The Mindful Psychology Podcast

124. Trauma Healing Part 2: Relearning, Repairing, and Relationships Apr 28, 2022

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Today on the the podcast, we will be diving deeper into trauma healing by understanding our patterns, learning new ones, and applying these to relationships.

Topics covered:

- Recap of Part 1

- How our experiences affect us and play out

- More on trauma

- Understanding patterns and their importance

- Practices for resourcing and relearning

- Notes on regulating, mindfulness, and self-compassion

- Distancing from toxic dynamics

- Exploring forgiveness

- Final thoughts on healing and finding peace

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G 🌸

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123. Trauma Healing Part 1: Explorations & Practices for Healing Apr 26, 2022

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Today on the show, we are talking about trauma and how it creates changes in our nervous systems. We will explore how our experience leave "evidence" behind and play out in our relationships.

Topics covered:

- PTSD vs. C-PTSD (briefly)

- How experiences shape the way we relate to the world

- Understanding biological reactions before the cognitive process

- Practices for grounding and regulating the nervous system

- Examples of activation and what happens when we perceive threat

- How healthy practices create change in our patterns

- Changing our association with negative events

- A note on boundaries

- A note on what happens when we decide to separate from a toxic dynamic

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G 🌸

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121. Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Apr 12, 2022

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Today on the podcast, we will be discussing practices of mindfulness and self-compassion, and how you can start applying them to your life.

Topics covered:

- Defining mindfulness and self-compassion

- Exploring comparison and feelings of jealousy

- Why is emotional regulation important and how is it done?

- What is true connection and why do we need it?

- Begin to understand what stories you believe about yourself and the world

- Learn how you can start unpacking your core beliefs and mapping out your patterns

- Practices for mindfulness and self-compassion

- Modifying self talk and your whole narrative

- The importance of relearning and rewiring

and more...

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G 🌸

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120. The Power of Connection and Purpose with Tanya Cole-Lesnick Apr 05, 2022

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Today on the podcast, we are joined by Tanya Cole-Lesnick as we discuss the power of connection, vulnerability, and transformation.

Tanya has been a psychotherapist and coach since 1995. She received her master’s degree in social work from New York University after group therapy changed her life. She has extensive experience in outpatient hospital mental health, private practice, and wellness center settings. From those experiences over the years she has identified her most important focus—helping people to live lives that light them up. She does this by helping clients to access and honor their truth, to change habits that don’t serve them, and to heal faulty narratives so that they are living in alignment inside and out. Her work revolves around intimate groups as the sharing of inner worlds and being human together in a safe space is what she finds to be the most powerful way for lives to transform.

To connect with Tanya:

Website

@tanyathetherapist

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G 🌸

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119. Shame, Guilt, and Resolution Mar 22, 2022

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Today on the podcast we will be looking at the science behind shame and guilt, as well as the difference between the two. Then, we will explore how they play out in the way we live and relate to others.

We will discuss different kinds of relationships and see how opinions, criticism, shame, and guilt look different and bring about different dynamics and resolutions. We will also look at boundary work in difficult relationships and how they can make us question ourselves, and stay in shame.

With that, I'll offer different perspectives and a general framework on what we can consider in different situations and with different relationships.

This is work that you can do with a Therapist, but it's also important to find safe trusted people with whom you can build security and practice this boundary work and shame work.

Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions.

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With love,

G 🌸

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118. Releasing Shame & Embracing YOU Mar 15, 2022

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Today on the podcast, we will explore topics related to shame, judgment, criticism, opinions, toxic behaviour, and gossip. We will be unpacking these as a normal part of life that we cannot control.

We will balance this out by exploring what we CAN control and change the narrative a bit. We will consider embracing healing, truth, boundaries, kindness, and love with regards to betrayal, toxic dynamics, and our healing journey.

* No, I will not lecture you about how we "must forgive and send love" to everyone. I will, however, share some reframing techniques with you and how some of those can include love and compassion. I will also talk about forgiveness as a fluid and personal choice.

Topics covered:

- Handling shame, judgment, and betrayal

- Going from activation to regulation

- Main principles of boundaries

- Truths to keep in mind when dealing with challenges/difficult dynamics

- Beginning to repattern and relearn

- Incorporating compassion, kindness, and forgiveness on a personal way that we choose

- When deciding to disconnect from people

- and more

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G 🌸

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117. Don't Just Sit There, Do Nothing with Jessie Kanzer Mar 08, 2022

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Today we are joined by a very special guest, Jessie Kanzer, the author of Don't Just Sit There, Do Nothing.

For years, Jessie felt like a failure, unable to hustle hard enough to “make it,” either as an actress or in the rat race. Her childhood as a Russian immigrant in post-Cold War America heightened her insecurity and threatened her identity, desperate as she was to fit into a culture that was alien at best and hostile at worst. This loss and eventual reclamation of her sense of self sent her on a spiritual journey during which she discovered the Tao Te Ching, which changed everything for her. The Tao taught her that there was power in stillness, and that all struggles come bearing gifts if you know how to recognize them. Her message will connect with listeners desperate to find grounding as we move into a new year with filled with trepidation and no guarantees of a return to normalcy.

During this interview:

· How to trust their intuition and inner voice whenever doubts creep in

· How losing sight of your true identity can be a gift (as long as you find it again)

· How the Tao can cure you of perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies

· Why it’s important to continue to embrace stillness, even amidst a push to return to “normal” following the pandemic

· The Tao’s wisdom on parenting, especially how the act of letting go can be the ultimate form of love

· How the Tao can teach you to value yourself and not give your power away in romantic relationships

In a culture that insists on constant motion and self-improvement, the Tao Te Ching’s philosophy reminds us that there’s power in slowing down and making room for stillness in our lives. Don’t Just Sit There, Do Nothing offers practical actionable insights on incorporating its wisdom into your everyday life.

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116. Learning Trust + Mini Series Wrap Up Mar 01, 2022

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Today on the podcast, I will be discussing ways in which we can develop trust inside ourselves, with the people around us, and in the world. I will offer some examples and considerations, including daily habits you can start implementing today.

We will also talk about how to handle challenging situations and how it is especially important to trust in ourselves and stay in our security. I will give you steps to not only regulating but also sorting through the experience, practicing your boundary work, and connecting to your safety.

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G 🌸

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115. Disorganised Attachment: Development + Considerations Feb 22, 2022

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On this episode of the mini series on Developing Secure Attachment, we are discussing Disorganised Attachment.

We will recap the break dow of attachment, as we are exploring it on the show, and compare and contract Organised and Disorganised Attachment Styles. We will also look at how disorganised attachment develops and what it looks like in adulthood.

We will cover considerations and practices that can help us heal, build trust inside of ourselves, and empower us to develop secure relationships with ourselves and others.
We will also explore how to deal with all of this when faced with a triggering situation, a toxic dynamic, or a challenging person. We will discuss these points in this episode.

A really important piece here is remembering that what we don't know can still hurt us, because what we do not heal will reveal itself to us.

This is why we work to be aware of our triggers and patterns and explore why they are this way. Through this work, we can learn to understand how we relate to ourselves and the world around us. With all of the knowledge and insight we gain, we can begin to re-learn and re-pattern so that our way of experiencing life can be healthier, and as a result, the way we relate can be more secure.

As always, working with a Therapist is so helpful here, but so is practice. In other words, working to consciously create secure relationships with safe people.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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