The Psychology of your 20s

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146. Roommates and sharehouses in our 20s Nov 23, 2023

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Living in sharehouses in our 20s are like their own weird, social experiment. We put together a group of people with different upbringings, personalities, lifestyles and standards under one roof and expect it to work out. Sometimes it does, other times it doesn't and we see social harmony break down. In today's episode we discuss:

The four styles of roommates
The Cinderella Roommate
The psychology of freeloading
The influence of personality
Living with friends
The role of communication
Conflict, stonewalling and the silent treatment
When its time to move out!

Listen now as we break down the psychology of roommates and sharehouses. And don't forget to share your horror roommate stories!

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145. The psychology of pretty privilege and beauty standards Nov 21, 2023

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Attractiveness and beauty is something we all inevitably find ourselves considering. We question whether we would be happier if we lost weight, would find love if our skin was better, would be more successful if we looked more like her or him. Our obsession with beauty is psychological and deeply rooted in our biology and evolution as a species. In today's episode we break down the existence of pretty privilege and beauty standards in our 20s and how they are impacting our mental wellbeing, sense of self worth and even our financial decisions. Listen now!

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144. It's okay for your friendships to change Nov 17, 2023

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In our 20s there are four things we worry about more than anything else: love, money, the future, and our friendships. As we grow and change, the relationships around us will also naturally change and we may begin to notice how we are seeing our friends less and less, watching certain friendships fizzle out or completely outgrowing each other. It's not the same as it once was. This can cause a lot of panic. But underneath the fear of our changing friendships is a more primal fear of being alone.

In today's episode we break down the psychology behind our evolving friendships, the four types of friendship breakup, and how to adapt to these new kinds of relationship in our 20s, alongside the biggest friendship misconceptions that keep us in unfulfilling situations. All of that and more. Listen now!

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143. Why do we replay conversations? Nov 14, 2023

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Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring:

Rumination
The illusion of control
Social approval
Hypervigilance
Rejection sensitivity dysphoria
Social anxiety, and more

We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!

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142. The curse of being an overachiever Nov 10, 2023

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In this week's episode we discuss the curse of being an overachiever. Society celebrates us for our successes, for our ability to work hard, push ourselves and constantly be the best. But this sometimes has contradictory consequences whereby the more we invest in our achievements, the less satisfaction and fulfillment we feel. We break down the paradox of being an overachiever and explore:

The impact of being labelled a 'gifted child'
Golden child syndrome and family expectations
External validation
The overachiever's identity crisis
The burnout cycle
Learning your limits and redefining success

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141. How to get over someone you can't stop thinking about Nov 07, 2023

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We all know the feeling of wanting desperately to move on from someone - an ex, a past love, situationship, someone we know we shouldn't be with - but being unable to stop obsessively thinking about them. In this episode we explore the psychology behind why that is, but also how to get to the next stage of healing where you are free of the past memories, thoughts and your feelings for this person. We discuss:

The psychological need for emotional closure and how to provide YOURSELF closure
The Polyanna principle and positive bias for the past
The chemical reason for obsession and unrequited
Anxious attachment and overthinking
The excuses that keep us invested in the wrong people
How to emotionally detach
The science of no-contact
10 tips for getting over someone you can't stop thinking about

If you are struggling to move on, even though you've tried and are ready, this one is for you as we unpack how to move on from someone you can't stop thinking about.

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140. The psychology of envy Nov 02, 2023

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Envy is ingrained into our human psyche, each and every one of us has, at times, compared ourselves to someone who has more, or possesses a quality or a level of success that we don't, and felt that familiar spike of pain. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind envy, and why it reflects a deeper insecurity in ourselves we are not ready to recognise. We explore:

The prevalence of envy in our 20s
The primal origins of envy
Envy vs. Jealousy vs. Greed
How envy shows up in our behaviour
How to stop comparing ourselves to others
How to be satisfied with what we have

If you want to become friends with that green-eyed monster, this episode is for you. Listen now!

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139. How to have better first dates! Oct 31, 2023

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Dating in our 20s can feel like a minefield, a lot of people don't know what they want, what they like, we get ghosted, we get stood up, and then there are the first dates. First dates can feel intimidating but today we are breaking down my 10 tips to have the best first dates of your life. By adopting the mindset that you are there to learn more about yourself and have a fun experience, we take first dates off a pedestal and lower the stakes.

Dating is a skill than anything else, it is something that we get better at over time, so what are some ways that we can have better first dates from a psychological perspective, how can we really draw these people in, feel our best, feel most charismatic and in our power but also able to get what we want out of this experience: from the scent you wear, to the location you should choose, the nonverbal cues you should be putting out, how to leverage the power of suspense, all of that and more in this episode. Listen now.

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138. We need a new approach to anxiety ft. Dr David Rosmarin Oct 27, 2023

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Dr David Rosmarin is an Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School and the founder of the Centre for Anxiety. Today he joins us on the podcast to discuss how we are getting anxiety WRONG as we break down a new approach to managing our anxiety, rather than approaching it with fear. For anyone who is anxious or has battled anxiety in their 20s and beyond, join us for a vulnerable conversation of how anxiety may actually be your superpower and how it has even created stronger relationships for me, personally. Listen now.

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137. I'm putting too much pressure on myself Oct 24, 2023

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Today we're having a candid chat about how I'm going. How I'm really going! We discuss imposter syndrome, why I've been putting way too much pressure on myself as of late and in the lead up to 2024 and why that has manifested in some serious burnout and illness (don't mind my Covid voice). I also break down my struggles with being disliked, particularly online and how we can manage and redirect the opinions of others to ensure they do not interrupt our journey to being our most authentic selves. Listen now for a candid catch up, all my love, Jem x

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