Triggered AF

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S6 EP6: It's Never Too Late | Maya Elious May 09, 2023

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Once we hit a certain age or phase in life, a lot of us begin to restrict ourselves, believing some things are just off-limits. From motherhood to dating to starting over in our careers, we are counting ourselves out. But why?!

In this episode, business coach and CEO of Built To Impact, Maya Elious, discusses why it's never too late to be exactly who you are destined to be! We just need to be a little bit delusional, a tad more accepting, and a lot more mindful. So tune in, get uncomfortable, and start shifting your perspective to believe in new opportunities at every stage, every phase, and every age of your life!

KEY POINTS:

- Are you counting yourself out too early?

- Finding a balance between delusion and acceptance

- "Sometimes we fight so hard to keep our limitations."

- How to start trusting your own voice

- Why you need to be mindful of who you get advice from

- Navigating dating in different phases of life

- Stop limiting your abundance!

QUOTABLES:

"If you have breath in your lungs, you have purpose in your life, and you are valuable." - Maya Elious

"There are some things that are possible. But is it purposeful? I think we need to really just ask ourselves, what is God's purpose for me right now in this season?" - Maya Elious

"You will eat yourself alive trying to live in regret and stay in a situation so long because you feel like you've invested all of this time." - Maya Elious

GUEST RESOURCES:

Maya Elious

Mayaelious.com

IG | instagram.com/mayaelious

IG | instagram.com/builttoimpact

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S6 EP5: Waiting for Perfect | L'Oreal Thompson Payton May 02, 2023

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For many people, especially those of color, we're taught never to show our underbelly - never to move forward with anything until it's perfect. It's almost ingrained in us to wait for perfection before we make a move, which, in reality, only results in delays and sometimes even forfeitures. So how can we get out of our own way and stop waiting for perfection?

In this episode, author and award-winning journalist L'Oreal Thompson Payton gets triggered as she talks about what it means to wait for perfect, how it affects us, how it shows up in our lives, and what we can do about it. From her fertility journey to COVID lockdowns to writing her first book, tune in as L'Oreal shares her experiences with perfectionism, and when it hurt her as well as served her.

KEY POINTS:

- How L'Oreal's fertility journey taught her to release control

- Steps to overcome the need for perfection

- The connection between procrastination and perfection

- "Done is better than perfect."

- Releasing perfectionism in your relationships

- Why we need to learn how to rest

- Can perfectionism ever be useful?

QUOTABLES:

"You can't control life. You can do your best, and you can show up, and you can try again. But you can't be perfect all the time. Nor should you." - L'Oreal Thompson Payton

"Perfect is the enemy of good. As Black women, we have been conditioned from the womb to work twice as hard to get half as much." - L'Oreal Thompson Payton

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L'Oreal Thompson Payton

ltinthecity.com

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S6 EP4: Body Liberation | Chrissy King Apr 25, 2023

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Chrissy King spent nearly a decade of her life yo-yo dieting and being consumed by her weight, equating her worth with her appearance. But when Chrissy finally reached her smallest size and strongest body, she was the most miserable she had ever been as an adult. And with this, The Body Liberation Project was born.

Taking back control of the narrative around our bodies, tune in as Chrissy and your Triggered hosts share their experiences with body image, self-worth, and how you can become so liberated in your body that it becomes a force for good.

KEY POINTS:

- How the Eurocentric standard of beauty has affected the way we see ourselves

- The rise of diet culture and the quick-fix mentality

- Why we need to be mindful and curate our social media following

- Steps to repair our sense of self-worth

- What inspired The Body Liberation movement?

- Is size a real metric of health?

QUOTABLES:

"Body image is not a one-time situation. It's something that is a lifelong journey, especially because we're going to keep getting these messages that tell us something is wrong with us." -Chrissy King

"If we are deriving our worthiness simply on how we look, it's impossible to feel worthy because this physical vessel is just the thing that's allowing us to have a human experience. And this vessel is going to change, regardless if we want it to or not." -Chrissy King

GUEST RESOURCES:

Chrissy King

Chrissyking.com

IG | instagram.com/iamchrissyking

FB | facebook.com/ChrissyKingFitness

Twitter | twitter.com/iamchrissyking

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S6 EP3: The Magic of Surrender | Kute Blackson Apr 18, 2023

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The idea of surrendering or relinquishing control can be scary for a lot of us. Especially after COVID, when many of our senses of identity were shaken - losing jobs, loved ones, and things we long identified with. So in this episode, transformational speaker, visionary, and guide Kute Blackson gets triggered as he debunks the misconception of surrender and reveals its true magic.

Tune in as Kute invites you to let go and release expectations, goals, and visions that do not genuinely align with your soul. And to understand that when things don't go according to plan, this is the true love of the universe.

KEY POINTS:

- How to release unaligned expectations and identities

- "You cannot miss your destiny."

- Learning to trust divine timing

- Allow yourself time to grieve what was in order to move on

- The role of our ego versus our soul

- When things don't work out, get curious

- Why surrender is the most powerful thing we can do

- What does true surrender look like?

QUOTABLES:

"Sometimes the goal itself that we're pursuing is not necessarily truly authentic with what is in alignment for our soul, the highest intention. And so sometimes things don't manifest, because, to me, this is the universe's way of course correcting you to dig deeper." - Kute Blackson

"Surrender is the password to freedom. Surrender, for me, is the key to the next level of life. Surrender is the real secret to true, limitless manifestation." - Kute Blackson

"I believe that when you follow your soul, and you truly surrender without conditions, you will always end up in the right place." - Kute Blackson

GUEST RESOURCES:

Kute Blackson

Kuteblackson.com

boundlessblissbali.com

IG | instagram.com/kuteblackson

FB | facebook.com/kuteblackson

Find The Magic of Surrender book on Amazon: amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let-ebook

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S6 EP2: Getting Choosy | Alechia & Dani Apr 11, 2023

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"Your boyfriend is keeping you from your husband sis!"

In this episode, Alechia and Dani want you to start dating well AF. And for that to happen, it's time to get choosy!

Now we aren't talking about out-of-this-world expectations or superficial and unrealistic standards. In this episode, your Triggered hosts ask you to get intentional and dive into what it takes to get the partner you desire and know you have the power to do so.

So lean in and take notes. It's time to get clear on what you want and stand in the power to get it!

KEY POINTS:

- Is there a time limit on how long it takes to get married?

- How and when do you communicate your desires in a relationship?

- Being vocal versus thirsty

- What does it really mean to get choosy?

- Get clear on your must-haves, nice-to-haves, and non-negotiables

- "If he wants to, he will"

QUOTABLES:

"I don't believe in the float. I float in water, not in my relationships."

"If you want to be married, if you want a serious, committed relationship, don't be afraid to vocalize that for fear of losing something that you don't have anyways."

"You have to get clear. Clarity informs your decisions, and your decisions inform your choices. And that is how you get what you want, ultimately."

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S6 EP1: Insecure | Alechia & Dani Apr 04, 2023

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As much as we talk about vulnerability, your Triggered AF ladies have never dedicated an episode to their own insecurities. So to kick off Season 6, Alechia and Dani get honest about some of their personal struggles and things they've had to work through in hopes of helping you do the same.

So join the conversation as your hosts pull back the curtain and acknowledge some of their very real insecurities on their path to understanding and overcoming them.

KEY POINTS:

- Are you insecure or do you have insecurities?

- Alechia and Dani share their insecurities

- Is your circle feeding your insecurities?

- Acknowledging and overcoming your insecurities

QUOTABLES:

"The main thing is not to let your insecurities rule and control and debilitate you. That is the main problem. We all have them. But some of us are wallowing in insecure waters at all times."

"At some point, it can't just be everybody else's fault. At some point, I am going to do one thing or something to help change what my experience will be."

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S5 EP18: The Gift in Trauma | Phoenix Jackson Feb 28, 2023

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Trauma can bring us an immense amount of pain, but it can also be a beautiful gift if we allow it to be. In this Season Finale episode of Triggered AF, Alechia and Dani welcome Phoenix Jackson, an impact entrepreneur and strategist, to talk about trauma in a different light. Tune in as Phoenix shares her personal journey of healing and spirituality, leaving the environments that caused her trauma, studying different spiritual systems, and ultimately finding Buddhism as the one that forced her to dive into herself. Discover the power of meditation and self-reflection in healing, and the need for forgiveness as Phoenix shares how she used her trauma as a gift to transform her life. So join in on the conversation as your hosts & Phoenix offer a fresh perspective on trauma and the ways in which it can be used as a tool for growth and transformation. KEY POINTS: - Trauma as an opportunity for growth and transformation - Tapping into the power of Sisterhood and female friendships - Defining ourselves beyond external titles and accolades - Having a trusted advisor or consigliere when navigating personal and professional challenges. - Removing yourself from unhealthy environments and seeking alternative spiritual paths - The difficult and unglamorous journey of confronting and processing trauma QUOTABLES:

"Real healing is simply sitting in the energy that is stuck within your body...it's like dissecting all of that to sit with your own self. That's healing and that is never pretty."

"What do you get out of trauma? What is the gift? And if you cannot avoid it, how can you get something positive out of it that transforms your life?"

"The biggest lesson for me is that when we're in a state of transition or change, it's important to be still and listen to our intuition and inner voice."

GUEST RESOURCES:

Phoenix Jackson

IG | @phoenix_jackson_ instagram.com/phoenix_jackson_

https://hy.page/phoenixaffect

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S5 EP17: Real Love | Sybil Amuti Feb 21, 2023

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Grab your besties for this episode, because Alechia and Dani dive into the world of heartbreak, relationships, and self-love with Host of The Great Girlfriends Podcast, Sybil Amuti.

Tune in as your ladies share how they navigate the world once again after being burned one too many times by the ones we love - how do we reconcile with ourselves and the ones who've hurt us? How do we let love back into our lives once more? Are we running towards love, joy, and devotion, or running away from trauma, hurt, and pain?

Your hosts and Sybil get vulnerable about all that and more in this episode, so join in on the conversation and take the first steps into opening yourself up to real love in ways you've never done before.

KEY POINTS:

- Who you are is your superpower

- What it means to truly and fully love yourself

- How do we overcome the fear of getting hurt?

- Are you running away or running towards something?

- Just because you are healing does not mean you are unlovable

- Creating your circle of Great Girlfriends

QUOTABLES:

"God created the universe to work in support of whatever we humans decide."

"What you do has not been done until you do it"

"Is it because I was running from something I never wanted to be? Or am I walking into who I am becoming? "

GUEST RESOURCES:

Sybil Amuti

IG: https://www.instagram.com/sybil_amuti/?hl=en

The Great Girlfriends

https://thegreatgirlfriends.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/thegreatgirlfriends/?hl=en

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S5 EP16: Dating Well AF | Corvaya Jeffries Feb 14, 2023

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Dating is such a brave endeavor, let alone dating in front of a national audience - exactly what Corvaya Jeffries did on OWNTV's reality dating show "Ready to Love." And in this episode, she shares her experience, not only on television but as a single woman in Miami in Triggered AF's first LIVE Q&A episode.

So tune in as Alechia, Dani, and Corvaya discuss everything from non-negotiables to online dating to dating strategies so that you can start dating well AF.

KEY POINTS:

- Overcoming personal obstacles when dating

- What are your non-negotiables?

- You have options! Open your mind

- How do you get him to take the next step?

- Is sex on the first date a bad idea?

- Online dating - quality versus quantity

QUOTABLES:

"I think the lesson here and something I want to share with listeners and viewers is you have a choice. You can choose, and men choose us all the time."

"Time is the only teacher. Time is what's going to get you where you need to be. So you need to have grace. You need to stroke yourself with a feather, not a whip, and give yourself time."

"When a man is true about you, is supposed to be in your life, whether it's for a season or whether it's forever, there's nothing about you that's going to be too much or too little for him."

GUEST RESOURCES:

Corvaya Jeffries

IG | instagram.com/corvaya

Twitter | twitter.com/corvayajeffries

FB | facebook.com/corvayajeffries

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S5 EP15: Black Goodness | Tré Thomas Feb 07, 2023

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Too many times we hear so many negatives around Black men. In the media, Black men are often depicted as violent, hypersexual, or even lazy. And your hosts are TRIGGERED!

In an effort to combat these false narratives, Alechia and Dani bring some Black goodness into the world and welcome talent manager and business developer Tré Thomas. So tune in and tap in to some good Black male energy and learn a bit more about the Black male experience and how we can love and support them better.

KEY POINTS:

- How Tré disrupts the narrative

- Rebranding the "Black man"

- The impact of negative stereotypes

- "Black women have had my back."

- Why you need to love yourself first

- Men have emotions! Communicate and nurture them

QUOTABLES:

"I like to be disruptive. So I'm going to change the narrative. You're gonna see an educated black man. You're gonna see a businessman. You're gonna see me in rooms that you probably never expected me to be in."

"I don't want us to change who we are. I want us to go harder."

GUEST RESOURCES:

Tré Thomas

IG | instagram.com/tre__thomas

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