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Emma’s always been told she’s, “too much” and now, she’s done apologizing for it. From NY to LA and back again, she’s lived a thousand lives and if there’s anything she’s learned, it’s to be unapologetically yourself. Every Tuesday, Emma is getting raw and real about everything from f*ckups and breakups, thriving (and surviving) in your 20s and 30s, how to be the best version of yourself and so much more. So grab a drink, because we’re going down the rabbit hole…

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My weekend with Zac Efron Aug 26, 2025

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Running on three hours of sleep, possible vertigo, and zero filter — this episode goes straight down the rabbit hole of making the first move. Why is it so terrifying to walk up to someone you’re interested in? From caveman survival instincts to modern-day gender norms, Emma breaks down the psychology behind fear of rejection, overthinking, and why we all get stuck in the “what if” loop.

But here’s the twist — sometimes shooting your shot can lead to the wildest rewards. Case in point: the infamous Zac Efron story you’ve all been begging Emma to retell. Yes, it involves spilled drinks, secret hallways, a Gabriella Montez dance performance, and a weekend that changed everything.

We’re talking confidence, reciprocity, proximity, and why the regret of not trying will always sting worse than a no. Whether you’re a guy paralyzed by the fear of being “creepy”, a girl told making the first move makes you “too much,” or just someone sick of waiting to be approached — this is your pep talk to stop sitting on the sidelines of your own life.

It's time to apply Emma's tips to get what you've always wanted. Worse case scenario, you hear a "no." Best case scenario? You walk away with your own Zac Efron story.

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Gaslit by the comment section — FT. Lucie Fink Aug 19, 2025

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This week on Too Much, Emma sits down for a roller coaster conversation with Lucie Fink — the OG content creator who went from student vlogging at Johns Hopkins in 2010, to being one of Refinery29’s first video stars, to running her own media brand while raising two kids. She’s a video producer, host of The Real Stuff podcast, and a TEDx speaker. Lucie down the rabbit hole about the realities of building a digital career in the spotlight: thin-shaming, being gaslit by comment sections, and most importantly — a tell-all about the time she did what every creator has fantasized about: confronting her internet troll. Not by blocking. Not by clapping back in the comments. By literally inviting her onto a Zoom call to ask why. And the story that unfolds is equal parts wild, heartbreaking, and eye-opening. Consider this your masterclass in human psychology, empathy, and boundaries. If you’ve ever wondered what’s really behind the hate online, this conversation is the closest thing to pulling back the curtain.

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What are you actually begging for? Aug 12, 2025

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Losing friends, making new ones and boyfriends who make you question your worth — today’s episode is a masterclass in calling it like it is. Emma is going down the rabbit hole dug by the stories and questions YOU submitted, from a 20-year friendship imploding over a bridesmaid invite and a boyfriend who weaponized your personality against you, to the friend who always makes you feel like the “backup plan.” We’re talking emotional maturity (or lack thereof), knowing if he's the one, spotting narcissistic tactics and how to walk away — whether it’s from a toxic friend, an insecure partner, or a situationship that’s going nowhere. This one’s equal parts tough love, big sister pep talk, and a reminder that protecting your peace is never the wrong move.

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The cost of always being "fine": Hyper-independence pt. 2 Aug 05, 2025

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By popular demand, Hyper-Independence Part 2 is here. In this follow-up to one of our most downloaded episodes, Emma is going even deeper down the rabbit hole into what it really means to be hyper-independent — not just the self-help jargon, but the real-life impact it has on relationships, intimacy, and the ability to let love in.

She breaks down the difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation, the invisible alarm bells that go off when someone tries to take care of you, and the subconscious belief that needing anyone equals weakness. Emma also explores the stages of a relationship and how hyper-independence disrupts them, how it overlaps with (but isn’t the same as) avoidant attachment, and why being “low maintenance” is often just a wall dressed up as a compliment.

If you’re someone who always says “I’m fine” when you’re not, would rather break your back than ask for help, or is dating someone like that and wondering why they feel emotionally shut out — this episode is your survival guide. Consider this your how-to on letting people in (or lovingly being there for someone who won’t).

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Got daddy issues? Jul 29, 2025

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Do you like older guys, or is it daddy issues? That’s the question we’re chasing down the rabbit hole today. In this episode of Too Much, Emma is finally digging into her long history of dating up — from 4 year age gaps to 21 year age gaps — and why she thought she needed an older man to feel safe, stable, or seen.

Spoiler: it wasn’t about money, and no, it wasn’t daddy issues either. We’re talking power dynamics, youngest sibling syndrome, emotional unavailability disguised as maturity, and how she confused “having their life together” with “being able to love me.” We’re getting into the psychology of dating down, why confident women are now going younger, and how closing the age gap with Mr. Right changed everything (who may or may not be dropping into the studio today...)

Whether you’ve chased silver foxes or swore off Peter Pans, this episode is a deep dive into the real reasons we date outside our age bracket — and why your “type” might be the thing holding you back.

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Stop giving a f*ck Jul 22, 2025

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This week on Too Much, Emma is pulling you out of your delulu spiral and dragging you into the light — because we need to talk about the exhausting obsession with being liked. Emma is breaking down why it’s biologically wired into us (hi, cavemen), how social media hijacked it, and what finally freed her from the trap of performing for approval.

From being the girl who never got picked as a bridesmaid to ditching dressing for the male gaze, Emma walks you through the shift that changed everything. If you’ve ever shrunk yourself to fit in, stayed silent to stay liked, or wore butter yellow when you hate it just to match the vibe… this one’s for you.

Go down the rabbit hole about confidence, comparison, people-pleasing, and how to stop giving a single f*ck about what anyone thinks. Because being liked by everyone? That’s a full-time job with zero benefits.

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This is not a monarchy — FT. Serena Kerrigan Jul 15, 2025

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This week’s guest is a creator, producer, entrepreneur, soon-to-be author, and, of course, the Queen of Confidence — Serena f*cking Kerrigan. But, this is not a monarchy and we saved you a seat on the throne.

Serena (aka SFK) joins Emma in going deep down the rabbit hole on all things from rejection wounds and confidence as survival, to how SFK was born (and what it’s been like slowly taking the mask off). The two swap stories about dating as a woman with a big personality, finding someone who doesn’t try to dim you and so much more. If you’ve ever been told you’re intimidating, too loud, too opinionated, too ambitious, or just “too much”… this episode will hit. Hard.

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Raised in a revolving door Jul 08, 2025

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If you’ve ever wondered why you chase emotionally unavailable people, why you jump ship the second someone gets too close, or why “I’m fine” is your go-to lie — this one’s for you. In this week’s raw (and unexpectedly tearful) episode, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about the real root of her abandonment issues. And spoiler: it wasn’t her parents. From revolving-door relationships and friendships to feeling utterly disposable, she pieces together the wounds that shaped her attachment style, hyper-independence, and her constant need to prove she's worth staying for. But per usual, Emma leaves you with how she’s working through it and all the ways you can give little inner you the big hug they need.

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ASK EMMA: meeting people IRL, porn addictions & friends who ghost Jul 01, 2025

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We are BACK with another episode of Ask Emma where she answers the unfiltered questions you guys send in — completely off the cuff. This week, Emma’s going down the rabbit hole on everything from the friendship breakups lacking closure to porn addictions ruining a relationship. She’s giving her two cents on where to actually meet people IRL when the apps are flopping, the difference between looking confident and being confident, and the real reason you may have trouble meeting someone.

Whether you’re overthinking alone time, spiraling about that ghosted group chat, or just need a reminder that “right person, wrong time” is a lie we tell ourselves — this one’s got it. Merch is live, energy is high, and Emma’s got thoughts.

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Don't do acid on a plane Jun 24, 2025

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What do Navy SEALs, Halloween, and an accidental acid trip have in common? Emma, apparently. In this episode of Too Much, we go all the way down the rabbit hole and into the power of the mind — what it is, why it works, and how to actually use it instead of spiraling into chaos.

Emma breaks down the the psychology behind thought loops, all the ways she masters her mind and tools you can use to train yours. Plus, she shares the most wild story of her life, where she really put the power of her mind to the test.

This isn’t manifestation. This is mental discipline. Control your thoughts, reframe your reactions, and learn how to literally brainwash yourself into surviving your breakup, your hangover, or just your Sunday night existential spiral.

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