The Intentional Parents Podcast

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Anger, rage, and what it is trying to tell you (with guest Sally Lemos, MS, LPC) Nov 15, 2023

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Anger is a part of the human experience and can be unpleasant, but our anger can be a gift when we listen to what it wants to communicate. The incredible Sally Lemos, MS, LPC, is on the podcast again today. Sally shares some helpful ways to learn to be aware of our anger before it turns into rage. We discuss storytellers, limits, how to slow down to go faster, and the unforced rhythms of grace. We give you four practical tools in today's show that will help you as you practice becoming a peaceful presence in your home. Enjoy!

Practical tools:

1. Notice what is happening in us

2. Slow down to pay attention

3. Make Repair

4. Grounding Practice (Air, Earth, Light, and Water)

Where to find Sally Lemos MS, LPC: https://www.newbloomtherapy.com/about

Sally’s Blog: https://www.newbloomtherapy.com/my-blog

Verses mentioned:

Matthew 11:28-30

Philippians 4:8

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What to do with fear, anxiety, and shame in our parenting? Nov 08, 2023

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Our culture is fascinated with fear, but as Christians, how is God calling us to walk with him amid our fears? Today, the whole crew is here, and we talk all about fear, how we naturally respond to fear, how shame comes into play, how we can moralize our fears, and most importantly, how we fear not. We cover 4 points today to help you in your spiritual formation journey that God wants to use to transform us into who we really are. This process takes time, so remember to give yourself loads of grace. Enjoy!

4 Things

1. Notice and Befriend fear

2. Invite

3. Speak truth over yourself

4. Choose trust

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A vision for your home, the daily mundane and the miraculous (Interview with Matt Markins) Oct 25, 2023

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Today, we have Matt Markins on the show. Matt is the president and CEO of Awana. Some of you may have grown up in Awana, and others have never heard of it; Awana is a child discipleship and formation program that focuses on helping parents thrive in the daily mundane formational process with their children. In this episode, we talk about the three pillars of discipleship, how to work these into our families, a vision for your home, a culture of transparency, how parenting is both mundane and miraculous, and how the church community can shape a child's faith journey, to name a few. Enjoy!

Three Pillars of Discipleship

1)Be with Jesus

2)Become like Jesus

3)Do what Jesus did

Book: Resilient Child Discipleship

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Book: The faith of our children

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Transparency, Fear of Failure and How the Church Can Respond to Trauma (Interview with Elizabeth Smith) Oct 18, 2023

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Today, We have Elizabeth Smith on the podcast. Elizabeth Smith is a professor at Moody Bible and an author. In this conversation, Brook and Elizabeth cover transparency with your kids, humility, and allowing shame to propel us to repair our relationships. Elizabeth shares the question she is researching in her doctorate: Is the Church a spiritually supportive community for children or families recovering from trauma? You will hear a few of her perspectives on crucial characteristics like empathy, fear of failure, and being faithful. Enjoy!

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Links for Elizabeth Smith:

Book:

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Moody Bible: https://www.moody.edu/academics/faculty/smith-elizabeth/

Motherhood Q+R (With Diane Comer, Elizabeth Mosser, Sally Lemos, and Greta Eskridge) Oct 11, 2023

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Today, we have ALL the speakers from our recent Motherhood Retreat sitting down and responding to your questions! There were hundreds of questions to respond to, but some to highlight in this episode are "How do I connect with boys emotionally"? "How do I interact with my parents when my maturity has grown past them"? "When it comes to saying no, how do we gracefully decline without sounding dismissive or uncaring"? We discuss these questions and many more. Enjoy!

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Resentment of duty and a joylessness boarding on anger + the pleasure principle Oct 04, 2023

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Today, we are diving into the waters of resentment, the pleasure principle, and what happens when we operate from a place of busyness and not rest. Often, in our very full lives, we can forget our end goal, Christ-likeness and being people of love. We walk through the pleasure principle and how we can move to become people who embrace maturity and not resentment. Enjoy

How to move towards maturity and away from the pleasure principle

1. Acknowledge your disappointment

2. Remember Hope

3. Daily Surrender

4. Choose to notice

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The problem with men in our world, the five shifts and beautiful terrible things (Interview with Jon Tyson) Sep 27, 2023

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Today, we have Jon Tyson on the podcast! So many fun and exciting topics are covered on the episode. We cover the problem of men in our time and what we can do to help our fathers, especially young boys. We talk about breaking them out of their childish thinking, bringing them into a liminal space, and then walking them through becoming men. We also cover how we can help form our daughters into adulthood and prepare them for womanhood? We lastly cover forming men, and how to get what you maybe never got. Enjoy!

How do men put away childish things?

The Five Shifts

1. Ease to difficulty

2. Self to other

3. Whole to a part

4. Control to surrender

5. The temporary to the eternal

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Cancel culture, judgment, and why mercy matters Sep 20, 2023

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Today, on the podcast, we walk through what it looks like to create a culture of mercy instead of judgment. We cover how God's awareness can shape our awareness and how we create this culture in our homes. We also cover the four necessities needed to cultivate mercy in your homes. Enjoy!

The Four Ways:

1. Create a culture of self-awareness

2. Create a culture of curiosity rather than judgment

3. Create a culture of discernment

4. Create an others-centered culture

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Essentials for Parenthood: Consecration Sep 06, 2023

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Consecration is a blessing for you, your family, and generations to come. It's a beautiful gift you can give your family. In today's Show, Phil and Brook break down what consecration means and what it looks like to live a life consecrated to God. They get honest about how it is so easy not to live this way and how we can push against the current culture to move closer to holiness. Life is hard, and we all find things that help us cope or soothe our pain, but it leads us away from consecration and brings us more pain. Brook and Phil squash any elements of shame in this process and bring hope through small, practical ways when we choose little acts of obedience daily. A common theme of this episode circles around the truth that when you give up more of yourself and live a consecrated life, you receive more of God's spirit, which helps you continue to live a holy life and receive His blessings. This work of consecration is so important because what we don't deal with becomes a trap for our children. It is our responsibility to stop sin and release blessings to our children. May this be a part of your legacy in your family? Enjoy!

Three things that make up the idea of consecration:

1)Cleansing

2)Sacrificing

3)Dedication

3 Reasons that hold us back from Consecration:

1)Compromise

2)Carelessness

3)Cowardess

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Bullies, mean girls, and creating an environment of safety, not judgment Aug 23, 2023

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Mean girls are not just in the movies. Today, Diane and Elizabeth talk about bullies, in particular mean girls. Our culture tolerates a level of speech towards one another that we have never seen before, especially online. It's everywhere, from prominent leaders to our families and children. The culture our children are navigating through is tricky, and the method of killing them with kindness doesn't always work. Diane and Elizabeth share some wisdom about what to do if your daughter is facing a mean girl. What does it look like to follow Christ and also draw boundaries? How do we teach our daughters to hold space for empathy so they can see that there is a story behind each mean girl? And finally, how can we teach our daughters to forgive the mean girl or bully even if repairing the relationship isn't possible? We hope this conversation today will help you navigate the problematic relationships that your daughters will encounter at some point. Enjoy!

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