Triggered AF

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How to Enjoy Better Sex Feb 21, 2024

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Channeling your inner sex goddess is the key to achieving more orgasms.

50% of women have never experienced an orgasm while 95% of men have. Not only is that unfair, it doesn't have to be that way and we have the solution.

When's the last time you tapped into you to unlock your full orgasmic potential? The goddess in you is always there, watching, waiting, and rooting you on. So many of us are so used to faking, we have no idea what it means to actually experience pleasure. Enter the chat, Samia Burton, entrepreneur, Hands on Sexual Educator and the host of "Not Just Another Podcast", whose mission is to guide us back to our "yoni" to unleash its power so we can live in our divine feminine. Samia doesn't shy away from those uncomfortable conversations that are absolutely necessary to move the needle forward in our intimate relationships. She reveals just how long it takes for the body to warm up and be ready for intercourse and tells us about erogenous zones you would never guess. If you're looking for ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship, marriage, or even yourself - listen to this episode STAT. Samia provides a perspective so fresh and so tantalizing you'll be eager to try out some of her suggestions to spice things up a bit. This episode is for grown folk only. Trigger warning as we do discuss sexual assault. If you've felt disconnected from your body and ultimately your sexuality due to unfortunate circumstances, Samia opens up in a way we hope you find both affirming and healing. We're bringing sexy back so that we have more love, more sex and more Big Os.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

"Pleasure is your birthright."
It's not weird to schedule sex, it may be necessary.
Men deserve more foreplay and sensuality on a regular basis.
You teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.
Learn how to have tough conversations about sex with your partner to improve intimacy.
Have an open mind and be willing to try new things in the bedroom to increase overall pleasure.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Samia Burton

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA-BSvFkTnaVwq0KLxbyR4w

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miabuggzy/?hl=en

Website: https://thesexualessentials.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

Why Being Selfish is Actually a Good Idea Feb 13, 2024

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Being selfish might be just the thing you need to tap into your joy.

It's time to reframe what it means to be intentionally selfish in order to live the life you want.

When's the last time you were selfish? Better yet, when's the last time you were selfish without feeling guilty about it? It's high time we rebrand what it means to be selfish and what it looks like to choose yourself more often. The days of endless self sacrificing and carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders are over. We are now entering our "Soft Life Era". On this week's episode we are joined by Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Psychotherapist, Trauma Specialist, and #1 Balance (and) Relationship Advisor in the World, Naketa Ren Thigpen, to help us all understand just how important it is to prioritize self care on a daily basis. From the mathematical formula to achieving balance to why selfish lovers are the best lovers. You've been selfless long enough. This is your official permission slip to be selfish.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-IM_4tqJ78g

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Learn to create the space for your joy, healing and forgiveness.
Start by coming into your body. Your body will tell you the truth.
It's ok to not explain yourself. "No" is a full sentence.
Admit the truth of what you really want.
Creating boundaries around your truth will help you achieve your reality.
When you are intentional about being selfish, your life becomes more juicy.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Naketa Ren Thigpen

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TLOshow

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/asknaketa

Website: https://thigpro.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

The Real Reason You Think Dating Is Trash Feb 06, 2024

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It's time to learn how to recognize, accept and align yourself with the partner you desire.

Are you confused and frustrated out here in these dating streets? With the rise of social media and its impact on who, where and how we date, it's easy to get caught up in how love should look rather than what it actually is. As much as we all want love, are we really willing to do what it takes to obtain it, cultivate it and then sustain it for years to come? On this week's episode we are joined by psychotherapist, media personality, award-winning speaker and 5 time best-selling author, the "King of Breakthroughs", Jack A. Daniels, to help give us a compass and much needed direction on the journey to finding true love and keeping it. Oftentimes, women make the mistake of asking other women for advice about men. You know we like experts! From the three types of men women should NEVER date to the places where single women should NEVER live and what's keeping you loveless, we are getting the goods straight from the "horse's mouth." Tap into this week's episode if you are tired of coming up short in love and want this Valentine's Day to be the last one you spend alone. Don't say we never gave y'all nothing!

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KEjwWn8izD8

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

"We are all connected and what we do to others, we do to ourselves."
"Your 'list' could be what's keeping you loveless."
"Women who are seeking men should go out in pairs instead of packs."
Three types of men you shouldn't be dating: the Peacock, the Project and the Penis.
"Bad questions get bad answers...ask the hard questions."
Focus on values instead of valuables.
The more options you have, the less decisions you tend to make.
Social media is killing the mystery of women for men.
Most people cheat because they want something easy.
Love is connecting and reconnecting on a regular basis.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Jack A. Daniels

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JackDanielstv/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@JackADaniels

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jackdanielstv/?hl=en

Website: https://jackadaniels.com

https://wherethemenat.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

How to Manifest the Life You Want Jan 31, 2024

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Cracking the manifestation code is not nearly as difficult as you think!

It's time to learn how to raise your vibration to manifest your dream life.

Grab your scuba gear and put on your wetsuit for this episode because the ladies are going deep into the realm of frequencies. If you've been on this healing journey with us for some time, then you'll quickly recognize that this is THE episode if you're ready for the next level of your evolution. We have all heard talk of energy, vibration and frequencies but do we really understand how they actually function and affect us? On this week's episode we are joined by transformational speaker and "catalyst for rising consciousness," Karen Cheong, to unpack the ways in which we can raise our vibration to access higher frequencies so we can manifest the lives we want. Karen speaks about what she calls "distortion patterns" and how they prevent us from accessing frequencies that allow us to feel more connected to source, a higher power, God, whatever you call "the Divine." Distortion patterns keep us feeling stuck and helpless. Tap into this episode if you have been craving to go deeper but didn't want to go alone. We've got you covered! By the end of this episode you'll be asking yourself, "How can I become even more aware of my connection only to Source?"

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4pNNVj_QcSU

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

You will not be ok doing things that do not fulfill you.
We are all light vibrating at different rates.
Your rate of vibration is what dictates what things appear as.
Everything happens at the frequency level first, and then the slower, denser vibration, mirrors the higher vibrational level.
The beginning point of awakening is to recognize, to realize, to feel that you are greater than your physical self; that you are infinite, indestructible consciousness having an embodied experience.
Lower level stuff can not exist at higher vibrational frequencies..

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Karen Cheong

Free online workshop & meditation on how to quiet your mind https://sphericalluminosity.com/quietyourmind

Vlog/podcast "Mastering Your World Through Frequencies" which is free and has a specific GFC at the end of every episode:

https://www.sphericalluminosity.com/category/vlog/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/sphericalluminosity

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spherical_luminosity/?hl=en

Website: www.SphericalLuminosity.com

How to Manage ADHD Jan 23, 2024

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Navigating ADHD to learn how to work with your ADHD brain and not against it

It's estimated that ADHD affects more than 8 million adults (or up to 5% of Americans) and 6.1% of children. Unfortunately, many people don't even know they have it. For decades, people with ADHD have been ignored, dismissed and even derided. As one of the most misunderstood diagnoses, it's easy for ADHD to be treated like a joke or a superpower, even though it's neither. On this week's episode we are joined by the NYT best selling author of "How to ADHD", Jessica McCabe. We dive into everything from how the brain of a person with ADHD works to how their loved ones can better understand and support them. Jessica opens up about what it was like to be the one with "potential" who could never quite bring it to fruition. After years of reaching out to experts, devouring articles, and sharing her discoveries on YouTube, Jessica has been able to bring a new perspective to the masses (her TED Talk has been viewed 19 million times) about what it means to live with ADHD. Tap into this week's episode if you have ADHD or love someone with it for some great tips on how to navigate it successfully.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

ADHD is not a joke or a superpower.
Make space for hyperfocus but install guardrails in your mind to stay on track.
Studies have shown that ADHD may be polygenetic.
Pills don't teach skills. Simply medicating your child is not enough.
Instead of telling someone to "calm down", try telling them to "slow down."
Try to work with your unique brain rather than fight against it.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Jessica McCabe

Website: https://howtoadhd.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/howtoadhd

TedxTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/jessica_mccabe_this_is_what_it_s_really_like_to_live_with_adhd_jan_2017?language=en

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoadhd/?hl=en

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

Navigating Identity and Race as a Biracial Woman in a Changing World Jan 16, 2024

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How to own the power in your differences

What does it mean to grow up as 'other'? Whether it's due to being biracial or mixed race and never feeling like you fit in or it's because you don't share the same interests as other members in your culture, it's totally normal to feel like you don't belong. Triggered AF is joined by the CEO and Founder of The Curvy, Curly, Conscious Movement, wellness influencer and meditation enthusiast, Shelah Marie. Growing up as the only black woman in her household presented a set of challenges that helped Shelah develop a sense of curiosity and wonder, ultimately leading to a yearning for more … more play, more answers, more freedom. Shelah shares everything from advice on the one thing white parents should NEVER say to their black children to why she decided to create a safe space for black women. It's not enough to just be weird or different, you should amplify your quirks and the things that make you 'other' — it's your superpower. Tap into this week's episode to learn how you can attract your tribe and create a family that accepts and loves you exactly the way you are. Why blend in when you were born to stand out, baby?!

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/pu3iz9rLbNM

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

Quote of the Week

"It's really important to share the idea that being different might feel like a problem at the time, but ultimately diversity is a strength." - Carson Kressley

Dating Well AF Tip

Always remember the three R's of new relationships: respect one another, revel in the wonder, and reach out with kindness every chance you get.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Ego and selfishness in moderation can be a good thing.
Don't ever say "I don't see race" to your biracial children as a non-black parent.
It's better to be a part of "salad" than it is to be in a "melting pot".
Amplify everything that makes you not fit in. It will become your superpower.
Being your true self will allow you to attract your tribe and create your chosen family.
When navigating being biracial, it's important to make peace with and embrace both sides of yourself to reduce confusion and anger.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Shelah Marie

Website: https://www.shelahmarie.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshelahmarie/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshelahmarie/

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

Doing Business with Friends Jan 10, 2024

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How to Keep the Friendship While Building the Business

"Friends and business don't mix." How many times have you heard that? How many times have you actually tried it? While we agree that mixing business and friendship isn't for everybody, the right combination of the two can be a game changer. Having been friends for over 15 years and business partners for almost 3 years, we know how challenging it can be to start a business while maintaining the dynamic that brought you together in the first place. Whether it's doing weekly check-ins, going out for drinks or having difficult conversations to hold each other accountable, it's important to always prioritize the friendship so that the business can thrive and flow. There is just something so special about embarking on a journey of entrepreneurship with a friend who you can weather the storms with and celebrate the victories with. You can always expect some gems and some laughs but this time there were some tears dropped as well. Tap into this episode for the dos and don'ts of how to keep the friendship while building a business. Not only is it possible, it's beautiful.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Qa4ndfob210

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

Quote of the Week

"A good friend is a connection to life — a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world." — Lois Wyse

Dating Well AF Tip

"Date multiple people at the same time." It allows you to keep your head in the game.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Your personal life impacts your business life.
Talk to your business partner often to ensure you are always on the same page.
Be open and willing to take feedback regularly without feeling attacked.
Root and anchor your business in your purpose instead of doing it only for profit or recognition.
Sacrifice is a part of success, something will have to give.
Learn to be okay with reciprocity looking different but being equal.

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

How to Overcome Sexual Abuse Jan 03, 2024

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Owning Your Power Through Challenges

About 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 13 boys in the United States experience child sexual abuse and we are almost certain that the number is far higher since many victims don't ever come forward. Unfortunately, someone known and trusted by the child or child's family members, perpetrates 91% of child sexual abuse. How do victims of child sexual abuse move forward to lead full, healthy lives? Is that even possible? According to Alreen Haeggquist, lawyer and author of "Fired Up: Fueling Triumph from Trauma", with a great deal of work, healing and deep empathy, it is absolutely feasible. While it's common to focus on the heinous acts, many people neglect to acknowledge the lifelong effects these acts may have on the victims. Alreen founded her firm, Haeggquist & ECK LLP, in San Diego in 2008, to help women find their voice and stand up for themselves while providing tools to aid them on their journey to wholeness. Tap in to this episode to hear Alreen's heart-wrenching story and her path to triumph.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/dasZ4WbVlQ4

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

Quote of the Week

"The ability to say no to yourself is a gift. If you can resist your urges, change your habits, and say yes to only what you deem truly meaningful, you'll be practicing healthy self-boundaries. It's your responsibility to care for yourself without excuses." ― Nedra Glover Tawwab

Dating Well AF Tip

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Trust your gut!
Teach children about "stranger danger" but also teach them about "tricky people".
The incorrect response of the adult can greatly negatively impact the child by retraumatizing them.
We are conditioned to be silent about our pain and trauma.
Once you have been abused, you are more likely to be abused again by multiple people.
Studies have shown that there may be a link between child sexual abuse and illnesses like autoimmune diseases and fibroids.
While an apology might be nice, empathy and working on your own healing, is the key to forgiving yourself and your abuser.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Alreen Haeggquist

Linkedin | https://www.linkedin.com/in/alreen-haeggquist/

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/alreen/

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/alreenh/

Website: https://www.alreen.com/

Book: https://www.alreen.com/book/ (Fired Up: Fueling Trauma From Triumph)

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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How to Heal Deep Trauma Dec 26, 2023

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Using psychedelics to heal deep trauma requires surrender. Your healing comes in states of surrender. And surrender is the most powerful position we can possibly put ourselves in. Digging into our healing requires us to feel safe. Exploring this type of healing should not be ventured into without support, proper research, and a trained professional. We talked about everything from micro-dosing, exploring the creator, and the masses avoiding what is misunderstood. Tap into the episode to learn more now.

Watch the conversation on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/vq8fMPCLQmI

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

Quote of the Week

Healing doesn't mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives. ― Akshay Dubey

Dating Well AF Tip

"Give yourself permission to heal from the same thing more than once." – Alex Elle

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

The only way to heal the next generation is to take off our masks and really be vulnerable with the next generation, not hiding our mistakes, but also telling the messy parts.
Most of us don't embrace change until we hit rock bottom.
Your healing comes in states of surrender.
You will have to deal with your triggers and traumas in order to live a full life.
To heal deep trauma requires you to reopen the wound

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Nicholas Jordan Moore

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/nicholasjordanmoore/

Website: https://vulnerabilitybook.com

Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CH2B9PWG

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

How to Overcome Shame Dec 19, 2023

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Naming Our Demons: How to Overcome Shame

The more stories you collect the more clogged your meaning-making machine can be. Many times, this prevents us from moving through our emotions as quickly. Sitting down with Shaun Derik, affectionately known as, Internet Jesus, we took a deep dive into the things we hide, the shade we throw, and the actions that aren't as becoming. One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly. Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long. Tap into the episode to help develop your tools to get there.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SA07wbeF05I

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

Quote of the Week

"Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it — it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy." - Brené Brown

Dating Well AF Tip

"Learning how to identify and manage how you respond to your triggers helps you to breathe through your triggers so you can think."

STEP #1: Write down 10 of your triggers. Then on a scale of 1(mild reaction)-10(Blowing shit up), rate each one.

STEP #2: For all 6+ ratings, write out your usual or default reaction.

STEP #3: For all 6+ ratings, create new alternative reactions or defaults.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

How you're feeling is not always an indication of how you're doing.
Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long.
One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly.
Working through shame can be achieved by asking yourself "why?" Getting down to the why behind your decisions and choices helps you overcome your shame around them.
Different people have different access to learning tools so you cannot hold judgment for them based on your growth and resources.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Shaun Derik

Instagram | http://instagram.com/shaunderik

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@shaunderik

Website: https://beacons.ai/shaunderik

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com