The Intentional Parents Podcast

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From Fury to Peace: How to Navigate Conflict with Curiosity & Compassion Feb 28, 2024

Show notes

On today’s show, we are asking some questions to get us thinking about conflict in a helpful way. What does conflict bring up internally for us and What do we do when we are overwhelmed with the feelings that surround conflict? We not only take a deep dive into what we feel when conflict arises but also how to see others in the conflict and how it affects them. When we interact with each of our relationships we are not just interacting with the person, but also with their story and their woundings. We hope today’s show helps you get a little more curious, have a little more compassion, and bring in a little more calm. Enjoy!

3 Ways people often handle or respond to conflict:

1) Attack

2) Ignore

3) Manage

3 Things to ask yourself:

1) Be curious about what is coming up

2) Have Compassion for yourself

3) Calmness

Book recommendation:

Resolve conflict God’s way by Dr. Bill Graybill

Scriptures mentioned:

Philippians 2v3-4

2 Timothy 2v23

James 4

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Speaking events:

Forest Home Family Camp June 23-29

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The Intentional Film Series

Influencers, Accidental Mentorship, and How We Shape Our Families Feb 21, 2024

Show notes

Welcome to our living room! Today is our first Intentional video podcast! We hope now more than ever you feel like you are sitting in our living room conversing with us and that you leave with hope and encouragement to keep stepping into the person God sees you becoming.

Today, we sit down to talk about mentorship and our influence in our families and out in the world. We discuss why mentorship is important, what makes a great mentor, and how we can become great mentors ourselves. We discuss the pressures we face in our culture today to be an influence, how we can become a better mentor with age, and something we call accidental influencing. We cover six ways to become an intentional mentor and five reflection questions to help you process where to begin. Enjoy!

6 ways to become intentional mentors (applies to accidental mentoring):

1) Slow down

2) See people

3) Say encouraging things

4) No shame

5) Be Safe

6) Make it Simple

5 Reflection questions:

1) Think back on your life -who are the people who inspired and influenced you to press in and follow Jesus in a deeper way?

2) Who needs to be seen by you?

3) What do you see in them?

4) What regrets can you pass on so that someone else can learn from your mistakes, what do you wish you would have done differently?

5) What are the top 3 spiritual practices that have opened your whole self to come near to God and where has He transformed you most radically?

Scriptures mentioned:

2 Timothy 2v2

Deuteronomy 6v7

1 corinthians 11v1

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Speaking events:

Forest Home Family Camp June 23-29

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Raising Passionate Jesus Followers (Now available in audiobook!)

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The Intentional Film Series

Marriage, is therapy biblical, discipline, and what if you have already messed up badly as a parent? (Q+R live from San Diego) Feb 14, 2024

Show notes

We have a fun show for you today. All four of us recently traveled to a great church in San Diego called Rise City, and we got to sit down at the end of the conference to do a live question and response time. Their community asked many fantastic questions that many of you have asked us, so we thought we would share this with you today. We cover questions about discipline, parenting children with special needs, our best advice for marriage, what we would do differently in our parenting, blended families, parenting when you blew it in the early years, is therapy Biblical, and cultivating digital rule of life for your family. Enjoy!

Speaking events:

Forest Home Family Camp June 23-29

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https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Passionate-Jesus-Followers-Intentional/dp/0310347777

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Anger, triggers and being at your wit’s end (Replay) Jan 31, 2024

Show notes

Today we are covering the topic of one of the eight primary emotions, anger. Anger reveals what matters to us- both good and not good. Anger becomes a warning signal, compelling humble people to look inside to identify what emotion they are experiencing and why. Fear? Hurt? Sadness? Resentment? Anger is possibly the most important feeling we experience as emotional and spiritual beings because it is the first step to authentic living. It shows our yearnings and hunger for life. We will also cover five ways to start working on being aware of your anger and how to live in the power of the Spirit. Enjoy!

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https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Passionate-Jesus-Followers-Intentional/dp/0310347777

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Interview with Aundi Kolber!

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intentional-parents-podcast/id1462206659?i=1000537701695

The Gift of NO! How kindness + firmness bring flourishing Jan 24, 2024

Show notes

When we teach our children to accept the word no, we give them a gift to help them as they mature into adulthood. On today’s show, Phil, Diane, Brook, and Elizabeth share some recent events where teaching the word no has proven challenging and has also provided a ton of fruit in their family. Join us today as they unpack the stories and lean into how God teaches us to accept the word no, how welcoming the word no brings contentment in life, and how we can give our children a no without breaking their spirit. Enjoy!

3 Dont’s:

1. Don’t be avoidant, if you ignore these conversations it won’t help

2. Don’t be dismissive, sometimes you have to slow way down to be fully present 3. Don’t be snarky or sarcastic, it’s belittling

3 Do’s:

1. Do put on compassion, you don’t have to feel it, put it on like clothes

2. Do listen and reflect back, it’s powerful! “I hear you saying...Do I have that right?” Go into it with curiosity

3. Do practice humility, be open

Digital Rule of Life PDF

Speaking events:

Rise City Church January 26-28

Forest Home Family Camp June 23-29

Scriptures mentioned:

1 John 5v14-15 Romans 2v4

1 Timothy 6v6 Colossians 3v12

2 Thessalonians 2v16-17

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@intentional_parents @brook_mosser @Emosser @philmcomer @dianewcomer

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MERCH:

Gear for the journey

Grab a copy of our book:

Raising Passionate Jesus Followers (Now available in audiobook!)

Website: intentionalparents.org

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The Intentional Film Series

Parenting in the Digital Age Jan 17, 2024

Show notes

Today, we discuss all things digital. How does technology form us? How does technology influence our children? What is our responsibility? The primary thing technology does is change our minds, and God invites us into the renewal of our minds. If it feels hard not to be conformed to the culture around you, you are not alone. On the show today, Brook and Elizabeth share what a digital rule of life is and what their digital rule of life looks like in their home. We have some tools that we hope are helpful as you figure out what guardrails you and your family need.

Digital Rule of Life PDF

Book:

Andy Crouch, The tech-wise family

Book:

Johann Hari, Stolen Focus

Speaking events:

Rise City Church January 26-28

Forest Home Family Camp June 23-29

Scriptures mentioned:

Romans 12v1-2

Proverbs 29v18

Follow us on Instagram:

@intentional_parents @brook_mosser @Emosser @philmcomer @dianewcomer

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MERCH:

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Grab a copy of our book:

Raising Passionate Jesus Followers (Now available in audiobook!)

Website: intentionalparents.org

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The Intentional Film Series

Creating a Culture of Connection, Expectations, and the Phonetic Pace at Christmas Dec 20, 2023

Show notes

In today’s show, we have Diane, Elizabeth, and Sally Lemos Lpc sharing a conversation about Christmas and all the expectations and pressures that can come up. So often, we strive to do everything, but do we know why we are doing everything? Is it to perform for others or even to prove something to ourselves? It’s so easy to make Christmas about what we want instead of focusing on something far more important: how we make others around us feel. We hope this conversation feels like you are sitting with Sally, Diane, and Elizabeth as they dive into some great stories of missing the mark and how it led them to ask these three helpful yet challenging questions:

1. How do we not miss this Christmas?

2. Who or how do I want to be?

3. What kind of culture am I trying to create?

Merry Christmas and Enjoy!

Scriptures mentioned:

1 John 3v19-20

2 Corinthians 10v13

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Sally’s Website / Instagram

https://www.newbloomtherapy.com/about
https://www.instagram.com/sallylemos

Parenting opposite personalities, repentance from anger, and having kids outside of marriage (Q+R) Dec 13, 2023

Show notes

Today, we continue answering your questions. Thank you for sending in such great ones! The first one we respond to is how to parent children who have the opposite personality as you; there is a challenge and a blessing that comes with that. Then, we discuss what repentance can look like after you have responded in anger to your kids. Listen in for some hope and helpful practices, even if you blew it. The last question for today is about how to have a conversation with your kids when someone is having a baby outside of marriage. We touch on so many common situations in parenting; there is something for every parent in this show today! Enjoy!

Scripture mentioned:

Psalm 127v3

Proverbs 24v16

James 5v16

James 1v19

Ephesians 4v15

John 4

The episode on Anger with Sally Lemos(LPC): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intentional-parents-podcast/id1462206659? i=1000634877215

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Overcapacity, navigating death, and fathering from a deficit (Q+R) Dec 06, 2023

Show notes

Phil+Diane and Brook+Elizabeth respond to a few great questions in today's show. First, they talk about what to do when you feel overwhelmed with the load God has given you. Do you constantly feel like you are living outside of your capacity with no margin? Secondly, they discuss how to navigate the subject of death with your kids. This can be a tough subject when your kids feel afraid and even harder when you, as a parent, have fears around death, too. Lastly, they respond to a question about fathers cultivating a vision for their family and what to do if you never had a good father to show you how to do that for your family. This episode has loads of hope to share! Enjoy!

HOPE: Heaven, Oriented, Perspective, Everyday

Verses Mentioned: Psalm 54:4

Isaiah 40:31

Phil 4:13

James 2: 14-17 Matthew 26:38

John 14:1-14

1 Thessalonians 4:13-14

Book recommendation: Randy Alcorn: Heaven and Heaven for Kids

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Striving, Distractions, and Living from a Still Place (Interview with Katharine Hill) Nov 29, 2023

Show notes

It’s our pleasure to welcome back Katharine Hill on our podcast today. Katherine Hill is an Author, speaker, and director for Care for the Family. In our conversation today, we discuss challenges like busyness, distractions, striving, and the digital age. Katharine shares some brilliant thoughts on attentive stillness even when life is busy and the value of being interruptable. We dive deep into finding a slower pace with God despite facing many challenges that want to pull us away. Katharine also shares four helpful habits that she does in her own life to help bring her and her family closer to Jesus. Enjoy!

1) Calm

2) Comfortable

3) Concealed

4) Care-free

Katharine Hill:

https://www.katharinehill.co.uk/

Katharine’s Book: Born Free: A call to be still, know God, and Flourish in a Hectic World

https://www.amazon.com/Born-Free-Still-Flourish-Hectic/dp/1914553187/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2ZMREVYTI4I6J&keywords=born+free+by+katharine+hill&qid=1701198451&sprefix=born+free+by+katharine+hill%2Caps%2C165&sr=8-1

Book recommendation: Domestic Monastery

https://www.amazon.com/Domestic-Monastery-Ronald-Rolheiser/dp/164060670X/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?crid=MBMWZ6NF70YO&keywords=domestic+monastery+by+ronald+rolheiser&qid=1701198500&sprefix=domestic+m%2Caps%2C175&sr=8-2-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1

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Website: intentionalparents.org

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GET: The Intentional Film Series

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