The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

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Less Overthinking, Secure Functioning, and 2 Actions for Relationship Success - Stan Tatkin - 451 Jun 13, 2023

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Renowned relationship expert, Stan Tatkin, joins Jayson and Ellen in discussing the concept of secure functioning and how it can transform your partnership. Introducing "In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them" This is not your typical self-help book filled with abstract theories and jargon. Instead, it offers practical guidance and actionable steps to help you and your partner thrive.

Join us as we break down the complexities of couples therapy, emphasizing the importance of immediate action to stop the damage before delving into long-term growth. Witness the power of small agreements and the transformative potential of finding relief and care in each other. Gain insights into the mindset shift required to build a thriving relationship and move beyond self-centeredness towards genuine connection.

Don't miss out on this enlightening episode that challenges conventional wisdom and offers practical strategies for building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

4:37 - In Each Other's Care
6:59 - Vertical learning
12:56 - Building containers
22:28 - Stop it or do it
30:34 - What to do about threat buildup
36:30 - Needing space vs. needing to talk
43:09 - Couples therapy vs. individual therapy
46:44 - Do attachment styles change over time?
54:13 - Commitment
59:01 - Stan's advice for high school kids

Links:

The Pact Institute
In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them
Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
Enroll in Relationship Mastery
U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720 704 4850

AMA- Angry Partner, Receiving Criticism, Not Asking Our Partner Questions - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 450 Jun 06, 2023

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On this AMA episode we tackle important questions from listeners. Inna is dealing with her boyfriend's anger issues and wonders if breaking up is the only solution. Kendra seeks advice on how to handle criticism from her husband. Stay tuned as Jayson and Ellen answer more insightful questions and offer guidance on building healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

1:37 - Dealing with an angry partner
13:21 - Receiving criticism
25:48 - Not asking our partner questions

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Top 6 Things Women Want in a Relationship - Jayson Gaddis - 449 May 30, 2023

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This podcast comes from a blog post Jayson wrote for Elephant Journal where he polled over 200 women on his social media channels with this question:

Hetero-women: “What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership?”

Over 200 women responded. It was an emotional read. So, guys, listen up and take notes.

Timestamps:

2:02 - The top 6 things women want from men
3:46 - Willingness
5:02 - Emotional availability and vulnerability
7:12 - Presence
9:42 - Honesty
11:08 - Safety
12:09 - Self awareness
14:24 - Action step

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Evolutionary Love - Andrew Harvey - 448 May 23, 2023

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Do you ever wonder if your relationship pain guides you deeper into whatever you need to heal yourself?

What kind of relationship do you have with God? With reality?

In this explorative and enlightening interview, Andrew Harvey explores how to create evolutionary love that is much bigger than the "you" you know yourself to be. Hang on tight for a mind-blowing ride as Andrew shares his perspective on how relationship work is sacred. He also shares how it serves your soul's calling.

Tune in and feel free to share your thoughts, feelings, and experience in the comments.

Timestamps:

Andrew’s definition of true love [11:00]
Why is love hard? [12:00]
3 ways to build and cultivate true love [14:00]
‘The shadow’ and an exercise in shadow-work [22:00]
Taking responsibility for disowned parts of yourself [29:00]
Advice about purpose for when you’re feeling lost in life [30:00]
The role of suffering on a spiritual path [40:00]
A quote by Rumi [42:00]
What is the most important thing people need to learn in relationship? [44:00]

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1 Tip to Have a Sexy and Powerful Partnership Over Time - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 447 May 16, 2023

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Want to know one tip that most of us avoid or don't execute well so you can have a sexy and powerful partnership that lasts? It isn't going on more dates, and it isn't getting really good at repair. Find out how to transform your romantic relationship with Jayson and Ellen in this week's episode, and leave a comment below with your response/experience.

Timestamps:

1:43 - 1 tip to have a sexy, powerful partnership over time
5:11 - What's holding couples back?
9:19 - Having a plan
15:54 - What does co-creation mean?

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Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720 704 4850

Powerful Sex Practices with Layla Martin - 446 May 09, 2023

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Individual Coach or Couples Coach–Who to Hire and When? - Jayson & Ellen - 445 May 02, 2023

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Jayson and Ellen discuss when couples should seek individual help versus working together with a coach or therapist, and how to use a coach/therapist to address relationship issues.

Timestamps:

0:58 - Individual coaching/therapy vs. couples coaching/therapy
9:53 - Best way to use an individual coach/therapist to help with relationship problems
13:38 - When does individual work make sense?
15:45 - Should a practitioner see couples and individuals?
21:38 - Recomendations

Links:

Transcript
Hire Ellen for relationship therapy & couples coaching
Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720 704 4850

Facing Death, Climbing, Filmmaking & The Creative Process - Pete Mortimer - 444 Apr 25, 2023

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Do you find the psychology of extreme athletes and their relationships fascinating?
Are you curious about what motivates climbers and mountaineers to push themselves to the limit and risk it all?
Are you a creative and could you use some tips on how to follow your creative spirit?
If so, you won't want to miss this interview with Emmy-winning American filmmaker Peter Mortmier, who shares his unique perspective on relationships. Jayson's experience as an extreme athlete and a therapist allows him to gain a unique insight into extreme athletes' psychology. In their conversation, they discuss the reasons why climbers push themselves to the edge, the deeper experiences they seek, and the heightened awareness they gain through their adventures.
Discover the psychology of extreme athletes, as well as insights into the mind of a brilliant creator in this unforgettable episode.

Timestamps:

0:55 - Guest introduction
10:50 - The Alpinist
36:00 - What motivates women who climb?
39:00 - Reel Rock 17
44:45 - How Pete thinks about the creative process
50:40 - Pete's advice to stuck creatives

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Asking Others to Change - Jayson Gaddis - 443 Apr 18, 2023

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Would you change if someone asked you to? Asking people to change is common human behavior, but it can be problematic in our most intimate relationships, such as those with our children, parents, and partners. Tune in to this week's episode to hear Jayson's thoughts on his Instagram DMs and asking people to change.

Timestamps:

1:50 - Why asking others to change is problematic
16:37 - Q&A with Jayson

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Why Female Run Companies Are More Successful Than Male Run Companies - Julia Boorstin - 442 Apr 11, 2023

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Why are women-run companies more successful than male-run companies? If you are a woman, do you ever feel like the workplace is unfair? How often? This interview was completely eye-opening for Jayson, and very humbling, and we invite you to tune in.

Timestamps:

1:00 - Guest introduction
6:02 - How Julia decided to focus on gender differences in When Women Lead
9:36 - Julia's career so far
13:20 - What statistics say about inequality
31:07 - The benefits when women lead companies
39:53 - Do women need to adopt stereotypically masculine traits to succeed?

Links:

Julia’s website
Take the empathy test (“reading the minds eye test”)
Follow Julia on
- Instagram @juliaboorstin
- Twitter @jboorstin
- LinkedIn @Julia Boorstin
Buy Julia’s book → When Women Lead
Review Julia’s Recommended Reading & Resources
CNBC Disruptor 50 (an annual list she oversees, highlighting the private companies transforming the economy and challenging companies in established industries).
Stay Tuned…The Future of TV (documentary)
Closing the Gap (initiative covering closing gender gaps)
Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
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