The Badass Counseling Show

Q&A: Family Hate, Narc Love, and More Mar 02, 2025

More unpredictable questions taken live by Sven and recorded for another Lightning Round episode. Topics include: Dealing with paralysis, worrying about screwing your kids up, what if I'm the narc, domestic abuse, and much more. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Trauma, Theft, and Trust Feb 27, 2025

Here's the other side of Cass' story, last week's "Robbed of Normal." Meet Kitty, Cass' wife, who can't get past Cass' drinking and stealing, and wonders if she can stay in the marriage. Childhood trauma figures in, and Sven guides Kitty to confront her honest feelings and the truth about her life...and her marriage. Explicit content.

Q&A: Sex and Love, Authenticity, and More Feb 23, 2025

In this Lightning Round, Sven takes questions and comments on topics including sexual trauma, love bombing, a partner's bad behavior, how to tell the kids about divorce, and much more. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Robbed of Normal Feb 20, 2025

Cass is in serious pain. She wants to save herself and her marriage to Kitty (who Sven counsels in next week's show). Cass knows she must confront her troubled past but hasn't been able to face the whole truth. Fears of abandonment and golden child issues pay a big part. Join Sven and Cass in this inspiring healing journey. Explicit content.

Q&A: Being Alone, Blaming Yourself, and More Feb 16, 2025

Sven's ready to go for another Lightning Round, taking questions on topics of life and love, hope and despair, marriage and divorce, and so much more. Please listen in as he applies his wit and wisdom to listeners' questions. Explicit content.

My Body, Mom's Choice Feb 13, 2025

Feeling betrayed by her mother for forcing her to have an abortion at age 17, Kiki still feels the pain and anger 25 years later. She's hoping for an apology that will never come. Kiki believes she's hurting her own family and wants to just disappear. Epiphanies and hope await, as Sven goes to work identifying the root of her problem, and the way out. Explicit content.

Q&A: Getting Away From Narcs, Therapy vs. Self-Help, and More Feb 09, 2025

Sven goes it alone for most of this Lightning Round, as Rob and KC get called away. No worries! He takes on topics including: How to recover post-narc divorce; How to stop feeling guilty after breaking up with a narc; How to build trust in a relationship if you've been hurt before; How to deal with anxious attachment; and many more how-to's in some of the most challenging questions of life. Please listen in! Explicit content.

The Difference That Makes You Unique Feb 06, 2025

Della, in her mid-20s, can't figure out what to do with her life. She feels she has to live up to her own rigid expectations that began as early as age 6. What is the source of her fears and the pressure she feels? Sven works closely with Della to get to the root of her problems so she can confidently get on with what she really loves about life. Explicit content.

"The Difference That Makes You Unique" Overtime Feb 05, 2025

After the show with Della, Sven chats further with her about her feelings. Explicit content.

Q&A: Triggers, Stalkers, and Narcs Feb 02, 2025

The questions are really flying at Sven in this latest Lightning Round. Listen in to this recorded session as Sven goes live on multiple social media platforms and handles topics and questions including: How can I let go of a friend who is using me? My mother is stealing from me and my kids, what can I do? Do you have to be completely healed before you start a new relationship? And much more. Explicit content.

Love or Money? Jan 30, 2025

Bennett is an exhausted single mother who has given in to self-sabotage. She has serious concerns about her children, 16 and 21. Sven helps her discover what feels right in her life, and what was causing her to doubt herself. Bennett admits she never felt wanted by her mother, who had her at age 15 and is now financially secure. Bennett thinks the key to her healing is getting the money from her mother - or is it the love that was always missing? And can she heal without it? Explicit content.

"Love or Money?" Overtime Jan 29, 2025

After the show, Sven chats with Bennett about her experience. Explicit Content.

Q&A: Empathy, Dating, Trust, Healing, and More Jan 26, 2025

Listen in as Sven fields questions from his social media followers. Chances are, your own questions will be addressed in this intriguing Lightning Round. Explicit content.

Anger Mismanagement Jan 23, 2025

As a child, Becker never got enough attention from his father and now has serious anger issues that he fears will harm his relationship with his children. He says he's always hated himself. Sven uncovers the painful truth about the roots of Becker's feelings, and guides him to a whole new approach to life. Explicit content.

"Anger Mismanagement" Overtime Jan 22, 2025

After the show, Sven chats with Becker about his experience. Explicit content.

Q&A: Narcs! Co-parenting with one, gaslit by one, and more Jan 19, 2025

In the first Lightning Round recorded in 2025, Sven takes on all comers with questions including: Is the term narcissist overused? How can I co-parent with a narc ex? Why do I feel like I'm being gaslit by a narc into believing I'm the narc? Also: issues of control, manipulation, intimacy problems in a new relationship, people who threaten suicide, and more. Come on in and take the chill off! Explicit content.

I Should Have Been Aborted Jan 16, 2025

Sakura felt unwanted as early as she can remember. Little wonder, since her mother told her that she should have been aborted. Her adult life has suffered greatly, going from one toxic relationship to another. Sven guides her gently and carefully to accept her lifetime feelings of loneliness and sadness - and how to let it all go. Listen in to this hypnotic counseling episode and join Sakura on her healing journey. Explicit content.

"I Should Have Been Aborted" Overtime Jan 15, 2025

After the show, Sven chats with Sakura about her feelings and ends on a positive, optimistic note.

Q&A: My Son Is Marrying A Narcissist, and More Jan 12, 2025

Sven's followers are at it again, with 20 more unpredictable questions and topics for him to handle. In this episode: My mom says I'm crazy because of something that happened years ago. My stepson urged me to leave his father and now he won't talk to me. Are parents afforded boundaries? I'm discouraged by online dating. And: Is it normal to love being alone? All these and more are here in this Lightning Round. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Husband Says "F the Kids!" Jan 09, 2025

Taught as a child that her only worth was to serve others, Dilese struggles with having left her abusive husband in order to protect her kids. She did the right thing but continues to feel guilty for abandoning the disabled husband who still tells her she's "a piece of shit coward" for choosing the kids and herself over him. Why does she think she's a bad person? Sven dives in and helps her discover the truth that can set her free. Explicit content.

Husband Says "F the Kids!" Overtime Jan 08, 2025

After the show, Sven chats with Dilese about her experience. Explicit content.

Q&A: Resolutions, Exes, Apologies, and More Jan 05, 2025

In this Lightning Round, Sven takes on topics and questions including: I'm a therapist and I don't know how to move on from my divorce; My boyfriend's bestie is a woman and she says I outshine her; How do I build back trust when I'm married to a drug addict; Why do I feel incapable; and much more. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Dishonor Your Mother Jan 02, 2025

In this episode, Sven counsels BeeBee and Mickey as their emotions overflow. Beaten by her parents, emotionally and literally, BeeBee was taught to be submissive because that's what love is. She is studying to be a therapist so she can help others, but Sven points out that she must heal herself first. Mickey feels broken by her abusive mother, who cuts off any conflict with "Honor thy mother." Filled with sadness but afraid of her anger, she turns to Sven for help. Both women still seek their parent's love, but understand they will never get it. Sven guides the women on a path to a much better life. Explicit content.

BONUS: "Dishonor Your Mother" Overtime Jan 01, 2025

After the emotional show, Sven chats with BeeBee and Mickey. Explicit content.

Q&A: Love/Hate For Your Ex, Need For Space, and More Dec 29, 2024

Lots of great questions from Sven's social media followers in this Lightning Round! Relationships dominate the discussion, but Sven also takes on toxic dads, emotional insecurity, boundaries with parents, gentle parenting, and much more. Please join! Explicit content.

A Lifetime of Grieving Dec 26, 2024

Sven counsels two different women who both struggle with the lasting effects, the guilt and the shame, of childhood abuse in the extreme. New understandings abound when Sven probes their painful memories and feelings. Meet Libby and Skeeter, who end up helping each other, and join in their journey to a new sense of aliveness! Explicit content.

BONUS: "A Lifetime of Grieving" Overtime Dec 25, 2024

After the show with Skeeter and Libby, Sven goes even deeper to help them on their way to healing. Explicit content.

Q&A: Coercive Relationships, Cheaters, and Boundaries Dec 22, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven opens up about the causes of his own 12-year suicidal depression. Questions from his followers include: moving on after a long relationship, how to enforce boundaries, should you stay with a cheater, helping a healing partner, and much more. Please listen in! Explicit content.

My Mean Unforgivable Mom Dec 19, 2024

Conditioned by her emotionally immature mother to see herself as unlovable, Liz Sue has never had a successful romantic relationship and finds it hard to make friends. She blames herself. Sven guides her to a new concept of her truth and authenticity. This counseling session brings insight and hope to Liz Sue...and, we believe, our listeners. Explicit content.

Q&A: Triggers, Pride, and Satan Dec 15, 2024

Lightning Round time again for Sven and Rob. Gathering questions as they come in from TikTok and YouTube, Sven tackles: Using horses to teach boundaries, dealing with sibling abuse, the kids want my ex to come to my house for Xmas, why the love of my life is suddenly ghosting me, and much more. Lots of insight to gain here, so please join! Explicit content.

The Truth About Mom & Dad Dec 12, 2024

Sven counsels Seth, who feels disgust and contempt for his mother, but never faced the fact that she was loving and kind to his brother. At the same time, he's mourning that his father didn't protect him - but did protect his sister. Sven gives Seth a whole new outlook on understanding his feelings, setting his younger self free, and getting on with a much better, lighter life. Explicit content.

Q&A: Cheating, Friends, Truth and Lies Dec 08, 2024

Lightning Round! Sven takes questions in real time from online followers on a wide variety of topics. Always ready with a great answer, tune in if you ever wonder about life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness! Explicit content.

Cinderella Gets It All Together Dec 05, 2024

In this powerful counseling episode, Dot reveals her fears that her evil stepmother was right about her. And she comes to grips with her real feelings about her father. Mom chose alcohol. Dad chose stepmom. Told she was always wrong and stupid, she never felt safe in her home and her adult life has been tragically affected. Can she get in touch with her authentic self? Listen in as Sven goes to work as only he can. And don't miss the Overtime bonus content, when Dot puts it all together. Explicit content.

"Cinderella Gets It All Together" Overtime Dec 04, 2024

After the show with Dot, Sven has an illuminating conversation with her. Explicit content.

Q&A: Toxic Relationships, Self-Harm, Going Low Contact, and More Dec 01, 2024

Sven's latest foray into questions from social media followers include: Why can't I get started? Does anger heal you? How can I start loving myself and avoid toxic relationships? Is it unhealthy to leave town after a blowup with my dad? I'm having a flare-up during my recovery from self-healing, what should I do? And much more. Please join us for this latest Lightning Round. Explicit content.

Overcoming an Awful Family Nov 28, 2024

In this counseling episode, meet Skye. Her mother, a pillar of the community, denies the horrible abuse that Skye suffered as a child. Now confronted with the truth, her mother is turning the whole family against her. How to fight back, or how to grieve? Skye is beginning to make progress, and Sven guides her to deeper understanding through a difficult discussion of her childhood sexual abuse. KC adds her thoughts as well. And listen for a great elephant analogy! Explicit content.

Q&A: Slow Walking Exits, Red Flags, Family Cutoffs, and More Nov 24, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven fields questions as they come from his social media followers. Topics include getting past a relationship with a narc, getting your sexual self back after years of neglect, when to forgive, being too content, and much more. Come on in! Explicit content.

Her Father's Biggest Shame Nov 21, 2024

...And mom was arguably worse. Sven makes new connections for Lena in this uplifting counseling episode. Her earliest, difficult experiences in an abusive home were magnified by the onset of Tourette's. Now in her 40's and in survival mode, Lena wonders what to do to salvage her life. Should she cut off her parents? After all, they have cut her off in the past. Sven is ready and able to help. Explicit content.

BONUS: "Her Father's Biggest Shame" Overtime Nov 20, 2024

After the show, Sven chats with Lena about her experience. Explicit content.

Q&A: Narc Recovery, Dating Adventures, and More Nov 17, 2024

Taking to social media, Sven never knows what questions will come up, but he's always at the ready to provide insight, context, advice, and some occasional good humor. Please join us for this Lightning Round! Explicit content.

No Love, No Nurturing Nov 14, 2024

In this counseling session, Della and Lance would both love to have a parent to rely on - but they don't. Support, love, and nurturing are almost totally absent. They are in various stages of cutting ties and wonder what's the best way forward, while dealing with powerful feelings. Sven helps point the way. Explicit content.

BONUS: "No Love, No Nurturing" Overtime Nov 13, 2024

After the show, Sven chats with Lanie and Della about their feelings. Explicit content.

Q&A: Suffering, Forgiveness, Sexual Abuse, and More Nov 10, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven answers questions and gives detailed insight on topics including: Do people choose to suffer? Why do I have attachment issues? Is it bad to not feel sympathy towards someone who hurt you? How do I forgive a parent who abandoned me? And: How do I deal with memories of sexual abuse that only happened once or twice? For al this and more, please listen in! Explicit content.

Abused and Alone Nov 07, 2024

Jayda suffered incredibly severe physical and emotional abuse at the hands of her ex-husband. She desperately wants to protect her children. But her mother isn't supportive and was never nurturing, and not even her therapist believes her description of the violence she endured. She has lost her faith, and lost herself. Sven helps Jayda through her feelings of being unlovable, guides her to some uncomfortable truths, and makes a surprise offer of help. Explicit content.

Q&A: Stupid Narcs, Co-Dependence, Gaslighting, and More Nov 03, 2024

Once again, Sven takes to social media live to take questions on provocative topics including dealing with resentment, feeling jaded by past relationships, healing from emotional neglect, and lots more. Please listen in to this recorded Lightning Round! Explicit content.

Heal Yourself, Heal Your Kids Oct 31, 2024

Sven counsels Shoshanna, who in her mid-40's has lost her spirit and feels stuck. She lives in loneliness and fear that her life will never get better. She's made the break from abusive marriages, but now living alone in a small apartment she's not sure she can maintain a good relationship with her two teenage children, much less heal their own traumas. And, she's conflicted about her career path. Sven helps Shoshanna reach for the understanding and answers that will pull her out of her distress and get on with life. Explicit content.

BONUS: "Heal Yourself, Heal Your Kids" Overtime Oct 30, 2024

After the show, Sven talks with Shoshanna about her experience.

Q&A: Anger, Betrayal, Gaslighting, and More Oct 27, 2024

Another recorded session with Sven opening up live sessions on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok to take unpredictable questions and answer them as only he can. In this episode: How do I stop breadcrumbing from happening? How do I open up after not having a relationship for 10 years? If you know a husband is cheating, do you tell the wife? Is anger a normal response to betrayal? And much more. Please listen in to Sven's latest Lightning Round! Explicit content.

Unwanted From Birth Oct 24, 2024

Sven counsels Leslie, who recalls hating herself since age 4, and now finds her adult life is empty and sad. In order to feel happy, complete, and have a sense of purpose, she believes all she needs is her mother's love and support - which has not come in over 50 years. Sven probes for the messages that have caused Leslie's misery, and guides her to the truths that can unlock a much brighter future. Explicit content.

BONUS: "Unwanted From Birth" Overtime Oct 23, 2024

After the counseling session with Leslie, Sven gives her some parting advice. Explicit content.

Q&A: Dealing With Narcs, the Past, Revenge, and More Oct 20, 2024

Lightning Round! Sven takes to multiple social media sites live and unrehearsed to take questions including: How do I take revenge on my partner while we're still married? Why do I put my self-worth in someone else's hands? How do I deal with a narc husband who is verbally abusing our kids? Why does the atmosphere change when a narc enters the room? And much more. Please join us for knowledge, insight, inspiration, and a few smiles. Explicit content.

It All Comes Back To Mom Oct 17, 2024

Sven counsels Celeste and Rikki, two women with very different, very painful stories but the exact same problem at its root: They felt unwanted, treated like a burden, needing apologies from mom that will never come. When your mother tells you she wishes she had aborted you, how can you not face repeated crises all your life? Sven goes to work and uncovers new solutions for these vibrant, talented, but deeply troubled souls. Explicit content.

BONUS: "It All Comes Back To Mom" Overtime Oct 16, 2024

After the show, Sven talks with Rikki and Celeste about their counseling experience. Explicit content.

Q&A: Trust, Lack of Trust, Triggering, and More Oct 13, 2024

In this recorded Lightning Round, Sven again fields his followers' questions live on TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube. The questions are unpredictable, the answers always illuminating and, at times, entertaining. Should I force my son to go to counseling? I'm triggered by my husband's cheating, what should I do? What if I don't like the way my daughter-in-law speaks to my son? And much more, including Sven waxing poetic about the emotional impact of songs. Come on in! Explicit content.

Feelings Lockup - 2 Vaults Oct 10, 2024

Bridget and Taya are two women who are seriously struggling with life, and for very good reasons. Bad parenting, being a parent, childhood sexual abuse, rape, cults, PTSD, a tragic overdose, and emotional abuse all figure in to their stories. Afraid to face their truths, Sven coaches them to unlock the vaults that hold a lifetime of feelings that can set them free - if they have the courage. In this impactful counseling episode, two women who don't know each other, each with a very different story, find common ground in the path to understanding the past and relieving their pain and suffering. Explicit content.

Q&A: Bad Moms, Narcs, and More Oct 06, 2024

Find out what Sven thinks when one of his followers says her mom told her that her dead stepfather - who molested her - couldn't stand the sound of her voice. Lots more unpredictable questions come Sven's way from social media in this Lightning Round, with tons of great insight and advice. KC comes down from the booth for this one, too. Please join! Explicit content.

Hurt and Crushed Oct 03, 2024

Breck and Molly, two complete strangers, are both in a dark place. Breck always got the message that he was a "dumbass," never good enough, and he attempted suicide at age 18. Counseled by Sven to express his feelings, he says he's terrified that the feelings are coming out. When Molly's mother passed away 2 years ago, she learned that the father who raised her wasn't her bio-dad. She reconnected with bio-dad, but with distressing results. Sven goes to work with both these troubled individuals, hoping they can begin to see the light on the path to understanding and peace.

BONUS: "Hurt and Crushed" Overtime Oct 02, 2024

After the show, Sven chats with Breck and Molly about their experience on the show. Explicit content.

Q&A: How Your Core Beliefs Affect Your Life, and More Sep 29, 2024

Sven takes online questions in real time which lead to his illuminating explanation of how behaviors and feelings can't be changed long-term until you discover the roots of your core beliefs. Other topics include marital issues, feeling overloaded, and dealing with toxic families. It's another unpredictable Lightning Round, so come on in! Explicit content.

So Lonesome I Could Cry Sep 26, 2024

Sven counsels Vito, whose parents gave him the clear message that their feelings and needs were more important than his. He was often left alone as a child, living in a remote area. And now in his 30's, he has no idea who he really is. Sven helps Vito understand how he defined himself as a kid, how it's affecting his adult life, and what he can do about it. Explicit content.

BONUS: "So Lonesome I Could Cry" Overtime Sep 25, 2024

After completing the episode, Sven chats with his guest.

Q&A: Boundaries, Empaths, Narcs, and More Sep 22, 2024

Another Lightning Round, with Sven fielding questions from multiple social media sites in real time. How can I discover who I really am? What does "badass" really mean? I just found out my childhood was a lie, how can I deal with this? Why do I feel guilty for saying no? And much more. For great insight and advice, please listen in! Explicit content.

No More Self-Hate! Sep 19, 2024

Sasha has remained single for 9 years and just can't trust anyone, only believing the people who put her down. Sven carefully unlocks her memory of molestation as a young girl, which leads to a series of revelations about Sasha's feelings about her body and her means of self-protection. After the tears, Sasha now asks: How do I love myself? Listen in as Sven and Sasha connect the dots that help her on her way to a much better life. Explicit content.

Q&A: How To Stop Loving, Express Anger at Narcs, and More Sep 15, 2024

What does it mean to be an adult? How do I stop caring for people who hurt me? Why can't I bring myself to ask for a divorce? How do I express anger toward my narc dad? Why do I hate making money? All these questions and many more are handled by Sven in this Lightning Round. He never knows what questions will come up, and he's always quick with an insightful response. Come on in and join us! Explicit content.

Grandma vs. Son vs. Herself Sep 12, 2024

Divonia is trying to protect her 2-year-old granddaughter from her son, whom she describes as a dangerous "malignant narcissist father." She is supportive of her daughter-in-law, and the divorce which is in process, but feels helpless. Sven listens carefully and compassionately to Divonia's situation and encourages her to see how her own experiences may have contributed to the situation, and how she might begin to see a way out. Explicit content.

Q&A: Explaining Narc Behavior, Sometimes Friends, and More Sep 08, 2024

How to deal with a sibling that keeps giving you advice? How to deal with a friend who only cares about themself? How to explain narc behavior? How to overcome needing to lie when you're afraid to express your own truth? Sven again takes to simultaneous live feeds on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok to answer these listener questions, and much more. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Positively Negative Attention Sep 05, 2024

Is negative attention better than no attention at all? In this counseling episode, Sven works with Gia and Leif, two individuals with seemingly different stories but similar feelings of being lost, alone, and insecure. As a child, Gia's parents made her feel like she was overly dramatic and crazy, while Leif's parents impressed upon him that he had no worth unless he did exactly as they said. Listen in for these impactful examples of parental messaging and actions that can have seriously destructive effects for years and years. Explicit content.

BONUS: "Positively Negative Attention" Overtime Sep 04, 2024

After the show, Gia and Leif have the opportunity to share their feelings with Sven, who has some uplifting parting words. Listen in to Badass Overtime, always spontaneous and unedited. Explicit content.

Q&A: Narc Abuse, Can Therapy Work?, and More Sep 01, 2024

Another varied and insightful Lightning Round, recorded when Sven goes live simultaneously on Facebook, TikTok, and YouTube and takes listener questions. In this episode: How can you accept never getting an apology from a toxic parent who died? Can a narc ever change? Am I to blame if the family mistreats me? Is it normal to completely give up on romantic relationships? And much more. The questions are spontaneous and real, the answers illuminating and hopeful. Please join! Explicit content.

Blind Faith Aug 29, 2024

Sven counsels Eric, who has been blind since birth, abused by a drug-abusing mother and an absent father. He has some entertainment experience and high aspirations, but something is holding him back. He fears that no matter his abilities, he's lesser because of his blindness. Can Sven convince Eric to have the faith to follow his dreams? Join us for this theatrical episode, filled with universal truths and solid advice. Explicit content.

BONUS: "Blind Faith" Overtime Aug 28, 2024

Hear the unedited conversation between Sven and Eric after recording the show. Explicit content.

Q&A: Trust, Abuse, Narcs, Co-Parenting, and More Aug 25, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven takes questions including: How do I deal with my adult child who is becoming verbally abusive like his narc father? How can I co-parent with my abusive ex? How can I ever trust others after a lifetime of disappointment? Why is my date angry when I share pictures of us online? And: Why does my wife desire physical release without intimacy? All this and much more in this episode, in which Sven waxes poetic about the Minnesota State Fair, where he is heading on vacation. But never fear, our podcast takes no breaks! Explicit content.

Isaiah: 30 Years of Repressed Anger Aug 22, 2024

When as a child your stepfather beats you with a board with nails, and your mother does nothing to protect you, and as an adult your mother mistreats your own daughter... Is it any wonder that 30 years of repressed anger come roaring to the surface? That's just the beginning of Isaiah's story in this heartbreaking yet hopeful counseling episode with Sven at his badass best. Please listen in, and also check out the bonus Overtime episode with Sven and Isaiah after the show. Explicit content.

BONUS: Overtime with Isaiah and Sven Aug 22, 2024

After taping "Isaiah: 30 Years of Repressed Anger," Sven and his guest reflect on Isaiah's emotional experience.

Q&A: Standing Your Ground, Exit Strategies, and More Aug 18, 2024

Come on in and listen to Sven's latest Lightning Round! Have you've ever asked yourself: Why did they say they loved me and then left me? Why do I feel like a doormat? Should my friends' conspiracy theories cost me their friendship? How do I get out of this relationship when I can't afford to leave? And much more. Always tons of insight and great advice when Sven goes live on social media and answers unpredictable questions from listeners. Explicit content.

Cheating: Origins and Dopamine Aug 15, 2024

Listen in as Sven counsels Zena and Corrine, two women in serious pain from lovers who just don't care. One cheated, the other was cheated on. Is a temporary dopamine hit worth the destructive behavior? And what are the roots of these two women's feelings? As they experience Sven at his maximum badass counselor self, they also find a lot to learn from each other. Explicit content.

Q&A: Co-Parenting With A Narc, Betrayal, and More Aug 11, 2024

Sven again goes live on multiple social media sites to take unpredictable questions from his followers. In this recorded Lightning Round, topics include: self-sabotaging; having no memories of childhood; journaling prompts for young people; fear of being the center of attention; and much more. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Adopted Only For the Money Aug 08, 2024

In this dramatic counseling session, Sven works with Sarina, who finds herself stuck in an unhappy marriage but won't leave. She's emotionally drained, has lost her motivation after leaving the military, and confused about her next steps. As Sven probes her deepest feelings, we find that Sarina was adopted only for the financial benefit of a mother who, among other atrocities, has stolen her voice. How can Sarina reclaim her self-determination and learn to advocate for herself? Listen in for Sven's "Badass Wisdom." Explicit content.

Q&A: Can a Narc Be Fixed, Dating Advice, and More Aug 04, 2024

In this recorded Lightning Round, Sven fields questions in real time from his online followers on topics including: Dating advice after a long-term relationship; how can you build trust with a cheater; should you talk to your Ex-narc in order to get closure; what to do when your partner says they can't make you happy; and much more. Tons of good advice and insight here, so come on in! Explicit content.

I Just Want To Be Free Aug 01, 2024

Listen in to this moving counseling session in which Sven guides Clara and Anthony, two strangers, toward a more peaceful, hopeful life. Both were victims of difficult and often abusive childhoods, and the effects linger on. Do they have the power and the courage to stick up for themselves? And what does that mean for their lives? Please listen in, and find out. Explicit content.

Q&A: Why Don't I Deserve To Be Happy, and More Jul 28, 2024

Why am I afraid to rely on myself? Why can't my guy commit? How can I possibly move on? My 14-year-old dislikes his narc dad (my ex). Am I undermining my relationship by opening up too quickly? Sven takes on these and many more intriguing questions and comments in this recorded Lightning Round. You never know what to expect when Sven goes live on multiple online platforms and asks for questions. Come on in and find out! Explicit content.

Blood On the Sheets Jul 25, 2024

Sven describes April's story as being in a whole new category of heinousness. April's mother began selling her to men when she was in first grade. No wonder that April, now in her 50's, still feels scared of everything. Although she's still in contact with her mother, April is coming to terms with her true feelings and beginning to believe she can take control of her life. Is it finally springtime for April? Join Sven and April in session for this remarkable story and find out. Explicit content.

Q&A: I Don't Want to Have Kids, I'm a Narc Magnet, and More Jul 21, 2024

In this Lighting Round, Sven and Rob go deep into a listener's question about not wanting to have kids when his partner does. Other topics and questions include: How to protect kids from a Narc ex's manipulation; what to do when your partner has a lot of online "friends;" why don't I ever feel pretty; and much more. The unpredictable questions are always provocative, and Sven is right here for insightful and instructive answers. So join us for Lightning Round 97! Explicit content.

F You and Your Kids! Jul 18, 2024

That's the message Nicole got from her abusive parents. Nicole's brother sexually assaulted her, beginning at age 4. Her parents knew, and even endorsed it. Years later, when Nicole's parents began grooming her own children in the same way, she cut off all contact. But Nicole still suffers greatly and doesn't know how to heal. Sven works hard to show Nicole how it's possible to come alive and finally begin to feel free. Get out your hankies for this one! Explicit content.

Q&A: Attachment, Detachment, Narc Divorce, and More Jul 14, 2024

Listen in as Sven again fields unpredictable questions in real time from his online followers. This time, topics include: Workplace gender abuse; finding the right career; protecting kids from a narc dad; handling accusations of cheating, and much more. Come on in for Sven's latest Lightning Round! Explicit content.

Anger Management, Sven Style! Jul 11, 2024

Jay is filled with anger, even rage, from a maddening divorce, childhood sexual abuse, and a mother who made it all about her when Jay needed her most. Sensing what was trapped inside Jay, Sven uses a dramatic technique that leaves Jay feeling relieved and "amazing." Listen in and join Jay in his amazing journey to a better life. Explicit content.

Q&A: Relationships, Careers, Closure, and More Jul 07, 2024

In this recorded Lightning Round, Sven takes on his followers' unpredictable questions including: How do I find my passion in a career? How do I stop caring about people that don't reciprocate? How can you truly get to know yourself? Why does my spouse always get defensive? And much more. Come on in for great insight and advice! Explicit content.

It's Always My Fault Jul 04, 2024

Sven counsels Trixie, who feels like she's lost and running in circles. Everything that goes wrong in her relationship feels like it's her fault. Sven helps Trixie connect the dots to her parents and step-parents, and find how major problems almost always start small. Do you feel like your relationship is imbalanced? Listen in to Trixie's story and find a new path. Explicit content.

Q&A: Narc Abuse, Letting Go Of Fear, and More Jun 30, 2024

This time out, Sven fields online questions on topics including: Teaching children to name their feelings; avoiding getting triggered; how long narc abuse can last; the difference between intuition and fantasy, and much more. Please listen in to Sven's insightful responses here in Lightning Round 94! Explicit content.

Stuck in the Past: A Marriage Jun 27, 2024

*Stay tuned after the show for Overtime with both guests! Sven individually counsels Peter and Tammi Sue, whose marriage is in trouble. Lying and cheating play a part on both sides, and they both suffered terrible childhood abuse, but what's really at the root? Peter can't open up to his wife and fears she will leave him, while Tammi Sue needs Peter to express his feelings but also understands she's found herself mirroring her own parents' destructive marriage. Both partners join Sven after the show to begin to answer the question: Can this marriage be saved? Explicit content.

Q&A: Isolated? Scared? Can't Stop Running? Jun 23, 2024

Join us for Sven's 93rd Lightning Round! Questions and topics include: My mom never calls me but demands that I call her; meeting your ex's new bf with whom she cheated on you; emotional attachment boundaries; dissociation from emotions; and much more. Tons of great insight and advice, right here. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Clean-Up In Aisle Dad! Jun 20, 2024

Erica is stuck. Her father has entered a nursing home, and she must clear out the contents of his house - but can't get started. Sven digs into Erica's core beliefs, and she finds that in the face of withering criticism from her father and a neglectful mother, she was taught feelings of worthlessness. On top of it, her sister (the golden child) compounded her misery. Sven guides her to escape her rage at her father, mother, and sister, and get on with her life. Explicit content.

Q&A: Walking Away, Keeping Grief From the Kids, and More Jun 16, 2024

It's Lightning Round 92! Sven fields questions in real time from his online followers on topics including: Raging narc partners; your inner child vs. your authentic adult; commitment phobia; staying together for the kids - and not allowing them to experience grief; fear of getting close; and much more. Please join! Explicit content.

Sister-Hood Jun 13, 2024

Meet Georgette, whose sister terrorized her (and her mother) from an early age. Now she has trouble making friends, isn't sure how to handle her young children, and is even afraid that Sven will make fun of her. Sven's empathetic and supportive counseling guide Georgette to new understanding -- and hope. And who's really the source of her core beliefs? Listen in and find out! Explicit content.

Q&A: Forgiveness, Narcs, Hate, and More Jun 09, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven tackles the question of forgiveness in detail. Whether it's a matter of forgiving others or forgiving yourself, Sven's outlook gives you a lot to think about. Other online questions involve the difficult topic of hate: Hating yourself, hating your parents, the roots of hate, and more. With other questions about journaling, a narc's ability to change, red flags, and more, there's something for everyone in Sven's 91st Lightning Round. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Pt. 3: American Hero Slays Demons! Jun 06, 2024

In this final installment of Sven's "counseling post-mortem" interview with Chief Master Sgt. Jeremy Hardy, the Chief explains the impact of his traumatic family issues, his experience and research into alternative medicines and therapies, and his coming to terms with life-altering experiences as the top Pararescue Jumper in the Air Force. Prepare to be impressed! Explicit content.
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Q&A: Narc Boyfriend, Disfunctional Relationships, and More Jun 02, 2024

Sven goes in-depth with his followers' questions in this Lightning Round! Don't have the discipline to change? Need help dealing with adult children? Thinking about taking back a cheater? Feeling empathy for your narc ex-boyfriend? Can't remember your past? Feeling the strain of a new marriage? Come on in and take advantage of Sven's badass approach that so many have found supremely helpful. Explicit content.

Pt. 2: American Hero Slays Demons! May 30, 2024

Sven continues his interview with Chief Master Sergeant Jeremy Hardy, who opens up about his childhood abuse and the effects of it on his life, his incredible career, and his current plans to help other veterans dealing with many of the same issues. Join us for this insightful look at one of Sven's most accomplished and intriguing clients. Explicit content.

Q&A: In-Laws, Narc Dads, Abusive Parents, and More May 26, 2024

Online followers have questions, Sven has answers! Join us for insight and advice on topics including: In-laws who only visit their other grandchildren, a childhood you can't remember, physical reaction to past trauma, co-parenting issues, and much more. There's always something new to explore and learn when Sven opens up for live, unpredictable questions. Come on in! Explicit content.

American Hero Slays Demons! (Pt. 1 of 3) May 23, 2024

In this first of a series of special episodes, Sven interviews Chief Master Sgt. Jeremy Hardy. As the highest ranking special forces operator in the US Air Force at the peak of his career, Jeremy is the very essence of a man's man. He's got many stories to tell about leading an elite unit of Pararescue Jumpers (PJs). But now retired, he's also Sven's client, and has much to overcome, both physically and emotionally. Join us for this penetrating look at a real American hero with a soul in need of healing...and Sven brings the balm. Explicit content.

Q&A: Abused Children, Gaslighting, Finding Authenticity, and More May 19, 2024

Sven's online followers are at it again, lobbing in questions and comments including: I'm stressed about hurting my kids; my mom disowned me and I'm hurting; we broke up and he wants me to wait for him; how do I get to my real self; and much more. Please join us for Lightning Round LXXXVIII! Explicit content.

"I Wish You Were Never Born" May 16, 2024

In this intense, sensitive counseling episode, Sven brings new insight and hope to a despondent TJ, who is great at beating himself up. The woman he loves, who he said he would always stand by despite her illness, forces him to leave and then blames him for abandoning her. Sven gets to the root of TJ's misery: a father who made him feel unimportant, and a mother who told him, "I wish you were never born." A big man comes to some big realizations in this emotional session. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Q&A: Narcs, Trauma, Boundaries, Fear... May 12, 2024

Join Sven and Rob for another recorded online session featuring a wide variety of questions and topics coming in from social media. Afraid of the dark? Dealing with cheating? Moving on after divorce? Co-parenting? Wondering why your narc ex keeps contacting you? All this and more in this Lightning Round. Come on in! Explicit content.

Generational Denial May 09, 2024

Although Brenda's story begins with her concern about her son getting into a car driven by her alcoholic co-parenting ex, this counseling session soon becomes all about the profound effects of bad parenting on their children and their children's children. Brenda believes she's a good parent and has trouble admitting her real feelings about her not-so-good parents, but Sven guides her to some unpleasant, yet supremely hopeful truths. Explicit content.

Q&A: Being Alone, Forgiving, Bad Parenting, and More May 05, 2024

It's Lightning Round LXXXVI! Tons of advice on many different topics including: Setting boundaries in your pregnancy that your mom ignores, being angry about inappropriate forgiveness, feeling worn out by journaling, parental apologies, and much more. Please join us for this recorded session of Sven taking unpredictable questions from his online badasses. Explicit content.

Paternal Betrayal May 02, 2024

Revelations abound as Sven counsels two women with serious father (and mother) issues. Paulie defines herself by her work and wonders why. Perhaps because she felt she always had to perform to prove her worth? Add in a father who molested her two step-sisters and you begin to understand why she hated herself as early as age 3. Next, Heather wants to cut ties with her abusive mother, but comes to understand the truth about a father who betrayed her and never protected her. Lots of tears and hope in this compelling counseling episode. Explicit content.

Q&A: Dating, Therapists, Alcohol, and More Apr 28, 2024

Listen in as Sven takes unpredictable questions from his online followers. In this episode: I need to divorce but I don't want to co-parent. I'm having trouble finding the right therapist. I feel like I'm becoming an extreme taker. And...Sven, what are your credentials? Please join us for Lightning Round LXXXV! Explicit content.

Lonely Teardrops Apr 25, 2024

In this counseling episode, Michelle tells Sven she's leaving her partner of 7 years, knows it's the right thing to do, but is terrified of being alone. She's scared of the quiet. Her unsupportive mother was never her champion, and her hate for her stepfather is real. Still, she thinks her mother's approval is the key to her peace and happiness. Sven compassionately guides Michelle, through her tears, to the truths that will actually bring her the relief she so deserves. Explicit content.

Q&A: Betrayal, Lost Love, Silent Treatment, and More Apr 21, 2024

Another chance for Sven to open his social media platforms to his followers for questions on any topic they like. In this episode: What if you're competing with your mother-in-law for your husband's attention? What if your twin betrays you? How to know when to let go of lost love? How to be supportive and not suspicious of a partner who travels for work? And much more! Please join us for Lightning Round LXXXIV! Explicit content.

Hard Habit To Break Apr 18, 2024

If your parents were clearly bad, but as a child you think they're good, what happens? Sven helps Jane-Susan understand why she has trouble standing up for herself, and why she always thinks there is something wrong with her... Hard habits to break. With Sven's guidance, Jane-Susan has a stunning revelation and begins to feel relief. Maybe it's even a key to getting her own grown daughters to like her a lot more. Listen in to this uplifting counseling session! Explicit content.

Q&A: Feeling Guilty, Fearful, Anxious, Hopeful? Apr 14, 2024

All these feelings and more are explored in this recorded episode of Sven taking on his followers' questions from several social media sites in real time. What if you're anxious and your parter is avoidant? What if you're afraid of passing on your bad characteristics to your children? What if it wasn't safe to be happy or successful when you were a kid? It's hard to talk about the hard stuff...We're here to make it a little easier. Please listen in to Lightning Round LXXXIII! Explicit content.

Extreme Takers (Narcs) vs. People Pleasers Apr 11, 2024

The father of Lynn's child is abusive and a cheater who takes no responsibility. But Lynn wants to keep the family together and feels sympathetic toward him because of his ugly, troubled past. She stands by him even though he doesn't reciprocate and wonders why she still wants him. Sven's second guest, Melissa, left her cheating, alcoholic husband after 15 years. With limited contact he treats their 9-year-old daughter poorly, but Melissa knows her daughter forgives him and still wants her daddy. She wonders which is worse: an absent parent or a parent f'd up with addiction? Sven helps both women answer their questions with compassion and great insight. Get out your hankies! Explicit content.

Q&A: Betrayal, Trauma, Fear of Success, and More Apr 07, 2024

In this online session, Sven takes on his followers' questions on tough topics including: Why can't I stand up for myself? How do I get over the hate I've had my whole life? Is it dangerous to be friends with my ex, who is a narc? And...What is your philosophy of healing? Please join us for Lightning Round LXXXII! Explicit content.

The Struggles of a Gay Trans-Man Apr 04, 2024

Sven counsels Elvis, who just wants a dad, a family connection, a relationship with his sister and niece in which his mom doesn't get in the way but... Assigned female at birth, Elvis hated himself as early as age 6. Growing up, he endured sexual abuse, both verbal and physical, and even ridicule of his thoughts of suicide as a teenager. Now in his 20s, with his increasing authenticity of his sexual identity and a loving husband, Elvis has to come to terms with his feelings toward his parents. Sven points the way with some truly badass counseling. Explicit content.

Q&A: Walking Away From A Narc, Anxiety, Flushing the Pain, and More Mar 31, 2024

There's always new insight and great advice when Sven takes to social media to answer live questions from his many followers. In this recorded session, Sven explains why he loves angry clients! Other topics include knowing when to leave, hesitation to start journaling, giving up on marriage counseling, and dealing with a grandson who curses his mother. Come on in to Lightning Round LXXXI! Explicit content.

Evil Messages Mar 28, 2024

In these counseling sessions, Sven first talks with Reggie, whose father has weaponized religion against him and left him feeling rejected. He realizes that his parents can't possibly make him fall in love with their religion if it's -- and they --are telling him he's evil. In the second half of the episode, Sven counsels Allison, who has discovered that her entire reality was a lie. The birth of her son makes her determined not to hurt him in the way her mother hurt her. Taught to hate herself, Allison must decide which is worse: The abusive parent, or the other parent that let it happen? Please listen in! Explicit content.

Q&A: How to Accept Love After a Narc, Red Flags, Getting Out Of Your Shell Mar 24, 2024

Recorded with questions coming in live from social media, listen as Sven tackles topics including: How can I become a soul counselor like you? What does it really feel like to be loved? Why is my spouse obsessed with porn? And... How do you know if your relationship is right? For all this and much more, please join us for Lightning Round LXXX! Explicit content.

Why Me? Mar 21, 2024

What more could have happened to Nikki? She says she feels like a train wreck. Growing up, there was no safe space for her at home. Sexually molested by her father, brutally attacked by the family dog, parents divorced when she was 5, her mother killed by a drunk driver, marrying a man she felt close to, only to have him cheat on her and come out as gay -- Sven asks, "Which was worst?" Through tears and a bit of laughter, Nikki opens up and allows Sven to provide a glimpse into her path of healing. Norway and a cat figure prominently into the story. Explicit content.

Q&A: More Extreme Takers, Fake Flowers, Accountability, and More Mar 17, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven gets mellow while describing the meaning of true happiness. Lots of badass answers to his followers questions, too, including: How do I deal with a narc using our kids against me? Will an extreme taker ever recognize his dickheadedness? And... Do you keep your journals? All this and much more in Lightning Round LXXIX, please join! Explicit content.

Both Sides Together: I Own You! Mar 14, 2024

In the stunning conclusion of Both Sides, Wow!, Marshall and Adina appear together for some seriously badass counseling from Sven, with some help from K.C. Marshall's continuing behaviors are revealed, and Adina must confront her own actions and decide what is best for her. Expressions like "I own you" and "Request denied" play a part. Ever wonder what goes on in marriage counseling? Listen in for brutal honesty and some very straight talk from Sven. Explicit content.

Q&A: How to Get Happy, Leave a Narc, Deal With Lies, and More Mar 10, 2024

Here come more unpredictable questions for Sven, taken from social media in real time. What happens to a child when a parent breaks their toys? Why do narcs think they own you, and how do you leave a long marriage with one? Why do people constantly lie? And how do I know if my needs are legit, and not trauma-based? For all these and more, join Sven for Lightning Round LXXVIII! Explicit content.

Both Sides, Wow! Mar 07, 2024

Can this marriage be saved? In this episode, Sven hosts two individual counseling sessions. First, Marshall admits to being a serial cheater but says he's done the work on himself and now fears he can't trust his wife Adina to be faithful and stay in the marriage. In the second half of the show, Adina shares her side of the story with Sven and the picture comes into a totally different focus. Listen in to these amazing counseling sessions and decide whose side you're on. Which partner has the right answers? Who struggles to live by their own values? And if you're a person of faith, which is worse, adultery or divorce? Please join us for counseling as badass as it gets! Explicit content. And in next week's episode, hear Marshall and Adina in an explosive joint counseling session!

Q&A: Recovering Narcs, Crazy Narcs, Is My Spouse A Narc or is it Me? Mar 03, 2024

Sven's online followers continue to pepper him in real time with probing questions, this time including: Can a Narc recover? How do I relieve the burden of my Narc ex? How can I tell if my spouse is a Narc - or is it me? Can you help with my divorce from a crazy Narc? And this time, a listener asks Rob what Sven and K.C. do to make him feel loved and appreciated. All this and much more in Sven's Lightning Round LXXVII. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Abuser Attraction Feb 29, 2024

In this counseling episode meet Kit and Jason, both with painful stories of unimaginable abuse. Kit suffered through childhood abandonment, literally locked out by her mother, but still looking for her love. Jason's wife cheated on him with his best friend, but he's more angry at him and wishes he could keep his family together. Sven counsels that giving more chances to abusive people only indicates how little you feel about yourself. For great insight and advice, please join us for these riveting stories. Explicit content.

Q&A: Narcs, Evil Spirits, Healing After An Affair, and More Feb 25, 2024

In this Lightning Round, Sven takes on his online followers' unpredictable questions including: Is it safe to dig deep by yourself? Why doesn't my narc discard me when I mess up? How do I get motivated? Does empathy exist from birth? And much more. Sven never knows what questions will pop up, but he's always ready with wit and wisdom. Please listen! Explicit content.

When The One You Trust Is A Monster Feb 22, 2024

In this emotional counseling episode, Yvette thinks she is coming on the show to discuss her abusive relationship with a man who is now in jail. But Sven understands her pain is rooted in sexual abuse at age 5 at the hands of her father. Are abusive relationships inevitable because of what she was taught as a child? Sven encourages Yvette to confront her 5-year-old self and face her feelings -- and the truth about her innocent self. Explicit content.

Q&A: Trauma, Healing, Friends, and More Feb 18, 2024

Another unpredictable round of questions taken in real time by Sven, and more insightful and inspiring answers! Are you conditioned to doubt yourself? Is it important to suppress childhood trauma? How do I make friends? Why do the demons come back when I'm flushing them out? And much more, here in Lightning Round LXXV. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Real Men Have Feelings Too Feb 15, 2024

Sven counsels Cody, who feels abandoned by partners, friends, and family. He's a Marine veteran but both Sven and K.C. admire his keen ability to be in touch with his feelings. Beginning at a young age, Cody's stepfather taught him that he's going to be alone (read: there's something wrong with me). And no emotional validation was forthcoming from his mother. Any wonder why he feels abandoned and alone? Both Sven and K.C. provide the support Cody now needs to move forward toward a confident, loving life. Explicit content.

Q&A: Forgiveness, Grief, Cheating, Friendships, and More Feb 11, 2024

Pain from a past relationship is poisoning a new one. A woman's husband yells at their son all the time and treats him like a servant. How to forgive a brother who sexually assaulted you. Rekindling an old relationship. Sven tackles all these issues and more right here in Lightning Round LXXIV. For badass wisdom and great advice, come on in! Explicit content.

Dad Broke My Inner Compass Feb 08, 2024

Mac has just been through a painful breakup, has thoughts of his difficult divorce from years earlier, and fears that his internal compass is broken beyond repair. Through Sven's counseling, Mac recalls a frightening childhood with "...not a lot of time for the whole love thing," not to mention the belt -- at age 5. Can Mac learn to trust his genuine inner voice and get his dead father out of his head? What really defines his worth? Listen in to this illuminating counseling session and see. Explicit content.

Q&A: Extreme Takers, Breakups, Love Bombing and More Feb 04, 2024

Living with a narcissist, or what Sven calls an extreme taker? Lots of questions on that topic in this Lightning Round, along with other issues including: parental power, supporting an adult child, properly healing, and...Why doesn't Mom love me? Also in this episode, Rob's brand new grandson visits the studio, giving Sven a chance to fully display his real thoughts about newborns. Please join all of us for Lightning Round LXIII! Explicit content.

Neglect and Destroy! Feb 01, 2024

In this impactful counseling episode, Sven finds common threads in the stories of Jamie and Logan, whose childhood experiences have led to lifelong difficulties with relationships. At age 4, Logan was taken away from his negligent parents, only to find himself with a grandfather who stripped and beat him. Jamie was taught relentless self-criticism as modeled by her mother, and she feels "fundamentally flawed." Along with Sven's insightful guidance, Logan and Jamie have some great advice for each other. Explicit content.

Q&A: Extreme Overthinking, When Do You Know, and More Jan 28, 2024

Sven is in top form as he again tackles his followers' questions from several online sites at once. Tons of great relationship advice in this episode, plus questions including: How do I deal with an avoidant? How do I know I'm being authentic? How can you fill in for a missing parent? And much more, including Sven's outlook on the mental health field. Please listen in to Lightning Round LXXII! Explicit content.

Casting Out the Demons Jan 25, 2024

In one of our most compelling counseling episodes, Ellie shares her horrifying story of childhood sexual and emotional abuse at the hands of her parents, for the very first time. With Sven's guidance (and his impactful application of The Sonoma Method), Ellie is finally able to find some of the relief and security that has been missing for her entire life. Maybe she wasn't "the whorest of whores," as her mother told her. And maybe her parents really didn't have to hold her down to cast out her demons. Join Sven and Ellie as she discovers her new, hopeful reality. Explicit content.

Q&A: Narcissists, Anxiety, and Trauma Jan 21, 2024

Lightning Round! Sven takes to social media to answer many unpredictable questions from his online followers. Tons of insight and advice here: Was your parent great to other people, but not you? Do you have anxiety about journaling? Are you the victim of "emotional incest" because your parents dumped their problems on you? Were you the "golden child?" And much more. Please join us for Lightning Round LXXI! Explicit content.

Looking for Love? Express Yourself! Jan 18, 2024

Do you have to give and give in order to be loved? Can you express your wants and needs to your partner, especially the small stuff, or are you silent? Sven's counseling guest Jeff faces these questions and much more, following a divorce and two failed relationships. He wonders, "Is it me?" Insightful relationship advice from Sven is right here, so please listen in! Explicit content.

Q&A: Divorce, Adoption, Narcs, and More Jan 14, 2024

In this recorded Lightning Round session, Sven takes on his online followers (with a little help from Rob and KC) with questions including: How do I handle the physical stress from a relationship with a narcissist? How do I know if it's the right time to divorce? How can I tell my son that he's adopted? How do I have a relationship with an avoidant partner? And more! Please join all of us for Lightning Round LXX. Explicit content.

I Don't Matter. Thanks, Mom. Jan 11, 2024

Is your worth measured only by how well you serve others? What if it's your mom? What if you believe as a child that unless you take care of your mother, you're not important? And what if you feel like you can't find peace or relief without getting recognition and love from your mother...which she'll never give you? Can you ever accept love from anyone if your mother never loved you? Sven tackles all these questions head-on as he counsels Erin and Heather, who face intense struggles, past and present. Both have been waiting their whole life for someone to tell them that they matter. Sven explains that they have to save themselves, and guides them how to do it. Explicit content.

Q&A: Dismissive Avoidance, Bullying, Being Too Nice, and More Jan 07, 2024

In our 69th recorded Lightning Round, listeners again write in their questions in real time, and Sven takes them on, wherever they may take him. This time: Why do I keep lighting myself on fire to keep others warm? My boss has power over me and I can't fight it. My 11-year-old has been bullied for years, what can I do? What if the man I'm dating says I'm too nice and he can't take it all the time? How can I become comfortable in social situations? And much more. Some great insight and advice from Sven here, so please join us for Lightning Round LXIX! Explicit content.

Afraid to Make Life Better? Jan 04, 2024

Sven counsels Ruby and Kirsten, two women with very difficult situations and long-seated fears. Ruby has found out that her husband has been cheating...for 18 years. And the fallout from that marriage is getting in the way of a new, potentially great relationship. Kirsten is trapped by an abusive ex-husband--- still under the same roof--- who won't leave. Sven helps the women find the roots of their fears, which also hold the key to breaking free. Explicit content.

Q&A: Vicarious Trauma, Triggers, Victimhood, and More Dec 31, 2023

A Lightning Round to cap off the year! Sven takes on the issue of dealing with the pain and suffering of others, both as a therapist and in general for all. Other topics include when to tell your kids about your new partner, helping a suicidal son, welcoming deep dark thoughts as a path to healing, and much more. Tons of great advice here, so come on in to Lightning Round LXVII, with Sven recorded taking live questions from social media. Explicit content.

Family Ties...And Belts Dec 28, 2023

Meet Amirah and Cory, two women struggling to escape the toxic effects of their families. Amirah says she was taught to hate herself from the moment she was born. She feels her family defines her only by her mistakes, and when she misbehaved, she got the belt...unlike her brother. Cory believed the world would be better off without her, having been abandoned and abused by every member of her family. Moving out of the country has not brought relief, and like Amirah, feels she was made to believe she was always the one at fault. Sven effectively counsels these two women to move forward, knowing their family members have been wrong all along, and helps them reclaim their lives. Explicit content.

Q&A: Recovering From Cheating, Being Your Authentic Self, and Much More Dec 24, 2023

It's Lightning Round 67! Sven never knows what questions will come, but he's always quick with the answers. Recorded during a live online session on multiple platforms, Sven tackles tons of tough issues including: How do I let go of toxic people like my ex-narc? How can I make the right career choice? Why do people discard you after they sabotage you? And much more. Please join us for more Q&A with Sven in Lightning Round LXVII! Explicit content.

I Wish I Knew What I Know Now Dec 21, 2023

Bert has lost the love of his life. He had a cheatin' heart, but is that actually cheating? What is your own definition of cheating? Sven delves into these questions in his counseling session with Bert, whose girlfriend discovered his intimate, but not physical contact with another woman. He now realizes he invalidated his partner's feelings and so, destroyed the relationship. With Sven's guidance, Bert comes to a new realization about the source and effect of his actions...and what to do about it. Explicit content.

LR 66: Narcissism vs. Healthy Selfishness, Getting Out the Pain, and More Dec 17, 2023

Sven again turns his attention to his followers' questions on social media, recorded live right as they come in. Should you stay together for the kids? What questions should you ask before agreeing to marriage? What if my partner is cheating with escorts? And much more. Come on in and join us for the free-for-all that is Lightning Round LXVI! Explicit content.

Can't Face the Hate Dec 14, 2023

Jeffrey fears losing his wife. His former porn addiction and anger issues have caused a strain on their marriage. Sven probes for the source of Jeffrey's troubles and uncovers the effects of his father's bullying and abuse. Jeffrey is trying to not feel the hate but Sven counsels that although his rage is justified, only by facing the hate and letting it out will allow him to escape his fear, anger, and pain...and maybe save his marriage. Explicit content.

LR 65: Long Distance Relationships, Moving On From Narcs and Exes, and More Dec 10, 2023

More unpredictable Q&A with Sven! He never knows what questions and comments will come up from his online followers. In this episode: How do I control my anger toward my narc Ex in front of the kids? Should I use hypnosis to unlock blocked childhood memories? When does the pain from an extreme taker go away? And... I want to be with a man who beats me because I don't feel lovable. Join us for Lightning Round LXV! Explicit content.

Mother, I Never Had You Dec 07, 2023

Sven counsels two women with intense mother issues. Bobbie has lived a life of fear and terror, with a bipolar, schizophrenic mother who always says she ruined her life. Her mother doesn't recognize her own illness, and Bobbie desperately needs to learn to validate the need to take care of herself more than she takes care of others. Vida's oppressive mother has crippled her well-being all her life. She feels she was treated like an "emotional dumpster" and even considered suicide before the age of 5. She just wants to feel alive. Sven offers understanding, some appropriate outrage, and a ton of helpful guidance. Explicit content.

LR 64: Coping, Healing, Can You Ever Change Somebody? Dec 03, 2023

Here come the unpredictable questions again, with Sven at the ready to field all of them. His Badass Counseling online followers bring topics including: healing from a fiancé's cheating, eating disorders, finding your own voice, manipulation to marry a narc, and much more. Sven also tackles one of the toughest topics: how to cope and heal from the death of a child. Join us for Lightning Round LXIV! Explicit content.

Emotional Rescue Nov 30, 2023

As a child, Kia never had any emotional support. And now, her boyfriend of 7 years has broken up with her, saying she had emotionally exhausted him. Struggling to understand her pain, it's Sven to the rescue. What does it say about your upbringing when you can't easily recall a time when things were going well? Kia's best memories of her childhood were when her parents weren't there. Sven helps Kia understand the importance of assessing the truth of her childhood, as difficult as that may be, and how it can help with her healing. Explicit content.

LR 63: Narc Manipulation, Self Hatred, Food Addiction, and More Nov 26, 2023

Nothing gets Sven going more than a Lightning Round, and this episode is no exception. Advice for everyone here, on topics including: How to know when it's time to leave, how to focus better, couples retreats, cutting mom out of your life, and so much more. Sven never knows what questions will come up, and he never fails to effectively apply the Badass Counseling approach. In this show, Sven talks about how he got into counseling, too. Join us for Lightning Round LXIII! Explicit content.

Trapped in the Basement Nov 23, 2023

Greg is in a world of gut-wrenching pain. His wife has pushed him away for years, and he feels he must purchase time to spend with his beloved daughter, who holds most of the power in the family and is about to leave home to attend an expensive college. He hides away in the basement of his home in order to have any interaction with his daughter. A very compassionate Sven helps Greg find the roots of his misery, and helps him appreciate the power of "No." Is it possible that an authentic Greg who achieves a happy life can also achieve the love and respect of his daughter? Join us for this emotional counseling session and decide for yourself. Explicit content.

LR 62: Healing a Narc, Healing From Hurt, Finding Love, and More Nov 19, 2023

Q&A with Sven and his online followers, recorded live and unrehearsed. Topics include advice for studying counseling, shadow work, men who prioritize pleasing their mother, what to do when love and affection terrify you, is it possible to heal a narcissist, and much more. Join us for Lightning Round LXII! Explicit content.

My Mother, My Kvetch Nov 16, 2023

Pam is reeling from her mother's sudden biting criticisms. She realizes that she has buried her feelings about never getting approval, saying it has now set off a land mine. Looking back a string of bad choices and problems with intimacy, she begins to see the reasons for her issues. Sven helps her define her land mine, and take steps to defuse it. Explicit content.

LR 61: After-Narc Dating, Is Love Blind?, The Scapegoat Child, and More Nov 12, 2023

In this recorded Lightning Round, Sven goes live on his online sites and provides direct and helpful guidance on issues of relationships, controlling parents, misguided anger, and much more. He never knows what questions will come up, so join us for the surprises and the badass wisdom! Explicit content.

Beast of Burden Nov 09, 2023

In childhood, Derek learned to never be a burden. And so at 35 he finds himself on the short end of a 100% power imbalance with his wife, and now in the middle of a divorce. She wanted to be polyamorous (read: cheat in the open) and he reluctantly agreed. Ultimately feeling betrayed and concerned that his soon-to-be ex is poisoning their teenage children against him, he turns to Sven for help in moving past the anger. Sven then guides Derek to the most productive ways to ensure he never finds himself in this situation again. Explicit content.

LR 60: Father Issues, Attachment Issues, Trauma Issues, and More Nov 05, 2023

In this recorded Lightning Round, Sven fields questions including: Why do women confuse masculine men with narcissists? How do I put myself first? How do I find my authentic self when I'm always told I'm wrong? My wife left me, how do I get her back? And - How do I deal with the grief due to the death of a child? For insight, direct advice, compassion, and even a few laughs, come on in and join us for Lightning Round LX. Explicit content.

A Case of Mistaken Identity Nov 02, 2023

Michael believes he's unwantable, but why? With an unrealistic view of himself and now divorced, he married only because it was "the right thing to do" and wonders how to feel love. As a child, his parents would have him make gift lists for his birthday and Christmas, but they never read them. His father was a source of constant disapproval. So he gave up hope. "I'll go through the motions but my heart's not in it" turns out to apply both to his childhood desires and his adult relationships. Michael is articulate and thoughtful, which makes it just a touch easier for Sven to counsel him on how to love others, and himself, a lot more. Explicit content.

LR 59: NARCS! Ex-Narcs, In-law Narcs, Narc partners, Life after Narcs, and more! Oct 29, 2023

Sven again handles rapid-fire questions from his followers on social media. You never know what might come up, but in this Lightning Round, tons of questions about narcissists. Sven even details the genesis of the term from Greek mythology and what it really means. Other topics include the value of rituals, side quests, and trauma bonds. Keen insight and helpful advice here in Lightning Round LIX! Explicit content.

Love in All the Wrong Places Oct 26, 2023

At 35, Athena doesn't believe she deserves a meaningful relationship, feels disconnected from herself, and is involved in a 3-year affair. Brian suffers with fears his ex will spread toxic stories about him in a tightly-knit community, and has become withdrawn. Sven goes to work, finding common threads in their challenges, and helps both to resolve to do the soul work and aim for genuine, healthy relationships. Explicit content.

LR 58: Life After Journaling, Finding Your Authentic Self, and More Oct 22, 2023

Q&A with Sven again, recorded live as he takes unpredictable questions and comments from his followers on social media. In this Lightning Round: Tons of relationship advice; how to deal with abusive and narcissistic parents, partners, and co-workers; finding the right kind of therapy; breaking trauma bonds, and much much more. Please listen in to Lightning Round LVIII! Explicit content.

My Little Kids Don't Trust Me Oct 19, 2023

Cassidy's small children don't fully trust her, and she knows why. A victim of an abusive childhood herself, she admits to abusing her 5 children (and there's one more on the way), feeling suicidal, and having large gaps in her memory. She's overwhelmed with parenting, therapy hasn't helped, and so Cassidy turns to Sven for finding a path to healing. She knows she needs to do the work for herself and her children. But right now, it's often hard for her to just get out of bed. Listen in to this challenging session for insight and hope. Explicit content.

LR57: Bad Relationships, Good Self-Care, and More Oct 15, 2023

Listen in to Sven tackling tough questions and getting into some back-and-forth with his online followers in this recorded session. Advice on dating, dealing with narcs in bad marriages, navigating heavy relationship issues, recognizing red flags, in-depth tips on journaling, and much more - right here for you in Lightning Round LVII. Come on in! Explicit content.

"I'll Always One-Up You" Oct 12, 2023

Lydia has filed for divorce from an alcoholic, violent husband, who has blamed her for all their problems. Conditioned to accept the abuse, Lydia attempted to be peacemaker, but was told she'd always be one-upped. So she left with her daughter, and feels pain about leaving the marriage. What's wrong? And what's right? Sven helps Lydia unpack this difficult situation and accept that the love she always wanted can be hers. Explicit content.

LR 56: Define a Narc, Check a Cheat, and More Oct 08, 2023

In this Lightning Round, Sven gets into a back-and-forth with an online listener whose husband, an admitted cheater who says he wants to save the marriage, is away for the weekend in the same location as the woman he cheated with. How does he know? And what could go wrong? Other topics include getting over an Ex, conflict avoidance, the meaning of discipline, extreme takers, ghosting, forgiveness, and much more. When someone you care about wants to talk about their feelings, you're on sacred ground. So take off your shoes, slow down, and join us for Lightning Round XVI! Explicit content.

When Your Heavenly Father Isn't Oct 05, 2023

Madi is a person of faith, and in pain over family pressure to maintain a relationship with her father, who she describes as a "shit person." Hearing her heartbreaking story, Sven guides her to understand that what she considered as simply being a low priority was actually serious abuse. Madi feels pressure to forgive, but her father's cruelty and overwhelming hypocrisy make it difficult or impossible. Sven (a former pastor) provides keen insight on the complexity of forgiveness, and the dangers of using a narrow interpretation of the Bible to control and exploit others. Listen for Madi's epiphany, and cheer her on! Explicit content.

LR 55: Advice on Life After Marriage to a Narc, and More Oct 01, 2023

Join Sven for unrehearsed responses to incoming online questions! Is there life after a 35-year marriage to a narcissist? Feeling like you don't deserve to live? Is there a difference between hate and rage? And hear Sven's emotional response to a follower who just became a quadriplegic. It's Lightning Round LV. Come on in! Explicit content.

Hurting Each Other Sep 28, 2023

In Emily's story, the abuse went both ways. After suffering a miscarriage, her husband severely beat her...after she threw a broken glass at him when he called her crazy in public. They later had a son, but the two-way abuse continued until they divorced. Now co-parenting, Emily wonders why she still loves her ex-husband even though she knows she deserves better. Sven asks, "Can feelings of love be detrimental?" as he counsels Emily to stop avoiding her painful feelings and get on with the hard work of healing for her son, and herself. Explicit content.

LR 54: Advice on Worries, Confidence, Trauma, and More Sep 24, 2023

More spontaneous Q&A with Sven, recorded as he checks in with his followers on multiple platforms. Need some new strategies to deal with your worries? Wondering how to succeed at a long-distance relationship? How do you know when it's over? Having trouble co-parenting with an uncooperative ex? Join us for Lightning Round LIV for all this, and much more! Explicit content.

My Trauma, My Self Sep 21, 2023

Britt's sad history includes rape, beatings, and attempted suicide. She understands that she was taught to be unlovable and is making progress, but she's scared to let go of all the trauma that has defined her life. She wonders: What is her substance without it? Sven helps her though the final stages of embracing her authentic self in this ultimately uplifting counseling session. Explicit content.

LR 53: Advice on Toxic In-Laws, Extended Families, and Much More Sep 17, 2023

In Lightning Round LIII, Sven again takes to multiple social media platforms to take live, unpredictable questions. Topics include fear of traveling, difficulties with journaling, conflict avoidance, forgiveness, distant spouses, and more. Sven never knows what's coming, and his answers are always insightful and illuminating. Please listen in! Explicit content.

Overcoming the Life-Long Trauma of Child Abuse Sep 14, 2023

Meet Lynn, whose memories of hating herself begin at age 8. Sexually abused as a child by a string of her mother's partners, Lynn struggles with crippling depression and suicidal thoughts. Compounding her misery - her mother knew about the abuse and did nothing except eventually blame her for it. And the manipulation and cruelty continue to this day. Lynn can only refer to her mother as "BG" - her birth giver. Through her tears, Sven guides Lynn to confront her true feelings, and helps her begin to release her pain and embrace life. Explicit content.

LR 52: Advice for Parents and Children Who Don't Connect, and Much More Sep 10, 2023

In Sven's 52nd Lightning Round, he offers great insight about repairing relationships between parents and children, and vice-versa. Feel like you're giving too much? Afraid that your trauma defines you? Wondering how to finally get your needs met? Worried that your partner is dumping adult problems on your children? Sven tackles all these issues and more in this recorded session of incoming questions from his online followers. Please join us for Lightning Round LII! Explicit content.

How to Not Become Your Parent Sep 07, 2023

Jennifer's life has been filled with "99% self hate." As a child, she never felt protected and had to protect her mother from her father's abuse. Although Jennifer would never allow her mother to parent her own daughter in the same way her mother did to her, she still unquestionably loves her mother. Sven works Jennifer through her painful life story of handed-down abusive behavior, and a string of horrendous relationships. Jennifer is taking steps in the right direction, but has a ways to go. Sven helps point the way. Explicit content.

LR 51: Advice on Life and Sex and Death Sep 03, 2023

In Sven's 51st Lightning Round, he takes on his followers' toughest questions on dealing with grief, handling difficult parenting (and parent) issues, getting past abusive relationships, understanding guilt, loving life like you used to, and so much more. The questions come live and unscripted, and the answers are always enlightening. Come on in and join us for Lightning Round LI! Explicit content.

How to Face the Rage Aug 31, 2023

Sarah believes her hate and rage are behind her, but she says she has no functional relationships. Sven helps her discover the connection between her severely troubled childhood and her true feelings as an adult. Molestation at the hands of her older sister and cousin was ignored by her parents and led her to a violently abusive relationship at age 15 with a 21 year old man. She's now taking steps to leave another failed relationship - an 11-year marriage - but her religious faith is getting in the way. Lots of tears and lots of hope in this moving episode. Explicit content.

Lightning Round L Aug 27, 2023

Wondering if narcissists ever feel guilt? How to stop feeling invisible to your family? How to get through your sibling's wedding? Afraid you'll become a narcissist after living with one? Are you failing to get your emotional needs met? Join Sven and his online followers for our 50th Lightning Round! The questions are unpredictable, the answers always provocative and illuminating. Come on in! Explicit content.

How to Overcome Despicable Parenting Aug 24, 2023

Meet Lance and Rebecca, whose deep wounds from their lost childhoods haunt their adulthood. As a child, Lance was forced to care for his bipolar, suicidal mother. Rebecca suffered an early life filled with emotional and sexual abuse of the highest order. Did they become self-critical? "Only 100%."
Listen in to this gripping session as Sven counsels these two remarkable individuals who are struggling toward a better life filled with good relationships with their own children, their partners, and themselves. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XLIX Aug 20, 2023

Recorded live and unrehearsed for the 49th time, Sven takes on tough questions from his online followers. Tons of useful insight and advice here, with questions including: What's the best way to unlock blocked memories? Where did my teen learn to say "You're triggering me?" How can I stop lashing out when I'm stressed? Who is Sven for Sven? And: Why does my girlfriend keep storming out of my house at midnight? All this and much more in Sven's latest Lightning Round. Come on in! Explicit content.

What's the Worst That Could Happen? Aug 17, 2023

In two stories of abandonment and guilt, Sven provides some seriously healing counsel. First, Sharon found her estranged fiancé dead in his car, and needlessly blames herself. In the second half of the show, meet Christian, who always knew he didn't want to marry, but gave in anyway, thinking, "What's the worst that could happen?" Both individuals found out. If you'd like to learn how to give yourself permission to live life your way, listen in and join Sven, Sharon, and Christian in this riveting episode. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Sharon and Christian Aug 17, 2023

After the episode "What's the Worst That Could Happen?," Sven got Sharon and Christopher's reactions to their experience on the show.

Lightning Round XLVIII Aug 13, 2023

Another recorded session of Sven taking unpredictable online questions fed to him live from 3 different social media platforms. Sven explains the root of his 12-year depression, and tackles topics like narcissism, finding one's purpose, the effects of adoption, the green flags to look for when dating, and much much more. Explicit content.

Cheating From Every Painful Angle Aug 10, 2023

Sven's counseling guests in this episode have cheated, been cheated on, had parents that cheated, been abandoned... Amanda wants to hold herself responsible and resolve her feelings, and Faith is just scared that life is passing her by. Both women seek recovery and peace, and Sven helps them look, painfully at times, at the origins and effects of cheating. Far-reaching cheating. Please join us and listen in to these compelling stories and Sven's insightful guidance. And check out the bonus content with Amanda and Faith in Badass Overtime. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Amanda and Faith Aug 10, 2023

After the show "Cheating From Every Painful Angle," Amanda and Faith share their thoughts with Sven.

Lightning Round XLVII Aug 06, 2023

Fearless Sven again takes to social media to field unpredictable questions on tough personal topics: My ex is a narcissist and I've adopted his daughter who is just the same, should I cut myself off from her? How can I erase the memory of an accident that put me in a wheelchair? I apologized, but my son won't talk to me. How do I get over my abusive ex-husband? And lots more. Join us for Lightning Round 47! Explicit content.

It's Your Inner Voice. Listen! Aug 03, 2023

Sven does some seriously badass counseling with two women, each struggling to find their inner voice. Rachel is having a crisis of faith. Damaging and sexist messages taught by her parish are blocking her ability to heal from past trauma, including sexual abuse. Sven's deep pastoral knowledge plays an important role in helping Rachel find her free, authentic self. Sven's first guest is Jacqueline, and his heart bleeds "200%" when he learns of her horrible childhood. She felt the responsibility to take care of her mother's emotional needs, but got little or nothing in return. Small wonder she has felt uncomfortable even existing. Listen in to this riveting counseling session, and then check out the Badass Overtime bonus episode to hear the guests' reaction after the show. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Jacqueline and Rachel Aug 03, 2023

Listen in behind-the-scenes as Sven has an interesting chat with his guests after the show "It's Your Inner Voice. Listen!"

Lightning Round XLVI Jul 30, 2023

Kicking off Season 5, Sven takes to social media to record this new round of questions from his followers. He never knows what will come up, but he's always ready for anything. In this episode, find out what he thinks about a mother who leaves town -- right when her child is about to undergo brain surgery! Tons of great advice here on relationships (long-distance or otherwise), anxiety about intimacy, narcissistic partners, journaling, and much more. Cool insight here for hot summer days, so please come on in! Explicit content.

With Or Without You Jul 27, 2023

Meet Phil and Kristi, two very different individuals whose issues have a common root. Sven counsels them to look inside, rather than at the extremely challenging outside forces that debilitate them. Kristi has suffered through an abusive marriage to a violent narcissist and needs guidance to find a better life for herself and her children. Phil was caught cheating, has a houseful of relatives, and seeks to reconcile with his reluctant wife. For insight and advice, they turn to Badass Counseling. Listen in to see how it goes! And please join us for the Badass Overtime bonus episode with Phil and Kristi to see how they felt after spending some intense time with Sven. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Phil and Kristi Jul 27, 2023

After finishing "With or Without You," Sven had a meaningful exchange with his guests. Listen in!

Lightning Round XLV Jul 23, 2023

Here's another recorded session of Sven in top form, fielding questions in real time from followers on 3 different social media platforms. Narc issues, mom issues, Ex issues, anger issues, children issues, childhood issues, relationship issues...It's all here, and more, in Sven's 45th Lightning Round. Please join us for great insight, advice, and a few laughs, too! Explicit content.

Dad Was Good...5% Jul 20, 2023

Meet Rachel, who knows she should leave her relationship with an "aggressive, whiny, and controlling" man, but can't figure out how she got into it. Sven guides her through confronting her family myth and the effect it had on her. When no one in her family keeps a picture of her late father, you can begin to guess what's up. Rachel finds it tough to state the truth, but says, "It's kind of easier with him being gone." Join us for her compelling story, and don't miss Badass Overtime with Rachel to see how she felt after the show. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Rachel Jul 20, 2023

After the show, Rachel had the chance to tell Sven how different it felt to talk with him directly vs. listening to him counsel others. Lots to learn here, so please join us for Badass Overtime! Explicit content.

Lightning Round XLIV Jul 16, 2023

Narcissists! (or, Extreme Takers). Sven offers his in-depth thoughts about narcissists from many angles, including why are they the way they are, why don't they think they're not lying, why do they often abandon their children, and more. Sven is fired up and ready to rock in this recorded session of listener questions and answers, fed to him in real time from social media platforms. Other topics include fixing relationships with children, handling triggers, and dealing with a partner who smokes pot. Always many gems of advice and insight in Lightning Rounds, so come on in! Explicit content.

Raped at 8, Mom's OK With It Jul 13, 2023

Tiffany says her mom "broke me," but still hangs on to the feeling that a relationship with her mother would make her feel whole. But Sven points out the hole in her reasoning in this counseling session about the long term effects of a verbally abusive parent. And now, Tiffany must determine how to protect her own children from their grandmother, who hasn't changed a bit. Lots to learn in this episode, so please listen in, and then join Tiffany and Sven after the show in their Badass Overtime. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Tiffany Jul 13, 2023

After the show, Tiffany and Sven talked about her experience. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XLIII Jul 09, 2023

What's the secret to living life effortlessly? How do I build my confidence? I can't get over my ex! How do I deal with a bully at work? Why do I get mad when my peace is disrupted by my kid? Listen as these and other issues are hurled at Sven from his online followers in another live session recorded for this podcast. Sven riffs on taking the direct approach, on swearing, on overcoming fear, and so much more. Sven's 43rd Lightning Round awaits, so come on in! Explicit content.

Emotional Rescue Jul 06, 2023

In one of his most powerful -- and tearful -- counseling sessions, Sven comes to the aid of Sarah, who in her 50's can't understand why she "...can't release the pain." Is it simply because she was adopted? No, Sven goes deep into Sarah's experience with a biological father who wouldn't acknowledge it, neglectful adoptive fathers, and a mother who basically used her only as a tool for getting her own love needs met from others. Grab three hankies and listen in to this fascinating session. And don't forget to check out Badass Overtime with Sarah to hear her collect her thoughts after the show. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Sarah Jul 06, 2023

It was a challenging show for Sarah, and she had a chance to reflect with Sven after the taping. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XLII Jul 02, 2023

Live on tape again and ready for action, Sven takes to multiple social media platforms to field questions from his followers. Like to know exactly how narcissists destroy relationships? How to flush out the pain of attachment issues, or spiraling, or trauma bonds, or even dealing with the death of a child? Please join us for these and many other topics here in Sven's 42nd Lightning Round! Explicit content.

How to Overcome a Generational Curse Jun 29, 2023

William is a great dad. But he fears losing his marriage and the three children he dearly loves. He desperately wants to give his kids a different life than he suffered through. As a small child, his mother would storm out of the house because he didn’t clean his room. He was afraid of talking to his drug-addicted father for fear of saying the wrong thing. Sven knows the effect of such horribly damaging messages on a child. William has some serious healing to do, and Sven’s unvarnished truths help William to understand his past and guide him to a better life. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - William Jun 29, 2023

After the show, Sven had a heart-to-heart talk with William. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XLI Jun 25, 2023

A reminder that Sven's Lightning Rounds are recorded live, with Sven taking questions in real time from different social media sites. Each show takes different twists and turns, sometimes very serious, sometimes lighthearted. In this episode, tons of dating and relationship advice, questions about open marriages, survivors of domestic violence, and even dealing with the death of a pet. Please come on in and join us for Sven's 41st Lightning Round! Explicit content.

A Nuclear Family Jun 22, 2023

Christa describes her childhood as "World War III." But who was the aggressor? Sven helps Christa blow up the falsehood of her family's myth that the parents were great and the kids were bad. All she wanted was a Dad, but he was always absent, and Mom was cruel and abusive. Christa makes dramatic progress in discovering the root of her pain in this hopeful, illuminating episode. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XL Jun 18, 2023

Sven takes to social media again, recorded live and unrehearsed, to field questions from his followers. Tons of great relationship advice in this episode, including: Are all men unhealed monsters? Is brutal honesty ok? What do you do with a man who's always trying but not doing? How do I stop overthinking? Why are men so afraid to open up? And much more! Come on in for Lightning Round 40! Explicit content.

Waiting In Vain Jun 15, 2023

Sven's guest Steve feels lost. A veteran who has spent his whole life in service to others, Steve shares custody of a physically handicapped son, worries about his ill mother on the other side of the country, and holds onto the vain hope of reuniting with his ex-wife. Sven helps Steve understand his struggles, and provides insight into how to get unstuck. Explicit content.
And please join us for the Badass Overtime bonus content with Steve to hear his post-show reaction and Sven's final words of advice.

Badass Overtime - Steve Jun 15, 2023

After "Waiting In Vain," Steve still searched for answers. Sven provided support and helpful final thoughts. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXXIX Jun 11, 2023

Sven again takes to live social media platforms to record this fast-paced episode. Is your partner becoming more like their narcissist parent? Can't stop taking an abuser back? Trouble standing up for yourself? Looking for solid advice on dating? Wondering what was Sven's own turning point? You'll find the answers to these and much more here in Lightning Round 39! Explicit content.

Your Mother or Your Life! Jun 08, 2023

Buckle up and meet Nick. He feels he's becoming a narcissist, filled with justified rage toward his parents, totally stuck in life and in danger of destroying his marriage. Sven has to work hard to pull out Nick's honest feelings and get him on the right path. When your father won't support or protect you and sends you to his abusive mother, and your own mother is a therapist who does nothing but harm you, it's no wonder you can't get past the pain. Sven goes full badass on Nick to shock him into helping himself toward a much better life. Explicit content. And be sure to join us for "Badass Overtime - Nick" for insightful post-show thoughts.

Badass Overtime - Nick Jun 08, 2023

After finishing the challenging counseling session with Nick, Sven and Rob shared their thoughts about the episode.

Lightning Round XXXVIII Jun 04, 2023

Dealing with pain? Feeling apathetic? Check out this recorded session with Sven online and unrehearsed, answering followers' questions on 3 different platforms at once. The Badass Counseling method is front and center as Sven advises listeners to use all the questions as journaling prompts to help and heal. As always, tons of great advice, unvarnished and right to the point. Please join us for Lightning Round 38! Explicit content.

Trauma Bond? Love Yourself First. Jun 01, 2023

Poignant life lessons emerge from Sven's counseling session with two remarkable women who suffered trauma, feel trapped in relationships, and are fearful of the resulting effect on their children. Sven explains that setting the right example means loving on yourself first, and taking action. Sven's guests, Erica and Kim, have some great insight for each other, and realize they should listen to their own advice. Join us for this fascinating and illuminating session! Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Kim Jun 01, 2023

After the show, Kim continued her talk with Sven. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXXVII May 28, 2023

In another fast-paced recorded session, Sven takes online questions from several different platforms. Listeners bring the pain, and Sven explains how pain can be a beautiful thing, bringing balm to the soul when you learn how to get past the hurt and move on to a lighter, happier life. Sven also explains his approach to soul counseling, and how it differs from conventional therapy. Tons of helpful stuff in this episode, so come on in! Explicit content.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do May 25, 2023

Sven counsels Walker, who feels broken and unable to find relief after his 18-month relationship failed. Deception and suspicion figure prominently into his story. Sven helps Walker find the root of his pain, and provides some helpful insight on finding the right relationships, and avoiding -- and getting over -- the wrong ones. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Walker May 25, 2023

After finishing "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do," we checked in with Walker. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXXVI May 21, 2023

Relationship issues? Parental issues? Dealing with a functioning alcoholic? Wondering if you're in a karmic loop (or if there is such a thing)? You've come to the right place! Join Sven in another recorded session as he handles all these and other issues as presented in real time by his online followers. Welcome to Sven's 36th Lightning Round! Explicit content.

Breakup Breaking News! May 18, 2023

This episode starts with sex and religion, but quickly becomes a breakup story in real time! Sven counsels Chris, who has issues with her boyfriend's issues. There's news from the night before she appears on the show, and up-to-the-minute texting updates during the taping. Join us for an uplifting episode filled with laughter and tears. And check out the Badass Overtime bonus episode with Chris for more behind-the-scenes insight. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Chris May 18, 2023

After "Breakup Breaking News," Sven and Rob talked with Chris about her experience.

Lightning Round XXXV May 14, 2023

Relationship issues dominate this recorded edition of Sven's online adventures as he again fields whatever questions his followers throw at him. Both Sven and Rob are taken aback by a woman who asks how to handle her boyfriend's emotional and sexual relationship with...well, join us and find out! Great insight and great advice are here for the taking in Lightning Round 35, so come on in! Explicit content.

Born Into Shame, and Worse May 11, 2023

Sven counsels Christian, born out of wedlock, abandoned by her mother, and raised by an abusive grandmother. Christian feels she suffered "the trifecta" of bad messages: unwanted, not good enough, and feelings that don't matter. No anger was allowed in her upbringing, so she had no outlet for dealing with unrelenting pain at the hands of her grandmother, her biological mother, and a cruel sister. A grandfather -- with a hook, literally and figuratively -- occasionally figured in. Small wonder that with her identity stripped from her, she's in a constant state of survival mode. Sven helps her unwind and understand her sadness, and find some paths to peace and fulfillment. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Christian May 11, 2023

Sven takes a few minutes after the show to chat with his guest.

Lightning Round XXXIV May 07, 2023

Sven takes online questions on heavy topics including:

How do I stop overthinking?
Why do I keep attracting narcissists?
Why do I keep procrastinating?
Can I end a relationship without any conversation?

Don't procrastinate! (And find out why Sven believes there's no such thing!) Come on in and join us for another fast-paced lightning round. Explicit Content.

Messages From Narc Mom and Violent Dad May 04, 2023

Sven holds a group session with Shannon and Teddy, both with horror stories of abuse from parents, medical providers, and others. Dead or alive, how much do your parents' messages affect your life? Can you ever be the real you? What if people = pain? What if your father punches you in the face for bad grades in middle school? Sven helps Shannon and Teddy deal with these questions, face their feelings, and find a way forward. Explicit content.

Badass Overtime - Shannon and Teddy May 04, 2023

After finishing "Messages From Narc Mom and Violent Dad," Sven talked with his two guests. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXXIII Apr 30, 2023

All aboard for another chance to hear Sven field questions from his online followers! Feelings are like trains passing through, he explains, in response to a question about how to let go of hate. Themes of narcissism, forgiveness, and relationship issues all get the Sven treatment in this latest Lightning Round. Join the journey! Explicit content.

Badass Overtime Apr 27, 2023

Go behind the scenes! After the show, Sven took a few minutes to chat with his guests Ryan and Elodie.

Shattered Dreams, Shattered Life Apr 27, 2023

Sven helps two individuals in crisis put the pieces of their lives back together. Drawing on his personal experience, Sven counsels Ryan that he can pursue his dreams while still supporting his family. Should he devote his life to his kids, or set an example for them by pursuing his dreams? Sven's second client is Elodie, who thinks so little of herself that she writes "i" instead of "I." The reason becomes clear when she relates the story of her painfully -- emotionally and physically -- abusive childhood. Join Sven in session as he soothes the soul for his clients, and you! Explicit language.

Lightning Round XXXII Apr 23, 2023

Tons of great advice on relationships, pain in many different forms, online dating, trusting your gut, and much more. In this recorded session, Sven takes live online questions from three different platforms and responds with his trademark honesty, insight, and, as always, the direct approach! Be careful, or take your time -- which should you say to your kids? Take some quality time with Sven and find out all this and more, in Lightning Round XXXII. Explicit content.

I'm Just Dad's ATM Apr 20, 2023

In this intense counseling session, Sean says, "I don't know who I am." His parents abandoned him as a child, leaving him feeling worthless and unwanted. And now, his father is back needing a loan to pay his property tax. Sean helps him out -- only to find himself locked out of the house. Still looking for love, acceptance, and an apology from his father, Sean learns from Sven to look inside instead. Sean discovers what he really needs, and doesn't need, to feel alive. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXXI Apr 16, 2023

It's Sven unleashed again, tackling his followers' online questions right as they come at him. Lots of insight about feelings, and how they influence all our actions. Feelings about cheating and its aftermath, feelings of being addicted to depression, feelings about finding it hard to stay away from a narcissist in a past relationship...it's all here, and more. Spring into Lightning Round XXXI! Explicit content.

No Voice, No Life Apr 13, 2023

Sven helps two women in very different circumstances find their authentic voices. Jess is unhappy and stuck, and feels like "a small human." Sven connects this feeling to her childhood, living in constant fear of an explosive father. Faith feels she can't help her 23-year-old son in a classic "failure to launch" situation. A drill sergeant step father figures in, as Sven points out that the son's voice was stolen from him. Did Faith have a similar experience herself and pass it on? Join Sven in session for some interesting truths that may well resonate with you. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXX Apr 09, 2023

Sven takes to three different social media platforms to record this episode featuring the usual array of unpredictable and provocative questions. For example: How do I trust my intuition after I spent 28 years with a narcissist and didn't know it? Hear great insight and advice on topics like getting your children, or your spouse, or your toxic family to open up when they don't want to. Wondering how to get over someone or something? Should you leave a marriage when there are small children involved? Join us for Sven's 30th Lightning Round! Explicit content.

Just What They Want Me To Be Apr 06, 2023

If you live your life doing only what others want you to do, what could possibly go wrong?! Sven counsels Beth, who says she's "...such a mess and I feel like a worthless human." With all her needed parental attention lost to her sister, Beth has filled the void with an abusive failed marriage, and cheating into a relationship that she says has destroyed her inside. Sven provides a roadmap to clarity and an authentic life. Through her laughter and tears, experience Beth's shock of revelation, and hope. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXIX Apr 02, 2023

Sven puts everything he's got into answering his online followers' questions in another fast-paced recorded session. Feel the need to heal your parenting? Heal thoughts about your past? Heal your relationship with a sibling (or not)? Or maybe you're in a 3-person relationship; you're part of this show too. Buckle up and join us for Sven's no-nonsense insight and advice right here in Lightning Round XXIX. Explicit content.

Death Be Not Proud Mar 30, 2023

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The threat of suicide links Sven's two guests in this dramatic episode. Kim feels she has lost just about everything--including the child she raised--and finds that others are dismissive of her cries for help. Lisa's brother has bullied her throughout her life, but their parents have supported him because they fear his suicide. Sven poses the question: Who's more at fault, one who abuses, or one who lets it happen? Experience the revelations and the hopefulness as Sven guides his guests through facing their heartbreaking traumas in this ultimately uplifting episode. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXVIII Mar 26, 2023

Read the energy! The indication of who you are is what energizes you. That's the kind of advice you'll hear in this edition of Sven's lightning rounds, a recorded session in which he fields online questions from his followers. Expect unpredictable questions and Sven's predictably insightful and passionate answers. Extreme giver? Extreme taker? Your partner doesn't listen? There's something for everyone right here in Lightning Round XXVIII. Explicit content.

Narcissist! Both Sides Now! Mar 23, 2023

Arguably the most gripping of Sven's podcasts. To the same session, he welcomes two strangers: a self-proclaimed narcissist and the victim of a brutal life at the hands of one. In harrowing detail hear how their earliest experiences led them to untold misery, then greater understanding. Sven works hard with both guests - Dustin, a narcissist who was shocked into self-realization and is now determined to salvage his life, his marriage, and his relationship with his son. Then experience the moment when Dustin breaks down and apologizes to Amanda, the victim of the same kind of cruel behavior he's determined to change. Trigger warning, and explicit content.

Lightning Round XVII Mar 19, 2023

Sven again takes on his online followers' questions in this Lightning Round. Wondering what good parenting looks like? Feeling competition with your ex to find new love? What does it mean to follow your energy? Dealing with the silent treatment? Not sure if you should get a cat? You've come to the right place for all this, and much more. Come on in! Explicit content.

Back From the Abyss Mar 16, 2023

Note: Trigger warning.
Meet Rebecca, who has spent most of her life running from a "...dark black void," the result of an almost unbelievably harrowing childhood and parents who were abusive in the extreme. Sexually assaulted at age 10, mom blames her, drops the charges, and then beats her, and that's only one small part of her story. Regaining a successful life in her 40s, Rebecca struggles with feelings of both hate and love while working to flush out her pain. She wonders, "Who am I?" Join Sven in session for this heartbreaking yet hopeful session. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXVI Mar 12, 2023

Sven kicks off Season 3 with a Lightning Round all about releasing the pain. Responding to more than a dozen questions about everything from loss of trust to loss of a child, Sven brings the calm with insightful advice and understanding. Feeling the need to feel lighter? Join us for Lightning Round XXVI! Explicit content.

My Mother, My Self Mar 09, 2023

Sven counsels a young woman from South Africa who can't seem to break out of a pattern of bad relationships. After allowing that she bases her decisions primarily on the opinions of her mother and others, Sven helps her see a better path forward. It's the fundamental life question, he says, of living a life of fear vs. living a life of trust.
Sometimes feel that you're living a life of just pleasing others? Tons of good advice in this episode. Come and sit in on this Badass Counseling session! Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXV Mar 05, 2023

It's Sven's 25th Lightning Round, answering his followers' online questions right as they come at him. Listen for detailed insight on dealing with extreme takers (and being an extreme giver), tips on effective journaling, relationship red flags, a poignant question concerning an age difference, and more.
It's OK to obsess about a podcast like this one! So join us for Lightning Round XXV. Explicit content.

Two Unique Challenges Mar 02, 2023

Sven works with two women with very different issues, and some striking details. Kimberly found out she was living with a cheater in ways you have to hear to believe. Oh, and he wants to bring home the sister of one of his ex-girlfriends because "she's a cool girl" -- with a provocative profession. Kimberly needs Sven's help to make a move.
Angie suffers from chronic injuries that make her question her identity as she strives to recapture her former life, and the profession she loves. Listen for the reveal of her former occupation.
Join Sven as he helps these women to adapt to adversity and learn the benefits derived from surviving life's inevitable challenges. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXIV Feb 26, 2023

More of Sven's unrehearsed responses to online followers' questions right as they come in. Listen for tons of insight on journaling, relationships gone bad, reliving trauma, choosing a therapist, and much more. Come on in for Lightning Round XXIV! Explicit content.

The Kids Are All Right Feb 23, 2023

In this counseling episode, Sven works with two different clients whose lives are dramatically influenced by their children. Devin faces an inevitable divorce but doesn't want her teenage son to blame her for it. Richie lost a son in a drunk driving accident and fears losing his other son, perhaps literally, dealing with a divorce and many other recent deaths in the family. Sven helps Devin understand the reality of her situation, and counsels Richie that a different approach to parenting provides his best hope. Join Sven and his clients in-session for this ultimately uplifting, instructive episode on the heartaches and joys of parenting. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXIII Feb 19, 2023

Taped the day before Valentine's Day, love is in the air (and often gone with the wind) during this Lightning Round. Sven's suggested topic is breakups, and several poignant questions quickly follow. The Badass direct approach is in high gear, so please join us for Lightning Round XXIII! Explicit content.

Beaten, Not Defeated Feb 16, 2023

In this dramatic counseling session, Sven works with two individuals who have suffered with emotional and physical abuse in the extreme. Garrison feels torn and lost, caught between cruel old messages and his desire for an authentic life. Jennifer survived an incredibly painful childhood filled with betrayal and abandonment, knows what she needs to do to break free, but feels sickened by the thought of confronting her feelings of past trauma. Join Sven in session for the tears, insight, and hope. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXII Feb 12, 2023

Sven ventures outside into the cold to answer his followers' online questions. Listen for advice on grieving after a breakup, what to do when your parents pressure you to get married, guiding an unemployed child who asks for money, and more. Sven also gives his views on the transformative power of music. Bundle up, take the chill off, and join us for Lightning Round XXII! Explicit content.

Oh Brother! A Horror Story Feb 09, 2023

Sven counsels a client with a particularly tragic story. Struggling with the will to exist, she recalls a childhood with alcoholic, abusive parents. And...her brother was worse. Emotional, physical, and sexual abuse all impact her incredible story. Why has she now reached the darkest depression of her life? Sven helps her to understand, and find the tools she needs to recapture her authentic, optimistic life. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XXI Feb 05, 2023

Finding it hard to deal with lost love? Wondering what Sven means when he says "Flush"? Feel like you're living for everyone but yourself? Wondering how best to repair your relationship with your kids? Sven tackles these questions and much more, with keen insight and no-nonsense advice, in his latest Lightning Round. Explicit content.

The Mothers of All Struggles Feb 02, 2023

Generational trauma in the extreme! Buckle up for Sven's group therapy session with two women whose struggles with their mothers are almost beyond belief. Lenna suffered a terrible accident at age 4 and has felt depressed and suicidal for most of her life. Dionne has discovered that her entire family story was a lie. Yes, mother plays the central role in both cases. Listen for stories of revenge, neglect, abuse, police action, forced drugging, and more. Sven's compassion and insight prove invaluable to both women, and they in turn support each other in this impactful episode. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XX Jan 29, 2023

Trouble setting boundaries? Missing red flags in your relationship? Wondering if you should talk to your partner about your therapy session? Need help letting go of a grudge? Wondering if jealousy is a wrong thing to feel? Join Sven for his 20th Lightning Round as he fields these questions and more from his online followers. Explicit content.

Knowing When To Leave Jan 26, 2023

If your spouse gets mad and storms out because you don't want to have sex when they have COVID and you don't, is it time to leave? How hard is it to leave when you know you should? For many of us, it's one of the hardest things we've ever done. And so it is with Sven's two guests in this week's counseling episode. Lindsey has been tolerating spousal abuse for years, echoes of her childhood home life. She has come to realize that she has "...a past that doesn't fit my future." In a bizarre story, Megan has moved in with her boyfriend but finds that his ex controls every aspect of his life, using their children to manipulate and abuse him. Megan has tried to help to no avail, and says, "I'm the last person on his list." So far, both these women have decided to stay. Sven helps them face the reality of their situations with compassion and understanding. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XIX Jan 22, 2023

Feeling uninspired? What inspires Sven? Feeling the pressure of being the golden child? Or resentful that you're not? When seeking therapy, do you choose a social worker, psychologist, or psychiatrist? What's the real purpose and benefit of journaling?
In this Lightning Round episode, Sven's online followers look for these answers and more, and Sven delivers with insight and tons of personal reflection. Come on in! Explicit content.

Would Somebody Please Care? Jan 19, 2023

Sven counsels two individuals at dramatic inflection points in their work life, each discovering deep connections to their past and new hope for the future. Aislinn loves her work but her boss doesn't care about her ongoing education and aspirations, and is holding her back. Curtis, a distinguished Marine veteran, finds it difficult to get up and go to his job and feels horribly stuck. He believes no one really cares about him. Sven helps him begin to work through the effects of life-long pain from violent, abusive parents and military trauma.
Getting out the pain makes career decisions easier and better...but that's just the beginning. Listen in to these illuminating conversations in this impactful episode. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XVIII Jan 15, 2023

There's a lot of inside information about counseling in this Lightning Round! Listener questions prompt Sven to discuss his philosophy of soul counseling and the reason the word "badass" fits perfectly with his approach. He fields lots of questions about core beliefs and provides powerful insight about dealing with boredom. Check out Sven's response to a question about trusting yourself after a massive failure, and much more. It's time for Lightning Round XVIII! Explicit content.

Unstuck! Jan 12, 2023

Join Sven as he counsels two clients searching for ways to get unstuck! Nate is miserable in his job and knows what he wants to do, but is unsure how to get there. Sarah has made great progress in overcoming clinical depression, but can't figure out how to fill the void she has always felt in herself. She knows that wine and cigarettes are not the answer. Sven's insight and advice helps both these individuals deal with their pain and get on the road to a better future. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XVII Jan 08, 2023

Time to release the pain! In this Lightning Round, listen in as Sven fields online questions, many dealing with flushing out the pain that gets in the way of an authentic, happier life. For example...

How do I prepare for my wedding day with my narcissistic mom there?
I'm 62 years old. How do I find someone without baggage?
My dad killed himself 3 years ago. How do I process this?
I get along better with my in-laws better than my parents and I feel guilty.
My dad is abusive. How do I move on without moving out?

...and more. Join us for Lightning Round XVII!

Guy Problems Jan 05, 2023

Sven counsels two men with some common problems that hit hard when it happens to you. Daniel's core beliefs and fear of failure get in the way of his success. Brandon finds himself in a custody battle and thinks of confronting his ex about their feelings for each other -- but what does he really want and need? In this illuminating episode, Sven helps the guys understand the cause and effect of their feelings, and where to go from here. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XVI Jan 01, 2023

The new year of Sven's Lightning Rounds gets off to a fast start with many questions centered around the concept of core beliefs: Why are they so hard to discover, so critical in the quest for real change, and how do they drive behaviors? Other questions in this session concern grandparents raising children, raising children who like you, and ways to overcome toxic shame. Sven also shares his feelings about seeking revenge. Join Sven and his followers for Lightning Round XVI. Explicit content.

I Want To Know What Love Is Dec 29, 2022

In this deep and emotional episode, Sven counsels a client whose parents knowingly pushed them into an ongoing situation with a sexual predator, one of many examples of abuse and emotional neglect. Sven points out that the client clearly knows what love isn't, and helps them on the way to self-worth...and self-love. Listen in as the client experiences a life-changing epiphany. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XV Dec 25, 2022

Time to join Sven again for all the answers to questions his online followers throw at him. If you've been wondering...

What to do when your partner wants to search your phone,
How to move on when your partner has no problem doing it,
How to accept that you may never have kids,
If it's ok for a husband to take a female co-worker to dinner and share 2 bottles of wine, or
What to do when your mother gives you a weight to carry that you were never meant to bear,

then come on in and take the chill off! It's Lightning Round XV!

Careful What You Wish For! Dec 22, 2022

Sven’s client wants a good relationship with her father. But listen as she says, “Blow my mind!” when she begins to understand the profound effects of her past. If you don’t feel safe as a child, can you repair the relationship with your parents? And it’s no surprise that you want to do better with your own kids. Easier said than done, but Sven helps find the way. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XIV Dec 18, 2022

Join Sven for another recorded online session as he fields rapid-fire questions from his followers on an amazing variety of subjects, including:

How do you know when your marriage is not repairable?
How do I deal with the anger that comes from an injustice complex?
Is it normal to have no memories of childhood?
My husband doesn't appreciate gifts. Should we still give them?
How do I manage my first holidays without my best friend who died?

and much more. Come aboard for Lightning Round XIV!

Oy! To The World Dec 15, 2022

Holiday season got you down? Sven has deep insight and inspiration for you! His first guest can’t remember much of her childhood but recalls that the holidays were a particularly tough time in a very volatile household, facing neglected birthdays just before Christmas, emotionally absent parents, and an unstable sister. And yet Sven’s guest finds the strength to put herself first and enjoy life—and the holidays—again.

Sven’s second guest brings a heartbreaking story of losing her mother just before Thanksgiving and losing her rock, her father, just before Christmas. The magic of the holidays vanished for her, a single mom raising three boys, two with special needs. She found herself alone and without hope. Sven provides a broad shoulder and positive thoughts about managing the pain and grief, and seeing the promise of a brighter path forward. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XIII Dec 11, 2022

Sven again takes to the Internet to field a steady flow of questions coming in from his followers. This time, Sven gets into some of his own family history and provides guidance on topics including:

Moving on after divorce when you're stuck and your ex isn't
Staying in a relationship with a malevolent partner
Best friends who abandon you
Cutting ties with abusive adoptive parents
Holidays when your kids want to see your in-laws...and you don't

And much more. It's full badass. It's Lightning Round XIII!

When Your Own Feelings Don't Matter Dec 08, 2022

Sven’s counseling session builds to a dramatic climax when his client realizes her parents never allowed her to express her own feelings. Despite a successful career in adulthood, the pattern was set for crippling depression, no sense of purpose, and suicide attempts. Sven asks the question, “Do you want to know why you’re miserable, depressed, and anxiety-ridden?” Together with his client they find the answer, and a better way forward. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XII Dec 04, 2022

Listeners have questions, Sven has answers. Deep answers! In this collection of Sven's followers' challenging issues:

My mom doesn't realize she will lose her kids because of her narcissist husband.
I can't establish boundaries with my parents because they threaten eviction.
I've been abused all my life and can't find my authentic self.
Is it possible to be happy alone, after a 23-year marriage?
How can I get my mom to stop teaching my kids negativity like she did to me?
Why do I keep going back to my abusive boyfriend?

And more. Listen as Sven goes full badass for Lightning Round XII!

Echoes of Parental Abuse Dec 01, 2022

The continuing effects of parental abuse create an intolerable life for Bella, who asks for Sven’s help to find true healing for her and her children. Bella’s story includes an alcoholic father and childhood sexual abuse by relatives…and a mother who continues to welcome the abusers into family gatherings (Yes, mom knows about it). “All I ever wanted from my mother is her love and attention, and I’ve never gotten that.” Sven shows Bella how she has repeated her dysfunctional family experience in her own relationships – an “aha” moment for Bella – and how to stand up for herself and find the way to a much happier future. Explicit content.

Lightning Round XI Nov 27, 2022

Tons of great advice from Sven in this Lightning Round! Fears of an age gap in your relationship? Dealing with abuse resulting from your setting boundaries? Need to reset your relationship with an adult child? Have too much social anxiety? Feeling troubled after leaving your ex (even if you want them back)? Afraid to go back to school when you're over 40? Looking to get over your guilt about cutting off your parents? For Sven's insight and guidance on these and other tough topics, check out this episode of The Badass Counseling Show! Explicit content.

Ch-Ch-Changes! Cheating, Children, Church...and Choices. Nov 24, 2022

When you’re raising 4 kids and discover that you’re married to a serial cheater, then what? And when you confront your husband and he says he’s found religion but then quits church after a few weeks, can you ever trust him? And can you trust yourself to face your fear of being alone in an entirely new life? In this riveting counseling session, Sven guides his client through a mash-up of challenging issues to help her understand her past and find the way to her brightest future. Explicit content.

Lightning Round X Nov 20, 2022

Sven fields more of his followers’ rapid-fire questions on a variety of tough topics.

I’m living in my car and stuck in the past. Help! Sven responds from personal experience.
Does journaling really work? Again from personal experience, Sven really opens up.
After 8 years of emotional abuse, he says he’s changed. Really?
How to let go? By holding on tighter.
How can I be sane in dating when I have mommy and daddy issues?
How can I deal with regret when I was so scared?

And much more. Join us for Lightning Round X.

Generational Trauma: Sins of the Fathers Nov 17, 2022

When your inheritance is abuse and neglect, the lasting effects of trauma run deep from generation to generation. Listen in as Sven counsels Hunter, whose family disowned his grandparents for abusing his father, only to find himself the target of the same pattern of cruelty at home. Trapped between alienation from his father and his desire for acceptance, Hunter must choose between living with the trauma or facing the fear of being alone. When your father threatens suicide and blames you, where do you turn? Sven unlocks the impact of Hunter’s troubled past and helps him chart a way forward in this complex case. Explicit content.

Lightning Round IX Nov 13, 2022

More deep answers to questions from listeners!

Sven illustrates his response about dealing with "takers" with the story of Echo and Narcissus.
A woman's husband wants a divorce but suggests his wife "stay close" in case they try again, but Sven sees right through the BS.
How do I ask my partner if they've been cheating?
How do I get over my father's death, 4 years ago?
Am I too picky so I'll be alone forever? Sven offers a direct solution.
How do I make a long-distance relationship work?

And much more in Sven's 9th Lightning Round podcast!

I'm Stuck! Sven, Please Kick My Ass! Nov 10, 2022

Come inside Sven’s counseling sessions with two clients who can’t seem to change their lives the way they want. James is separated but still living with his wife. He thinks they love each other but if he is confident enough to reveal his true self to her, she would leave him. Recovering from suicidal tendencies, he learns that dealing with old parental messages plays a critical part in his quest for a loving, fulfilling life.

Rebecca has become unmotivated and can’t understand why. After resting for many years recovering from a chronic illness, her self-employed dream career seems to be on track but she can’t overcome her fears of not being accepted and being paid what she is clearly worth. Explicit content.

Lightning Round VIII Nov 06, 2022

How to navigate dating sites? Sven draws on his own personal experience in graphic detail. Other topics from followers include convincing your ex that you never cheated (and why), doing anything to get attention including staying in an abusive relationship, and dealing with overthinkers and long distance relationships. Sven also employs an impactful Star Wars reference to illustrate the importance of feelings. Explicit content.

Break Up to Make Up? Nov 03, 2022

Sven quickly untangles a complicated web of breakups, make-ups, changing partners, children, and serial cheating to help his guest discover the root of her problems…and their solutions. “Should we break up?” is only the first of many questions to resolve on the way to a more authentic and fulfilling life. Explicit content.

Lightning Round VII Oct 30, 2022

The best of Sven's online followers' questions and comments recorded from a live online session. "My husband says my feelings aren't real." "I love that you're in therapy but I don't need it myself." "How do I deal with the loss of a child?" "How do I find love again with my spouse when everything annoys me?" And much more. Explicit content.

The Pain of Shared Parenting Oct 27, 2022

Sven counsels a woman who comes to a startling revelation about the roots of her difficulties in dealing with the biological father of her young son. When shared parenting begins to hurt a child, it's time to go deep and solve the underlying issues. Listen for another dose of balm for the soul from Sven.

Lightning Round VI Oct 23, 2022

Till death do us part? Sven tackles this question along with many others from a recorded online session with his followers. Issues include disconnecting from an abusive parent, taking sides in a divorce, change that isn't real, and the many sides of cheating. Explicit content.

Unforgivable, That's What You Are Oct 20, 2022

They say “Forgive and forget” and “Forgive for yourself, not for them.” But what if that doesn't work? What if you just can’t forgive because what they did was so heinous and you feel stuck? Sven goes deep with two guests and helps them find the answers. Explicit content.

Lightning Round V Oct 16, 2022

Sven fields his followers' questions in another recorded online session. He responds to "My friends say you're too aggressive and you want us to hate our parents." Other topics include: toxic masculinity, dealing with step families and difficult family members, helping a spouse through a difficult time, and what to say to your mistress. Time to go deep again! Explicit content.

Cheating: She Said Oct 13, 2022

The other side of the story from Episode 8! You've heard from the cause of the problem, now hear the effects on the partner he hurt. When trust is shattered, is there ever a path forward? Sven goes deep and counsels the woman betrayed just before her planned wedding. Explicit content.

Lightning Round IV Oct 09, 2022

Sven fields his followers' rapid-fire questions about regret and other topics. A husband can't explain why he watches live cams, an adult victim of childhood trauma gets no empathy from their parent, a manipulating spouse threatens divorce, and more. Sven goes deep, as usual! Explicit content.

Cheating: He Said Oct 06, 2022

A random hookup derails an impending wedding, and Sven goes deep with a remorseful guy to discover why he would choose such a destructive path. Can this relationship be saved? Here's his side of the story, and in a future episode we'll hear from his (maybe still) fiancée. Explicit content.

Lightning Round III Oct 02, 2022

Sven again responds to followers' questions and talks about body image, getting over someone, dealing with a dishonest husband, anger issues, the myth of pain-free relationships, and tells the story of losing his virginity--and its lasting effects. Explicit content.

Dating: The Inside and Outside Story Sep 29, 2022

What drags us down in dating? It’s not what’s going on outside us or in the other person; it’s what’s going on inside ourselves. Sven proves it here, going deep quickly with two great guests struggling with dating, helping them to find the way forward to healthy, kickass relationships.

Lightning Round II Sep 25, 2022

Rapid-fire questions recorded from Sven's online followers with challenging issues, including finding the ideal partner, changing your love language, and the limits of forgiveness. Explicit content.

Sven, He Keeps Cheating! Why Do I Stay? Sep 22, 2022

It's a hellacious loop when you're involved with a cheater who denies, deflects, apologizes, and blames. What do you do when a part of you knows you should leave, a big part of you loves them and wants to stay, and part of you is just plain scared to leave?

Lightning Round I Sep 15, 2022

In a prerecorded session, Sven takes questions from his online followers on a variety of provocative topics, including addiction and dream careers. Explicit content.

Failure to Launch, Part 2 Sep 10, 2022

Continuing with the issue of young adults finding their way on their own, Sven plays his original short online post, and answers related questions submitted by young and older listeners who have deep issues and very strong opinions on the subject.

Failure to Launch, Part 1 Sep 10, 2022

In Sven's inaugural podcast, he tackles the thorny issue of young adults struggling to move on from their parents' control and get their own lives started. Sven counsels a 26-year-old who overcame suicidal depression and is now trying to launch an independent, fulfilling life.

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