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The Truth About Your Happiness and How To Boost It Sep 04, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover happiness with 4 of the world’s leading experts on the topic: Arthur C. Brooks, Dr. Robert Waldinger, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, and Christoph Schnedlitz.

Happiness and purpose make a life worth living, but what factors contribute to and take away from your ability to be happy, what role do relationships play in your happiness, and how do you build happiness that doesn’t depend on what’s happening in your life?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
Who are the world’s leading experts on happiness?

Building Happiness – 3:50
What simple question can you ask yourself to build life-changing happiness?

Success Addiction – 12:00
How do you get addicted to success and what can you do to break the addiction?

Harvard Happiness Study – 14:24
What is the Harvard Happiness Study and what can you learn from the results to foster happiness in your life?

Social Media and Happiness – 24:25
How does social media affect global happiness and what can you do to protect yourself from its effects?

Relationships and Happiness – 29:02
How much do your relationships influence your lifetime happiness?
What can you do to maintain the relationships in your life that bring you happiness?
What are the biggest happiness myths?

The 3 Happiness Skills – 40:35
What skills should you work on to build resilient happiness?
Why is boredom an important component of happiness?

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Avoid These 3 Conversation Pitfalls For Masterful Communication | Toolbox Aug 28, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover the 3 pillars of powerful communication with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.

Humans are social creatures and history has taught us that powerful communication can help anyone achieve any goal we have in life, but what are the 3 pillars of powerful communication, how can you strengthen each one, and what are you risking by never becoming a powerful communicator?

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First pillar of powerful communication – 0:00
What is the difference between hearing what someone is telling you vs actively listening to someone?
What are the 3 layers of listening you need to understand so the people around you feel like they are important to you?
What is the crucial skill you are missing to get ahead professionally, personally, and romantically?

Second pillar of powerful communication – 22:17
What is the biggest pitfall you make in conversation that can kill a connection and make people not want to talk to you?
How do you give people value in a conversation so they want to know more about you and spend more time with you?

Third pillar of powerful communication – 35:53
What is the one thing you should pay attention to if you don’t want your friendships, relationships, or even your marriage to fail?
What is an emotional bid and how do you recognize each of the 9 types in conversation so you can build long lasting connections with anyone you meet?

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5 Questions To Work With “Almost” Anyone | Michael Bungay Stanier Aug 21, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover relationship building and repairing with Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company, and the author of several books including his bestseller The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever and his newest title How to Work with (Almost) Anyone: Five Questions for Building the Best Possible Relationships.

Relationships are not easy to maintain and the best relationships take work, so how do you build the best relationships, what can you do to repair broken relationships, and how do you know you should just walk away?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
What are the negative impacts of not having psychological safety in the workplace?
Why is it important to seek relationships that go beyond safety?
What questions can you ask so you can work with almost anyone?

Increase productivity with language – 15:20
What is the best way to make a to-do list so you’ll actually complete it?
What question can you ask to understand why people don’t like working with you?

Repair the relationship – 31:20
What questions can you ask to stop a relationship from failing?
What questions can you ask to repair a broken relationship?
Can you reset a relationship?

Choose your battles – 41:37
How do you know when you should walk away from a relationship or friendship?

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Elite Communication Tips To Take Your Influence From Ordinary to Extraordinary Aug 14, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover influence with Jonah Berger, Zoe Chance, and Vanessa Bohns. Jonah Berger is a professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, a best selling author, and world expert in social influence and consumer behavior. Zoe Chance is a professor at Yale School of Management and a researcher, speaker and consultant who specializes in persuasion, influence and behavioral economics. Vanessa Bonds is a social psychologist and professor at Cornell University, and her research focuses on how people make judgments and decisions in social contexts.

Humans are social creatures so we are always influencing others and being influenced by others, but how does influence work, how do you protect yourself from being influenced by others, and what can you do to become more influential?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
How do others influence you without you being aware of it?
What is the most common mistake we make when trying to influence the people around us and what should you do to avoid making the same mistake?

The 3 layers of listening required for influence – 9:02
Why do you need to listen to others in order to influence them?
What 3 things do you need to listen for so the other person knows you understand them and thus is more susceptible to your influence?

One simple change to boost your influence – 15:07
What one word will amplify your ability to influence the person you’re talking to?
What common mistake do people make when speaking that makes others less likely to respect what they have to say?

Power of the pause – 31:20
Why is silence in conversation so impactful and how can you use it to your advantage?

The number one reason you don’t try – 33:42
How do you reframe rejection so you can embrace it and grow from it rather than avoid it and stop yourself from achieving your goals?
What’s the best way to reject someone so you don’t hurt the person’s feelings?

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Master Change With These 4 Ps | Brad Stulberg Aug 07, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover how to master change with Brad Stulberg. Brad regularly contributes to the New York Times and his work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal and the Atlantic, and he is the bestselling author of Peak Performance, The Passion Paradox, The Practice of Groundedness, and his newest: Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing – Including You.

Change can rock your world when you’re not prepared for it, so what can you do to become more resilient to change, how do you develop rugged flexibility, and what role does change play in our relationships?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
How many major changes will you encounter in life and how do you prepare for them?
How can you embrace change and use it to grow?
What steps can we take to find balance in our own lives during times of change?

Rugged Flexibility – 13:25
What is rugged flexibility, why do you need it, and how do you build it in your life?

How to be resilient to change – 23:45
What are the two requirements to be resilient to change?
How do you whittle down a list of values to your 3-5 core values and what impact can living in alignment with your core values have on your overall well-being?

Control vs Expectations – 38:03
How do you balance the control you have over a situation with the expectations you have?
How do you handle relationships with people who change in different ways from you?
How do you set expectations with friendships to make your friends feel like they can always come to you?

The 4-P framework to handle change – 57:58
What is the 4-P framework and how can you use it to handle any change you encounter in life?

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How Expectations Keep You Stuck | David Robson Jul 31, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover the expectation effect with David Robson. David is an award winning writer who specializes in psychology and neuroscience, and is the author of The Intelligence Trap: Why Smart People Make Dumb Mistakes, and his most recent book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mind Can Change Your World.

Your expectations can mean the difference between failure and success, but why do your expectations have such a drastic impact, how can you reframe your expectations to achieve success whenever possible, and how do you use visualization techniques to boost your performance in any area overnight?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
What is the expectation effect and why do your expectations impact everything you do?

Reframe expectations to reach your goals – 10:47
How can you reframe your expectations to enjoy working out and achieve the body you’ve always wanted?
Why is it important for you to feel stress and how do you know what too much stress is?
What can you do to reframe expectations to be comfortable with public speaking?

Visualization and Performance – 26:22
What visualization technique can you use to increase your strength by 10% and recover from injury faster?
How do you use visualization to decrease your stress and anxiety?
How do the expectations of people around you affect your performance and what can you do to decrease their impact?

Do not do this if you want to be happy – 40:10
What do you need to avoid doing if you want to maximize your happiness and minimize your daily suffering?
How can you use science to increase your willpower?
How can you harness the science of expectations to build the top performing routine that will reach any goal you set for yourself?
How do you reframe frustration to help you grow?

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The Secret to Finding Your Tribe Through Culture| Marcus Collins Jul 24, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover culture with Dr Marcus Collins. Marcus is an award-winning marketer and cultural translator, the head of strategy at Wieden+Kennedy New York, a clinical assistant professor of marketing at the Ross School of Business, University of Michigan, and the author of For the Culture: The Power Behind What We Buy, What We Do, and Who We Want to Be.

Introduction

Culture is as much a part of everyday life as the air we breathe, but how do we define what a culture is, what is the secret that marketers use to tap into culture and motivate you to take action, and how do you build your own culture (or find a new one)?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
What does the word culture mean and why is culture so important to us?
What are the three systems that make up culture?

Fast Culture vs Slow Culture – 15:15
Why do certain aspects of culture move faster than others and how do they influence each other?
Why is it taboo to talk openly about politics, religion, and money?

Role Theory – 30:11
What is role theory and how is it embedded in every culture?
What is the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation?

How do you turn a trend into a cultural phenomenon – 45:28
What is a cultural contagion and what two factors determine whether something becomes an official part of a culture?
If you’re not part of a culture, how do you understand a culture to appreciate it and understand where members of that culture are coming from?

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What is Charisma and How to Become Charismatic in 3 Steps | Toolbox Jul 17, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover how to grow your charisma with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.

Charismatic people can light up a room and make everyone want to be around them, but what even is charisma, how does your charisma impact your career and relationships for better or worse, and what can you do to unlock your inner charisma to be more memorable and interesting?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
What 3 skill sets do you need to work on to develop your charisma?

How to Grow Your Charisma – 10:50
How do you practice being more present so people feel like you are not ignoring or dismissing them?
What can you do to develop your empathy so people don’t feel judged by you and pushed away?
How do you be more enthusiastic so people don’t think you’re boring?

Emotional Climate – 25:00
What emotional climate are you creating around people and how do you make a fun, positive, inviting emotional climate that makes people want to spend more time with you?
Why is pessimism detrimental to your charisma and how can you become optimistic?

Confidence – 36:02
How do you exude confidence that draws people in everytime you walk into the room?
Why is vulnerability key to showing confidence?

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Don’t Get Fooled: How Con Artists Gain Your Trust | Chris Chabris Jul 10, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover deception and fraud with Chris Chabris. Chris is a research psychologist, Senior Investigator at Geisinger Health System, visiting fellow at the Institute for Advanced Study, and associate professor of Psychology and co-director of the Neuroscience Program at Union College in New York.

Scammers and con men are everywhere these days, but how can you recognize when you’re being scammed, what behaviors or habits of your own should be aware of that tip you off as a potential victim, and what tactics do scammers, businesses, and governments use on us to get what they want?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
Why are people fascinated by conmen and scammers?
How did AJ get scammed in Thailand and what can you learn to avoid being scammed anywhere?

How scammers choose their targets – 13:44
What 4 key cognitive habits do scammers exploit in their targets and how can you stop them from exploiting those habits in you?

How we help scammers to scam us – 33:50
What do we unconsciously do to help people deceive us?
How do people get away with large scale fraud and deception?
What are the 4 hooks that businesses and governments use to deceive us?

The weapons of scammers – 52:30
How do scammers and con men use words and memories against us?
How does your memory deceive you every time you try to remember something?

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How To Read Body Language Like An FBI Agent Jul 03, 2023

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In today’s episode, we cover body language with former FBI agents Jack Schafer and Joe Navarro, trust and body language expert Abbie Maroño, and CEO of The Behavior Company Anne Maartje Oud, some of the leading experts in body language.

We all possess the ability to read body language before we can form words, but in today’s world we seem to disregard this incredible ability early on, so what happened, why is it more important than ever, and what can you do to quickly relearn this invaluable skill?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Why we (now) suck at reading body language – 3:01
How did we get so bad at reading body language in the west when we’re born with this ability?
What is the only thing you can do to change a first impression?
How do you build trust rapidly and effectively?

What makes sincere human connection – 11:22
What are the 3 components you need to build a sincere human connection?

FBI advice for introverts – 23:01
When approaching a group of people, how do you know who is easiest to talk to?
How do you know if you’re making someone uncomfortable and what can you do to make the other person comfortable?

Body language myths – 31:25
What are the biggest misconceptions people have about body language?

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