U Up?

Comedy
**U Up?**

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between – they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Latest Episodes:

Why Would An Ex Swipe Right On My Dating Profile? Dec 06, 2020

Show notes

This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a sign that he still wants to see her? Plus, they explain why a guy would reignite a connection and the implications it has for where things are going.

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Is It Okay To Judge Someone You're Dating By Their Friend Group? Dec 02, 2020

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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emailer who wants to know if she is free to leave the apartment if her boyfriend tests positive for coronavirus. Is this a passive aggressive way of fighting with your partner or just a practical question about staying healthy? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a marching band hook up and a drummer with too much rhythm. Then another listener asks how to deal with dating a new guy who has different political opinions, especially when his friends are at odds with hers. Should she respect his desire to avoid political conversations with his friends and is it fair for him to judge her by the company she keeps? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about requesting a selfie before going on a first date.

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These Are The Signs You Shouldn’t Go On That First Date Nov 29, 2020

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This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock it in. Should you hold your ground and pass on the date or just go through with it? Plus, does this indicate that no one wants to go on the date in the first place, or is it just a matter of miscommunication? They discuss the dynamics of getting out of a first date and why we often struggle with the decision.

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Do I Have a Right To Ask The Guy I'm Seeing Why He's Following Girls On Instagram? Nov 25, 2020

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Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relationship. Then an emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her new boyfriend to be as thoughtful as her when it comes to gift giving. How do you ask your partner to do something when it's not in their nature? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a faulty vibrator and a startled cat. Then another listener asks if she should be worried that the guy she started talking to again is consistently following new girls on Instagram each day. Is he telling other women the same things he’s telling her, or is this just harmless social media behavior? Finally, the show closes with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what you should do if you find the wrong color strand of hair in your partner’s bed.

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Is It Worse To Be A Cynical Dater Or A Naive Dater? Nov 22, 2020

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On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text explaining why he wants to just be friends. Why would a guy go to the trouble of spilling his guts over text if it’s not going to be a romantic connection? Plus, they explain why he felt the need to treat their text exchange like a therapy session and how she should react.

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How Soon Should You Expect To Get Daily Messages From A Person You Started Dating? Nov 18, 2020

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The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his childhood crush turned into a quarantine fling, but now she went back home and is starting to ghost him. Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about whether or not you could date someone who considers their friendship with an ex to be a “package deal.”

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Does It Count As Cheating If He's Getting Nudes From Someone He Never Met? Nov 15, 2020

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To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the emailer found nudes in her boyfriend’s Snapchat messages and isn’t satisfied with his explanation. Should she give him the benefit of the doubt that he “didn’t know it was a real person” and cut things off after some back and forth? Plus, they talk about his history with cheating on an ex and whether or not she should hold it against him.

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Is It a Dealbreaker If Your Significant Other Won’t Get a Dog? Nov 11, 2020

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Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she’s been dating for cancelling plans at the last minute, even though she discovered the lie using his dating app location. How much deception should we ignore early in the dating process? Plus, another emailer asks if using the dating app geo-locator after matching with someone counts as spying. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween hookup and a chance run-in with his parents the next morning. Next, a listener asks whether or not she should be concerned that her long-term boyfriend is talking about getting a dog even though she doesn't approve. Does this mean that he’s not thinking of her as being part of his life in the future? Finally, they close things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about whether or not you should date a former reality show contestant.

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Should I Keep Talking To Someone Who's In An Open Relationship? Nov 08, 2020

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On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who turned out to be in a relationship. Why would he like all of her photos and watch her IG stories if he is already with someone? They talk about connecting over a kinky dating app, and discuss whether or not this guy is just being up front about his open relationship, or shutting her down entirely.

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Where's the Line Between Being Shady and Wanting Privacy? Nov 04, 2020

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Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that the guy she matched with immediately asked to take the conversation off the app and to Instagram DM. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bunk bed, a bloody nose, and a sudden interruption. Then another listener asks if she should be concerned that her partner unplugged the dog camera when she wasn’t home. Should she be worried that he has something to hide, or is this a violation of his privacy? Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about splitting the check on a first date.

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