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Rebrand Yourself, Redesign Your Life | Gratitude and Growth with Raya Coleman Jul 16, 2025

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What if your second act starts in sweatpants, scrolling Pinterest—and one $99 risk changes everything?
In this radiant, real-talk episode, influencer and beauty entrepreneur Raya Coleman (aka @RayaHope) peels back the filter on what it actually takes to reclaim your identity, build a brand from the inside out, and glow through the messiness of midlife.
You’ll hear how Raya went from feeling unable to express herself in early life, to becoming a self-made social media mogul—navigating hormone shifts, confidence dips, and the comparison trap of social media with a blend of grit, grace, and gratitude.
Chapters
00:00 Meet Raya Coleman
5:22 Stepping Into the Spotlight
15:20 Gratitude as A Growth Strategy
23:47 How Building a Business Strengthens Families
24:40 What Happens When a Woman Leads
33:45 Having Grace for Haters
40:09 Relatability on Social Media
45:05 Self-Care Speed Round: Beauty, Skincare and Travel Tips
48:15 What it Means to Be Complete
Raya Coleman| IG: @rayahope
Website: https://www.rayahope.com/
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
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Astonishingly Alive | How You Can Live Fully (And Unapologetically) After 40 Jul 09, 2025

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How many Monday’s do you have left to live your life?
It might sound morbid, but it’s not a threat—it's motivation. A realization of reality, even. Your unlived dreams are waiting for you to take a step towards them, and they’re losing their patience.
This week, Tori sits down with Jodi Wellman, author of You Only Die Once and founder of the 4,000 Mondays movement, to explore what it truly means to live with depth in midlife—especially when the world insists on telling you there are things more important than your aspirations, or your hobbies, or even just your personal joy.
Together, they unravel the thought loops that dull our inner light—fueling our refusal to take control of our changing bodies, our identity shifts, and our quiet ache for something more.
Jodi teaches us to give ourselves something to look forward to.
Tune in to extend yourself that gift.
Chapters
00:00 Meet Jodi Wellman, The Woman Behind the 4,000 Mondays Movement
02:57 An Inspiration Intervention (Disguised as Math)
05:58 How Stillness and Space Create Fulfillment
09:03 Your Life Beyond Tasks and Titles
11:59 From Midlife Crisis to ‘Midlife Coming to Center’
17:39 Forgotten Joys: How Having Hobbies Helps Your Family
25:40 Reigniting Passion, Playfulness, and Vitality
32:24 How Grief Became a Guiding Light for Jodi
41:15 Astonishing Aliveness—How to Live with Meaning and Momentum
45:10 Fear, Deadlines, and The Feminine Path to Motivation
50:50 What We’ll Really Regret When We Go
Jodi Wellman| IG: @fourthousandmondays
Website: https://fourthousandmondays.com/
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
FB: https://www.facebook.com/people/Shala-Hormone-Health/61564605156249/?_rdr
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3 Non-Negotiables for Restful Sleep | The Science Behind Your Best Rest with Jesse Allen Jul 02, 2025

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How can you dream any bigger when your brain won’t even let you rest?
In this episode of The Complete Woman, Tori Poulter sits down with wellness expert Jesse Allen to unpack the most overlooked pillar of health: quality sleep—not as a luxury, but as a necessary biological rhythm.
Together, they dive into the deep science of sleep cycles, the emotional weight of the sleepless woman, and the practical, often-forgotten rituals that can transform your nights from restless to restorative. From morning sunlight to magnesium, bedtime routines to late-night cravings, this conversation bridges modern neuroscience with simple steps towards self-care—and calls us to remember: you are not lazy, you are likely just tired.
You’ll learn why hot flashes, sugar cravings, and even your “snooze” button are part of a bigger story—the story of how you’re showing up for yourself every day.
Caffeine delays melatonin. Alcohol disrupts REM. But you—you—can disrupt the whole system by letting your dreams do the heavy lifting.
0:00 Welcome to The Restful Night’s Sleep of Your Dreams
02:07 Why Sleep Is the Most Important Pillar of Wellness
05:25 How Your Exhaustion Really Affects You
08:26 The Simple Magic of Sleep Cycles
14:21 The Ritual of a Restful Day
20:19 Women, Hormones & Nighttime Disruption
28:27 Dimming the Lights: The Art of Winding Down
36:09 What to Eat (and Avoid) for Deep Sleep
43:51 Gentle Helpers: Supplements That Support You
52:53 Exhaustion is Not a Badge of Honor
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
FB: https://www.facebook.com/people/Shala-Hormone-Health/61564605156249/?_rdr
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From Autopilot to Highest Self Alignment | How to Trust Your Body Again with Marissa Lore Jun 25, 2025

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So you’ve done everything “right,” and you still don’t feel complete. What next?
If you’ve ever found yourself quietly wondering—”is this really it?” This episode is for you. This week, Marissa Lore joins Tori to explore what happens when life forces us to Slow. Down. And. Actually. Listen. If you’re here reading this, your body is begging you to pay attention. It will whisper... until it screams.
Through her lived experience as a high-performing wellness executive—and a woman navigating some of life's toughest trials with admirable grace—Marissa shares the signs and soul-work that helped her release 80 pounds, reconnect with her body, and redefine what being a “complete woman” truly means to her.
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to change. This episode is your reminder that sometimes, your biggest transformation begins with a single deep breath. Start listening to start living, for real this time.
00:00 Arrival– The beginning is already the middle. Sit. Breathe. Introduce yourself.
04:30 The Discomfort of Pretending– The mask of ambition versus the truth of the moment
09:30 The Body’s Outcry – When Marissa’s body stopped whispering...and her neck blossomed with hives
17:00 Digesting Reality – When the time came to stop swallowing the stress
26:45  The Sacred Pause – “Is this my life?”
33:07  Double Crisis, Singular Opportunity – What crisis teaches us about control
41:00 Reading the Room – How to stop caring and connect with what’s inside of you
49:16  Small Promises, Big Outcomes – How freedom begins with one small win
56:04  Weight in Many Ways – Why the body carries what the heart has refused to hold
1:00:00  Permission to Rest– Some burdens were never yours. Now is the time to let yourself release.
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
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Confidence Isn’t Cosmetic | The Truth About Redefining Your Life at Any Age Jun 18, 2025

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Ever feel like confidence is something other women have—but somehow you missed out?
This week, Jamie Hadfield joins Tori to explore the truth about what confidence actually is (and what it’s not). Whether you're stuck in comparison or searching for a deeper sense of self, this conversation is for you.
With experience as a two-time Mrs. Utah, reigning Mrs. Mexico World, and a seasoned confidence coach helping beauty queens and politicians alike, Jamie shares stories, hard-won wisdom, and practical tools that will help you reclaim your self-worth from the inside out. You’ll also hear about how losing 25 pounds, facing injury, and dealing with grief led her to the international pageant stage—and to her purpose.
This episode is your reminder that “everything you need is inside of you.”
Chapters
[00:00] The Inner Spark Behind Outer Beauty
[06:30] Redefining Beauty at 47: Jamie’s Unexpected Reign as Mrs. Mexico World
[11:00] From Setbacks to Stage Lights: How Adversity Fuels Achievement
[13:30] Real Wins: Why Losing Made Jamie a Better Confidence Coach
[16:00] From Contestant to Competitor: The Secret Sauce to Confidence
[20:00] The Tough Chick Analogy: Why Confidence Is Born in Hardship
[22:30] The Biggest Confidence Block for Women Over 35: Fear of Judgment
[26:00] Raising Boys Without Filters: Jamie’s Parenting Philosophy on Social Media
[30:00] Blindfold the Comparison: Social Media Rules for Confidence Competitors
[34:30] Beauty That Heals: When Outer Glam Meets Inner Grace
[36:00] The Oxytocin Advantage: How Realness Wins Hearts—and Pageants
[41:00] Confidence Coaching Beyond Pageants: From Politicians to Parents
[45:00] The Tugboat Story: Owning Your Unlikely Superpower
[47:00] Start With Spirit: The Ultimate Confidence Practice
Jamie Hadfield | IG: @coachjamiehadfield
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
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The Myth of the Midlife Crisis | How to Turn Your Racing Thoughts into Intentional Influence with Dr. Natalie Jun 11, 2025

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Ever feel like your emotional depth is too much for a world that wants you to “stay strong”?
This week, Dr. Natalie Dattilo-Ryan joins Tori to explore how mental health challenges and emotional changes in midlife—especially during perimenopause—can become a catalyst for personal power and reinvention. Whether you're navigating a newfound level of empathy and changes to your self concept, or just ready to turn your life experience into influence, this conversation is for you.
As a seasoned psychologist and advocate for mental wellness, Dr. Natalie shares evidence-based strategies from her experiences as a PhD of clinical psychology, Harvard med instructor, founder of Priority Wellness Group, and specialist in mental health for the midlife woman to help you reframe your narrative and continue to integrate all stages of your identity. You’ll learn how empathy, an optimistic mindset, and ‘curious observer mode’ can help you hold space for your life's greatest goals.
This episode is your reminder that you’re not leaving your younger self behind—you’re becoming what she always dreamed she could be.
00:00 – Welcome In: Creating Space for Growth, Grace & Real Talk
00:02 – Is It Just Me? Understanding Mental Health Shifts in Midlife
00:03 – Tools That Actually Help: How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Supports Women Over 35
02:29 – Hormones & Headspace: How Changes in Estrogen Impact Mood & Mental Clarity
05:27 – Mindset Makeover: Why What You Expect Shapes How You Feel
08:11 – You’re Not “Too Emotional”: Making Peace with Negative Thoughts & Big Feelings
11:05 – Gratitude as a Game-Changer: How to Be More Intentional Without Toxic Positivity
24:36 – Less Chaos, More Calm: The Power of Simplicity in Easing Anxiety
27:26 – What Is This Feeling? Decoding Anxiety in the Midlife Transition
30:33 – From Self-Doubt to Self-Belief: How Anxiety & Confidence Are Linked
31:36 – Feeling Everything, All the Time: When Empathy Becomes Overwhelm
37:47 – Goodbye, Old Me: Honoring and Grieving the Selves We've Outgrown
41:26 – Change Isn’t the Enemy: Finding Wisdom and Power in Midlife Transitions
46:04 – Whole, Not Perfect: Redefining Completeness as a Woman at This Stage of Life
Dr. Natalie Dattillo-Ryan| @drnataliechristine
https://www.drnataliechristine.com/priority-wellness
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
FB: https://www.facebook.com/people/Shala-Hormone-Health/61564605156249/?_rdr
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You’re Not Broken, You’re Overloaded | Multitasking, Brain Fog, and Midlife Clarity Jun 04, 2025

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Does your brain always seem to be buffering—mid-sentence, mid-task, or mid-thought?
This week, Tori explores what’s really happening to our brains in midlife and why multitasking may be making it worse. Whether you’re juggling family, work, and wellness or just feeling a bit scattered lately, this conversation is for you.
With science-backed insights from leading neurologists and personal stories from her own life, Tori breaks down how hormone fluctuations affect focus, why our obsession with productivity is quietly burning us out, and what you can do to reclaim clarity. You’ll also hear why “just doing one thing at a time” isn’t lazy—it’s life-giving.
This episode is your reminder that a complete woman doesn’t do more—she does what matters, with presence.
Chapters
00:00 – What’s Happening to My Brain? Understanding Midlife Mental Shifts & Hormone Changes
02:45 – Can I Still Focus? How Technology Hijacks Our Attention (and How to Get It Back)
06:35 – Why Am I Doing a Million Things? The Real Reason We Multitask (And How to Stop)
10:00 – Clear Mind, Calm Body: Simple, Science-Backed Focus Tools for Women in Midlife
Tori Poulter | IG: @shala_hormonehealth
FB: https://www.facebook.com/people/Shala-Hormone-Health/61564605156249/?_rdr
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Your Health, Your Rules | The Personal Approach to Integrative Medicine with Dr. Cracroft May 28, 2025

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When medicine doesn't feel made for you, it's time to write a new story.
This week, Dr. Mallorie Cracroft joins Tori to explore what’s missing in women’s healthcare—and how we can reclaim it through functional and integrative medicine. Whether you’re tired of feeling dismissed by conventional doctors or curious about natural, root-cause care, this episode will meet you where you are.
As a OB-GYN who left the traditional model to start a more holistic clinic, Dr. Cracroft shares personal and patient stories that illuminate the true potential of individualized care. You’ll learn why the gut-brain connection matters more than you think, how to manage perimenopause without fear, and why prioritizing your own wellness journey is the most powerful decision you can make.
This episode is your reminder that “you get to choose what’s right for you.”
Timestamps
00:00 Introduction to Women's Healthcare Challenges
01:50 The Vision Behind Uplift for Her
05:01 Transitioning from Conventional to Integrative Medicine
07:46 Understanding Functional and Integrative Medicine
10:50 The Gap in Healthcare: Cultural and Systemic Issues
14:00 Navigating Insurance and Patient Care
16:53 The Future of Women's Health and Empowerment
23:25 Taking Charge of Your Health
27:52 Budgeting for Wellness
28:53 Navigating Perimenopause
37:52 The Gut-Brain Connection
44:08 The Pressure of Being Strong
Guest & Host Links
Dr. Mallorie Cracroft| @upliftforher
https://www.upliftforher.com/
Tori Poulter | @shala_hormonehealth
https://www.shala.com/

The Hidden Stresses of Family Finance | Fixing Your Food Budget with Rachel Coons May 21, 2025

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What if feeding your family could also fuel your dreams?
We talk a lot about eating well, but food budgets and decision fatigue can be a barrier to staying on top of your nutrition.
That’s why this week, Tori sits down with ‘The Money Mom’ Rachel Coons to discuss what it means to be the Financial CEO of your family, and how taking control of your grocery shopping can improve your physical and financial health while creating harmony in your home.
You’ll learn about the SHOP method, which has been proven to help women cut their grocery budgets up to $600 a month, so that you can spend more time focused on what lights you up, and less time dethawing chicken thighs.
This episode is your reminder that when it comes to spending “it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”
Find out more:
Rachel Coons | insta: @heyrachelcoons https://heyrachelcoons.kartra.com/page/fOR2134
Tori Poulter | insta: @shala_hormonehealth
www.shala.com
Hormone Confidence Community
Chapters
03:25 Understanding Financial Stress and Its Impact on Relationships
05:19 Rachel's Journey to Financial Coaching
10:32 The Role of Women in Family Finances
12:27 Becoming the Financial CEO of Your Family
16:40 Intentional Spending vs. Being On A Budget
18:24 Mindset and Emotional Relationship with Money
21:30 Finding Freedom Through Financial Awareness
23:11 The Money Mom Club and Community Support
25:12 Emotional Spending and Its Consequences
26:54 The Importance of Meal Planning
29:13 Creating a Sustainable Grocery System
31:01 Introducing the SHOP Method
39:52 Healthy Eating on a Budget
44:52 Balancing Inner and Outer Worlds

Medical Gaslighting in Menopause | Owning Your Care with Dr. Shawn Tassone May 14, 2025

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Are you frustrated with physicians who won’t seem to listen to your symptoms?
This week, OBGYN, author of ‘The Hormone Balance Bible,’ and host of ‘Confessions of a Male Gynecologist,’ Dr. Shawn Tassone, joins Tori to explore individualized hormone care and finding the right treatment for you. You’ll hear about the doctor-patient dynamic in hormone care, how to navigate well-founded trust issues in women’s health, how different kinds of HRT work, and discover your hormone archetype.
This episode will give you the tools you need to start your hormone balance journey, feeling seen, heard, and confident in your own connection to your body. Because we know that the only “normal” is where you feel your best.
Find out more:
Dr. Shawn Tassone | https://www.drshawntassone.com/ @shawntassonemd
Tori Poulter | https://www.facebook.com/groups/hormoneconfidence
https://www.shala.com/
@shala_hormonehealth
Chapters
06:47 The Medical Industry and Women’s Empowerment
14:31 Navigating Trust Issues in Women's Health
18:35 The Journey to Integrative Medicine
30:59 Finding Balance: Supplements vs. Traditional Medicine
34:21 Navigating Supplement Recommendations
36:31 Understanding Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
40:22 Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones
45:32 Forms of Hormone Delivery
48:15 Assessing Hormone Absorption
52:20 The Importance of Individualized Hormone Treatment
55:17 Exploring Hormone Archetypes
01:04:48 The Future of Women's Health and Hormone Care

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