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079: Coaching with Michelle: Sibling Rivalry When One Child Needs More From Us Dec 07, 2022

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In this coaching call with Michelle, we talk about sibling rivalry issues when peaceful parenting hasn’t always been the method of parenting for both kids AND when one child has more intense needs than the other.

Michelle is a mom of two girls, 11 and seven years old. Her younger child, Q, is one of those kids that we call ‘more’ or ‘extra’, and really requires more energy and attention than her older child. What’s interesting is that the problem Michelle thought she had wasn't actually what we ended up working on. Have a listen!

We go into:

[4:40] Anger in siblings when big emotions come up
[8:00] Handling conflict when your kids don’t want to talk about it
[17:30] The benefit of showing empathy and speaking kindly
[20:15] Helping our kids through name calling and other unkind acts
[27:30] Dividing our attention to all kids
[32:40] One month check in

Resources mentioned in this episode

FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling
www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting
Coping Skills Checklist by Janine Halloran: https://www.janinehalloran.com/free
Sibling Best Practices: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/e-book-stop-kids-fighting/

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078: Understanding Challenging Behaviour with Dr. Stuart Shanker Nov 30, 2022

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stuart Shanker to understand our children’s challenging behaviour. We discuss why children act the way they do sometimes and what we can do about it.

Dr. Shanker explains the 5 domains or areas where stress shows up in our and our children’s lives. We discuss how we can be ‘stress detectives’ to help reduce challenging behaviour.

Dr. Stuart Shanker is the author of the Self-Reg trilogy: Calm, Alert and Learning: Classroom Strategies for Self-Regulation, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life; Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society.

In 2012 Stuart founded The MEHRIT Centre as a Self-Reg learning and information centre for parents, educators, the leaders of today and the leaders of tomorrow. In this challenging time in which we are living, Self-Reg inspires what is most desperately needed: a profound sense of hope for the future.

We go into:

[4:45] Why misbehavior is stressed behavior
[9:10] The difference between self control and self regulation
[12:50] The 5 categories of stressors
[23:00] Is misbehavior intentional?
[30:00] Tips for parents to help reduce stressors
[42:00] Biggest stressors parents are faced with today
[44:10] Spirited kids vs. stressed out kids
[50:30] Why there’s an uptake in sensory issues
[54:00] Dr. Shanker’s advice to his younger parent self

The goal of The MEHRIT Centre is to provide parents and educators around the world with the tools needed to raise healthy and vibrant children; and to provide adults and seniors with a powerful method for enhancing their own well being.

Resources mentioned in this episode

Leave your questions here: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/podcast/
Free Stop Yelling Course: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling/
Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting
Self-Reg Infosheet for Parents: https://self-reg.ca/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/infosheet_SelfRegParents.pdf
Self-Reg Book written by Dr. Stuart Shanker: https://shop.self-reg.ca/collections/all/products/self-reg-how-to-help-your-child-and-you-break-the-stress-cycle-and-successfully-engage-with-life
Blog written by Dr. Stuart Shanker: https://self-reg.ca/no-such-thing-as-a-bad-kid/

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077: Taking the Stress Out of Morning Routines Nov 23, 2022

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In this episode, Stoney joins me on the podcast to answer a listener question about creating stress-free morning routines.

Stoney is one of the peaceful parenting coaches on my team, and has great advice for you to implement to make your mornings more productive.

We go into:

[2:40] Stoney’s experience and work as a peaceful parenting coach
[3:35] This episode’s listener question
[6:35] Starting your bedtime routine as early as possible
[9:20] Setting yourself up for success the next morning
[13:00] Using a picture schedule
[17:40] Simplifying breakfast time
[18:25] Using ‘play’ when we can
[26:40] Having the same wake time (even on weekends)

Resources mentioned in this episode

Leave your questions here: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/podcast/
Free Stop Yelling Course: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling/
Morning Routine Tips: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/mornings/

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson on the Tilt Parenting Podcast Nov 17, 2022

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Today we have a different kind of conversation for you. It’s not an episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast but instead it’s an episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast hosted by Debbie Reber. Debbie’s show is all about parenting differently wired kids.

The episode that we’re sharing with you today is one that I really enjoyed listening to. It's with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, who is one of the authors of the Power of Showing Up, written alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel.

This episode talks about the Four S’s of showing up for your kids. I know you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did, and please connect with Debbie and follow her podcast at the links below.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Free Video Series – 10 Things You Have To Know When You're Raising a Differently Wired Child: https://tiltparenting.com/10-things/

The Power of Showing Up by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel Siegel: https://amzn.to/3EgEOz7

Tilt Parenting Podcast: https://tiltparenting.com/podcast-about-children-with-learning-disabilities/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiltparenting/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TiltParenting
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tiltparenting/
Website: https://tiltparenting.com/

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076: Coaching with Candace: Supporting Our Kids When They Have Friend Challenges Nov 16, 2022

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In this coaching call with Candace, we talk about the challenges her daughter, Elgin, who is nine, has been facing socially.

Elgin has ADHD and is dyslexic, which has caused her to feel like an outsider at school, resulting in friendships dissolving.

Her mom, Candace, has been struggling to find ways to help her daughter cope through these changes, which is what we talk about today.

We go into:

[2:40] The support Candace is looking for
[4:40] How I supported my daughter through her ADHD diagnosis
[5:50] How the challenges Elgin is facing show up in her daily life
[14:30] Our own upbringings and how it impacts our kids
[18:20] Coaching our kids to stand up for themselves
[24:10] The pain parents face when their kids are being taken advantage of
[26:05] One-month check in

Resources mentioned in this episode

FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling

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075: The Science of Secure Attachment with Bethany Saltman Nov 09, 2022

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Many of us worry that our child may not be securely attached. How can we understand the science behind attachment to better understand our kids and their needs? And how do we promote a secure attachment?

Joining me for this conversation is Bethany Saltman, author of Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment. It’s inspired by the birth of her daughter in 2006, who she loved dearly, but feared she was failing.

Why? Because she was not the kind of mother she hoped to become. Bethany spent ten years teaching herself the science of attachment, traveling to labs, trainings, and archives, in an effort to try to discover what kind of mother she really was, and if she was good enough for her daughter.

What she learned changed everything about how she thought of herself, her childhood, and the nature of love.

We go into:

[2:25] Different attachment styles and why they’re important
[6:00] Where secure attachment comes from
[13:35] The power of attachment and repair
[14:20] Why people make such a big deal about attachment styles
[24:10] What Bethany learned through healing her insecure attachment style
[27:40] Advice Bethany would give to her younger parent self

Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment, published in April, 2020 by Random House, is her first book.

Bethany is a bestselling book coach, helping writers envision and execute their books—from pitch, to platform, to proposal, to publication, to PR. , She is also an editor and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others.

Resources mentioned in this episode

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074: Answering Listener Questions Nov 02, 2022

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In this episode, I’m answering questions I’ve received from you- my podcast listeners!

We have three listener questions:

What to do if you have a kid who runs away when you are out in public.
What to do when your child or children clearly prefer one parent over another.
What to do when your family openly and actively doesn't approve of your peaceful parenting choices.

We go into:

[2:30] What to do if your kid is a ‘runner’
[5:55] How ‘impulse control’ plays a huge role in our child’s ability to make decisions
[8:00] Tips to help kids strengthen their impulse control
[10:15] What to do when a child prefers one parent over another
[15:45] How to work on parent-child connection
[18:55] Navigating family who disagree with peaceful parenting
[25:00] Two important notes to remember from this episode
[27:00] Why we should never shame or judge each other’s parenting styles

Resources mentioned in this episode

Leave your questions here: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/podcast/
Special Time Guide: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/special-time-guide/
www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter
Episode #10: Being A Strong Leader: Your Feelings Are Not Your Child’s Problem
Free Stop Yelling Course: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling/

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073: Coaching with Andrea: Sensitive Kids, Sensitive Parents and Big Feelings Oct 26, 2022

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In this coaching call with Andrea, we talk about the struggles she has been having with her newly five-year-old son Emmett.

Andrea is the mom of a five-year-old boy and two-year-old girl.

We often talk about parenting strategies to help our sensitive kids, but what about sensitive parents? How do we cope with our strong-willed kids when we have our own full backpacks?

We go into:

[4:00] Examples of the intensity Andrea sees in her son
[11:10] How parenting impacts sensitive parents
[19:50] Part 2: How the suggestions worked for Andrea
[21:20] Why it’s counterintuitive to lean into the upset

Resources mentioned in this episode

www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership
NEW & FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling
Coke bottle analogy: https://www.mamamia.com.au/the-coke-bottle-effect/

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072: Why and What Parents Need to Know About Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity and Expression (SOGIE) with Victoria Ogunleye Oct 19, 2022

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What is SOGIE and why is it important for parents to understand when it comes to our kids? It’s an acronym that we’re exploring in this episode with Victoria Ogunleye.

We go into:

[1:50] What Amaze.org is
[4:00] What SOGI stands for
[5:35] What determines a person’s sexual orientation
[7:30] The difference between sexual orientation and gender identity
[8:20] Cysgender vs. transgender
[9:30] How to use pronouns
[14:40] The Genderbread Graphic
[19:55] Defining anatomical sex
[23:40] Sexual vs. romatic attraction
[26:25] The advice Victoria would want to remember if she ever has children

Victoria is the Digital Sex Education Manager at Advocates for Youth, where she works with the Communication and Sex Education team to drive AMAZE’s youth-facing digital strategy and manage the AMAZE Youth Ambassador program. Prior to joining Advocates for Youth, Victoria was the Health Education Coordinator at Planned Parenthood of Metropolitan Washington DC Inc, where she managed the organization’s peer education program and community health education program. Victoria has a background in intimate partner violence awareness, working with children with intellectual disabilities, and performing arts. As a former peer educator, she holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Health Science with a track in community health from Towson University.

Resources mentioned in this episode

Genderbread Graphic

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071: How to Help Your Perfectionist Kid with Sarah and Corey Oct 12, 2022

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In this episode, Corey Everrett and I talk about how to help your perfectionist kid.

From modeling behavior to normalizing imperfection, we cover a wide range of tools and techniques to help you in those hard moments.

Corey is one of the peaceful parenting coaches on my team. Corey Everrett is a certified peaceful parenting coach. She lives in a small-town East of Toronto with her two young children, husband, and rescue pup. Corey helps families find more joy and ease in their daily lives, by empathically empowering parents to better understand themselves and their children.

We go into:

[2:40] How to stay calm with kids make mistakes
[6:35] Modeling behavior for our kids to learn
[10:10] Why we shouldn’t try and fix what our kids create or do
[12:10] Helpful tools for doing the inner work and sharing our own mistakes
[14:15] Normalizing imperfection
[18:10] The growth mindset behind not being good at everything right away

Resources mentioned in this episode

Episode 69: Helping Kids Develop A Growth Mindset with Sheena Hill

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