The Messy Bun Podcast

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069 - Business and Teens with Michelle Gifford Sep 20, 2021

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Michelle Gifford is the queen of business strategy! We had a ton of fun learning from her as we talked about teens and business. Whether your daughter has expressed interest in owning her own business or not, this episode is a great start to having conversations about how she can start making money NOW.

Pros of owning your own business
Challenges of owning your own business
What teens can do NOW

Resources:

Instagram: @iammichellegifford
iammichellegifford.com
michellegiffordcreative.com

068 - Birth Order Sep 13, 2021

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We wanted to have a light-hearted conversation this week, and thought it would be fun to chat with our teens about birth order. Do you feel like your daughter fits the stereotype of her birth order, or does she break the mold? What does she think about this? Penny and Steph are both the oldest, and it shows!

Birth order theory
- What it is
- Is it accurate?
Oldest child strengths and challenges
Middle child strengths and challenges
Youngest child strengths and challenges
Only child strengths and challenges
What about big families?

Resources:

Lynn Berger, Birth Order Personality Traits, Time Magazine, https://time.com/5953372/birth-order-personality-traits/
Ben Guarino, Birth Order Doesn't Shape Personality, Washington Post, https://www.washingtonpost.com/science/2019/03/14/birth-order-doesnt-shape-personality-after-all/
Mary Elizabeth Dean, Birth Order Theory Insights, Better Help, https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/family/birth-order-theory-insights-into-your-personality/
Sponsor: Life Success for Teens Promo Giveaway: 7 Ways to Stop Your Teen From Procrastinating

067 - ACT Prep Sep 06, 2021

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It's that time of year for many of those juniors and seniors out there - ACT time! It can be overwhelming to know where to start when it comes to standardized test prep. Listen in and we'll walk you through what we've found in our research. (A lot of these tips also apply to the SAT, but we focused on the ACT because that's what our daughters will be taking.)

General info about the day of the test
English section
Math section
Reading section
Science section

Resources:

ACT Tips, PowerScore Test Preparation, https://www.powerscore.com/act/help/test-day-tips.cfm
Justin Berkman, The 8 ACT English Tips You Must Use in Your Prep, https://blog.prepscholar.com/8-act-english-tips
ACT Math Section: Formulas you NEED to know, Magoosh SAT & ACT, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcgyTpeD49M
- Need to Know Math Formulas for the ACT (Google Doc, Taken from Magoosh.com), https://docs.google.com/document/d/1MdqJtBLMo-f7TWQ0-o9HteJPdcflvXHKzmVmDAxB5_U/edit?usp=sharing
Alexa Laine, 8 Tips for a Perfect Score without Studying, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dn3H3D2d1k
Alexa Laine, Score a 36 on the ACT Reading in 2020, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzMxqT5OjaU
Alexa Laine, Score a 36 on the ACT Science, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6BnCdG7w92

066 - Stress with Chantal Côté, Registered Psy. Aug 30, 2021

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It's the beginning of the school year, and that means stress is probably amping up in your house. You might not be sure how to talk with your teen about all the stress she's feeling, but we've got you covered with this informative interview from Registered Psychologist, Chantal Côté.

What is stress
Red flags you and your teen can watch for
Flipping the switch on stress
Tips on how to help your teen master stress

Resources:

www.pyramidpsychology.com
Instagram, @therapywithchantal
Youtube Channel- Bulletproof Mindsets for Teens - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCynezhZL359SS9v-1Ir6LJw

065 - Posture Aug 23, 2021

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As we recorded this episode, we both kept catching ourselves slouching. Good posture is important, but it's hard when we spend so much time looking at our devices and sitting at computers. Listen in to learn how you can talk with your daughter about good posture (and maybe even improve your own!).

What causes bad posture
What good and bad posture look like
Why good posture matters
How to fix bad posture

References

George Chiang, Help your teen stop slouching: 5 things that actually work. https://raisingteenstoday.com/help-your-teen-stop-slouching/
Why good posture matters https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-good-posture-matters
Kyphosis https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/kyphosis.html
Shari DeLisle, Stand tall, teens: Good posture matters more than you think, https://www.postcrescent.com/story/life/2018/06/25/why-good-posture-matters-teens/717687002/
Posture Problems in Teenagers https://mass4d.com/blogs/articles/posture-problems-in-teenagers
https://www.physio-pedia.com/Adolescent_Back_Pain
What is forward head posture? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/forward-head-posture#what-is-it
Amy Martuarna Winderl, 7 easy exercises for better balance, https://www.self.com/gallery/balance-exercises

064 - Critical Thinking Aug 16, 2021

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I say I want my daughter to be a critical thinker. I want her to know how to look at situations, analyze, and think for herself... Except, then, she doesn't always agree with me!

As tempting as it is to brainwash her into thinking exactly like me (because, I am, after all, always right!), I know in the long run, I'll be glad if she's learned how to be a critical thinker.

What critical thinking is
Why critical thinking matters
How to teach critical thinking

Resources:

Mary Halton, Ideas Ted Dot Com, Critical Thinking is a 21st-century essential, https://ideas.ted.com/critical-thinking-is-a-21st-century-essential-heres-how-to-help-kids-learn-it/
Norwich Online, 5 Ways to Improve Your Critical Thinking Skills, https://blog.online.norwich.edu/5-ways-to-improve-your-critical-thinking-skills
Macat, YouTube, What is Critical Thinking, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HnJ1bqXUnIM
Gwen Dewar, Ph.D., Teaching Critical Thinking: An Evidence-based Guide, https://parentingscience.com/teaching-critical-thinking/
Study Dot Com, What is Critical Thinking?, https://study.com/academy/lesson/what-is-critical-thinking-definition-skills-meaning.html
Steven Hassan, PhD, Freedom of Mind Resource Center, Undoing Undue Influence and the BITE Model of Authoritarian Control, https://freedomofmind.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/BITE-Model-of-Authoritarian-Control-Handout-Oct-2-2020.pdf

063 - Bullying Aug 09, 2021

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We hate this episode. We hate thinking about bullying! But we have to talk with our daughters about it because it DOES happen - either to them or to someone they know. Listen in as we explore how to talk about this ugly topic.

Bullying Facts
- What bullying is and what it's not
- Who is most likely to get bullied
- Signs of bullying
- Why bullies bully
What to do if you're getting bullied
What to do if you know someone who is getting bullied

Resources

Angela Huebner and Erin Morgan, Adolescent Bullying, Virginia Polytechnic Institute, https://vtechworks.lib.vt.edu/bitstream/handle/10919/23399/VCE350_852_2002.pdf?sequence=1
Christina Fisher, The Association of Different Types of Bullying with Mental Health of Children and Teens From the US, France, and Canada, Ursinus College, Digital Commons, https://digitalcommons.ursinus.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=https://scholar.google.com/&httpsredir=1&article=1003&context=media_com_sum
Stop Bullying, stopbullying.gov
Bullying and Teenagers, ReachOut.com,
Mary L. Gavin, MD, Dealing with Bullying, https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/bullies.html/
Sherri Gordon, 8 Reasons Why Teens Bully Others, Very Well Family, https://www.verywellfamily.com/reasons-why-teens-bully-others-460532
Sherri Gordon, The Different Between Bullying and Unkind Behavior, https://www.verywellfamily.com/bullying-or-unkind-behavior-how-to-know-the-difference-460493
Ryan Walker, I’m a Teenager Who WAs Bullied: Here’s what Bullying Among Teens Looks Like Today, Parents.com, https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/teenagers/im-a-teenager-this-is-what-i-want-parents-to-know-about-teen-bullying/
5 Powerful Anti-Bullying YouTube Videos for Teens and Tweens, https://www.bark.us/blog/5-best-anti-bullying-videos-on-youtube-for-tweens-and-teens/
- Our 3 favorites from this list:
  - “The Bully”
  - “A Sincere Compliment”
  - “Silent”

062 - Resilience with Life Success for Teens Aug 02, 2021

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Natalie and Alison with Life Success for Teens are brilliant with teenagers. Natalie is a school psychologist and Alison is a teacher, and they both are also certified to be academic coaches for teens. They basically know how to help our kids succeed at life. And, to top it off, they're both fun and easy to talk with!

Join us as we talk with Natalie and Alison about how to foster resilience in our teens. We laughed a lot and learned a lot!

What does resilience look like?
How can being resilient make life easier?
How do we help foster resilience in teens?

Resources:

Instagram- www.instagram.com/lifesuccessforteens/
Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/lifesuccessforteens
Website- www.lifesuccessforteens.com
Freebie: 7 Ways to Stop Your Teen From Procrastinating

061 - Modesty with Dr. Julie Hanks Jul 26, 2021

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We are SO excited for this week’s episode with Dr. Julie Hanks. We learned so much about how to approach the topic of modesty with our girls.

This topic can be confusing and overwhelming. Finding a way to talk about your own family values without objectifying women’s bodies is complicated! We had some questions for Dr. Hanks and were surprised to realize that we both had some underlying thoughts that we didn’t realize were there. Listen in to hear Dr. Hanks thoughts on modesty. (No outline this week - just a flowing conversation.)

Resources:

Social Media:
Empower Her Circle Membership: EHC Membership
Dr. Hanks works 1:1 with only a few coaching clients at a time. Click here to sign up for Priority Coaching Subscription

060 - Hygiene Jul 19, 2021

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We stereotypically think about teen BOYS when we think about hygiene issues; however, it's important that you're talking with your teen daughter about this as well!

Hygiene Basics
- Hygiene necessities
- Cultural/Personal hygiene decisions
- Hygiene myths
What to do if your daughter has hygiene struggles
- Remember the teenage brain!
- Explain why
- Focus on self-care
- Buy teen-specific products
- Seek help!
Expanding our views on hygiene
- Understanding hygiene privilege
- Ways to get involved in helping with hygiene poverty

Resources:

Nicolette XO : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqc0oZYZm1M
Barbara Poncelet, Very Well Family, How to Teach Your Teen Good Hygiene, https://www.verywellfamily.com/smelly-teen-lets-talk-teen-hygiene-3200879
Hygiene: Pre-teens and Teenagers, https://raisingchildren.net.au/pre-teens/healthy-lifestyle/hygiene-dental-care/hygiene-pre-teens-teens
Dr. Tori Cordiano, Ph.D., Ask the Expert, https://yourteenmag.com/health/physical-health/teenage-girl-poor-hygiene
Medically reviewed by Dr. Nirmala Shireesh Dharap (MBBS, DCH, Pediatrics), Written by Swati Patwal (M.Sc. (Food & Nutrition)), Hygiene Tips for Your Teens, https://www.momjunction.com/articles/hygiene-tips-for-your-teens_00116170/
Carina Wolff, 7 Hygiene Myths, Busted, https://www.bustle.com/articles/166000-7-hygiene-myths-busted-once-for-all-according-to-experts
Dr Shubhanan Upadhyay, 5 Hygiene Myths that Drive Doctors Crazy, https://medium.com/adahealth/5-hygiene-myths-that-drive-doctors-crazy-5065b7003096
Days for Girls, https://www.daysforgirls.org/
Whirlpool Care Counts https://www.whirlpool.com/care-counts.html

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