The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

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IFS and Self Led Civility and a lot of Funk with David Medeiros Aug 27, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with David Mederios, Level Two trained IFS therapist. David has been a program assistant for multiple level one and level two trainings. He has presented at several annual IFS conferences. He spent a year working with Dr. Richard Schwartz and co-presented their experience treating someone diagnosed with Schizophrenia at an annual IFS Conference. David collaborated on the production of Good Grief, which toured nationally.

David and I have a lot of a laughs throughout this '101' episode.

Here is a bit of an outline:

How we met and importance of Dance Parties

His presentation and experience with his patient with Schizophrenia

Drumming Lessons: asking for help and life lessons

His book. Civility and Responsibility. Working with Families struggling in Domestic Violence

His goal in writing his book- especially in light of the 2020 election, Capital Riots, and Covid.

The Foundation for Self Leadership Web series- He is co-leading the first one. STARTS 9/3/21

I tell a little bit about my upcoming book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self."

He plays the drums for us to close us out.

This is a 'funky' episode!

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To find out more about the upcoming web series with the foundation:

https://foundationifs.org/bridge

To read a Great article about IFS where David is interviewed:

https://elemental.medium.com/inside-the-revolutionary-treatment-that-could-change-psychotherapy-forever-8be035d54770

To see a little bit about Good Grief (there performance was unforgettable!):

Good Grief Performances in Boston | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)

David's website:

http://www.davidmedeiroslicsw.com/

Connect with me and get a free parts meditation:

https://tammysollenberger.com/

Enjoy!

IFS and No Bad Parts with Richard Schwartz Jul 09, 2021

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Here we are! - Together for the 100th episode with Dick Schwartz.

Dick has always been supportive and kind to me- from meeting him when I came out of a consultation group and he was standing in a hallway alone, to an unfortunate situation at a conference. He has been open and available for this podcast, and I am so grateful.

Dick has a new book out this week called "No Bad Parts," which we planned to talk about. And we do- a little bit.

What happened during our chat was we just started catching up. Then this transitioned to us both sharing some things 'off the record.'

And, of course, Dick does not want to just TALK about the model- he wants to do it. So he says to me, "We can do a little piece of work if you want ..." How could I not agree!?

So, that is what a big piece of this episode is- a demo of the model. You get to hear Dick doing the model and you get to hear me working with my parts.

My hope for you is that you are able to go down your own trailheads as you listen. My hope for you is you learn something about this model. My hope for you is you get to witness the founder of IFS facilitate a session.

Here is a bit of an outline:

- Checking in

- Trailheads

- Dick's 'obsessed with IFS' part

- Demonstration of the Model (from about 15 minutes until about 40 minutes)

- The book- No Bad Parts

- Bigger Plans for IFS

Check out the silly faces we made on my social media pages :)

Connect with me on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse @ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page.

Go to my website to get a free parts meditation Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger and get news about my new BOOK called "The One Inside: 30 Days to Connect to Your Authentic Self'- coming out late fall 2021!

Enjoy!

IFS and Authenticity with Frank Anderson Jul 02, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Frank Anderson. His new book, "Transcending Trauma" has been out for a month or so now, and he has done a few podcasts. I wanted to talk to him about how he is doing and what is going on in his life.

So! This is not just about trauma or his book. This is not about what is happening in the IFS world since Frank is an insider. This is not about Frank's workshops and IFS manuals and all those things.

This episode - the 99th episode- is about authenticity.

We talk about the book, of course. And, we talk about trauma. Mostly, we talk about family, love, and connection and their power to heal all of us.

Frank says, "Love Heals What Trauma Blocks."

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You can connect with Frank on Instagram @frank_andersonmd, Twitter @frankandersonmd, and Clubhouse @frankandersonmd.

I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join The One Inside Facebook Page and you can get a free parts meditation when you go to tammysollenberger.com.

Enjoy!

IFS and Psychedelics with Norma Stevens Jun 25, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Norma Stevens who is an LCPC in private practice in the Baltimore/DC area. She is a Research Therapist for a Clinical Trial for Psilocybin Assisted Therapy for Depression in Cancer Patients and a Therapist for the MAPS Expanded Access Program for MDMA Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD at the William Richards Healing Center in the Aquilino Cancer Center in Rockville, MD. She is a Certified IFS therapist and an Approved IFS Supervisor for Certification. She has worked as a program assistant extensively for Level 1, 2, and 3 IFS trainings and was a presenter at the 2019 IFS Annual Conference. We talk about: - Processes and essential steps of this treatment - What brought her into psychedelic assisted therapy (such a great story!) and her current work at the Healing Center - Healing potential of psychedelic therapy and what is needed to administer it safely (all the S's- screening, set, setting, skill, and support) - IFS and Psychedelics: A powerful combination (self healing exiles) - Concerns: What about addiction? Don't psychedelics bypass protectors (and how they do)? What if someone has a history of psychosis? What about "bad" trips? - Importance of Integration and follow up Norma calls this Sacred Work, and I loved hearing her story and her passion. To connect with Norma check out her Linkedin page: (25) Norma Stevens, MS, NCC, LCPC | LinkedIn and her email at norma.stevenslcpc@gmail.com. To connect with me, listen to a Parts Meditation, and hear past episodes: Get a Free Meditation - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I'd also love to connect over all the socials: at The One Inside Facebook page and ifs.tammy on Twitter, Instagram and Clubhouse. Enjoy!

IFS as a Spiritual Practice with Gabby Bernstein Jun 18, 2021

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On today's podcast I talk with New York Times Best Selling Author, Speaker and lover of IFS Gabby Bernstein.

For over fifteen years, Gabby has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times bestselling author has penned eight books including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and the latest, her first Audible Original, You Are the Guru. In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk and conversations about personal growth and spirituality with unique and inspiring guests. What started as hosting intimate conversations with twenty people in her New York City apartment, Gabby has grown into speaking to tens-of-thousands in sold-out venues throughout the world. Gabby was featured on Oprah's SuperSoul Sunday as a "next-generation thought leader." The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the "SuperSoul 100," a dynamic group of trailblazers whose vision and life's work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. The New York Times identified Gabby as "a new role model." She co-hosted the Guinness World Records' largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra, and appears regularly as an expert on Today and Good Morning America, among other publications. She connects with her community through her books, her podcast, her Miracle Membership, the Spirit Junkie app, social media, digital workshops and e-courses, and live events. I was thrilled when I found out about Gabby and heard her speak in such a clear, understandable way about IFS. I had to have her on the podcast and am so thankful that she was open to do it. And, that she turned out to be such a warm, kind, and lovely person.

It is amazing when we find people talking our same language outside of the IFS community and that is what I thought about Gabby.

I highly recommend you check out her website which is full of free resources. On this episode I mention her TED talk and her Super Soul Session which can be found on YouTube.

Check out her Dear Gabby Podcast- it is so good.

We spoke about a meditation that I did for her miracle membership- you can join this group on Facebook and through her website.

Connect with Gabby here-

Gabby Bernstein - #1 NYT Best Selling Author, Speaker & Spirit Junkie

Connect with Me here-

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

You can also find both of us on all the socials- Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

Gabby ends our chat with this description of IFS "... this life altering practice ... has the capacity to change you forever."

Enjoy!

IFS and All things Couple's Therapy with Liz Phillips Jun 11, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Liz Phillips. Liz comes to couples therapy after four decades of observing and experiencing couple disconnection, and one decade training in couples work to ensure she could be of service. She completed her Level 1 in IFS and Level 2 in IFIO and now runs IFIO-informed workshops to introduce the model to other couples therapists. IFIO stands for Intimacy from the Inside out, and it is the 'couples division' of IFS.

Currently based in Toronto, Liz is a self proclaimed coffee snob, a committed IFIO advocate, and a lover of rescue dogs.

Liz sent me a book in the mail after we recorded this podcast so she is my new best friend. I feel seen.

We talk about:

Emotional Focused Therapy

Neurobiology

Attachment

Parts in relationship

You turns (Liz gives detailed explanation- so good.)

Finding My Soul's Home (in IFIO and IFS)

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Liz shares her own personal story of searching and finding her soul's home, and she is vulnerable about her parts and her relationships.

To find out more about Liz and her upcoming workshops go to:

Liz Phillips Therapy

To listen to my friends Naomi Rather and Deb Curtis' podcast that is ALL about EFT go to:

That Relationship Show

To get on my email list to get a free meditation (coming soon) and to keep in touch go to:

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Connect with me @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Clubhouse and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page. I will see you there.

Enjoy!

IFS and Mom Guilt with Leslie Petruk Jun 04, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Leslie Petruk, Assistant trainer with the IFS Institute. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT and I am thrilled she took time out of her busy schedule to hang out.

This is Leslie's third time as a guest on the podcast and all my parenting parts are thrilled to have her on again.

Even though this is titled "mom guilt" this episode is for any parental/adult figure who is raising little ones.

We talk about:

- I am Bad. -Ways shame shows up in moms

- Importance of Repair (and learning to apologize well)

- "Not what you did but what you do after."

- Kids and Covid

- Kids and Technology

-You turn as a parent

- Setting up intentions

- The work-life balance myth

- What are managers need from us and importance of perspective

- You can't afford to NOT do self care

- Working from home

- Importance of judgment free community and having a tribe

- Kids have good intuition and bad interpretation (Mommy is crying ... I must have done something wrong).

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Find out more about Leslie here:

Home - The Stone Center – Charlotte, NCThe Stone Center – Charlotte, NC (thestonecenternc.com)

Leslie H. Petruk | MA, LPC-S, NCC, BCC (selfleadership.org)

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I would love to hear from you- follow me on Instagram and Facebook to find out when I am going to be hosting rooms on Clubhouse! I am @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse. Join The One Inside Facebook Community to keep in touch. You can find the past episodes at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger.

Enjoy!

IFS and MEN-tal Health (Men's Issues) with Justin Martin May 28, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Justin Martin, an IFS therapist who lives in FL where he enjoys avoiding Disneyworld, taking advantage of the abundance of palm trees, and writing incredible poetry.

Justin has been IFS informed for a few years and is finishing his level one IFS training.

We talk about all things MEN. I so appreciate Justin's openness and vulnerability during our conversation.

We cover:

- Men's competitive parts

- Messages men get throughout their life and the need to exile vulnerable parts to fit in with the system around them

- Dating

- 'Nice Guys'

- The term 'Toxic Masculinity'

- Authenticity and Attachment

We end with Justin sharing several of his writings that are vulnerable and intimate.

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Check out Justin's website here:

IFS Therapist in Winter Park, FL | Parts of Me Therapy

Follow Justin on Instagram @partsofmetherapy

As always, I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. And, on The One Inside Facebook Page. You can find past episodes and keep in touch with me at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I love hearing from you!

Enjoy!

IFS and Shame and Addiction with Mary Kruger May 21, 2021

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On today's episode I chat with Mary Kruger, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute and one of the developers of the Level Two Addiction training.

Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12 step model.

We talk SO MUCH about Shame.

We talk about the 12 steps as a Spiritual Path and working with parts who have difficulties with 12 step programs.

We talk about addiction as 'disease' and where this idea comes from. Disease is disharmony; IFS restores harmony.

We talk about family and trauma.

We talk about the connection and shame reducing power of group work.

Mary talks about looking inside, even though a part may fear the badness and shame that may be found there, and the healing when we take back in who we are truly intended to be.

She says that curiousity and compassion are our biggest healing agents.

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Connect with Mary at Marykruger@sbcglobal. net or on her website: Home Page (mpkruger.com).

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Connect with me @ifs. tammy on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse. Join The One Inside Facebook page to connect and chat. Join my email list at tammysollenberger.com.

Enjoy!

IFS and Intuitive Eating with Kim Daniels May 14, 2021

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On todays episode I chat with Kim Daniels, Level 2 IFS Therapist. Kim is a Clinical Psychologist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Emotional Eating Coach who's on a mission: to create an army of women who never deny themselves the food they love, who treat themselves with the compassion and respect they deserve, and who value themselves and their bodies. And who never. Diet. Again.

Doesn't that sound A- MA- ZING?!

I so enjoyed our chat about all things Intuitive Eating and IFS.

We check in until about the 11 minute mark and then jump into all the good stuff:

diet culture

set point theory

health at every size

polarized parts (restrictive and overeating)

why diets do not work- biologically

legacy burdens and messages from culture and family

At about the 30 minutes mark we dive a bit more into Intuitive Eating:

body food congruence

moral meaning and shame around food

'play food'

And, a lot about working with all of our parts

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Kim has a group coaching program called Food and Body Freedom that's starting in June--the link is https://www.subscribepage.com/foodfreedom_copy.

She has an email challenge called the Intentional Eating Challenge--the link is https://bit.ly/intentionallyeat.

And she has a free E-Course called Diets: Why They Don't Work and How to Quit Them for Good. That link is https://bit.ly/exitingdietculture.

Her website is yourweightisnotyourworth.com, and you can connect with her on Instagram @kimdanielspsyd.

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I'd love to connect with you on Instagram, Twitter and clubhouse at ifs.tammy and on the One Inside Facebook Page.

Enjoy!

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