U Up?

Comedy
**U Up?**

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between – they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Latest Episodes:

Should I Reach Back Out To Someone Who Ghosted Me? Sep 27, 2020

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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s texts after she stopped getting messages from a guy she liked. Did he stop responding because of the pandemic, or because he didn’t want to see her anymore? Plus, they talk about when it’s appropriate to shoot your shot one last time.

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Can You Ask Someone To Delete Your Nudes After You Break Up? Sep 23, 2020

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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a listener writes in to share her concerns about an ex holding onto the pictures she sent while they were dating, and asks whether or not she should just ask him to delete them altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a friendly hookup, a used tampon, and a Gatorade bottle. Then another emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her partner to continue with their plans for marriage and kids even during a pandemic. Is it okay to admit that your biological clock is not pandemic proof? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about social media turn offs.

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How Detailed Should A Breakup Text Be After Just A Few Dates? Sep 20, 2020

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On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange about pandemic comfort levels and going your separate ways. Then they decide whether or not this guy mansplained his overly detailed excuse for why he doesn’t see things working out.

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Can You Ever Assume You’re In A Relationship With Someone Without Having “The Talk”? Sep 16, 2020

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J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what to do. Then a listener writes in to ask how to keep the new guy she’s dating from losing interest in her when he goes on vacation. Is he bound to forget about her if she doesn’t make an effort to keep his attention? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a daring maneuver, a missed target, and an embarrassing fall off the bed. Then another listener emails to ask whether or not the relationship labels conversation needs to be explicit. Is it fair to assume you can call each other boyfriend and girlfriend without first discussing it? Finally, they finish with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone who wants to be an influencer.

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How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Spend More Time With Me? Ft. Dr. Naomi Bernstein (Jordana’s Sister) Sep 13, 2020

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On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about the biggest challenges couples have been facing since the pandemic began. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should insist her partner cut back on his recreational spending so that they can save more for their future home. Is it fair to expect him to sacrifice the same way she does? Finally, an emailer asks if it’s normal for her boyfriend to continue staying at his family’s vacation home even though they just moved in together. Is it fair to ask him to spend more time at home so that she doesn’t feel so lonely?

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Why Does He Keep Texting Me If He Won’t Make A Date? Sep 09, 2020

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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be concerned that her boyfriend refuses to share his social media passwords, especially considering that he has been caught texting other women in the past. Should it be assumed that you share passwords in your relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a neck injury and a massage gun. Then another emailer is frustrated that the guy she has been talking to is only a late-night texter and refuses to acknowledge that he won’t make time for her during the day. Is it time to call it quits or should she continue to pursue a relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about sharing a dog with an ex.

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How Do You Signal To A Guy That It’s Okay To Approach You In Public? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat Sep 06, 2020

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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg of Girls Gotta Eat podcast. They start with an update on Ashley and Rayna’s dating lives, including tips for signaling to guys that it’s okay to approach you in public. Plus, they talk about hooking up during quarantine and posting IG stories that are targeted at one person in particular. Then a listener writes in to ask whether it’s fair for her brother to request that she stop dating his close friend. Should she continue the relationship or respect her brother’s feelings? Finally, they close out the show with a great game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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Is It A Red Flag If Someone Expresses Strong Feelings Right Away? Sep 02, 2020

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J&J start the week with a discussion about differing pandemic precaution levels in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask how she should handle her boyfriend’s stress level and anxiety when she still wants to maintain a social life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a lit candle, a poorly positioned pillow, and a moment of panic. Then another emailer asks what it means if a guy shows too much interest too early. Should she be concerned that he expressed strong feelings at the beginning, or should she take it as a positive sign? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, which leads to a conversation about buying expensive gifts when you’re newly dating.

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The One Where We Talk About Indian Matchmaking Ft. Aparna Shewakramani Aug 30, 2020

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On this Sunday’s episode, the J’s are joined by Aparna Shewakramani of the hit Netflix series Indian Matchmaking. They start out with an explanation of how real world matchmaking differs from the way it was presented on the show. Plus, Aparna talks about why her preferences were ignored, how the public has reacted to her portrayal, and what her dating life is like right now. Finally, they close the show with a surprisingly forgiving round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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Should I Be Worried That My Boyfriend Won’t Talk About Marriage? Aug 26, 2020

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The J’s start this week with a conversation about post-engagement nerves and the way people reacted to the news that Jordana is getting married. Plus, Jordana makes another exciting announcement. Then a listener writes in to ask if her own boyfriend will ever come around to the idea of marriage, and whether or not she needs to just move on. How long should you wait for someone to get on the same page about marriage? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves begrudging oral sex, a hair in the throat, and an overly dramatic response. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a heated debate about how to properly give directions to your partner in the car.

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