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00:00.00 mikebledsoe I Think yeah I did one of those um inner Tube River Lazy River thing never done it before been Whitewater raft and canoeing always in Rivers never did the I'm not can hardly do shit as I let the water take me. 00:00.00 Max Shank Sounds good to me. 00:08.26 Max Shank The Lazy river. 00:37.76 Max Shank Aha. 00:39.42 mikebledsoe Yeah, so it took a friend organizing it with a bunch of people who I actually like to spend time with to get me to do nothing on a river and I got out there I got out there and it was. Ah, there was a crowd it was it was like bumper boats for 4 hours in this river it's in Austin yeah south of off and Marcos and when we got there, we're like holy shit's busy and the people working there go oh hasn't gotten busy yet. So. 01:28.44 Max Shank This is in Austin. Well yeah. 01:58.72 mikebledsoe Anyways, yeah, that was ah that was my weekend that and barbecue and laughing with friends. 02:05.46 Max Shank Lazy River is exciting. 02:17.38 Max Shank I'll tell you what makes me laugh is your story about you having some very close friends give you permission to just float in a River it sounds ah like this joke about um, meditation and yoga. It's like. 02:45.76 mikebledsoe Ah. 02:51.56 Max Shank People in None world countries need someone from a None world country to remind them that it's okay to do nothing for 20 minutes it's like you get permission to do nothing for 20 minutes with meditation class or yoga or something like that. It's like. 03:07.20 mikebledsoe Yeah. 03:27.88 Max Shank You just do nothing. 03:28.88 mikebledsoe Yeah, we had a friend of her for dinner on Friday night and we talked about that which was you know talking about you know oh I got a meditation practice and I got a visualization practice and I got qi gong and it's like all these practices and talked about just. The value of not you know, getting trapped in the in the practices and the value of just sitting on the side of a lake and staring at the water and doing absolutely nothing and not worried about your posture or anything like that in just that space. 04:36.56 Max Shank Well, it's like not concerning yourself with the outcome right? Like you don't you don't care if you have produced more widgets or harvested more grains right. 04:44.40 mikebledsoe You know. 05:04.32 mikebledsoe Yeah, it's kind of like play. 05:09.82 Max Shank And that's what we're doing. That's that's like how we judge if if we're good in a lot of relationships because that's where we gain our judgments from is these relationships that we've had so we say it's good to do this. It's bad to do that and. What's interesting is how few people can balance out both and I'm speaking from my own experience as well. It's like None or the other typically and figuring out how to rive the natural cycles which is a wave. 06:11.80 mikebledsoe Yeah. 06:26.68 Max Shank Um, is super valuable. Skill no wind to float in the Lazy River and you know when it's time to climb up the mountain or dig out the gold mine or ah till the field you you go get that shit done with total focus and it. Kind of goes back to what we talked about with the the Jungle cats and the lions and predators of various kinds. It's like they they basically are in rest mode rest and recovery and form bonds with the family or focused. They're not.. They're not hurrying typically right? There's a difference between being hurried and being focused and that's what I try to do sometimes I even get it Sometimes I do it where I'm I'm just focused or relaxed and if I'm relaxed I'm. 07:42.62 mikebledsoe Yeah. 08:20.22 Max Shank I'm letting my focus diffuse into a soft glow like a lantern that you could look directly at it doesn't hurt your eyes or you can focus down like a laser pointer or a laser cutter and you can actually slice through metal with it so being able to. Lazy River or Whitewater Raft. You know that sort of thing or lantern versus laser. 09:10.70 mikebledsoe Yeah, um I think back in my early days of all a not not understanding the value of the space of doing nothing and just playing with no outcome and and how much benefit that gives me on the day. Ah. When I do want to focus the ability to do so is there and I like we were saying about the the lantern and or the laser yesterday is a good example that is I did float on Saturday but yesterday my fiance. 10:02.80 Max Shank Earth. 10:20.94 mikebledsoe So I got says I I need a lot I got a lot of work to do and I said you know what I got a lot of work to do too because I've got a summit coming up and you know there's a I've got a long list and I've got a couple podcast episodes to record this week so there's some things I need to prep for but I'm not gonna. You know it's Sunday and I know that I've got I'm working till next Sunday I don't have a day off between now I'm next Sunday and I'm going to take it easy I probably was more productive and enjoyed my work more without worrying about how much I got done that day. 11:33.44 Max Shank I mean. 11:36.74 mikebledsoe And yeah, it's I find that especially when I was younger a lot of time spent a lot of times spent chugging coffee and overstimulating myself for the purpose of thinking that was going to help me do something better. 11:56.46 Max Shank Totally power through baby well and you'll be more good as judged by all of your peers. It's all the program that's been installed and if everything is sacrificed for the outcome. 12:21.24 mikebledsoe Right here. 12:33.34 Max Shank The extreme example is someone who's going to blow themselves up because the programming was so effective That's crazy so being able to draw boundaries is really what it comes back to is can you draw a boundary for space for yourself. 12:44.32 mikebledsoe No no. 13:12.84 Max Shank And I actually remember a conversation I had with a member at my gym once and I watched this person transform over a period of time I learned about how their work and their life goes and things like that and they were you know real high performer Worker. And her her biggest challenge was to set clear boundaries for herself to do things that were for her I mean she was give give give essentially I'll I'll get all the work done and then just pile some more on and then I'll get that done too and. 14:03.52 mikebledsoe A. 14:29.96 Max Shank Always the last priority and I remember she was asking if she could drop the the personal training from her membership and just do the classes and I said look ah personal train do classes. Whatever you want to do but make an appointment for yourself every week. That you never miss Basically like you have to keep that as a priority and that's one of the reasons that personal training works is because the person is heavily invested to show up at the given time and once that billing and scheduling is all dialed in. 15:11.62 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah. 15:44.54 Max Shank It makes it very easy to show up every time but if it's ah, a group membership and no one really is going to follow up if you aren't coming in there. It's a totally different Thing. So I think it comes back to drawing boundaries. Between those times where you are allowed or allowing yourself to do nothing. 16:27.50 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah, my None task on Monday mornings is to schedule out my rejuvenating activities for the rest of the week when am I going to work out when am I going to go song a cold plunge when am I going to hang out with my friends. 16:46.86 Max Shank He. 17:06.56 mikebledsoe All that scheduled out None thing Monday morning before I even look at what I need to do for work that week and yeah it for me it. It requires that level of of commitment to self in order to follow through on that stuff. 17:13.81 Max Shank Oh. 17:35.76 Max Shank Oh draw boundaries. That's why relationships don't work right? Well, that's why relationships go South is ah, people didn't draw boundaries quick enough. Basically. 17:41.36 mikebledsoe But most people never do it. Yeah, didn't yeah, they just don't even consider the boundaries in the None place. Yeah, you know? Yeah, they're not even aware usually like the the boundary most people. 18:12.96 Max Shank Right. 18:20.32 mikebledsoe Discovered that the boundary even exists when they get mad like ah, a boundary getting crossed it it triggers anger and then a lot of times the the right? the right person to be angry at yourself. But. 18:41.28 Max Shank Um, it's internalized like right. 18:55.16 mikebledsoe It's projected out and blamed on someone else when you know my big thing is anytime I get angry with somebody else I check in with myself to say you know what boundary was crossed and did I communicate that boundary and most of the time I didn't and then I got. 19:13.96 Max Shank Yeah, yeah. 19:32.70 mikebledsoe Check out in myself. But then I go have the conversation about where my boundary is with that person and you know it's always things usually clear up after that. 19:38.68 Max Shank Um, yeah, yeah, um I would I would agree I think people um often don't check their boundaries. Quick enough and hold true to those lines and it makes it very difficult. Ah, and it's kind of an ah accumulating Burden I think even and you don't really know how much you. 20:16.74 mikebledsoe Now just. 20:40.72 mikebledsoe Yeah. 20:51.56 Max Shank Like resentment and blame you can start hanging onto just just because 100% your responsibility you should have drawn boundaries. That's why anytime like what you're saying oh I'm mad at this person. It's like well that's silly because. Whatever happened happened and that was possible from from back when you started that relationship right? That's that's fine. Whatever just ah, try to learn from it and this back to the thing about being focused versus hurried or. 21:32.56 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 22:05.72 Max Shank Whatever there's a big difference between just putting all your focus onto something and being emotionally charged up about it. 22:17.40 mikebledsoe Yeah, so we want to talk about today. Yeah I think we've done boundaries before. 22:25.10 Max Shank What do I want to talk about I want to talk about the well. Okay, last week we talked about stuff basically which was cool. We talked about stuff. Making stuff. 23:01.80 mikebledsoe I Only remember what what stuff will we talk about. 23:10.30 Max Shank Um, we were talking about how come on you we were yeah but you're supposed to treasure mine forever. Whatever I say I'm sure you have like a separate diary just for the conversations that you and I have. 23:24.26 mikebledsoe I've had a lot of thoughts between last week and right now and it gets cluttered. Oh. 23:50.24 Max Shank I mean I know like everyone can tell that you get really excited throwing a word the round throwing around the word fiance now. So I know you got a lot on your mind. You're you're going to be this new person. You're going to be like oh well, you know now that I'm married. 24:08.94 mikebledsoe M. 24:24.28 Max Shank And it's going to be just like last week when you said well now that I'm you know a little older a little wiser I think it's just going to play in to that that guru status that you've developed because now you'll be older wiser married get some kids going and then your avatar. Will be complete so you can you know really have some authority on these messages for the men who listen to us significantly long that we shouldn't even see the neck on that tank top. It should go down at least ten more inches gandalph style. 25:12.22 mikebledsoe Yeah I need ah I need a longer beard too. 25:30.18 mikebledsoe Now see what Ashley says about that. 25:39.66 Max Shank No, we were talking about making stuff though last week like the the value of making stuff physically with your hands and there's and there's a lot of truth that is discovered when you do that because there and it kind of ties so I would tie back. 25:49.84 mikebledsoe Oh oh yeah. 26:04.98 mikebledsoe Yeah. 26:18.26 Max Shank We talked about last week into the so that was the matter or the stuff and maybe we could go into the pattern of things so we could talk a little bit about vibration and rhythm and frequency if if you wanted to It's kind of a. Challenging topic to really follow, but it's um, the reason it reminded me is father's day. It was father's day and you know the word father comes from the word ah pattern and the word mother comes from the word matter. So there's. 27:10.80 mikebledsoe Um. 27:28.20 mikebledsoe Yeah, why say we go with that. Let's go with that. Yeah I'm I'm down to tackle the pattern conversation that sounds good. 27:31.68 Max Shank Matter and pattern so it seems like a nice logical transition. 27:53.38 Max Shank Yeah, so let's say we try to break it down into ah patterns of human beings which is kind of like programs of human beings. So we have that which is I would say that's the most practical level. Is the patterns of humans. Ah we also have ah Dna is a pattern and another synonym for pattern is code. 28:57.40 mikebledsoe I think. 28:59.20 Max Shank So you have Dna you got computer programming you got programming human beings. You got the different ah frequencies and wavelengths of things as it relates to the materials we make. 29:28.84 mikebledsoe Yeah I think it's gonna be a fun topic Actually the more the more you're talking I'm thinking and yeah, this will be a full. 29:43.46 Max Shank Um, you could argue that matter and Pattern are the only topics that we could discuss. 29:56.40 mikebledsoe I think so yeah, everything falls under those 2 categories. That's right. 30:06.70 Max Shank Stuff and not stuff like okay here here's ah, an interesting example right? We have all these forces which is the way we describe. Okay, all right? No, we're Okay, we're we're kicked. 30:23.88 mikebledsoe Hang on hang on. Let's kick the show off and then get into it. Yeah I think I think we're set are we clicked I wrote the date on the top of the page. Um. 30:41.42 Max Shank Okay, you took some notes. 30:55.12 Max Shank I have this I have this fantasy in my mind when I see you looking down and writing something that it's like oh these like excellent notes are like a mind map or something like that or maybe a checklist of things to cover. Really you've just written your name in the date in the corner. 31:23.40 mikebledsoe Um, no half the time It's the date I'm practicing spelling my name. Yeah. 31:38.76 Max Shank Okay, so we'll talk about Pattern for in honor of father's day. 31:47.70 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah I said I say ah why don't you go ahead and do the intro and then we'll talk about the the membership site and then you can go into your explanation for. Father and pattern How about that and then we'll just go from there. 32:31.50 Max Shank And the membership site just so I'm clear is in the beginning of the show I put my camera to expose the nipples and then when the public show starts I tilt it back up. So the nipples are ah not visible is that. 33:03.86 mikebledsoe You got it. You got it? yeah. 33:09.94 Max Shank Is that right? I'm a simple man I like a simple plan. My nips are only free to me but not to you. 33:27.22 mikebledsoe All right? You want to kick off the intro today. All right? yep. 33:32.94 Max Shank Yeah let's do it already. Ah None 2 None welcome back to Monday mornings with max a…
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