U Up?

Comedy
**U Up?**

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between – they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Latest Episodes:

Am I Allowed To Be Upset With My Partner About What They Did Before We Were Exclusive? Feb 19, 2020

Show notes

The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. Is it okay to call him out for who he was hanging with, or should she just leave it alone? Another listener writes in to ask how to avoid ending up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Will guys put you in a certain category if you hook up too soon? They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about ordering an Uber pool on a first date.

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Should You Expect A Valentine’s Day Date After A Month Of Dating? Feb 12, 2020

Show notes

J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group chat. Then, an emailer sends in a deal reveal involving a guy who keeps trying to suggest a group-date scenario after only one drink together. Another listener asks whether or not she should be okay with her longterm boyfriend going on a solo-vacation to South America. Is it a sign that they’re not in the same place in the relationship and should break up? Finally, they play a round of Valentine’s Day-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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When Is It Time To Admit Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working? Feb 05, 2020

Show notes

The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap.

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Should I Come Clean About My Past On A First Date? Ft. Jordana’s Sister Jan 29, 2020

Show notes

J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together.

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Is It A Bad Sign If My Partner Still Talks About Their Ex? Ft. Luann de Lesseps Jan 22, 2020

Show notes

The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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Why Do So Many Daters End Things At The Three Month Mark? Jan 15, 2020

Show notes

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange.

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What Should You Do If You Find Out Your Partner Cheated On Their Ex? Jan 08, 2020

Show notes

The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down.

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How Do I Break The Cycle of Hooking Up With a Guy Who Won’t Date Me? Jan 01, 2020

Show notes

Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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How Do I Handle A Guy Who Tries to Make It Too Sexual Too Fast? Dec 25, 2019

Show notes

Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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Is It Important To Show Off The Person You’re Dating On Social Media? Dec 18, 2019

Show notes

J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule.

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