The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

Latest Episodes:

IFS and Is Gender a Part? with Nic Wildes May 07, 2021

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On todays episode, I chat with Nic Wildes about 'Is Gender a Part?' Nic spoke on this topic at the 2018 IFS Annual Conference and that is where we met -also when I decided my next step was to start a podcast :)

Nic Wildes, LMHC (Pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a White queer nonbinary Certified IFS therapist based in the Boston area. They are in private practice and are co-director of SAYFTEE, a group practice devoted to working with LGBTQI+ people and their loved ones. Nic is especially passionate about how IFS can be used to empower queer, transgender, nonbinary, and gender diverse people. Nic offers individual and group consultation. They have recently started IFS consultation groups for those wanting to connect and learn in LGBTQI+ affinity. SAYFTEE, their group practice, is also a great resource for LGBTQI+ people, families and clinicians wanting more connection. SAYFTEE is currently expanding their training capacity to support more folks providing gender affirming care and have a lot they are doing to create community locally. Nic is also looking to connect and build community with other trans, nonbinary, and gender expansive IFS therapists /practitioners. If this applies to you, they would love to hear from you.

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We talk -Nic is wise and I ramble...- about:

Nic's story

All of our own experiences of gender

"Who can I be in what spaces"

Gender messages we ALL get as kids

Laws and Violence against Transgender women

Pronouns (The trauma of being misrecognized)

Trans Visibility (In History and Movies)

Camp for kids

Get curious about our own experience with gender

'There is something wrong with me.'

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Nic can be reached at nicwildes@gmail.com.

To find out more about Nic and the meditation we discuss go to:

Resources | Nic Wildes, LMHC

The camp info:

Camp Aranu'tiq of Harbor Camps for Transgender Youth (camparanutiq.org)

The podcast we talk about:

‎The Laverne Cox Show: Moving Beyond the Gender Binary w/ ALOK on Apple Podcasts

The documentary, Disclosure:

THE FILM — DISCLOSURE: Documentary by Sam Feder and Amy Scholder (disclosurethemovie.com)

Their Group Practice:

SAYFTEE

Follow them on Instagram @sayftee Facebook: SAYFTEE Twitter: @SAYFTEEBoston

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IFS and Tuning Into Needs with Non Violent Communication with Spencer Thompson Apr 30, 2021

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On todays episode I chat with Spencer Thompson, a Level 2 IFS Practitioner. He practices what he calls 'Self-Leadership Coaching,' emphasizing how IFS and Self-Leadership can impact us daily. He is passionate about group dynamics and creating unique container spaces that invite people into situations to practice and share in Self-leadership with others. He also loves helping people communicate for their parts and listen for the parts of others.

We talk about 'What is NVC' and walk through OFNR (which is like the 6 F's in IFS).

We talk about Being IFS vs Doing IFS.

We talk about parts (a lot!).

And, we talk about lots of stuff in between.

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To find out more about Spencer, check out: https://self-leadership-coach.com/

Spencer will have a video demonstrating the integration between IFS and NVC and other resources here: (12) Spencer Thompson, Self-Leadership Coach | Facebook

As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Enjoy!

IFS and Why Christians Talk So Much About Love But Often Fail to be Loving with Molly LaCroix Apr 23, 2021

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On today's episode I talk with Molly Lacroix, a certified Level 3 IFS therapist, about her new book, "Restoring Relationship: Transforming Fear into Love Through Connection."

I love this title so much I keep repeating it throughout the show...

Outline:

1. Reasons she wrote the book

2. Her introduction and journey with IFS

3. IFS and Christian Spirituality

4. Outline of the book:

- Judging, legalism and over reliance on cognitive parts

- Why are we so vulnerable? (development and attachment)

- The way forward (IFS)

- IFS with common causes of distress

5. Her Breast Cancer journey

6. Finding connection in the social media/publishing 'game'

7. A New Spiritual Practice (loving ourselves, unblending)

8. How IFS and Christianity Enhance one another

9. New book project: How to Heal Our Divides. Her chapter is How IFS Helps Heal our Inner Divides.

Check it out here: https://howtohealourdivides.com/

Connect with Molly here: https://mollylacroix.com/ and on Facebook and Instagram.

As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at tammysollenberger.com - maybe I will send you an email one day soon.

Enjoy!

IFS and Hope for Injured Athletes with Heidi Armstrong Apr 16, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Heidi Armstrong- IFS Informed super warrior, super star, and all around one of the most resilient human beings I have ever met.

Her story is tragic and hopeful and inspiring.

Here is a brief outline of the show:

Her story and lessons learned along the way (0-30 minutes)

Recipes for Success (30 minutes on- )

Steps people can do now (So practical)

For therapists and supports of injured athletes

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Check out more of Heidi's story and her offerings here: https://injuredathletestoolbox.com/

Email her at Heidi@injuredathletestoolbox.com

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IFS and Working with Children's and Parents' Parts with Lois Ehrmann Apr 02, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Lois Ehrmann, a Level 3 IFS therapist and frequent staff member for Susan McConnell's Somatic IFS trainings. Lois is a grandmother extraordinaire; I want to drop the boy off at her house for a week. Or, drop off all my exhausted, overwhelmed parenting parts. Lois has integrated IFS and Attachment therapy with families struggling with trauma. She developed a narrative method to teach parents and children the concepts of IFS which has empowered children to use the method of Insight as well as Direct Access. She is now mostly doing training and consultation as she co parents her own 3 year old granddaughter. I LOVED this conversation with Lois. Update and FYI- We recorded this right after the Capital Shootings. I checked with Lois this week and she is vaccinated and back at home with her family.

Email Lois at loisehrmann@gmail.com to get copies of her INCREDBILE Parenting and kids workbooks.

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Enjoy!

IFS and Living in Delight with Gale West Mar 26, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Gale West, MA, MFA. Gale is the author of the IFS- and Akashic Records-inspired bestselling book, Money Come Dance With Me.

A certified IFS practitioner, she has 30 years of experience in IFS, has presented at numerous conferences and was in a consult group with Dick for 15 years. The first training was in her apartment in 1996.

A former psychotherapist in private practice, for the past ten years Gale has been providing individual and group coaching to conscious entrepreneurs and creatives inspiring joy, purpose and financial expansion while transforming their relationship to money and success. Also an artist, she delights in beauty and grand adventures.

I ALMOST titled this with 'delight with money'- but honestly, the theme that runs throughout ALL we talk about is DELIGHT in our whole life. Here is a bit of an outline:

The Self of Money

The Self of Business

The Burden of Money

The Lessons from her Strokes

The Joy of finding higher meaning in our Jobs

The biggest ah ha- My Body is Housing my Soul

The Importance of being aware of your Transceiver

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Gale asks, Is my heart desire, my head desire and my soul desire aligned?

To find out more about Gale and to purchase her book:

https://successwithsoul.com/about-gale/

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IFS and Who's at the Table? with Diana Richards Mar 19, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Diana Richards, registered dietitian, Anusara yoga teacher, and who is certified in IFS. Diana offers workshops, consultation groups, and Intuitive Eating groups. She is a frequent staffer at IFS trainings and partnered with Jeanne Catanzaro in the IFS Continuity Program about Self Led eating and using IFS to heal food and body concerns.

On this episode we talk about:

- Diana's own personal story

- "It is not about the food at all."

- A parts driven approach

- Impact of family, culture and society

- Self led Eating

- Manager, Firefighter and Exile roles in the eating cycle

Check out Diana's website here to find out about ALL of her amazing offerings:

https://namastenutrition.net/

Follow Diana's on Instagram @dianarichards and on Facebook @Dianaduganrichards

Also, this is the workshop in June I mention in the intro. Sign up here:

Blog Archives - Therapy Training Boston

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IFS and Spirituality, Self, and Connection with Seth Kopald Mar 12, 2021

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On today's podcast I chat with Seth Kopald, IFS Practitioner. This is Seth's second appearance on the podcast!

He has a PhD in organizational leadership and has a long history in education. He is Level 3 trained in IFS and is well known for his presence on the IFS and Parenting and Arts Facebook pages. He also stars in the IFS Parenting webinar videos put out by the Foundation for Self Leadership.

On this podcast, we wanted to talk about Spirituality and Self. Of course, we talk about SO MANY things!

We chat about:

- Incorporating IFS into your spiritual practices

- Being aware of Spiritual Bypass

- Deepening our Understanding of Self Energy

- Connected with Guides

- When supernatural becomes common enough to be natural

- Moving from our Head to our Heart (this was beautiful!)

At the end, Seth stresses the importance of a daily practice- checking in with Self energy.

Check out many of Seth's offerings here:

https://www.sethkopald.com/

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IFS and Living from Self with Loch Kelly Mar 05, 2021

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On today's episode, I chat with Loch Kelly, an IFS trained psychotherapist, a well known meditation and awakening leader, author of 2 incredible books, and all around super amazing, warm and friendly person.

Loch's approach to accessing Self is different then Dick's, and Loch suggests asking the F's, which we normally ask of parts, to one's Self.

Loch teaches us to ask: Who is aware and Who is the one asking?

Loch explains and then leads us in a meditation around, "What is here when there is no problem to solve?" You will find a copy of this in its own podcast to listen to on repeat when necessary.

We talk about three common Self-like parts.

To find out about ALL the amazing things Loch has to offer go to https://lochkelly.org/

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IFS and Unblending Into Self Meditation with Loch Kelly Mar 04, 2021

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Here is a copy of a meditation from the longer full episode with Loch.

For more of Loch's offerings check out:

https://lochkelly.org/

Enjoy!