone, even if you’re not a mom. After I share these tips, then I’m going to walk you through what my week looks like, and how I’m able to accomplish all the things I want to accomplish each week.

Ep #12: When Other People Don't Support You Apr 18, 2018

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There comes a time in our process of reaching goals or making life changes that we get particularly vulnerable to other peoples opinions, or lack of support.

When we set out to change our lives or reach big goals. We start out extremely excited about what we are pursuing, only to find out it is much harder than we anticipated. We work like a dog, do everything we know how to do, and it doesn’t seem to be working. Not only do we become discouraged, but the people who we thought were supposed to be our biggest fans and expected to be the ones to lift us out of our slump and encourage us to keep going. Often times our cheer leaders are no where to be found. Instead we have people validating our own discouraging thoughts. This is the point where most people give up and quit.

Other peoples lack of support doesn’t mean they don’t love us and don’t want to see us succeed. It only means that maybe they don’t see the vision like you do. Or they don’t want to see you fall on your face or get hurt. Change in you is just as hard for others to accept as it is for you. Our brains like familiarity and comfort. We want things to stay the same.

Ep #11: One Size Doesn't Fit All Apr 12, 2018

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Today we wanted to share a little inside scoop of what life is like for us as members of the LDS church. We plan to get really honest and open about some of the things we’ve struggled with over the years and also what we’ve gained by being members of this church. I understand that not all of you are LDS but perhaps you’re just curious about what life REALLY looks as members of a church that once practiced polygamy.

Warning, this episode might stir up a bit of controversy, which as members of this church we are quite used to. Our intensions are in no may geared to bashing the church or our fellow members, but again, we plan to get really honest. Talk about some of the changes the church has made recently, and how we feel about the future of the mormon church.

Ep #10: Not Everyone Is Going To Like You Apr 04, 2018

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Ever since I can remember, I was determined to make sure everyone liked me. Which caused me to feel so much shame if I ever did or said anything that people disagreed with.

What I've learned is that not everyone is going to like you and that is absolutely okay. Also, other peoples opinions about you have nothing to do with you and has everything to do with them.

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