The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast

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Episode 308: Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) and It's Expressions Apr 04, 2025

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In this episode, Brook welcomes back Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, to dive deeper into the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—a groundbreaking reframing of codependency. Together, they unpack how early attachment trauma shapes relationship dynamics, leading many into repeated cycles of caretaking, emotional depletion, and entanglement with narcissistic partners.

Brook and Ross explore the toxic push-pull that arises in high-conflict co-parenting and divorce, where unresolved SLDD patterns often collide with personality disorders. Through the lens of disengagement and strategic self-awareness, they offer insight on how to stop "wrestling with pigs" and begin creating clarity, calm, and lasting change.

Learn more about Ross Rosenberg at his website:https://www.selfloverecovery.com/

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Episode 296 Anxiety and How it Drives Conflict Sep 06, 2024

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In this episode Brook and Tony delve into the notion of how anxiety is one of if not the main driver of conflict and at the base understanding this and learning how to navigate the terrain of ones own anxiety is the avenue toward a high threshold of tolerance can make the difference in disengaging. The basis in the defensive response even in those with narcissism and other personality disorders can be found in navigating the internal sensation that comes with the anxiousness.
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Episode 282 Cyber Security, Keeping Yourself Safe During Divorce and Custody Mar 15, 2024

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In this episode Brook has special guest David Forrestall CEO of SecurIT360 to talk about how to best secure you and you children from the ability of your Ex or for that matter anyone else from being able to track/cyberstalk. Mr. Forrestall give practical and useable information on securing you devices, social media, cloud based storage and applications. Also in the notes below he has provided links to a video he produced with the Cyber help line that will help guide you through many of the processes. Thanks for your continued listenership. You are the reason we continue to provide you with these podcasts.

https://www.thecyberhelpline.com/

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Episode 241 Attuning to Your Children During High Conflict Times with Your EX May 19, 2023

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In this episode Brook and Tony have a deep discussion about the responsibility of parents to take notice of where they get lost in the chaos of the high conflict situations the arise during divorce and custody battles and sometimes simply separation. This chaos leaves the child having to deal with the sense that no one is paying attention to their experience and they have deal with that alone. Parents need to make attuning to the child a priority and noticing where they, the parent get lost in their own chaos and narcissistic needs. Enjoy!!!

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Episode 237 When the Path of Least Resistance Creates More Chaos Apr 21, 2023

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In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the process of conflict as it unfolds as a condition of anxiety and often a want for expediency with one or both parties. Brook and Michelle discuss how using Mind Mapping and the exploration of all aspects of the situation, (although it may take more time) and by using a coach to help get through the weeds can actually be the faster more complete way of staying out of future conflict.

You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.

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Episode 231 Spring and Summer What Will It Be Flowers or Poison Oak Mar 10, 2023

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In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the need for seasonal preparedness in getting ready for the challenges that come with Spring and Summer travel, not having things in place with a good parenting plan and having a plan in place when things go wrong. Also getting ready to get the kids in place for the next school year because if court is needed you best get started now. Enjoy!!!

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Episode 223 Parental Expectations and Children's Anxiety Jan 13, 2023

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In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how one parents push and their high and unreasonable exceptions cause great levels of anxiety and long term conditioning for the child. Often Narcissistic personalities have unfinished personal business an overlay on the children to become what they were unable achieve on their own.

You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.

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Episode 129 The Great Opening (Start Now) Mar 12, 2021

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In this episode Brook and Tony talk about the need to start thinking about how to re-readjust to the changing world of Covid-19 as we begin to open up and relook at how our parenting and parenting plan are working and not working. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!!

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Episode 53 Tis The Season Sep 20, 2019

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In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the need to anticipate holiday challenges and to be proactive in dealing with them and not waiting for the last minute when it is too late. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!!

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Episode 43 Doing The Right Thing All The Time For The Right Reason Jul 08, 2019

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In this episode Brook and Charlie talk about the crucial thought process that goes into managing the conflict, that of always doing the right thing for the right reasons. This is a rich conversation that will be of value to all. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!!

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