The Long Haul

Where Did the Happiness Go? Jun 07, 2023

In this episode we talk about happiness. Where does it come from? How are peace, happiness and joy all connected?

We dive deep into all of this and drop a surprise announcement at the end!

The Ex-Box Mar 27, 2023

Do you have an Ex-Box? Vito and Liz talk about things that they had from exes and what exes may have from them. They also discuss whether or not it is appropriate to hang on to things from past relationships. They also dive into marriage and what keeps it fresh and share something exciting they are working on!

Life is Hard. Marriage is not. Feb 22, 2023

It's our four year anniversary and we reflect on what we have learned over the last four years. Everyone says after year two, marriage gets hard.... After a kid, marriage get tough.... Wait until you have two kids.... Well we are two kids deep and sharing what we think about this rhetoric. Do we want to add more kids to the mix and see? Are we on the same page? Listen to find out!

Thirsty Spice Jan 26, 2023

Vito and Liz catch up on the holidays, sickness and what they are doing for their fertility. Liz also says how many supplements she takes daily, and it is a lot! Vito finally figures out what he wants to do with his life and you can help! If you need dating advice, holla at ya boy!

The Big D Dec 06, 2022

In this episode we are discussing the top 10 reasons couples get Divorced. Vito also shares a time when he brought shame on his household.

You verses You Nov 19, 2022

In this episode we talk about everything from parenting, marriage and most importantly Love is Blind season 3.

Mustache Wars Oct 11, 2022

What do you do when your in-laws don't accept you? How do we keep our marriage alive with two kids?

We are back answering questions and talking about navigating this season of life.

The Little Things Sep 11, 2022

Liz and Vito (aka Papi) talk about how showing up makes a huge difference in life and how the little things matter more than anything. We also talk about how we want to raise our girls having strong core beliefs so that they can take on this crazy world.

And Then There Were Four Aug 12, 2022

Holy cannoli, we are back! The last 5 months flew by as we adjusted to life as a family of four. What have we been up to and what are the biggest changes so far? Tune in to hear about sex after 2 kids (if that's a thing), arguments, what we think drives couples apart and more!

Babies, Basketball, Bringing Sexy Back Feb 24, 2022

Happy New Year everyone! What busy start we've had. Taking nesting to a whole new level with this baby coming up. Vito can't figure out if he's got crippling anxiety or just super excited to have the next baby! Liz is cool as a cucumber as always and ready to take on the world. Thank God we have each other to balance out!

Merry Christmas! Dec 16, 2021

This episode, we review the November challenge and share some our gratitude jar with you. We update you on the last three weeks and what are looking forward to in the Holiday season. We talk traditions and want to know yours! Make sure you write in and share!

The Gratitude Challenge Nov 16, 2021

This week, we talk about the last Four Agreements Challenge: Always Try Your Best. We then move into the November Gratitude Challenge. We talk about how the challenge has affected us so far. What did Vito get so hot about this last week? Has Liz even been doing the challenge? Find out this week!

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Always Do Your Best Nov 03, 2021

Happy November everyone! To kick this month off we finish strong with the last agreement of the Four Agreements; Always Do Your Best. This may look each day and can have a massive impact on your life. We also kickstart the November Challenge of the Gratitude Jar! Its the Thanksgiving Month so let's give thanks every day!

Don't Assume Anything Oct 21, 2021

We catch up on how The Four Agreements challenge is going for us. Vito shares what has been the hardest with him and Liz addresses one of her underlying triggers. We share this next week's challenge, Don't Assume Anything while diving deep and laughing along the way!

Don't Take Anything Personally Oct 08, 2021

This week we recap Be Impeccable with Your Word while introducing the next challenge, Don't Take Anything Personally. Last week brought up a lot for both of us and we share how the challenge gave us some realizations. We will continue to move through The Four Agreements and hope you join us!

Be Impeccable With Your Word Oct 03, 2021

Happy Sunday everyone! Today we recap the No Technology Challenge and move into our October Challenge! This month we are going to dive into each of the four agreements from the book The Four Agreements. The first agreement is to be Impeccable with your word. This one is a doozy and can create real change in your life and your relationship!

Life is Mind Bottling Sep 20, 2021

We open this week's episode with our confessions followed by the tech-no-mo challenge update. We add in additional challenges. Can you go a whole day without your phone? We also share what our October challenge is going to be and we are so excited!

The Dog Ate Our Episode Sep 12, 2021

Week 2 is underway of the TechNoMo Challenge for September and Vito is LOVING it! Also, pregnancy brain is in full force and we haven't laughed this hard since back in '42

Tech-No-Mo Sep 01, 2021

We are back!! In this episode we share our long absence, some exciting news and a new Challenge! Join us as we take on a new challenge every month to deepen our relationship and cut out the distractions in our lives.

The Challenges within The Challenge Jul 20, 2021

We check in this week on how July on Top of Me is going and the challenges we are facing. As sleep deprived parents, we are finding it way more challenging this time than when we did Sextober. We also talk about one of Li'z fears when it comes to how deeply Vito sleeps.

Who Wants it More? Jul 08, 2021

This week we talk about who is more in the mood between the sexes, the closet killer to a good sex life in our society, and a new challenge to take on during this month!

July On Top of Me Jul 02, 2021

July is here and we are ready to take our relationship to the next level! Sextober was an absolute success and opened our eyes to the depths our relationship can go so we're back at it with Round 2. We cover gender roles (and agree to disagree), what makes Liz high maintenance, and how Vito's only potential outcomes for anything are always negative!

Why are We so Angry? Jun 09, 2021

In this episode, Liz revisit the whole crinkle verses fold argument. Vito and Liz then discuss the anger in their lives and why it's important to recognize it. They then share a huge wedding disaster! Don't forget to write in your questions, in-law and wedding stories!

How Do You Get a Napkin to Dance? You Put a Little Boogie in It! Apr 21, 2021

This week Vito and Liz talk about what life was like before they met and "the ones who got away." They dive into relationships and introduce The Communication Corner, a new weekly segment. Listen to find out why Vito gets embarrassed this episode!

The Puzzle Apr 11, 2021

Listen to this week's episode to find out how a puzzle is causing tension in Liz and Vito's marriage.

Also, could Vito be a stay at home dad? Vito shares what he thinks he would be great at if Liz went to work full time.

Comfortable, but Not Too Comfortable... Mar 24, 2021

We asked you to send in your stories of guests over staying their welcome and share them this episode. We also have a bonus in-law story thatt makes us grateful for ours!

Baby Lead... Whatever You Call It Mar 12, 2021

First of all, how do you even spell weening? (I think that might be right because no red squiggly line came up under the word) Also, why is it so hard to understand that I want people to feel comfortable as a guest in our home but not TOO comfortable?!

Breaking Trust the Day Before Our Anniversary Feb 21, 2021

Liz broke my trust in a very serious way. Also, she's got a secret bank account? (this is what blog article titles look like to get you to click on them and then nothing in the article matches what the title says)

Never Assume When You Married a Cougar Feb 01, 2021

This episode we dive into the world's assumptions of us, what its like for Vito to be married to a Cougar, and what makes a marriage traditional or not. Vito doesn't understand why mom's would ever want to "do it all" and he's trying everything he can to get Liz to make him a stay at home dad. What do you think about traditional marriages and are you married to a Cougar?!

Getting On the Same Page Jan 20, 2021

Every successful relationship is built off of trust, communication, and collaboration. So what happens when you and your partner are not on the same page in certain aspects of life? What if you're not even in the same book?!

Value, Respect, and Compromise are our three main areas of focus when having any sort of argument; and trust you me, sometimes emotions take over and that's when things go south.

Our First Week Apart Jan 13, 2021

Why did Vito and Liz sleep in separate beds for a week? Also, can hot people be funny?

Where's Santa?! Dec 24, 2020

Is Santa coming to your house this Christmas? What does Liz want this year and why does Vito have such a twisted thought process? Also is Mrs. Clause hyphenating her name?

Did We Marry Our Parents??? Dec 13, 2020

Vito and Liz cover a plethora (you like that word?) of topics today as they catch up on a month of chaos and not being able to get an episode out. Does having a baby bring fulfillment to life? Do we marry our parents? What is the bomb that Vito drops at the end of the episode!? He's lost his mind!

Losing Friends, PDA, and our first Sheriff House Call Nov 08, 2020

This week we answer a listener question about what it's like losing friends during a wedding, we cover PDA (public displays of affection) when you're married vs not married, and why the heck we had to call the Sheriff to come to our house!

COVID. Snacks. Custody Oct 19, 2020

This episode we talk about how we navigate having a baby during a pandemic. Who do we let see her and hold her? We then dive into the fun of getting to be intimate again post baby and how the first six weeks of being parents has been.

Keeping Close and Staying Off Sep 30, 2020

We are facing what it takes to keep close together with our first baby with us. Life has completely changed as we knew it and its time to adapt. How do we stay close and grow together? Also, what the heck is going on with the social dilemma documentary? Do we let our kids on social media?

Chapter 2: The First Born Sep 20, 2020

What a whirlwind! In Chapter 1 we got married, we bought a house (and started remodeling it), we brought a dog into our home (good ole Hutch) and I done knocked up Liz! We covered what its like to start life with someone, compromising, sharing, growing, and learning about each other.

In Chapter 2 of our lives we bring in our first born Jovie. WE have no idea what is to come ahead of us but we have full Faith that with good communication, grace, and love for each other, we will grow together as a family and in our Faith.

Join us in our next chapter of life and grow together instead of apart and keep this marriage the best part of our lives!

One Where Vito Has Walls Aug 18, 2020

In this episode, we catch everyone up on what has been going on the last month. We dive into the thoughts we are thinking and feeling as we prepare to meet our baby. Liz is full term and due any day! We also go back to our dating days and talk about how Vito puts up walls.

The One Where Our Family is on a Mission Jul 17, 2020

This week, Liz and Vito explore what it is going to be like starting a family in a misguided world. How do we navigate social media, what is our goal as a family and do we need a mission statement?

The One Where We Find the Truth About Banana's Jul 10, 2020

Well lookie here, Banana's are WHAT?! We answer listener questions about love, goals, "the one". and at the end we really get down to the truth about Bananas... Boy are you in for a treat.

One Where Life is Meaningless Jun 26, 2020

This week we follow up with the dirty talk conversation and talk about your answers. We share our Father's Day and what we did for Vito's birthday. We then dive into the books of wisdom (Proverbs, Ecclesiastes and Job) in the Bible and why does King Solomon say life is meaningless?

The One Where We Talk Dirty Jun 14, 2020

How do people dirty talk?! What is the best and worst dirty talk you've experienced? Also, can guys make new friends at a dog park? Why are we so disconnected with our food? How do we talk about so much in one episode?!

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One Where We Talked About Things We Didn't Need to Talk About Jun 07, 2020

This episode is on the shorter side but it is packed with a whole bunch of stuff you probably don't want to listen to haha We did not plan to talk about this stuff but it just happened and its real and don't judge us. We love you and it's our life and maybe your life is like ours.

One With the Leaky What? May 31, 2020

If you enjoy the time your wasting, is it really wasted? We have different versions of time well spent and we try to work it out before the baby comes. They also address the elephant in the bedroom... farting during sex. Also, do men cycle? We all know women cycle each month but men are not immune to the highs and lows of the moon.

One Where We Complain About Complaining May 24, 2020

Does your family have a tradition after the baby arrives? Our families do things a little differently and Liz has a lot to say about it. We then go into complaining and why society loves to compare. This one gets a little off topic but man did Vito have fun talking. So much so he wouldn't stop talking.

One Where Have Self-Love May 16, 2020

We start the episode catching up on baby stuff. How did we tell our families? What were our initial reactions? Then we dive into self-love and what it really means to us. Can you really love yourselves without loving others first? What does society say and what does God say?

The One Where Liz Goes Missing May 09, 2020

What happens when you live in an Italian family and you don't answer your phone for an hour? CHAOS INSUES.

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One with Rituals, Baptisms and Baby Dedications May 01, 2020

How do we blend our Christian and Catholic backgrounds when it comes to kids? How important is tradition and what is the real spiritual meaning behind baby baptisms and dedications? We discuss all this and more!

One Where We Say We Don't Argue About Money and Then Argue About Money Apr 24, 2020

We answer listener questions this episode and dive into finances, healing trauma and pregnancy sex! Don't forget to write in to let us know what you want to hear!

The One Where We do Horoscopes Apr 18, 2020

Vito thinks horoscopes are absolutely insane so we took it to the test and see what happens. We also dive into what God calls us to be and do and how to simplify life. We cover what our purpose is as well and what makes us who we are.

One Where It's Weird to Say Each Other's Name Apr 10, 2020

The first half of the episode we laugh at pet names people use for each other. Do you say babe? Baby? Honey Bunny? Or Dave?

The second half of the episode we dive deep into communication. 90% of communicating is listening and we explain why.

The One Where We Learn Boundaries with In-Laws Apr 04, 2020

How do you set boundaries with your in-laws? We share a bunch of in-law stories from the listeners and how we plan on setting boundaries. We do a pregnancy update and share our latest argument.

The One When Brooke Calls Us Out Mar 27, 2020

Liz's niece Brooke has been living with us for a month now and she has a hilarious take on who we are and how we live together. Get a fly on the wall perspective on who Liz and Vito really are!

The One Where We Get Busy While Being Busy Mar 20, 2020

How do couples have sex when they are so busy?! This episode we cover ridiculous reality shows, scheduling that magic moment, and looking past red flags. Write in with questions on instagram @esandoz and share what you and your spouse are doing during this Coronavirus lockdown!

The One With the Coronavirus Mar 13, 2020

I'm pretty sure we're living in a movie. WTH is going on?! Turns out all the listeners agree with Liz, and Vito humbly receives the feedback from the listeners. We grow together! Also, all Vito wants is for the world to come together and love each other; as well as have his headache go away! Love you all! Write in to us on instagram @esandoz or via email at elizabeth@elizabethjoy.co

The One Where We Apologize for Parenting Mar 06, 2020

What are you pet peeves of your spouse? Well, Vito kicks off this episode telling some that he has of Liz. Don't worry, she will bring her list next week. They talk about what they want to pass on from their childhood to their children and how do you pave your own parental path? Is it ok to apologize as the parent? They don't see eye to eye.

The One With the Announcement Feb 28, 2020

Boy do we have a lot to cover this week!! Why have Vito and Liz been arguing so much?! Will they renew their vows? Are they long distance dating experts? Vito thinks so. Also, what is all this hoopla about?! Listen to find out

The One Where Vito Get's on the Sexiest Man Alive List Feb 24, 2020

What a crazy weekend y'all. This one comes to you late and that's just the way it is. We talk about our anniversary, Elizabeth speaks at a conference, we go to a wedding, and Vito gets on the sexiest man alive list?! Can't be

The One Where We Calculate Risk Feb 14, 2020

It's our first Valentine's Day as a married couple and what are we going to do?! DOUBLE DATE BABY!!! Normally Vito cooks a 7 course meal for Elizabeth but this year we're helping a new couple be less awkward on their second date. Also, what is it like to travel the world and have home births? What's the risk and what is the reward?! This one gets sweaty. Enjoy!

The One with the 10 Rules Feb 07, 2020

We're all about growing together as a couple and what better way that to take advice from the experts. This week we explore 10 rules that bond and strengthen a marriage. Enjoy!

The One Where We Don't Negotiate Jan 31, 2020

Vito and Liz talk about finding a church home and what they look for. They also cover the nonnegotiables in their relationship.

The One Where They Get Intimate Jan 24, 2020

What does intimacy look like when everything is NOT going as planned? Are ruts okay? How do we get out of them? It's a weird time in our life but our love is stronger than ever!

The One Where They Go All In Jan 11, 2020

How did Vito know he was ready to go all in with Liz? What does that whole process look, sound, and feel like? Also, how do you break down your partners walls and better yet, what does it take to break down your own walls? It's a new year let's get into it!

The One with 20/20 Vision Jan 03, 2020

It's a new year which means new beginnings! Will Vito finally get Lasic surgery? Will Liz ever warm up in this cold weather? What's your intention for 2020 with your spouse? This year let's see the best in one another and love each other for the weirdos we are.

The One Where Vito Learns About PMS Dec 13, 2019

Want to hear what it's like when everything your partner says annoys you? Well, this is the episode for you! Liz is irritable for no reason at everything Vito says, but they still laugh a lot and have a good time. They share Christmas traditions from listeners and how they grew up celebrating.

The One Where They Have Sex in Their Sleep Dec 06, 2019

It is the first full week of December and we are fully diving in! Would you date someone who has never been in a serious relationship? What are the red flags? We discuss the perfect temperature to keep the house at, if dreaming cheating is really cheating and what happens when one of us initiates sleep sex!

The One Where We Created Passion Nov 29, 2019

It's officially Christmas Season! Why not start it off with Christian sex guilt and mending broken relationships?! Liz and I are launching a Family Media App at www.OurStoryApp.co and we talk about our Chemical Pregnancy and how we won't let life keep us down. Love you all, Happy Christmas season!

The One Where We Throw One Together Before Thanksgiving Nov 25, 2019

Its Thanksgiving week suckazzz!! We're traveling to Texas and wanted to give you a little Turkey day appetizer. We're releasing a new eppie on Friday so you can enjoy some post turkey convos while you veg on the couch and digest your feast.

The One that Sounds Like "YEESH" Nov 18, 2019

How real is sleep divorce actually?! Also, trouble in paradise 5 months into marriage, what do you do? How does this happen? Is this common?? We talk about Thanksgiving Traditions and how Vito LOVES to wash dishes. Liz better not forget the paper towels from Costco!

The One With Sleep Wars Nov 11, 2019

What the heck is Sleep Divorce?! This is a thing? Vito learns so much about how people sleep and how it affects marriages all across the world. Also, is Liz willing to give up any space in bed?? DOUBT IT!

The One Where Nobody Pee's Nov 04, 2019

How do you flirt after marriage? Is playing hard to get realistic? Also, why is sex on TV no where close to real life? We cover all of the important stuff in this episode.

The One with the Human Videos Oct 28, 2019

How were you parented as a child? How was your partner? How do you blend that together?

The One Where They Take a Walk Oct 22, 2019

Vito and Liz answer a listener question about helping family out for weddings.

The One Where They Take Their Families' Sides Oct 12, 2019

How can your family get in the way of your marriage? We address having each other's backs when it comes to our families and reasons why we may not.

The One Where Britney Gets Toxic Oct 05, 2019

It's Britney Bitch! Toxic may be one of the greatest songs ever created and it also may be the thing that pulls families apart. How do we deal with it and how do I get that song on Vinyl?!

The One with 11 years of Marriage Sep 27, 2019

Vito and Liz's good friends, Kyle and Lindsay, join them on this episode to talk about getting married young, the ups and downs, and how to keep it fresh with 4 kids after 11 years of marriage.

The One Where Liz Was Crazy Sep 20, 2019

Continuing on the long distance discussion, Liz confesses she was crazy while they lived apart.

The One Where Vito Doesn't Do Distance Sep 14, 2019

How do couples survive long distance relationships? We have no idea and almost didn't survive it ourselves but offer advice anyways.

The One Where Vito's Ready Sep 06, 2019

When is the right time to start having kids? How do you know when you are ready?

The One Where They Crinkle or Fold Aug 30, 2019

When you move in with your significant other MANY questions will arise... like when you use toilet paper, do you crinkle... or fold???

The One Where Liz Claps Back Aug 23, 2019

Who is Anastasia and why is she here?! Lis is PMSing and yall know what that means! Top 25 marriage advice, episode full of love and laughter!

The One Where We Look To Love Aug 09, 2019

We live in a crazy world right now and we all have different opinions and different ideas and I think we all are looking for one thing...

The One With The Dowry Aug 02, 2019

What would you give to get your significant other?? We cover, dowries, WHY people get married in today's climate, and what our possible purpose may be.

The One Where We Had to Do It Twice Jul 28, 2019

Uhhhhh, so we recorded Thursday and it did NOT go well. Take a listen to hear how we resolve conflict.

The One Where We Play The Question Game! Jul 19, 2019

Join us in asking fun relationship questions! Also, this link is great for learning about the Bible. https://thebibleproject.com/

The One Where We Find Something Out About Each Other Jul 13, 2019

She FREAKING loves me! We have a listener write in looking for advice on potentially moving too fast with her serious boyfriend. What do YOU think??

The One Where Liz Plays Hard to Get Jul 03, 2019

Do you still flirt with your spouse or is that old news?!!? Am I (Vito) crazy for wanting the chase still?? HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY!

The One Where Vito Turns 28! Jun 20, 2019

Go Gurl, its yo birthday!

The One Where Vito Gets Re-Married Jun 14, 2019

What a doozy this one was! Why is liz crying?! We don't even talk about anything sad!

The One Where We Fuel Up Jun 09, 2019

We were a little behind this week but have been totally inspired at church today about Accountability and Walking with Love. This conversation is one of our favorites so far. Enjoy!

The One Where We Have Way Too Much Candida Jun 01, 2019

We get a little sidetracked to start but man this convo ends with a BANG! ;) (sexy wink). Enjoy

The One Where Liz Gets Kicked Out of Church May 24, 2019

Say What?! What is the dickens got Liz kicked out of church?! It's not what you think, but you'll love it.

The One With Burnt Toast May 17, 2019

We LOVE hearing from you all and soaking in all of your advice. Also, who would have thought such an amazing story would come out of some burnt ass toast?!

The One Where We Have Our First On Air Fight May 10, 2019

Ohhhh Nelly. Vito gets Liz upset.....

The One Where Vito Becomes a Stay at Home Dad May 03, 2019

MONEY! huge issue is a lot of marriages. How to cope, create budgets, and dive into the value of money and the value of a human. Also, what is this weeks amazing challenge?!

The One Where We Have a Luau Apr 26, 2019

We completed the dollar store challenge and what did we end up with?! Also, we talk about being on the same team as well as looking for in-law advice. Share your #TheLongHaulChallenge with us!

The One Where We Did, Then Didn't, Then Did Again Apr 19, 2019

We dive into our choice to have sex then not have sex and then have sex again, why did we do it and what was the effect of it?? Also, does Vito eat an entire plate of cookies in under an hour?!

The One Where Liz Closes Her Bank Accounts Apr 13, 2019

Did y'all know Liz played sports in high school because I didn't! She also closed her bank accounts this week, let's find out why that's a big deal.

The One Where We Start a Podcast Apr 07, 2019

Liz and Vito are newlyweds taking on marriage and faith starting at the ground floor in this highly entertaining new podcast. Join them as they go through their ups and downs and figure out how this marriage thing works.

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