U Up?

Comedy
**U Up?**

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between – they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Latest Episodes:

Should I Respond To A Random Text From An Ex? Jul 01, 2020

Show notes

J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. Is it a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t respect where you're from? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a dog, a tongue, and some misplaced blame. Another emailer asks if she’s reading too much into her boyfriend choosing to buy a house without including her in the process. Then a listener writes in to ask about a series of confusing texts she got from a guy that broke things off over a year ago and is using Covid to get back into her good graces. Finally, they close things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone you’re dating to quit smoking.

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How Do I Get My Partner To Improve Without Insulting Them? Jun 24, 2020

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The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to ask how she can encourage her new boyfriend to address his earwax problem without making it a big deal. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who won’t have sex on the first date but is open to it the morning after. Another emailer asks how to feel about her boyfriend’s response to the Black Lives Matter protests. Should she be concerned about their compatibility if he’s not willing to post publicly about the movement? Then a listener asks whether or not premium options on dating apps actually give you a better chance of finding a partner. Is the ‘super like’ a turn on or an act of desperation? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including a debate about changing your name to please the person you’re with.

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Why Was My Ex Able To Move On So Fast And I Can’t? Jun 17, 2020

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J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way. What does it say about your former relationship when your ex moves on too fast? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves fresh sheets, embarrassing facial expressions, and a misunderstanding about the pillow. Then another emailer writes in about a new relationship that suddenly became long-distance due to the pandemic, derailing her plan to get serious and come out to her family. Next, a listener asks for advice dealing with a former fling that reached back out after a long period of no contact. Did she shut the door on the possibility to check back in with him to see where they stand? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who constantly ask if you washed your hands.

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Is It A Huge Mistake To Tell A Guy That You’re Open To Something Casual? Jun 10, 2020

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The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love say about your values? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a burning candle, an impromptu massage, and a huge misunderstanding. Then another emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should feel judged by a guy who called things off after she admitted to occasionally smoking weed. Next, an emailer asks why the guy she’s talking to is quick to respond to Snapchat messages but hesitant to take things to text. Did she make a mistake by telling him she was only looking for something casual? Finally, this week’s game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker features a debate about what kind of person actually wants to be on the show Four Weddings.

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Is It Okay To Ask Your Quarantine Fling Not To Hook Up With Others? Jun 03, 2020

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J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she just started seeing after he sent a screenshot that ‘accidentally’ included a popped up snapchat with another girl’s name. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing pair of testicles and a doctor’s explanation. Another emailer asks if it’s reasonable to ask a quarantine fling to remain exclusive for as long as you keep hooking up, even if you’re not actually dating. Next, they respond to a listener who is struggling to be happy for her friends getting engaged when her boyfriend hasn’t proposed after dating for much longer than other couples. Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a discussion about people who lose their phone when they’re drunk.

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Is This Relationship Real Or Just A Quarantine Distraction? May 27, 2020

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The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living apart once this all ends. They offer advice to a listener whose boyfriend moved in for just this reason on how to navigate the transition back to “normal” life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a guy who doesn’t know whether or not he’s circumcised. Is it a huge red flag if your partner doesn’t know their own anatomy? Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should be alarmed that the guy she just started seeing hasn’t mentioned that he was married before. Another listener asks whether or not the quarantine-hookup in her building is using his past relationship as a cop out for getting more serious. Is it possible that he’s genuinely not ready for a relationship, or is she just a quarantine distraction? Finally, they finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about dating with strict food restrictions.

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Is It Okay To Like Photos Of Your Friend’s Ex? May 20, 2020

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Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she was DMing with never called or texted when she gave him her number. Was she too eager to take the next step or is she just overthinking things? Another listener asks how to start a conversation about finances during quarantine with her significant other. Is it fair to ask your partner to take on more of the financial burden when you lose your job? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about whether or not it’s weird to have a roommate of the opposite sex.

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Should Couples Stop Moving In Together Before Getting Engaged? May 13, 2020

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The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at her for not wanting to meet up in person during quarantine. Another emailer asks if it’s a bad idea to go straight from living in your parents’ house to living with your boyfriend. Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a conversation about people who get angry at strangers who aren't social-distancing.

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Who Gets To Decide Where You Quarantine As A Couple? Ft. Mark Manson May 06, 2020

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J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, to talk about his new audiobook Love Is Not Enough. They start with a conversation about the concept of ‘f*ck yes or no’ and why sometimes it’s best for people to just admit it’s time to move on. Together, they answer another emailer’s question about a guy she’s been seeing during the pandemic, and whether or not it will all end the moment quarantine is over. Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about someone you dated adding you on LinkedIn.

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How To Tell If You’re Bored In Your Relationship Or Just Bored Of Quarantine Apr 29, 2020

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The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quarantine even though she’s not comfortable with her roommate having friends over. Is this a double standard, or is she in the right to see it as two separate things? Then another listener asks for help with texts from a guy who keeps flaking on her but continues to ask for another chance. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about dating someone who has never left their hometown.

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