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Fan Mail Friday #58 | Take a Chance on You Apr 15, 2016

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Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.
In this episode:
How do you meet new people for platonic relationships while making it clear that you're not available for anything romantic or sexual (while avoiding coming across as presumptuous)?
How can you overcome your own self-limitations to start living life for yourself instead of catering to the whims and validation of others?
You're a divorced parent of two in your forties and stuck in suburbia for custody reasons until the kids go to college. What dating prospects can you expect?
You've placed your own college education on hold under the condition you'd return once your spouse graduated. Four days after they got their degree, you separated. Now what?
For the sake of your own relationship's balance, how do you encourage your significant other to develop outside friendships?
We spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think about us. But what do you think about you? Jordan goes into more detail about this phenomenon here: Who Influences Your Thoughts?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-58-take-a-chance-on-you/
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504: Kira Asatryan | Stop Being Lonely Apr 13, 2016

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Kira Asatryan (@KiraAsatryan) discusses the epidemic of loneliness felt by modern Americans -- millennials in particular -- and how it can be countered by closeness, the foundation of all happy and long-lasting relationships. She is the author of Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships.
The Cheat Sheet:
One in five Americans suffers from chronic loneliness (and among millennials, the percentage is even higher). Time Magazine slates it as the next big public health crisis.
Because loneliness isn't as readily identifiable as depression, many -- especially men -- choose to suffer it in silence.
Cultivating close relationships with others counters this loneliness, and it's a skill that can be learned rather than an inherent quality that only the lucky few possess.
What is loneliness? What is closeness?
How does social media -- in spite of keeping us in touch with possibly hundreds or thousands of people -- exacerbate loneliness for many?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kira-asatryan-stop-lonely-episode-504/
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503: Kimberly Seltzer | Top 5 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Attract a Man Apr 11, 2016

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Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to share the top five mistakes women make when trying to attract a man.
The Cheat Sheet:
Is it really true that "there are no good men out there?"
Do you feel like the one who never gets approached or, if you do the approaching, you never get the response you're looking for?
Body language, first impressions, messaging, social confidence, and your image play a huge role in how you come across to potential romantic partners.
With which of the five archetypes of women do you most strongly identify -- and which mistakes are you most prone to make when trying to attract a man?
What's the secret weapon that will help you overcome the mistakes commonly made by your prevailing archetype?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-top-5-mistakes-women-make-when-trying-to-attract-a-man-episode-503/
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Fan Mail Friday #57 | Social Performance Anxiety Apr 08, 2016

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Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.
In this episode:
What do you do for the friend who seems to need you as a cheerleader to pursue their life goals, but won't make any progress toward those goals on their own?
You used to be the life of the party, but now social situations leave you feeling drained. Is there a way to regain emotional and mental endurance?
An advanced degree doesn't have to come from an Ivy League school to demonstrate that you're serious about improving yourself.
"Getting drunk and high used to help lower my inhibitions so I could enjoy things, but now I've found that, when I'm in a good place spiritually, I'm simply not so inhibited any more."
The idea of a "covert contract" applies just as much to places and things as it does to people, and sometimes we even make these contracts with ourselves.
Does your current romantic interest really need to know how inexperienced you are at this stage of the game?
Are you enabling your lazy friend's deadbeat habits?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-57-social-performance-anxiety/
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502: Bert Jacobs | Life is Good Apr 06, 2016

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Bert Jacobs (@Lifeisgood) is co-founder and CEO (Chief Executive Optimist) of The Life is Good Company, which spreads the power of optimism through inspiring art, a passionate community, and groundbreaking nonprofit work. He's also the co-author of the recently published Life is Good: The Book.
The Cheat Sheet:
Why is optimism so important?
How did Bert Jacobs and his brother John turn a t-shirt company that operated from a van into a multi-million dollar business celebrating optimism?
Gratitude is just one "superpower" unlocked by practicing optimism -- we talk about nine more.
Learn how these superpowers allow you to overcome obstacles and embrace opportunities.
Less is more: why do simple things often resonate more than the complex?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bert-jacobs-life-good-episode-502/
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501: Chris Guillebeau | Born for This Apr 04, 2016

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Chris Guillebeau (@chrisguillebeau) is a bestselling author and host of the annual World Domination Summit. He's here to tell us how his new book Born for This will help you find the work you were meant to do.
The Cheat Sheet:
Why don't more people pursue a life of freedom/independence?
The actual lottery isn't hackable, but the career lottery is.
A side hustle isn't just "nice," it's a necessity.
Learn the difference between hard and soft skills (and which are more valuable in the long run).
Don't think like a CEO -- think like a janitor.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chris-guillebeau-born-episode-501/
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Fan Mail Friday #56 | Becoming a Better Role Model Apr 01, 2016

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Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.
AJ fills in for Jordan this time around, so let's cut to it!
In this episode:
The cold shoulder is a poor way to communicate. How do you react when you're on the receiving end of this faulty connection?
As complicated as all other factors in your younger sibling's life seem to be, they'll better fall into place if you set the example of positive role model first.
These are the narcissists in your neighborhood. But do they really think they're better than you, or is it the other way around?
How do you work yourself out of the funk caused by the worries of "real" life when it's ruining the drive you used to have for pursuing regular exercise and a vibrant social life?
Can a long-distance relationship based more on intellect and reason rather than passion survive?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-56-becoming-a-better-role-model/
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500: Dan Harris | 10% Happier Mar 30, 2016

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Dan Harris (@danbharris) is a co-anchor of Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America on ABC News. He's the author of 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works -- A True Story, about a fidgety, skeptical newsman who reluctantly became a meditator.
The Cheat Sheet:
If you're like most people, your deceptive inner voice acts as a malevolent puppeteer -- and it doesn't have your best interests at heart.
When trying to come to terms with this malevolent puppeteer, meditation is more effective (and much easier) than you probably think.
Contrary to popular misconception, meditation is more than just thinking about nothing (that's reserved for Zen masters and dead people).
Even those of us with short attention spans (like Dan Harris) can learn to focus for the nanoseconds it takes to meditate and use it to come to terms with our malevolent puppeteer.
The mindfulness found through meditation is a way to view the contents of our mind with nonjudgmental remove -- there are verifiable, scientific results, and there's nothing woo about it.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dan-harris-10-percent-happier-episode-500/
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499: Kimberly Seltzer | How to Set Boundaries Mar 28, 2016

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Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman's perspective on setting boundaries and cracking the Narcissist Code.
The Cheat Sheet:
Women often fall into the role of the caretaker -- but how can they avoid becoming overcaretakers who habitually attract jerks, narcissists, and man children?
Understand what it takes to set boundaries and how this filters out the wrong type of partner.
Learn how to crack the Narcissist Code from the minute you say "hello."
Get rid of old, harmful patterns of behavior with the Old Tape exercise.
Discover what it takes for people to stop accusing you of being "too nice."
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-how-to-set-boundaries-episode-499/
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Fan Mail Friday #55 | Fear of a Millennial Planet Mar 25, 2016

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Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.
If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.
We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.
And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!
In this episode:
Should you be content with a so-called "good" career at a good company and stop complaining just because you're not using the skills and natural talents that make you feel alive?
Do millennials really deserve most of the bashing they get from their supposedly wiser elders?
As discussed recently with Gary Vaynerchuk, negative first impressions aren't set in stone. Just because someone doesn't like you now doesn't mean they won't warm up to you later.
Do you ever worry if constantly doing the "right" thing is holding you back from experiencing life fully?
What do you do when you don't drink, but all the dating advice you get tells you bars are the best place to meet new people?
How do you not look like "the gay guy" when you're out on the town with a group of five or six women?
Should an Army officer consider investing time in an advanced degree?
Listener Xavier calls in [as you can too at (415) 429-1915!] and gives us some excellent advice and useful tools for people moving to a new town.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-55-fear-of-a-millennial-planet/
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